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Educate the Clueless?

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You—the Sassy Bitch Goddess…ready to give from your pleasure trove.  Gorgeous image from  Seven Ponds.   Visit them for more!

Being a Sassy Bitch is exhausting.  We handle so much with such efficiency and humor that the Universe keeps throwing us more.  More opportunities, adventures and passions to explore and squeeze into our already busy lives.  But there is ONE thing.  And it’s not a little thing.  It’s a huge big deal that we must deal with.  So not only we can go higher and grow as a person, but so that we can bring along the people around us.  Bring them to our sassy, fun and fulfilled party.  By doing this ONE thing we can be even happier and more fulfilled.  What is this one thing?

We need to educate the clueless.

Has your jaw dropped?  Are you slightly over-whelmed with the mere thought of educating clueless people so they can come to our party?  This is one of the many reasons why our Sassy Bitch wants to nap!  LOL. We have such responsibility as Hot Sexy Goddess Bitches.  Because we have done so much work on being self-aware.  Because we have learned how to communicate what makes us light up.  Because we have learned how to communicate what will make us shut down.  Because we have practiced patience and politeness with the most obnoxious of people.   It is exhausting and now we have to educate the clueless?

Absolutely.  Our pleasure and fulfillment depends on it.

So does theirs.

It’s why you must take better care of yourself than ever.  When you are sated with pleasure, love, fun and fulfillment you can give from that wonderful surplus.  And when you give to these hapless, clueless people, when they “see the light” that you share with them?  You both win.  Bonus:  Forever gratitude from these newly enlightened souls.

Example from my life:  I have a group of people in my life that need a kick in the *** regarding their behavior.  The teamwork they are exhibiting is poor.  And it’s clueless poor because they are easily distracted.  So now I need to patiently teach them how to give of themselves for the greater good.  In a fun yet bottom line way.  And it won’t be a one time thing. They will need to be reminded. The clueless people of the world really need time and patience AND it’s best to change it up with each new reminder.

You’re not painting a pretty picture, Goddess.  I hear you.  But let me be blunt.  If we don’t educate the clueless they will stay that way.  Frustrating us over time.  Not serving us in our goals, desires, passions.  This is love, Goddesses!  By sharing from our loving surplus we will become more gratified and we will be able to receive even more from the Universe.  Our confidence will soar.  Our social networks will expand, our friendships will grow and our trust in those around us will deepen.  The more people wake up from the “clueless coma” the better off everyone is.  Us, them and party central…Earth.

So take a deep breath and up the ante on your path to pure Sassy Bitch Goddess.  Educate the clueless!  Love, Goddess

© S Stevens Life Strategies

Sassy Success Secrets

 Sassy Success Secrets

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How are you doing in the confident and sassy department girls?  You on a roll or asleep?  Somewhere in between?  Not sure? Take this quick and fun quiz to find out: Sassy Self Self-Esteem Quiz  Then assess.  We’ve discussed quite a few Sass Zappers on this site.  Because there are so many… it’s important to occasionally take stock and make sure Sass Zappers aren’t keeping us down or sneaking up on us.  I’ve discovered a few more to add to our Sass Zappers list.  Anything there turning your sassy into a snit?  A Drama Queen crying fit?  Sass Success Zappers with some accompanying inspiration:

  1. Stop not taking action. Inspiration:  There are so many things to distract you.  So many opportunities to explore, relish and develop!  Choose the most important opportunities/desires at this very moment and then rock them. Once these very important opportunities are completed you can move on to the next one.
  2. Stop thinking you aren’t ready.  Inspiration:  You are!  Break your opportunity/desire down into manageable tasks and do one a day.
  3. Stop competing against everyone.  Inspiration:  Unfortunately the people who really need to read this (the competitors) won’t be reading this OR don’t believe they are competing with other women.  Dramatic sigh. Oh well. Us Sassy Bitches know what to do.  Be polite in their presence and if possible, avoid like the plague!
  4. Complaining and feeling sorry for yourself.  Inspiration:  Start taking action!
  5. Doing the same thing over and over again.  Like:  not taking action, complaining about it, choosing friends and lovers unwisely and not learning from the experience.  Inspiration:  Try oh try to have a little laugh at how cute you are, how human you are and then do something good for yourself.

Do any of these ring a bell?  You’ve taken the quiz and still don’t know what to do?  Here are some ideas:

  1. If you are in your Drama Queen dance out all that emotion you’ve got going on.
  2. If you are in your Brat get appreciative.  Right now.  Write down everything you are grateful for.  Even if you think what I am asking you to do is “stupid.”  (sassy wink)
  3. If you are in your Bitch, congratulations…carry on hottie.
  4. If you are unsure what to do, relax.  At some point in the next few days pamper yourself to the highest degree possible.  Don’t “just” take a bath.  Up the ante in every possible way for you.  Candles, sexy music, chocolate, champagne, the most indulgent bath products you have on hand or splurge on a new one!  Breathe deeply and be grateful for all you have.

If all else fails, remember….It’s exhausting being fabulous!  Love, Goddess


© S Stevens Life Strategies

Beware These Emotional Vampires!

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Beware these emotional vampires!

It was a gorgeous fall day.  Sunny, warm and the wind still refreshing instead of the dreaded BRRRRR!  I was happy, excited and looking forward to a rehearsal of good energy and production.  Then I lost it.  My happy. My excited. And I didn’t handle losing it well.  What did I lose? My patience. My patience is really hard to lose.  I mean…you have got to get on my very last nerve for me to lose it.  I have decades long friends that, until recently, have not seen it.  My last nerve is so understanding to everyone.  I always try to help first.  The thing that has made me lose it not just this past time but over the last few months is:  All the complaining people do!  I ask people how they are and rarely do I get “Good—how are you?”  I get a list of complaints and no interest in me.  People are so caught up in their own problems a simple “how are you?” back is becoming rare.  Beware these emotional vampires.  Just like me, they can get on your last nerve.  So what is the 3 step process to keep emotional vampires off your last nerve?

  1. Complain about it.  Oh wait.  Done. LOL.
  2. Reasoning.  Complaining all the time wastes time.  So in one sentence we’re done here too.
  3. The Bottom Line.   Hot Action.

The Bottom Line:  Complaining is all BRAT.  So to counter the brat we need to give her what she needs.  A swift kick in the ***.  Which is:  Be grateful and notice the good.  And this is going to be really tough for me.  I’ve absorbed all the complaining my body can handle.  My impatience with it is bursting.  Oh God…I’m complaining again.  And putting off my own remedy.  LOL…do you ever do that?   So let’s win by having some fun with this:

  • When someone cuts me off while driving or some other such annoyance, I no longer will use colorful language and insults on them.  I will find something pleasurable to replace that thought immediately.  Ie:  Focus on music, eat a bite of chocolate, stroke myself with a sparkle powder puff.
  • When someone complains when I ask them how they are, I will be witty and playful in my response.  The goal being to make them feel better.
  • When I hear people being negative and complaining I will simply focus on something else.
  • When people start complaining around me I will, with great enthusiasm, ask then how we can solve the problem together!  Refocusing on action is energizing…not draining!
  • When I find myself alone and complaining, I will immediately stop and take a break.  I will do something that makes me feel good. Whether it is meditating, dancing my booty off to a great song, calling a friend or being inspired by a passion.

What about you?  What are some things that make you complain?  How can you find a fun and positive way for YOU to deal so it doesn’t suck you down in the muck?  Be creative. Please oh please have a way to deal with this ever increasing societal problem without getting to the saturation point like myself!  Ohhhhhh and do share!  Positive thoughts are always appreciated and relished!  Love, Goddess

Suggested Reading:

  1. Who Controls You Your Bitch or Your Brat?
  2. Bitch Lifestyle the Manual
  3. Bitch Lifestyle Home

© S Stevens Life Strategies

Conquering Inertia in the Hustle and Bustle

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I learned that there are no minor roles.  They are all major roles and it’s what the dancer does that makes it major.  Judith Jamison, Dancing Spirit

Conquering inertia in the hustle and bustle?  I read that quote by Judith Jamison this morning and went ahhhh….  So simply put.  When we’re doing a task we are putting our all into it, no?  Well, yeah, depending on what we are doing.  (Sassy sarcasm)  It’s so much easier with your passions.  Or is it?  In our modern day hustle and bustle gadget galore world we may have so much going on that we find ourselves in…

Just get it done mode.

That’s what struck me.  Because…I am SO in just get it done mode.  Are you?  Just get work done, just get chores done, just get to whatever other commitment I have and get that done, get eating done, errands done, get production prep done for my improv group done.  Doesn’t sound very fun, does it?  Just get it done mode.  Adding to my “just get it done mode,” is that I am moving.  And I have only 6 days to prepare.  It sounds like a lot but with all I’ve got going on it isn’t!  I want to put so much love  into my new home.  The quote by Judith Jamison from above made me realize I’m kinda lacking in the fun and love department at the moment.  FOR MYSELF.  I’m giving all my love and fun away.  My “just get it done mode” is sucking the party right outta me.  My brat is screaming at me to shut up and move on to the next thing that needs to get done.  LOL.

How about you?  Do you have the “I’ve got to get it done” inertia?” So how oh how do we start conquering inertia in the hustle and bustle Sassy Ones?


Did your cute little Inner Brat role your eyes at that one?  I wrote it and felt them in the back of my head.  That only means you need to do it more! MORE MORE MORE!  Be grateful for every little thing in your life.  Find the gratitude.  SLOW down and do it.  Even the not so pleasant:

  1. Paying Bills:  “I’m so grateful I have the income to support this!”
  2. Suffering a break up:  “I am so thankful that I am a strong woman who takes care of herself.”
  3. Not enough time in the day:  “Wow!  I’ve got such a rock star life I have many opportunities to challenge me.  I accept the challenges with grace and eagerness!”
  4. Confrontation, jealousy, competitiveness among those you know:  “I am grateful for my listening and communication abilities.  Because of them my conversations run smoothly.”

Got it?  Another eye roll?  You are so cute.  Try these:

  1. I am grateful for my gorgeous, healthy body.
  2. I am grateful for my loving family and friends.
  3. I am grateful for my gorgeous home.
  4. I am grateful for travel, adventure and gorgeous summer nights!
  5. I am grateful for the air, the breeze, cool sheets and how beach sand feels on my bare feet.

The bottom line…just start being grateful.  Grateful for all you have gotten done and all you will get done tomorrow.  And with time and a little slowing down?  You will start to become grateful for all the ways you have become a STAR in your beautiful life!  Love, Goddess

Want more?  I’ll give you a kick in the “sass” with my Re-Awakening Program which is full of ideas to help you be the best you, learn to communicate even better with the glorious male species and awaken your Sassy, Confident Bitch.  For more juicy details:  Your Re-Awakening

Suggested Reading:

  1. Dancing Spirit, Judith Jamison Dancing Spirit
  2. Dance Masters:  Judith Jamison
  3. Bitch Lifestyle Home

© S Stevens Life Strategies