Bitch Lifestyle

“I’m in New Orleans.  I miss you my love, “  he said to me.  

I miss him too.  I miss his playfulness, warm arms and sexy smile.  I haven’t told him I love him or used the word in any capacity.  I don’t know if I’m in love with him.  He understands this because we’ve discussed it.  He said that he knows he has to prove through his actions that he is worthy of my love.  He said he would prove that he’s a man in my eyes and that he is not a boy.  He said he would fight to win my love if anyone else tried to win it. 

Valentines’ Day is coming up and I expect nothing from him.   What he just said to me was my “Valentine.”  It’s perfect.  He called me “his love” on his own-without a Holiday telling him to do it.  And that means so much more to me than a date on a calendar.   A date that the world has put on a calendar.  A date that puts pressure on him to show me that he loves me.   

How about you?  What does Valentines Day mean to you?   Do you dread it because you’re not dating someone?  Are you praying to meet someone to celebrate with?  Are you disappointed when your boyfriend gets you something you don’t want, need or is unromantic?  Get a grip, Bitches!   That’s your Brat acting up.  And you know the Brat.  It’s all about what she doesn’t have and what she should have.  And she’ll never be happy because she can’t be in the moment and be grateful for the wonderful that comes her way.  She’s stuck on a date that the world has put on her calender.  

We are going to squash that Brat over the next couple weeks.  That’s what Bitches do.  We are going to enjoy the hell out of Valentines Day by not pressuring ourselves or the men in our lives.   We are going to do it together.  You, me and everyone else on this web site.  We are going to fall in love with our luscious asses (literally and figuratively)  We are going to shower everyone we love with love on the Holiday of Love:  Valentines Day.  We are going to put a Sassy Bitch spin on it.  I now present Valentines Day Bitch Style!

1.  Enjoy those aisles stocked with Valentine goodies in the stores.  I had so much fun in Target last night looking at all the pink, red and heart shaped items there.  Yummy candies, cards, rose petals, candles and this really soft pink heart pillow.  I enjoyed how wonderful that soft pillow felt on my skin.  And I got the cutest cards for my girlfriends.  Which leads me to Number 2:

2.  Buy some adorable Valentines and give them out to those you love.  Spread the love to your girlfriends!  Girls are the ones who get excited over these frilly little cards.  Your Mom, Grandmother, aunts, cousins and nieces would appreciate them so much more than a man.   I bought  Fashion Barbie cards that come with really cute tattoos.

3.  Show that hot body of yours some love.  Pamper yourself by using everything on your body that makes you feel beautiful.  Skin care, perfume, glitter, clothes and accessories.  Find a look in a magazine that you would love to try and then do it!  Copy some make up ideas, hair ideas.  See if you like it on you.  Experiment with your beauty.

4.  Make a commitment to falling in love with wonderful you.   Kick it up a notch, as Emeril would say.  Go to a store and try on a diamond ring.  Or any ring with a huge gem in it.  Enjoy the gem sparkling on your skin.  Try different jewels to see which one you like best and note why.  Promise to love and adore yourself as you gaze at you and the ring in a mirror.

5.  Share with us on this site:  Anything fun that you do to adore YOU.  Spread the fun, Bitches!

Love, Goddess

© S Stevens Life Strategies

Who controls you, your Bitch or your Brat?  Do you see the wonder around you or do you choose to wallow in the dirt?  The Bitch sees the joy.  The Brat wallows.  We have both in us, hotties.  Here are the traits of the Joyful Bitch and the Drama Queen Brat:

The Bitch at Work:  Loves what she’s doing.  She feels fulfilled and enjoys each goal and aspiration met.  She doesn’t whine about a problem she solves the problem.

The Brat at Work:  Hates what she is doing, whines and bemoans her job and gets too involved with the Drama Queens and Kings at the office or wherever she hangs her career cap.

The Bitch at Home:  Whatever the size or limitations, has done everything she can to make her home her castle.  It’s clean, neat and organized.  (And she cuts herself slack if it’s not always perfect)  It’s full of things that make her comfortable: pictures, music, aromas, food and fond memories that make her smile.  She makes the most of what she has and is grateful for all she has produced.

The Brat at Home:  Looks at everything she has and laments the things she doesn’t have.  Nothing is ever good enough, pretty enough, expensive enough.  She cannot see the joy around her everyday because she chooses to see what she doesn’t have. 

The Single Bitch:  Her life is full of friends, activities and passions that fulfill her.  She never “settles” in a relationship because “settling” is far worse than being single. 

The Single Brat:  Laments she doesn’t have a man in her life, berates women who do and competes with other women over any guy in their orbit.  She doesn’t appreciate the freedom of being single.  It’s all about whining about not “finding the one,” “the perfect guy” and being “lonely.”

The Bitch in a Relationship:  Appreciates everything her man does for her.  She is always happy to see him and tells him so.  When he disrespects her she is polite but unemotional.  That puts the disrespect ball firmly in her court.  If he is a man he’ll be jumping through hoops to try and make things up to her.  If he’s a boy he’ll do various things like pout and try and blame it on her.  Which of course, won’t fly.

The Brat in a relationship:  Worries about “where things are going.”  She wonders when he will “pop” the marriage question and over analyzes everything a man does or says.  She gives up things she likes to do and pouts when he wants to have a beer with his buddies.  She calls and texts him constantly.  She allows disrespect from her man because she is afraid of losing him.  What she doesn’t understand is she  has already lost him by these actions.

The Bitch has made a choice.  So has the Brat.  What is more fun…wallowing in what you don’t have or enjoying the hell out of what you do?  I’ve found that when I focus on the positive, more positive comes my way.  Yup.  I get down.  We all do.  That’s why I have a whole subject on this web site called “Drama Queen.”  It’s where we can acknowledge all the drama in our lives and then take steps to be done with it.  And have a little fun in the process!  Then we can get back to all the Bitchy Sassiness.  The only thing you can control in life is the positive attitude you put forth when bad happens.

So…what’s your choice, hot ones?  Love, Goddess

© S Stevens Life Strategies