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Power of Letting Go These Stress Makers

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Power of Letting Go These Stress Makers.  There are so many, but lets touch on a couple today. Have you been dealing with these in some way shape or form?

Power of Letting Go #1:  Excuses.  Excuses are a form of denial/fear.  Own your mistakes, own what fears you and it will create trust in yourself and confidence galore.  It will help you succeed! Example:  A girl I work with ALWAYS has an excuse.  A few days ago she was complaining about how much she hated doing something. How it didn’t help her, etc.  What she doesn’t understand is all the power the “something” had over her.  She has no idea how much this has to do with her fear and trust.  She isn’t ready to hear it either.  I’ve tried.  It’s sad because she resists the very thing that can make her stronger.  If it were me? I would take the power back by not making any more excuses and rocking what she “hated doing.”  Don’t let resisting the truth lead to excuses.

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Power of Letting Go #2:  Being anyone else besides you.  Now there are certain things and people that will light you up (I have such a girl crush on Kate Beckinsale—she does feminine with a rock n’ roll edge that inspires me) but adapt what you like to fit you and your personality.  The world sometimes tries to mold us into a neat little box.  The world talks about the same thing, tells you what THE style is right now, THE thing to do right now, THE thing to eat right now. Get curious about the world and discover who you are, what you love and live it. No resistance. (Remember Power of Letting Go #1)

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Power of Letting Go #3:  Being in relationships for the wrong reasons.  I get letters every day from women who make excuses for the men who take from them, emotionally abuse them, cheat on them and lie to them.  Despite reading an article I wrote telling them exactly what to do.  I can’t help them because they can’t help themselves.  If this sounds like you? Please let him go.  Focus on you and your happiness.  He is not making you happy.  Let him go.

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Power of Letting Go the man who hurts you! Quote from Good Reads


Power of Letting Go #4:  Being everything to everyone.  It’s exhausting.  You will eventually lose yourself by trying to please too many people.  You won’t know what you want and worse you will find yourself going around in circles.  Refer back to #1 and #2 above.

Take a deep breath…look at your life and be really honest with yourself…what can you let go of? Take action to do it and enjoy the results.  Huge warm hug…Love, Goddess

Suggested Reading:

  1. Confidence:  Signs You’re a Sassy Bitch
  2. The Art of Seduction
  3. Bitch Lifestyle Home 

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Your Strength How Strong are You?

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Your strength…how strong are you?

Can you imagine…

You cannot talk.  Cannot see.  Cannot hear.  You know touch.  At first…as a baby, this may not affect you that much.  Your needs are met.  You eat and sleep.  You cry and someone comes to take care of you. Then, as you start to get older, you can’t communicate because of these sensory issues.  You start to get frustrated. Because you’re frustrated, you look for ways to get a reaction. Tantrums get you attention.  But tantrums still don’t get what you need. Understanding.  Of who, what and where you are.  Can you imagine?  This is how Helen Keller, after an illness that almost killed her at age two, existed.  Existed.  Trapped in that existence. I can’t even imagine that. Overcoming that.  But she did.   How do you get through to someone, communicate to someone so they understand and break them out of their “trapped existence?”

Helen Keller was rescued by a tutor, Anne Sullivan.  Sullivan had been blind but through a series of operations, had gotten some of her sight back.  Anne patiently tried teaching Helen sign language.  Whenever Anne tried to teach Helen sign language by signing in Helens’ hand, Helen would reject her.  This took a long time because Helens’ parents felt guilty and helpless regarding Helen.  They didn’t know how to help her so they just let her be.  Whenever Helen didn’t get what she wanted, she would throw a tantrum. Helen was completely undisciplined.

Discipline = Strength.

Anne knew this and wouldn’t let Helen get away with anything.  Helen learned that if she were to get what she wanted it wouldn’t happen until Anne “signed” the item in Helens’ hand. Finally, when Helen finally understood what Anne was doing?  She was euphoric.  Helen indulged in her thirst for knowledge.  She learned how to speak.  To inspire others to overcome disabilities she lectured and wrote a book.  Her passion founded foundations and earned her medals of honor.  None of this would have happened without the ONE person who wasn’t afraid of giving Helen what she needed.  A serious kick in the ***.  Anne.  Discipline. Anne knew Helen would never succeed or learn without discipline.

How disciplined are you?  Who loves you enough to tell you WHEN you need to be more disciplined?  Listen to them. They may be telling you something you don’t want to hear.  They are doing it because they care.  The people that truly love you aren’t afraid of telling you the truth.  Listen to them.

There is discipline in everything you do.  Work.  Play.  Body care. Skin care. Home care. The more disciplined you are the more you can handle. Emotionally and physically.  Where can you add some more discipline?  Where do you feel you could be a stronger woman?  Communication? If so, take a class.  Find a mentor. Find a person whom you admire and watch them communicate.  Here are two I like:  Judge Judy-for her no BS attitude.  Michelle Yeoh: Dominating Martial Arts. 

And really?  That’s all there is to it.  Just do it.  Channel your inner Nike slogan and become a stronger person for YOU.  Become your own Anne Sullivan.  She will have your back, Helen. Love, Goddess

Suggested Reading:

  1. The Story of My Life-Helen Keller
  2. Fun, Playful and Slightly Outrageous Things to Do This Weekend
  3. Bitch Lifestyle Home

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Understanding Men a Valuable Resource!

Understanding men a valuable resource!  This article is a follow up to “What We Can Learn From Mens Magazines.” Please re-read.  A specific example of their competitive nature came up this weekend to me constantly.  Would you like more info on how to deal with their competitive nature?  Yeah…I know you do.

I was channel surfing the other night and the movie “Friends with Benefits” was on.  If you haven’t seen it, it’s about two friends-Jamie and Dylan-who decide to have sex without the strings of a “relationship.”  Jamie decides that it isn’t working and they should stop.  She meets a guy. On her first date she tells him she doesn’t sleep with anyone until the fifth date. After sleeping with this guy on the 5th date, she is surprised when he ditches her.  She is upset (of course) and thinks it’s her:

Jamie: I gotta stop thinking it’s not me. I mean, it’s gotta be me!
Dylan: It’s not you. Nothing is wrong with you. He’s a guy. You gave him a five date challenge, he got you and cut out. Forget the douche! He’s a dick. He’s a dick douche.

This is great advice from Dylan.  But Jamie was right.  It was her.  She told the guy exactly what he had to do to “get her.”  If she doesn’t want that anymore? Perhaps she should keep the guy guessing.  Not as a game, but as a way to gauge his interest in her.  Every guy wants to get laid and Jamie made it WAY too easy for him.  You’ve got to be smarter than a guy. And guys are the first to admit they aren’t too smart.  Don’t lay all your cards on the table.  Men will love it.  You told them exactly how to get what they want from you with very little effort.

Other examples:

If you have a guy friend who is being rude or obnoxious?  Call him on it.  Then watch his actions.  If he is sorry, he may not say it.  He will show with his actions.  I recently called a guy friend on his crap.  He hasn’t apologized, but boy oh boy has he been a sweetie!

Another guy friend of mine likes to have Sunday breakfast with me.  So he started SKYPE-ing me first thing Sunday morning.  I told him to call me because I would have to get out of bed to talk to him through SKYPE.  I had a phone by my bed.  What did he do?  He continued to SKYPE me.  Whose fault is this?


But Goddess…you told him what wasn’t acceptable to you and he disrespected you by calling you.

No, Brat.

It’s my fault because I made a challenge/game out of SKYPE-ing to this guy.  You have to know when you have presented a challenge to a guy.  A fun little button to push.  This is what my guy friend heard me say: “This is annoying.  Don’t do that.”  He will do a happy dance in his mind thinking of all the fun he is going to have SKYPE-ing me on a Sunday morning.  Oh how men LOVE to annoy women they love.

You’ve got to be smarter than him, Bitch.  Simple solution.  Turn the lap top off.  Now he calls.  And we discussed it.  He admitted he was enjoying pushing my buttons.  I’ll let him push my buttons in a playful way but not in a way that irritates me!  You know the old saying…give an inch and they will take a mile?  Be smarter Bitch.  Want even smarter?  Learn from a man:  I like Michael Fiore.  I’ve seen him on TV and he tells women exactly how to get and keep a mans’ attention.  Click here for more.   Finally, if you really want to rock it here is my Private Coaching Program:  Your Re-Awakening  Class dismissed.  Love, Goddess

Suggested Reading:

  1. Let a Man Chase You:  Here’s How
  2. Sassy Success Secrets
  3. Bitch Lifestyle:  The Manual

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Healthy Habits of Centenarians

Healthy Habits of Centenarians

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Healthy Habits of Centenarians?  Today we are keeping it so simple.  I read this today and just had to share with you all.  This is from the Queen Mother, who lived to be 101 years old. With everyone telling you how to eat, when to eat, what to eat, how to do this for your health, how to do that for your health…this was refreshing.  It is what she made clear in her official biography “Queen Elizabeth the Queen Mother,” regarding her longevity:

“Wouldn’t it be terrible if you’d spent your life doing everything you were supposed to do, didn’t drink, didn’t smoke, didn’t eat things, took lots of exercise, all the things you didn’t want to do, and suddenly one day you were run over by a big red bus, and as the wheels were crunching into you you’d say “Oh my God, I could have got so drunk last night!”  That’s the way you should live your life.  As if tomorrow you’ll be run over by a big red bus.”


So there you have it — superior advice from a woman who LIVED.  Healthy habits of centenarians is a real helpful thing to study…no?  Yes, we want to keep our energy level at its peak so we can do all we want to do.  BUT if we don’t sprinkle some fun into our day every day we are not living.  Live pleasured.  Every single day.   Love, Goddess

Suggested Reading:

  1. Fun, Playful and Slightly Outrageous Things to Do This Weekend
  2. Click the image below for Bitch Lifestyle:  The Manual on Amazon…

Or…. it’s always nice to plan ahead for summer:  Get Outrageous!

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