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Sassy Success Secrets

 Sassy Success Secrets

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How are you doing in the confident and sassy department girls?  You on a roll or asleep?  Somewhere in between?  Not sure? Take this quick and fun quiz to find out: Sassy Self Self-Esteem Quiz http://bitchlifestyle.com/self-esteem-quiz/  Then assess.  We’ve discussed quite a few Sass Zappers on this site.  Because there are so many… it’s important to occasionally take stock and make sure Sass Zappers aren’t keeping us down or sneaking up on us.  I’ve discovered a few more to add to our Sass Zappers list.  Anything there turning your sassy into a snit?  A Drama Queen crying fit?  Sass Success Zappers with some accompanying inspiration:

  1. Stop not taking action. Inspiration:  There are so many things to distract you.  So many opportunities to explore, relish and develop!  Choose the most important opportunities/desires at this very moment and then rock them. Once these very important opportunities are completed you can move on to the next one.
  2. Stop thinking you aren’t ready.  Inspiration:  You are!  Break your opportunity/desire down into manageable tasks and do one a day.
  3. Stop competing against everyone.  Inspiration:  Unfortunately the people who really need to read this (the competitors) won’t be reading this OR don’t believe they are competing with other women.  Dramatic sigh. Oh well. Us Sassy Bitches know what to do.  Be polite in their presence and if possible, avoid like the plague!
  4. Complaining and feeling sorry for yourself.  Inspiration:  Start taking action!
  5. Doing the same thing over and over again.  Like:  not taking action, complaining about it, choosing friends and lovers unwisely and not learning from the experience.  Inspiration:  Try oh try to have a little laugh at how cute you are, how human you are and then do something good for yourself.

Do any of these ring a bell?  You’ve taken the quiz and still don’t know what to do?  Here are some ideas:

  1. If you are in your Drama Queen dance out all that emotion you’ve got going on.
  2. If you are in your Brat get appreciative.  Right now.  Write down everything you are grateful for.  Even if you think what I am asking you to do is “stupid.”  (sassy wink)
  3. If you are in your Bitch, congratulations…carry on hottie.
  4. If you are unsure what to do, relax.  At some point in the next few days pamper yourself to the highest degree possible.  Don’t “just” take a bath.  Up the ante in every possible way for you.  Candles, sexy music, chocolate, champagne, the most indulgent bath products you have on hand or splurge on a new one!  Breathe deeply and be grateful for all you have.

If all else fails, remember….It’s exhausting being fabulous!  Love, Goddess

 

© S Stevens Life Strategies

Beware These Emotional Vampires!

i am fabulous funny quotes Beware These Emotional Vampires!

YES! Love it. Fabulous image from The Love Project a highly recommended blog visit!

Beware these emotional vampires!

It was a gorgeous fall day.  Sunny, warm and the wind still refreshing instead of the dreaded BRRRRR!  I was happy, excited and looking forward to a rehearsal of good energy and production.  Then I lost it.  My happy. My excited. And I didn’t handle losing it well.  What did I lose? My patience. My patience is really hard to lose.  I mean…you have got to get on my very last nerve for me to lose it.  I have decades long friends that, until recently, have not seen it.  My last nerve is so understanding to everyone.  I always try to help first.  The thing that has made me lose it not just this past time but over the last few months is:  All the complaining people do!  I ask people how they are and rarely do I get “Good—how are you?”  I get a list of complaints and no interest in me.  People are so caught up in their own problems a simple “how are you?” back is becoming rare.  Beware these emotional vampires.  Just like me, they can get on your last nerve.  So what is the 3 step process to keep emotional vampires off your last nerve?

  1. Complain about it.  Oh wait.  Done. LOL.
  2. Reasoning.  Complaining all the time wastes time.  So in one sentence we’re done here too.
  3. The Bottom Line.   Hot Action.

The Bottom Line:  Complaining is all BRAT.  So to counter the brat we need to give her what she needs.  A swift kick in the ***.  Which is:  Be grateful and notice the good.  And this is going to be really tough for me.  I’ve absorbed all the complaining my body can handle.  My impatience with it is bursting.  Oh God…I’m complaining again.  And putting off my own remedy.  LOL…do you ever do that?   So let’s win by having some fun with this:

  • When someone cuts me off while driving or some other such annoyance, I no longer will use colorful language and insults on them.  I will find something pleasurable to replace that thought immediately.  Ie:  Focus on music, eat a bite of chocolate, stroke myself with a sparkle powder puff.
  • When someone complains when I ask them how they are, I will be witty and playful in my response.  The goal being to make them feel better.
  • When I hear people being negative and complaining I will simply focus on something else.
  • When people start complaining around me I will, with great enthusiasm, ask then how we can solve the problem together!  Refocusing on action is energizing…not draining!
  • When I find myself alone and complaining, I will immediately stop and take a break.  I will do something that makes me feel good. Whether it is meditating, dancing my booty off to a great song, calling a friend or being inspired by a passion.

What about you?  What are some things that make you complain?  How can you find a fun and positive way for YOU to deal so it doesn’t suck you down in the muck?  Be creative. Please oh please have a way to deal with this ever increasing societal problem without getting to the saturation point like myself!  Ohhhhhh and do share!  Positive thoughts are always appreciated and relished!  Love, Goddess

Suggested Reading:

  1. Who Controls You Your Bitch or Your Brat?
  2. Bitch Lifestyle the Manual
  3. Bitch Lifestyle Home

© S Stevens Life Strategies

Conquering Inertia in the Hustle and Bustle

Judith Jamison alvin ailey natural hair twa alice in nappyland Conquering Inertia in the Hustle and Bustle

Beautiful portraits of Judith Jamison found on Alice in Nappyland

I learned that there are no minor roles.  They are all major roles and it’s what the dancer does that makes it major.  Judith Jamison, Dancing Spirit

Conquering inertia in the hustle and bustle?  I read that quote by Judith Jamison this morning and went ahhhh….  So simply put.  When we’re doing a task we are putting our all into it, no?  Well, yeah, depending on what we are doing.  (Sassy sarcasm)  It’s so much easier with your passions.  Or is it?  In our modern day hustle and bustle gadget galore world we may have so much going on that we find ourselves in…

Just get it done mode.

That’s what struck me.  Because…I am SO in just get it done mode.  Are you?  Just get work done, just get chores done, just get to whatever other commitment I have and get that done, get eating done, errands done, get production prep done for my improv group done.  Doesn’t sound very fun, does it?  Just get it done mode.  Adding to my “just get it done mode,” is that I am moving.  And I have only 6 days to prepare.  It sounds like a lot but with all I’ve got going on it isn’t!  I want to put so much love  into my new home.  The quote by Judith Jamison from above made me realize I’m kinda lacking in the fun and love department at the moment.  FOR MYSELF.  I’m giving all my love and fun away.  My “just get it done mode” is sucking the party right outta me.  My brat is screaming at me to shut up and move on to the next thing that needs to get done.  LOL.

How about you?  Do you have the “I’ve got to get it done” inertia?” So how oh how do we start conquering inertia in the hustle and bustle Sassy Ones?

Gratitude.

Did your cute little Inner Brat role your eyes at that one?  I wrote it and felt them in the back of my head.  That only means you need to do it more! MORE MORE MORE!  Be grateful for every little thing in your life.  Find the gratitude.  SLOW down and do it.  Even the not so pleasant:

  1. Paying Bills:  “I’m so grateful I have the income to support this!”
  2. Suffering a break up:  “I am so thankful that I am a strong woman who takes care of herself.”
  3. Not enough time in the day:  “Wow!  I’ve got such a rock star life I have many opportunities to challenge me.  I accept the challenges with grace and eagerness!”
  4. Confrontation, jealousy, competitiveness among those you know:  “I am grateful for my listening and communication abilities.  Because of them my conversations run smoothly.”

Got it?  Another eye roll?  You are so cute.  Try these:

  1. I am grateful for my gorgeous, healthy body.
  2. I am grateful for my loving family and friends.
  3. I am grateful for my gorgeous home.
  4. I am grateful for travel, adventure and gorgeous summer nights!
  5. I am grateful for the air, the breeze, cool sheets and how beach sand feels on my bare feet.

The bottom line…just start being grateful.  Grateful for all you have gotten done and all you will get done tomorrow.  And with time and a little slowing down?  You will start to become grateful for all the ways you have become a STAR in your beautiful life!  Love, Goddess

Want more?  I’ll give you a kick in the “sass” with my Re-Awakening Program which is full of ideas to help you be the best you, learn to communicate even better with the glorious male species and awaken your Sassy, Confident Bitch.  For more juicy details:  Your Re-Awakening

Suggested Reading:

  1. Dancing Spirit, Judith Jamison Dancing Spirit
  2. Dance Masters:  Judith Jamison
  3. Bitch Lifestyle Home

© S Stevens Life Strategies

Every Girls Dream?

Clip from the movie “Dangerous Beauty,” based loosely on Veronica Franco and her life.  From the You Tube JackieP17402

Every Girls Dream?  Can you imagine getting PAID to talk?  Can you imagine having a conversation style that is so enchanting, so fun, entertaining and oh so challenging that you were paid for it? Veronica Franco was.  In 1546 Venice a woman didn’t “need” to be educated.  From the Book of the Courtesans:  ” Not only was she (Veronica Franco) bright but she was also educated, an accomplishment rare among the women of her time, when out of any given hundred women in the city, fewer than 10 knew how to read, and of these, less than four had received any public schooling. ”   Veronica was born to a family of “citiadini originari,” or working class citizens.  Only the sons would have received an education. Veronica had a choice.  The limitations of which may concern women today:

1.  Marry and re-produce.

2.  Say “Ciao” to marriage and pursue her true passion:  Education.  The catch?  She was to become a Courtesan.

When Veronica chose #2, she was allowed to go to the libraries of Venice and read to her hearts’ content.  To educate herself in philosophy, the “isms,” religion, literature, history and poetry.  You see, the reason why a Courtesan was permitted to learn was so she could bring pleasure to the men who paid for her.  Veronica’s passion toward learning usurped the pleasures her body could give to men (don’t get me wrong…men enjoyed both) but she was able to embrace her passion, give herself pleasure while still enduring the downside to being a young woman in the Venice of her day.

“When we too are armed and trained, we can convince men that we have hands, feet, and a heart like yours; and although we may be delicate and soft, some men who are delicate are also strong; and others, coarse and harsh, are cowards. Women have not yet realized this, for if they should decide to do so, they would be able to fight you until death; and to prove that I speak the truth, amongst so many women, I will be the first to act, setting an example for them to follow.  —Veronica Franco 1546-1591”

And so she did…men flocked to her to challenge them intellectually.

We are SO much luckier than Veronica because we have the freedom to choose to do whatever we want.  Veronica accomplished much with little choice.  We all have a gorgeous brain and passions that light us up.  Can you imagine the fun we can have if we indulge ourselves in them and learn how to communicate in an enthusiastic and passionate manner? Intelligent conversation can be tough in our Facebook, Text and Twitter world.   So let the story of the stimulating Veronica Franco spur your passions…and your ability to charm and draw in people with conversation.  Here are some ideas:

  1. Read something you never thought you would.  Go to the library and explore.  Take out a bunch of books and lounge while you explore new ideas, events and activities.
  2. What successful person do you think has a beautiful voice and amazing conversational skills?  Who do you enjoy watching on talk shows that draw you in?  Study and learn from them. Put your own personal spin on the qualities that YOU find inspiring.
  3. Discover something that is not “popular right now.”  Pop culture is complete escapism.  Yes, we all need to escape, but consider spending less time on pop culture and something that can enrich you.  Like a financial, cooking or art class.
  4. Go to a museum.  Discover which artists are you favorites.  Study WHY.  Be able to communicate why in an enchanting manner.
  5. Open your vocabulary.  Crosswords, scrabble with friends party, subscribe to the “word of the day.”
  6. When you are doing all this new discovery, keep an open mind.   Very hard to do when there is opinion everywhere!  Discover and enjoy without influence.

And please oh please share with us your conversational journey!  Love, Goddess

Suggested Research:

  1. Poems and Selected Letters, Veronica Franco
  2. The Honest Courtesan  A biography of Veronica Franco
  3. Dangerous Beauty The full length movie from above
  4. Bitch Lifestyle Home

© S Stevens Life Strategies