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Your Strength How Strong are You?

Your srength

Your strength. Get stronger so you can embrace adventure! Gorgeous image from

Your strength…how strong are you?

Can you imagine…

You cannot talk.  Cannot see.  Cannot hear.  You know touch.  At first…as a baby, this may not affect you that much.  Your needs are met.  You eat and sleep.  You cry and someone comes to take care of you. Then, as you start to get older, you can’t communicate because of these sensory issues.  You start to get frustrated. Because you’re frustrated, you look for ways to get a reaction. Tantrums get you attention.  But tantrums still don’t get what you need. Understanding.  Of who, what and where you are.  Can you imagine?  This is how Helen Keller, after an illness that almost killed her at age two, existed.  Existed.  Trapped in that existence. I can’t even imagine that. Overcoming that.  But she did.   How do you get through to someone, communicate to someone so they understand and break them out of their “trapped existence?”

Helen Keller was rescued by a tutor, Anne Sullivan.  Sullivan had been blind but through a series of operations, had gotten some of her sight back.  Anne patiently tried teaching Helen sign language.  Whenever Anne tried to teach Helen sign language by signing in Helens’ hand, Helen would reject her.  This took a long time because Helens’ parents felt guilty and helpless regarding Helen.  They didn’t know how to help her so they just let her be.  Whenever Helen didn’t get what she wanted, she would throw a tantrum. Helen was completely undisciplined.

Discipline = Strength.

Anne knew this and wouldn’t let Helen get away with anything.  Helen learned that if she were to get what she wanted it wouldn’t happen until Anne “signed” the item in Helens’ hand. Finally, when Helen finally understood what Anne was doing?  She was euphoric.  Helen indulged in her thirst for knowledge.  She learned how to speak.  To inspire others to overcome disabilities she lectured and wrote a book.  Her passion founded foundations and earned her medals of honor.  None of this would have happened without the ONE person who wasn’t afraid of giving Helen what she needed.  A serious kick in the ***.  Anne.  Discipline. Anne knew Helen would never succeed or learn without discipline.

How disciplined are you?  Who loves you enough to tell you WHEN you need to be more disciplined?  Listen to them. They may be telling you something you don’t want to hear.  They are doing it because they care.  The people that truly love you aren’t afraid of telling you the truth.  Listen to them.

There is discipline in everything you do.  Work.  Play.  Body care. Skin care. Home care. The more disciplined you are the more you can handle. Emotionally and physically.  Where can you add some more discipline?  Where do you feel you could be a stronger woman?  Communication? If so, take a class.  Find a mentor. Find a person whom you admire and watch them communicate.  Here are two I like:  Judge Judy-for her no BS attitude.  Michelle Yeoh: Dominating Martial Arts. 

And really?  That’s all there is to it.  Just do it.  Channel your inner Nike slogan and become a stronger person for YOU.  Become your own Anne Sullivan.  She will have your back, Helen. Love, Goddess

Suggested Reading:

  1. The Story of My Life-Helen Keller
  2. Fun, Playful and Slightly Outrageous Things to Do This Weekend
  3. Bitch Lifestyle Home

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Understanding Men a Valuable Resource!

Understanding men a valuable resource!  This article is a follow up to “What We Can Learn From Mens Magazines.” Please re-read.  A specific example of their competitive nature came up this weekend to me constantly.  Would you like more info on how to deal with their competitive nature?  Yeah…I know you do.

I was channel surfing the other night and the movie “Friends with Benefits” was on.  If you haven’t seen it, it’s about two friends-Jamie and Dylan-who decide to have sex without the strings of a “relationship.”  Jamie decides that it isn’t working and they should stop.  She meets a guy. On her first date she tells him she doesn’t sleep with anyone until the fifth date. After sleeping with this guy on the 5th date, she is surprised when he ditches her.  She is upset (of course) and thinks it’s her:

Jamie: I gotta stop thinking it’s not me. I mean, it’s gotta be me!
Dylan: It’s not you. Nothing is wrong with you. He’s a guy. You gave him a five date challenge, he got you and cut out. Forget the douche! He’s a dick. He’s a dick douche.

This is great advice from Dylan.  But Jamie was right.  It was her.  She told the guy exactly what he had to do to “get her.”  If she doesn’t want that anymore? Perhaps she should keep the guy guessing.  Not as a game, but as a way to gauge his interest in her.  Every guy wants to get laid and Jamie made it WAY too easy for him.  You’ve got to be smarter than a guy. And guys are the first to admit they aren’t too smart.  Don’t lay all your cards on the table.  Men will love it.  You told them exactly how to get what they want from you with very little effort.

Other examples:

If you have a guy friend who is being rude or obnoxious?  Call him on it.  Then watch his actions.  If he is sorry, he may not say it.  He will show with his actions.  I recently called a guy friend on his crap.  He hasn’t apologized, but boy oh boy has he been a sweetie!

Another guy friend of mine likes to have Sunday breakfast with me.  So he started SKYPE-ing me first thing Sunday morning.  I told him to call me because I would have to get out of bed to talk to him through SKYPE.  I had a phone by my bed.  What did he do?  He continued to SKYPE me.  Whose fault is this?


But Goddess…you told him what wasn’t acceptable to you and he disrespected you by calling you.

No, Brat.

It’s my fault because I made a challenge/game out of SKYPE-ing to this guy.  You have to know when you have presented a challenge to a guy.  A fun little button to push.  This is what my guy friend heard me say: “This is annoying.  Don’t do that.”  He will do a happy dance in his mind thinking of all the fun he is going to have SKYPE-ing me on a Sunday morning.  Oh how men LOVE to annoy women they love.

You’ve got to be smarter than him, Bitch.  Simple solution.  Turn the lap top off.  Now he calls.  And we discussed it.  He admitted he was enjoying pushing my buttons.  I’ll let him push my buttons in a playful way but not in a way that irritates me!  You know the old saying…give an inch and they will take a mile?  Be smarter Bitch.  Want even smarter?  Learn from a man:  I like Michael Fiore.  I’ve seen him on TV and he tells women exactly how to get and keep a mans’ attention.  Click here for more.   Finally, if you really want to rock it here is my Private Coaching Program:  Your Re-Awakening  Class dismissed.  Love, Goddess

Suggested Reading:

  1. Let a Man Chase You:  Here’s How
  2. Sassy Success Secrets
  3. Bitch Lifestyle:  The Manual

© S Stevens Life Strategies

Healthy Habits of Centenarians

Healthy Habits of Centenarians

Open your arms to living more! Image of the Queen Mother from 

Healthy Habits of Centenarians?  Today we are keeping it so simple.  I read this today and just had to share with you all.  This is from the Queen Mother, who lived to be 101 years old. With everyone telling you how to eat, when to eat, what to eat, how to do this for your health, how to do that for your health…this was refreshing.  It is what she made clear in her official biography “Queen Elizabeth the Queen Mother,” regarding her longevity:

“Wouldn’t it be terrible if you’d spent your life doing everything you were supposed to do, didn’t drink, didn’t smoke, didn’t eat things, took lots of exercise, all the things you didn’t want to do, and suddenly one day you were run over by a big red bus, and as the wheels were crunching into you you’d say “Oh my God, I could have got so drunk last night!”  That’s the way you should live your life.  As if tomorrow you’ll be run over by a big red bus.”


So there you have it — superior advice from a woman who LIVED.  Healthy habits of centenarians is a real helpful thing to study…no?  Yes, we want to keep our energy level at its peak so we can do all we want to do.  BUT if we don’t sprinkle some fun into our day every day we are not living.  Live pleasured.  Every single day.   Love, Goddess

Suggested Reading:

  1. Fun, Playful and Slightly Outrageous Things to Do This Weekend
  2. Click the image below for Bitch Lifestyle:  The Manual on Amazon…

Or…. it’s always nice to plan ahead for summer:  Get Outrageous!

© S Stevens Life Strategies

Keys to Success: What a Savvy Woman Wouldn’t Do

Keys to Success: What a Savvy Woman Wouldn’t Do.  Having one of those days?  A day full of curve balls, irritations and no room to fit them all in?  First things’ first.  Before you do one more thing:

  1. Take care of yourself.  With a shot of tequila, a shower or a manicure/pedicure.
  2. Find your humor and your perseverance.  Watch the video above and then revisit the full article here:  What a Sassy Bitch Wouldn’t be Caught Dead Doing

Right here and now we are going to focus on one of the biggest Keys to Success: What a Savvy Woman Wouldn’t do scenarios:

Failing to rise to the challenge.

You have two choices here.  Rock it or Run.  Challenges are like a little wink from the Universe. You want more in life?  Universe is asking if you want to play.  Throw off the urge to give Ms. Universe the finger.  Or not.  Give her the finger and then start rocking that challenge!  But back to first things first…

1. Take care of yourself.  So you can get past the emotional element and start to focus on what you want.  The Drama Queen, aka “the emotional element” in you wants to keep you unfocused and unhappy.  She loves you unhappy and insecure.  This is why you must take care of yourself.  By putting the attention on you and not her negative ways, you are telling her to SHUT UP!    Once you get Drama Queen to shut up…you can focus.  Which brings us to the second part of the “rising to the challenge” process.

2.  Look for the positive in the challenge.  Trust me.  There IS one in there. Lurking past the pain, frustration and anger.  Drama Queen wouldn’t know pleasure if it hit her in her depressed little face. She only knows pain.  She can’t see that the challenge is change. A change that means your desires are going to be fulfilled. Desires are funny that way.  Sometimes they are hidden behind something you don’t want to let go:

  1. A man who is bad for you
  2. A “friend” who does nothing but suck the life out of you
  3. Your comfort zone

Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.” – Neale Donald Walsch

Ms. Universe wants you to be uncomfortable sometimes.  So she can give you oh so much more. So the next time Ms. Universe gives you a challenge?  Go ahead and lament about it for a bit.  Vent to a friend.  Then take action:

  1. Take care of yourself.
  2. Find the positive in the challenge.  What is the desire behind the challenge that Miss Drama Queen doesn’t want you to see?
  3. Embrace that which is making you uncomfortable. Be grateful for the change that is coming. Because change may be granting you your desires.

It’s up to you…rock it or run?  I know you want to rock it.  So here is more inspiration for you to do just that.  Lord knows sometimes we need more that just the friendly written reminder.  (warm smile)  Love, Goddess

Suggested Reading:

  1. Bitch Lifestyle:  The Manual
  2. Love this lady for inspiration on leadership and success:  Lolly Daskal and on Twitter: @LollyDaskal
  3. Need some positive mojo on a more consistent basis because Drama Queen won’t, ahem…shut up?  Manifestation Miracles.
  4. Private Coaching with me:  Negative Emotions-How to Kick Them to the Curb
  5. I’ve been talking about this a lot lately…find a way to make this work for you…play!  What are the Health Benefits of Meditation

© S Stevens Life Strategies