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Conquering Inertia in the Hustle and Bustle

Judith Jamison alvin ailey natural hair twa alice in nappyland Conquering Inertia in the Hustle and Bustle

Beautiful portraits of Judith Jamison found on Alice in Nappyland

I learned that there are no minor roles.  They are all major roles and it’s what the dancer does that makes it major.  Judith Jamison, Dancing Spirit

Conquering inertia in the hustle and bustle?  I read that quote by Judith Jamison this morning and went ahhhh….  So simply put.  When we’re doing a task we are putting our all into it, no?  Well, yeah, depending on what we are doing.  (Sassy sarcasm)  It’s so much easier with your passions.  Or is it?  In our modern day hustle and bustle gadget galore world we may have so much going on that we find ourselves in…

Just get it done mode.

That’s what struck me.  Because…I am SO in just get it done mode.  Are you?  Just get work done, just get chores done, just get to whatever other commitment I have and get that done, get eating done, errands done, get production prep done for my improv group done.  Doesn’t sound very fun, does it?  Just get it done mode.  Adding to my “just get it done mode,” is that I am moving.  And I have only 6 days to prepare.  It sounds like a lot but with all I’ve got going on it isn’t!  I want to put so much love  into my new home.  The quote by Judith Jamison from above made me realize I’m kinda lacking in the fun and love department at the moment.  FOR MYSELF.  I’m giving all my love and fun away.  My “just get it done mode” is sucking the party right outta me.  My brat is screaming at me to shut up and move on to the next thing that needs to get done.  LOL.

How about you?  Do you have the “I’ve got to get it done” inertia?” So how oh how do we start conquering inertia in the hustle and bustle Sassy Ones?


Did your cute little Inner Brat role your eyes at that one?  I wrote it and felt them in the back of my head.  That only means you need to do it more! MORE MORE MORE!  Be grateful for every little thing in your life.  Find the gratitude.  SLOW down and do it.  Even the not so pleasant:

  1. Paying Bills:  ”I’m so grateful I have the income to support this!”
  2. Suffering a break up:  ”I am so thankful that I am a strong woman who takes care of herself.”
  3. Not enough time in the day:  ”Wow!  I’ve got such a rock star life I have many opportunities to challenge me.  I accept the challenges with grace and eagerness!”
  4. Confrontation, jealousy, competitiveness among those you know:  ”I am grateful for my listening and communication abilities.  Because of them my conversations run smoothly.”

Got it?  Another eye roll?  You are so cute.  Try these:

  1. I am grateful for my gorgeous, healthy body.
  2. I am grateful for my loving family and friends.
  3. I am grateful for my gorgeous home.
  4. I am grateful for travel, adventure and gorgeous summer nights!
  5. I am grateful for the air, the breeze, cool sheets and how beach sand feels on my bare feet.

The bottom line…just start being grateful.  Grateful for all you have gotten done and all you will get done tomorrow.  And with time and a little slowing down?  You will start to become grateful for all the ways you have become a STAR in your beautiful life!  Love, Goddess

Want more?  I’ll give you a kick in the “sass” with my Re-Awakening Program which is full of ideas to help you be the best you, learn to communicate even better with the glorious male species and awaken your Sassy, Confident Bitch.  For more juicy details:  Your Re-Awakening

Suggested Reading:

  1. Dancing Spirit, Judith Jamison Dancing Spirit
  2. Dance Masters:  Judith Jamison
  3. Bitch Lifestyle Home

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Every Girls Dream?

Clip from the movie “Dangerous Beauty,” based loosely on Veronica Franco and her life.  From the You Tube JackieP17402

Every Girls Dream?  Can you imagine getting PAID to talk?  Can you imagine having a conversation style that is so enchanting, so fun, entertaining and oh so challenging that you were paid for it? Veronica Franco was.  In 1546 Venice a woman didn’t “need” to be educated.  From the Book of the Courtesans:  ” Not only was she (Veronica Franco) bright but she was also educated, an accomplishment rare among the women of her time, when out of any given hundred women in the city, fewer than 10 knew how to read, and of these, less than four had received any public schooling. ”   Veronica was born to a family of “citiadini originari,” or working class citizens.  Only the sons would have received an education. Veronica had a choice.  The limitations of which may concern women today:

1.  Marry and re-produce.

2.  Say “Ciao” to marriage and pursue her true passion:  Education.  The catch?  She was to become a Courtesan.

When Veronica chose #2, she was allowed to go to the libraries of Venice and read to her hearts’ content.  To educate herself in philosophy, the “isms,” religion, literature, history and poetry.  You see, the reason why a Courtesan was permitted to learn was so she could bring pleasure to the men who paid for her.  Veronica’s passion toward learning usurped the pleasures her body could give to men (don’t get me wrong…men enjoyed both) but she was able to embrace her passion, give herself pleasure while still enduring the downside to being a young woman in the Venice of her day.

“When we too are armed and trained, we can convince men that we have hands, feet, and a heart like yours; and although we may be delicate and soft, some men who are delicate are also strong; and others, coarse and harsh, are cowards. Women have not yet realized this, for if they should decide to do so, they would be able to fight you until death; and to prove that I speak the truth, amongst so many women, I will be the first to act, setting an example for them to follow.  —Veronica Franco 1546-1591”

And so she did…men flocked to her to challenge them intellectually.

We are SO much luckier than Veronica because we have the freedom to choose to do whatever we want.  Veronica accomplished much with little choice.  We all have a gorgeous brain and passions that light us up.  Can you imagine the fun we can have if we indulge ourselves in them and learn how to communicate in an enthusiastic and passionate manner? Intelligent conversation can be tough in our Facebook, Text and Twitter world.   So let the story of the stimulating Veronica Franco spur your passions…and your ability to charm and draw in people with conversation.  Here are some ideas:

  1. Read something you never thought you would.  Go to the library and explore.  Take out a bunch of books and lounge while you explore new ideas, events and activities.
  2. What successful person do you think has a beautiful voice and amazing conversational skills?  Who do you enjoy watching on talk shows that draw you in?  Study and learn from them. Put your own personal spin on the qualities that YOU find inspiring.
  3. Discover something that is not “popular right now.”  Pop culture is complete escapism.  Yes, we all need to escape, but consider spending less time on pop culture and something that can enrich you.  Like a financial, cooking or art class.
  4. Go to a museum.  Discover which artists are you favorites.  Study WHY.  Be able to communicate why in an enchanting manner.
  5. Open your vocabulary.  Crosswords, scrabble with friends party, subscribe to the “word of the day.”
  6. When you are doing all this new discovery, keep an open mind.   Very hard to do when there is opinion everywhere!  Discover and enjoy without influence.

And please oh please share with us your conversational journey!  Love, Goddess

Suggested Research:

  1. Poems and Selected Letters, Veronica Franco
  2. The Honest Courtesan  A biography of Veronica Franco
  3. Dangerous Beauty The full length movie from above
  4. Bitch Lifestyle Home

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Sultry Summer Beauty Tricks

 Sultry Summer Beauty Tricks

Image from The Atlantic 


Sultry Summer Beauty Tricks to keep you cool and comfy this summer!   July…the hot and steamy days of summer are finally here!  Because of the long winter most of us experienced this year, I swear my “I’m over-heating now thermostat” is sleeping.  I was doing the dishes and was so happy when the cool water hit my skin.  I closed my eyes and let the cool water run over my arms.  Mmmmmm…

So let’s discuss ways to enjoy getting cooled off this summer.  Besides the usual dip in the ocean, pool or lake…how do we add a little beauty or sensuality to it?  Up the pleasure ante?  Here are some things I like to do:

  1. When you’re doing the dishes, savor some cool water.  Splash on arms, face and neck.  Repeat and enjoy!
  2. Keep a wet cloth in the refrigerator.  Smooth over skin when you are HOT.  Add some aromatherapy oil to the cloth…like lavender for a soothing aroma on a stressful day.
  3. Forget the nightie.  Sleep naked.  Spray a cooling mist all over you before you lay down on the sheets.
  4. Leave a yummy skin mister in the refrigerator.  They are everywhere in the stores.  I like this one Josie Maran Lavander Mist and she makes a rose water one too.
  5. Freeze grapes.  Pop them in your mouth for a yummy and refreshing treat.  Experiment with different fruit.
  6. Make fresh fruit beverages and leave in the fridge:  lemonade, pomegranate, mango, kiwi.  Add a little run or tequila after work for your own happy hour.
  7. Instead of using a creamy moisturizer, try a lightly scented oil. Something warm and sexy like this one:  Caudalie Divine Oil I get complements on it all the time!
  8. Shop.  Wherever there is air conditioning.  Try the above ideas before you buy.  Sephora is a great place to play and stay cool!

So what are your favorite sultry summer beauty tricks?  Please oh please share!  Love, Goddess

Suggested Reading:

  1. Summer Fun:  How Much Can You Handle?
  2. Get Outrageous!
  3. Bitch Lifestyle Home

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D Day: What Does it Have to do With YOUR Personal Life?

Inaction breeds doubt and fear.  Action breeds confidence and courage.

 If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it.

 Go out and get busy.  Dale Carnegie

D Day: What Does it Have to do With YOUR Personal Life?

Last night I finally watched historical documentaries on D Day.  I was putting it off because it’s horrifying.  In the back our minds we get it.  But if we don’t remind ourselves of how important the event was we may slip.  And let those powers that started the war take over us. Not just in the world…but in our personal lives.  In this recap on how World War 2 started, do you notice something that can affect you in your own life?

  • The Treaty of Versailles didn’t allow the Germans to rebuild their army.   In 1936 Hitler publicly dismissed the Treaty of Versailles. The British and French protested, but did nothing.
  • The Treaty of Versailles de-militarized the industrial zones of Saar and the Rhineland.  Hitler needed these zones to rebuild his military power.  Hitler gambled that if he invaded the Saar and Rhineland, the League of Nations would do nothing.  He was correct and easily took the zones over.
  • Germany used diplomacy to  convince the world of their peaceful intentions.  The world listened to their words of peace and ignored their actions of war.
  • In March 1938, the Germans marched into Austria, invited by the new Austrian Chancellor.  This was meant to be a union of two sovereign states.  In reality, Austria was absorbed into the German state.  Hitler was ecstatic because he was from Austria and had made it a part of Germany.  The British and French protested but did nothing.
  • Next, Hitler turned his attention to Checkoslovakia.  Hitler felt it had no right to exist.  Hitler targeted the Sudantland because that was where most of the Checkoslavakian defenses were located. Hitler demanded the Checkoslovakians turn the Sudantland over to Germany.  They refused.  After a “furry of negotiations,” the British and French signed an agreement with Hitler.  For the promise of “no more German” expansion, they gave Hitler the Sudantland.  This was supposed to create stability in Europe.  The Germans moved into the Sudantland.  Hitler flew into Prague and declared that Checkoslovakia no longer existed.
  • After this latest take over, Europe erupted with a flurry of diplomatic activity.  Each side trying to solidify their power.  The British and French formed an alliance and tried to bring Russia in. Russia was the only country that had an army that could challenge Germany.  Because Hitler despised Communism, this should have been attained easily for the British and French.  Despite this, Germany formed a “non-aggression pact” with Russia.  Germany also formed an alliance with Italy.  This stunned the world. Germany started plans to invade Poland.  Because of the animosity between the two countries, Hitler wanted to destroy it. The British responded by guaranteeing the independence of Poland.   Upon invading Poland, the Allies told Hitler to cease.  He ignored them.  As a result, Britain declared war on Germany.  However, the British did not do anything militarily to help the Polish.  Poland was soon violently defeated.
  • Hitler announced to the world that Poland ceased to exist.  The world was once again stunned.  And the British did nothing.

Notice the pattern on inaction here by the British, French and League of Nations?  Yes, what the Allies were facing with Germany was beyond scary.  No one wants to believe that that kind of evil exists.  Unfortunately, evil people exist.  No one can predict what would have happened if the Allies had been more pro-active, but the lack of action empowered the Germans.  That is definite.  One of the many things we can learn from World War 2 is how inaction on our parts can create a snowball effect on our lives.

Is there any area of your life that suffers from lack of action?  An example from my life:  Ya’ll know I run a busy improv troupe.  It’s tough managing a large group of people with different personalities and goals.  Not to mention maturity!  Every 6 months or so complacency sets in and I have to re-enforce rules. Complacency is such a motivation zapper. It cannot be pushed aside.  If I don’t remind people about their compacency in an effective manner, our audiences are the ones who suffer.  Our team work suffers.  The longer it goes on, the harder it is to restore.

So please, take a look at YOU and see where you can get active.  Don’t let your inaction empower those around you.  It may keep  you from succeeding!  Love, Goddess

Suggested Reading:

  1. The WRONG kind of action:  The Damsel in Distress
  2. RESPECT do you have it?  Respect Do You Own Yours
  3. How to take action to gain respect:  Research time!  The Respect Virus

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