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How to Spring Clean Toxic Things From Your Life!

How to spring clean toxins from your life!

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How to spring clean toxins from your life!

Just start.  One baby step at a time…Just do the ONE toxic habit.  When you have conquered that toxic habit then consider taking on another toxic habit.  This is why we are doing this one week at a time.  A client of mine, Pam, was so cute.  She was the inspiration for this post.  During a session she was so edgy!  The Brat was just ruling her life!  After a series of questions from me, she finally fessed up.  She had gone on a diet, started exercising AND quit smoking.  All in one week.  No wonder she was being ruled by the Brat.  So we worked out a schedule.  Now Pam is smoke-free, lost 10 pounds and is enjoying glowing skin.  She took it slow and it made all the difference.

Week One:  Clear the toxic clutter in your inbox, Facebook, Twitter, other social media.  Old lovers, ex-friends? Delete.  Delete anything you follow or follow back that is not empowering.  I recently had to tell someone on one of my business pages to STOP posting negative stuff.  I told her exactly why and she did.  But if she hadn’t? Gonzo. Social media is full of toxic people looking for attention.  Honor yourself by not giving them any of your valued time.  Replace with POSITIVE fun feeds and energy.

Week Two:  Identify ONE toxic habit you would like to stop doing.  Assess what makes you go to the “toxic habit.” Then you will know the trigger.  Then you can deal with the trigger when it happens.  For me?  It’s taking care of myself…mind, body and soul.  You see when I am passionately doing things everything else falls away!  Time flies and I find I haven’t had lunch. Then I’m starving and more likely to eat crap, for example.  I deal with this by always having healthy and yummy food around.

Week Three:  Change a negative toxic feeling into a positive one.  This is freakin’ hard. Miss Drama Queen in your head is always messing with you:  Drama Queens Love…  Something happens and whammo!  She starts looking at all the worst case scenarios instead of the bottom line. Solving the problem.  Seeing opportunity in adversity. (Yes, it’s there) This requires re-programming that cute little brain of yours with positive thoughts.  I know…some of you are rolling your eyes.  Don’t blame you.  That’s your Brat talking: Who Controls You Your Bitch or Your Brat?   This action is required practice to slay the negative feeling toxins from your body.  One way to do this is to fall asleep to a positive affirmation video on You Tube.  

That’s enough for one lesson.  When you’re done with these?  Visit the Drama Queen section on this site for more articles so you can remove all the nasty toxins from your life…like the Faux Girlfriend!  Love, Goddess

Suggested Reading:

  1. Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom (Revised Edition): Creating Physical and Emotional Health and Healing
  2. I Can Do It® 2016 Calendar: 366 Daily Affirmations
  3. Bitch Lifestyle The Manual

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Are You Overwhelmed?

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Are You Overwhelmed?

If you are?   You’re handling so much with so much style and flair that the Universe just keeps on giving you more!  Why would she do such a thing?   Because you are on the fast track. The Universe, the people around you, and the people who rely on you know this: you will help them rock their worlds.  And why wouldn’t they admire your style and flair under pressure?   People that are rocking their lives so hard are inspiring.  Sign me up!

So how in the world do you keep up with all this?  You have to know when the overwhelm is too much even for you, Rock Star. You do this by…showing the Universe you need a little break.  So take a deep breath beauty and try one of the following:

  1. Do only what you can do, Goddess.   There’s no shame in delegating!  Don’t let the “what I should be doing” ruin your style and flair.  Sometimes the best thing you can do for yourself?  Is…
  2. Take a break.  Turn on your fave tunes and dance your cute butt off.  Or…go here and dance to one of these:  Your Celebration Song.
  3. Say no.  Don’t you dare add one more thing to your plate if you don’t have time to take a dance break from #2.  You don’t have 3 minutes to dance? Really?
  4. Know how to schedule those mindless tasks that consume time and make you dread doing them.  2 days a week I do the following: Fave TV show, lap top, clear the email in boxes. Spa music on Pandora helps too.  Relax in bed. Sip some wine.  Or if it’s winter try a hot chocolate laced with a little Kahlua, Bailey’s or both.  Make the mundane pleasurable.  It’s amazing how much I can get done when I add pleasure to boring but necessary tasks.
  5. Screw expectations.  Stop expecting perfection.  It will drive you bat **** crazy.  Let it go.
  6. Ask for help.  Really.
  7. Shut out distractions.  Turn off the cell, lap top, TV.   Say no to tech for a few hours or an entire evening so you can relax a bit. Don’t feel guilty about it.  You deserve it!
  8. Laugh.  Get together with the friend that makes you laugh, watch your fave comic, TV show or movie.  Laugh until it hurts. Laughing releases so much tension!

What are your favorite ways to own your overwhelm and rock your life even more?  Please share with us here and on Facebook!   Bitch Lifestyle on Facebook.  Love Goddess

Want more?  Suggested Reading:

  1. Are We Losing the Bottom Line?
  2. Fun Release 
  3. Bitch Lifestyle The Manual

© S Stevens Life Strategies

Big Bang Theory Goddess?

Big Bang Theory

Penny from Big Bang Theory. Image from  Vignette4,wikia 

Big Bang Theory Goddess?

Penny from the Big Bang Theory is fantastic inspiration for Sassy Bitches every where.  Penny is beautiful, warm, street smart, loving, witty and playful.  Penny communicates the way a true Sassy Bitch does:  in a bottom line way. And?  Penny will call you on your crap when you need it!   She is a perfect example of what happens to a man when a good, caring woman comes into his life.  The nerdy guys from the show all become better men.  They even get girlfriends!  Even the most annoying of them all, Sheldon.  The best way to appreciate what she does?  With video clips.  Man-Handling 101 Penny style!  Here are examples with bullet point analysis after the video:

  1.  Penny handles someone being obnoxious when she is doing them a favor:

Bullet Points:

  • Penny shows she is a wonderful friend by honoring Sheldons’ favor.
  • Sheldon is completely clueless.  Focused on himself only.
  • Notice how Penny treats Sheldon when he is obnoxious?  She pays very little attention to him.  As a result, he becomes uneasy and uncomfortable.  This is an effective tactic when a guy is being obnoxious.  They hate this!  You can up the ante by saying absolutely nothing.   Read More:  The Obnoxious Male
  • Penny asks him to “shut up” politely with her “quiet time” demand. Sheldon, still clueless and self-absorbed does not comply.
  • That’s it.  Sheldon touched her last nerve. Notice how she tells him to get out with absolutely NO emotion.

2.   Penny communicating in a bottom line way:

 

Bullet Points:

  • Penny asks her question.  No sugar-coating.
  • When Sheldon gives her a “non-answer,” she calls him on it.
  • Sheldon shares how he truly feels.  Then, knowing Sheldon so well, Penny thanks him for opening up to her.
  • Sheldon has huge issues and yet Penny has built up trust with him so he can open up to her more than even his best guy friends! You know someone loves you when they are willing to ask you tough questions.  And Penny does that with those she loves.

3.  Penny is warm, loving and thoughtful.  Giving Sheldon a gift that she knows will rock his world.

Bullet Points:

  • Good reminder:  It’s not the price that goes into a gift.  It’s the thought.  It’s understanding someone and knowing how to make them feel loved!
  • The moment where Sheldon in his unbelievably awkward way hugs Penny?  With all his touching issues?  Kinda says it all, right?

Lucky for all of us, Big Bang Theory has been on for years so we can watch and learn from a true Sassy Goddess. Click here for more videos…have fun with your homework!  Love, Goddess

Suggested Reading:

  1. Seductress: Seductress: Women Who Ravished the World and Their Lost Art of Love
  2. Love Games:  An Outrageous Proposal
  3. Overcoming Underearning Overcoming Underearning(R): A Five-Step Plan to a Richer Life

© S Stevens Life Strategies

The Ugly Truth About New Years Resolutions

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The Ugly Truth About New Years Resolutions?

They don’t work if you don’t have a plan.  Resolutions.  Desires.  Wants.  Goals.  How fast are you getting them?  Are they coming at you like lightning or slower than slow? Unless you are doing these 5 steps?  I bet ya it ain’t happening.  Because unless you’re attaching these 5 steps to your resolutions, desires, wants: they are mere wishes.  Work is required.  Focused action and intent. This is nothing new.  I talk about action all the time here.  Intent, focus, action = Success.  So let’s hit the 5 action steps hard:

Step #1:  Get specific.  Example:  Pay off my credit cards.

Step #2:   Make it measurable.  Example:  I will pay off XYZ card in 3 months.  I will do this by making minimum payments of the other ones with larger debt.  When that card is paid off I will give myself a timetable for the next card and direct all my money toward that one. Ideally, you will have a time frame for all the cards in total, say 10 months.

Step #3:  This has to be your want, desire, goal.  If your parents want you to be a dentist and you have NO desire? That same desire (as in none) will go toward that goal.  It has to be something that lights you up, gets you motivated, and enhances your life.

Step #4:  Give it a time limit.  Example:  If you decide to pay off all your credit card debt and don’t give yourself a time limit?  It will never happen.  You’ll keep buying things you don’t truly need, using the card to do things you can’t really afford and dig yourself deeper and deeper.  A time limit makes it real.

Step #5:  Put it in writing.  Then break it down.  Your vision will not happen unless you write it down.  Want to really make it happen? Get support by telling everyone what you are going to do.  It adds accountability.

Nothing sexy here, Bitches!   It’s all common sense stuff that when followed, works.  I’ll never forget the confidence boost I got when I paid off a credit card when I thought I was broke. I really wasn’t as broke as I thought and was rather shocked at a couple of ways I was wasting my hard-earned cashed.  The journey to pay them off was rewarding too.  Each step I took made me feel lighter.  When I made the final payment and saw the statement balance at zero? Freedom.

Freedom.

What will you free yourself from with these five steps?  What will you accomplish, attain, conquer?  Let that thought marinate.  Then make it your intention and with these 5 Steps? Reality. Love, Goddess

Suggested Reading:

  1. Barbara Stanny:  Money Inspiration
  2. Amazon Link:  Overcoming Under Earning
  3. Bitch Lifestyle You Tube

© S Stevens Life Strategies