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Is this Sass Zapper from Einstein already happening?  Image from the fab web site Laugh Quotes:  http://www.laugh-quotes.com/wp-content/uploads/Mail-Attachment.jpeg

Today at Bitch University we discuss serious Sass Zappers.  Sass Zappers 101 features my top five worst.  (With a fun bonus from Mr. Einstein above)  I used to do these and now?  No freakin’ way.  I will not be sucked into the Sass Zapper muck.  The muck threatens and test us almost daily.  Oh yes it does.  When we are tired, cranky or just haven’t gotten the attention we must have the muck can have its way with us.  I can’t help it…the muck stops here!    Let’s go over my top 5 Sass Zappers and the action a Sassy Bitch can take to stay out of the dirty, slimy muck.

1.  Putting your own needs on the back burner.  And with each new task you take on without taking care of yourself, you push your needs further and further away.  And you wonder why you get so pissy sometimes?  Take care of you and things you want will be produced quicker and easier.  You will have the energy, drive and restored passion to do so!  Action:  Long bath, early to bed with a pile of magazines, a weekend away, a massage, an afternoon with your favorite movie and lots of buttery popcorn.

2.  Holding grudges.   Oh … here we go.  How much time have we wasted being pissed about something or someone we have absolutely no control over?  It hurt so much that we just can’t let it go.  So what do we do?  We hold on to it so we can be hurt more, complain about it more and sniff…suffer more.  Drama Queen loves to suffer.  Action:  Have a little “letting go” ritual.  Take a whole day if you have to.  Take a piece of paper and write down the grudge you are holding on to.  Go for a long walk.  Work out the edginess, anger and hurt.  Then rip up the piece of paper and burn it up in an ash tray or flush it down the toilet.  Take a deep breath and then do something that makes you feel really good.   Then hold on to that feeling instead of the hurt and pain.

3.  Buying happiness.  We live in I want it and need it now world.  Instant gratification.  Instant debt.  Action:  Taking care of your future.  Appreciating what you have!  I can’t tell you how much crap I have gotten over the years because I haven’t bought the newest gadget, phone, car, outfit etc.  I am much more grateful for time with my family, unexpected pleasures and spending time playing with my amazing friends.  Action:  The next time you must have something ask yourself if you really need it.  I know shiny iPhones and new cars are fab, but will you go into debt to get them?  Debt is no fun and limits what you can do.  Focus on all you have and enjoy THAT.  I can’t tell you how many times I’ve wanted something and I’ve gotten it for free instead of buying it.  Food, Kindles and even cars.  Yeah.  I want this for you too. 

4.  Being jealous.  Being jealous is simply wanting what someone else has.  Action:  Stop being jealous and take action on achieving your goals for life, love and career.  Say to yourself…wow.  I love how my friend Shelly is always doing something fun!  I’m going to ask her if I can come on her outings and also start looking for my own fun adventures to try.

5.  Blaming everyone for your troubles.  This is so annoying.  It is rare to see someone take responsibility today.  They make the decision, something goes wrong and then they blame someone else for the error.  This is being a coward.  A child.  Adults learn how to take the heat and learn from their mistakes.  Shit happens and adults understand that things so wrong.  By taking responsibility you empower yourself and those who depend on you.   Action:  Take responsibility for your own life.  If you make a mistake, acknowledge it and then fix it.  It will do so much for others’ respect for you and your ability to cope with issues!  It will put their trust in you and your word.  Trust is everything.

All these Sass Zappers keep you from the fun.  The possibilities that every day holds.  What sounds more fun, planning your next adventure or holding a grudge?    Love, Goddess

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You are absolutely relishing the thought of an opportunity…then you start to stew and over think it.

You want more than anything for x, y or z to happen at work.  Then you start thinking of all the things that can keep you from accomplishing it.

You have a family or social affair and THEY will be there.  That person who knows exactly how to push your buttons.  How do you deal?  How do you find the patience?

You have found an amazing man.  Your last couple dates beyond amazing.  And he smells so good.  But he hasn’t asked you to be his girlfriend yet.  So you start to worry.  Does he like me?  What did I do wrong?  Then you start saying this to yourself…the oh so dramatic relationship killer:  “If I do this…then he will love me.”

STOP!

You must stop this so you can get to the action needed to help you on your way to career and love heights!

But Goddess…HOW?

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Interesting question for you hotties…are you “easy to date?”

I spent the last few days playing in New York City with my best friend Mary Ann.  One night we went to dinner with her boyfriend.  He said something very interesting to me about her.  He said he really enjoyed dating her because she was “easy to date.”  Of course it brought me to instant attention!  So I’ve spent the last few days asking men what makes a woman “easy to date.”  Here are some of the answers I got with my opinion in italics:

1. No drama.  This is the number one dominant answer I got.
2. Fun and playful.  No explanation necessary!
3. Confident.   She knows who she is, where she is going and is proud of her accomplishments and interests.
4. Sensual without being slutty.   A woman’s sensuality is a part of her.  She doesn’t try too hard by showing all of her physical attributes.
5. Feminine.  Men like it when we don’t control and wear flirty, soft, flowy outfits.  They don’t expect it all the time, but love it!
6. Independent.  You have lots going on with career, family, friends and hobbies/interests.  You have a full, fun and amazing life!

Not one of the men I asked said things that involved looks and or body type.  Not one.  It was all about our personalities and how much we were invested in our own lives!  Really good to note, hmmm?  So I asked the man I’m seriously dating for his opinion on what makes a woman “easy to date.”  Without hesitation he said “No drama” and “respect for each others’ personal space.”  Which I found to be rather hot.  So for fun, why don’t we flip the above list into what turns a man off?  I flip the “easy to date” into “turn offs” in italics:

1. No drama.    Turn off:  She is always fighting with someone in her life, miserable and looking for attention.  She has no control over her finances yet spends like a drunken sailor.
2. Fun and playful.  Turn off:  She never has any fun suggestions for dates and takes everything seriously.  She has no sense of adventure and stays in her comfort zone.
3. Confident.    Turn off:  She is meek, lets him make all the decisions, agrees with him on all topics discussed and worries about whether he likes her.
4. Sensual without being slutty.   Turn off:  She is showing off butt, legs and cleavage.  All at the same time. 
5. Feminine.  Turn off:  Instead of letting a man lead, she is controlling.  She texts and calls trying to set up the next date.  She makes excuses to see him.
6. Independent.  Turn off:  She gives up her life for him.  She forgets her friends, hobbies and does only things he likes.  Then she wonders why she is so pissed off at him later.

So which girl sounds more “easy to date?”  LOL…yes…notice the first list is all Sassy Bitch and the second list is all Drama Queen?  Have a little fun today.  Ask your amazing male friends what the qualities are in a “woman easy to date.”  Listen to them.  Then all you have to do is party with your hot little life.  Revel in it and all you do.  Watch the men become intrigued and want to be with you.  And all you’re doing is enjoying your life and then enjoying them!  AND keep smiling like Marilyn above.  Love, Goddess

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Video of Bert Kreischer bringing much-needed fun to random couples in his new show “Trip Flip.”  http://www.travelchannel.com/video/ocean-adventures-in-the-keys 

I was listening to a radio interview this morning over morning coffee.   The interviewee was a man I’d never heard of.  A host on The Travel Channel named Bert Kreischer.  I instantly fell in love.  What turned me on?  His enthusiasm and zest for life.  How unbelievably grateful he was for all he had and what he attributed his success to.  Here it is:

“I don’t say no a lot.  If it sounds like a good time I’ll do it.”  Bert Kreischer

If you heard his initial background you would be like…oh…that so fits.   Bert Kreischers’ claim to fame in college was being featured as Rolling Stones’ “top partier” in the US from Florida State University.  It took him some time to earn this title too.  He didn’t earn it until his 6th YEAR of college.  In the interview he said that all he did was party.  There is even a YouTube of him getting his butt waxed.  His parents, understandably concerned.

What do I think he owes his success to?  His utter zest for life and eagerness to be playful and fun.  I’m sure he oodles charisma.  If I can fall in love with him on the radio in a couple short minutes?  I’m sure in person he is someone who you just want to be around.  He met Will Smith this way!  Think about those people you just love being around.  They have an infectious energy.  And to top it all off?  He has a lovely self-effacing humor.  That’s when you can make fun of yourself in the most charming way.  Bert talked about how his Dad would lecture him about how to be successful and a few years later he is riding around Italy in a Ferrari!  He gets the irony and he knows that the main reason why he is successful is LUCK.

And that sparkling fun enthusiastic about life personality.  Which led him to hosting Travel programs that send him all over the world…to have fun.

Man…I’m jealous!  I want us to have this kind of fun!  Is is possible?  Hell yeah!  I think my life is pretty damn fun.  I love helping people with Bitch Lifestyle.  In the next few days I have an improv show…one of my absolute passions.  I have lots of plans with friends and a fun trip planned to NYC.  So how fun do you think you are?  Do you own your sense of fun whatever that is?  It may not be on the scale of Berts’, but whatever it is that makes you ooze with fun, playful enthusiasm is worth putting at the top of the list!  What will happen if you, like Bert say “YES!” to anything that sounds like a good time? Hmmmmm…open yourself to the YES!

Love, Goddess

Steps to take that will help you ooze with fun and enthusiasm!

1. Reading my book on Amazon:  Bitch Lifestyle the Manual
2. Joining our Bitch Rebellion on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Bitch-Lifestyle/205875411841
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