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Infatuation Versus Real Love

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Is this hot sexy man for real or full of red flags? Hot picture of Hugh Jackman from the amazing website Shanghai Expat

Infatuation versus real love.  That magical moment happens…you meet a man who is attractive, intelligent and there is chemistry.  The conversation is fun, playful and you’re thinking to yourself…OMG…finally!  A man I can get excited about!  I’m here to give you an excited for you but – maintain your Sassy Bitch grip on this scenario!  Please…ask questions, be aware of red flags…keep things moving slowly so you have the time to get to know him.  So you don’t…

Look past the red flags and fall into…infatuation. Infatuation makes your brain go to sleep. Infatuation makes you not care about the red flags because he smells so good and kisses sooooooo….sooooo…

Here is a nice overview of infatuation versus real love that I enjoyed on Diffen.com

Love takes time. It takes work to get to know someone. Don’t have sex too quickly.  Women do it on the second date now!  I don’t get it! Unless that is all you want…to “get it.”  Are you sure that’s all you want? One of my favorite lines from a movie is from Clueless.  When asked “how far she had gone,” Cher admits she’s a virgin and says…”you know how picky I am about shoes and they just go on my feet.” She had a clue here.  But do the rest of us?  The sexual revolution has allowed us to do it anytime, anywhere with anyone we want. Cool, right? But there are consequences if we let infatuation rule and have sex too quickly.

Like completely missing those pesky little red flags.  The red flags that will doom you to a relationship with a man who doesn’t give you what you truly need to relax, let go and fall in love with him.  Red flag awareness will keep you from wasting your time on the wrong guy.  So start asking him questions, listen to his answers and watch his actions.  Before you give yourself away and then email me asking “why is he acting this way?”

So … I met a man I could get a little excited about.  Our first conversations were epic and amazing. Our third conversation set off some red flags for me.  I cut him some slack.  He seemed genuinely nervous talking to me.  Then the red flags continued.  I asked him questions about them.  He seemed to realize my concern and tried to assure me these red flags were not a problem.  I was skeptical.  In our short dating life we already had a pattern here. The red flag was that he was too self-involved.  He would talk about himself endlessly.  I took a lot of interest in him but his interest in what was going on with me was…not satisfying me.

So I called him on it.  He called me needy.  (See this article for exactly what he tried to do by calling me needy: The Deflection)  Which I found to be hilarious because he talked endlessly about me being understanding about HIS needs, quirks, problems and issues.  How he “needed” me to be patient with him.

I understand male deflection well … I called him out on that too.  I told him that crap wasn’t going to fly with me.  To which he…freaked out.

Ahhhhh….Check mate for me. I was done with this child man.

I’m so glad I listened to those red flags and paid attention to his actions!  It has saved me so much grief.  I desire a man who is inspired by my passions.  They make me ME. He takes as much interest in me as I do him. Every girl deserves this and more.  Do not settle for anything less than a man who is passionate about YOU, sassy one…mind, body and soul!  Love, Goddess

Suggested Reading:

  1. The Obnoxious Male
  2. Bitch Lifestyle:  The Manual
  3. Love Games:  An Outrageous Proposal

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Protesting Winter!

Beautiful Summer Protesting Winter!

Protest Winter! Let’s play! Gorgeous Summer Image found at Web 3 Mantra

 

Protesting Winter!

It’s time.  Where I live it was -33 with wind chill last night!  I am literally wearing two coats every time I venture out of the house.  So what are we going to do?  PROTEST!  Do all things that will warm us up, peel off the layers of clothing and work our warm weather mojo:

 

  1. Book a trip to somewhere tropical.  Groupon has amazing deals at the moment!
  2. Throw a tropical party…the whole 9 yards.  Drinks with umbrellas, summer music mix, tikki lights, tacky island shirts, tropical fruit and food items. Serve drinks in coconuts.
  3. Throwing a tropical party too much?  Barbeque Pot Luck Dinner.
  4. Be a Bronze Goddess in winter…tanning lotion, bronzer, shimmer.  Don’t look fake.  Make everyone think you just got back from the Bahamas.  Enjoy the jealous stares!
  5. Make some real old fashioned lemonade.  Just like the kind you crave on a hot summer day.  Whether you spike it or not is up to you…
  6. Buy a gorgeous, exotic bouquet of flowers.  Find ones that smell amazing!  Separate and fill your home with vases of fresh blooms.
  7. Have a carpet pic nick…complete with basket of goodies to eat, trashy novels AND or summer blockbuster movies.
  8. Stand outside in the sun and blow bubbles.
  9. Make smores.
  10. Treat yourself to a gorgeous pedicure in a bright summer hue.
  11. Road trip…just go anywhere SOUTH.  I don’t care if it’s one town over.  It’s the fun behind it that counts!
  12. For your road trip, party, barbeque:  Get a watermelon and cut out a couple bottle size holes.  Fill with your fave liquor…like Malibu Rum.  Repeat until it’s all soaked in and yummy.

Questions?  Good.  Now get protesting!  Love, Goddess

Want more fun?

  1. Sultry Summer Beauty Tricks
  2. Healthy Eating for Pleasure
  3. Fun Bitch Quiz to Share with Your Friends

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Merry Happy Whoo Hoo!!!

christmas candles Merry Happy Whoo Hoo!!!

Gorgeous candles from Photos Public Domain

 

Merry Happy Whoo Hoo!!  Whatever you celebrate this season (or not!) I’m wishing you a time full of love, fun, play and unexpected pleasurable surprises!

I myself celebrate Christmas.  Even with the hustle and bustle (we won’t even go there!) it is still magical to me:

  • The pretty lights from houses and yards sparkling on dark roads at night
  • The unexpected beaming smiles when you find a wonderful gift for someone you love
  • The whirlwind of parties
  • The joy of little kids opening their presents.  Remember how it made you feel?  Nostalgic sigh…
  • The time just relaxing and being grateful with those you love
  • How I can make people light up by bringing them some of my special home made cinnamon treats
  • The first time you hear your fave Christmas song on the radio…this year it was “Mr. Grinch.”
  • The first time you see the “Hershey Kisses” Wish You a Merry Christmas on TV
  • Nostalgia…note the last two from above!
  • Unexpected mistletoe kisses!
  • It’s a Wonderful Life.  Yeah…Jimmy Stewart and I would have been soul mates!
  • All the wonderful stories about people trying to help those in need
  • Chocolate extra delicious in even more decadent packaging
  • Snowmen of all shapes and sizes appearing in yards after Decembers’ first snow
  • Uhmmmm…after Christmas shopping sales
  • Time off to play!!!

Even if you don’t celebrate anything in particular…isn’t it a great time to find some joy?  YES!  What do you find magical right here and now around you? SHARE AND RELISH. Class dismissed.  Now go party your cute butt off! Love, Goddess

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The Obnoxious Male

tom giselle The Obnoxious Male

Gorgeous picture of Tom Brady and Gisele from Suntimes.com

I LOVED this article written by Anna Fogel I found on the NESN website.  I’m also amused when I hear other men talking about it on the radio.  Giving Mr. Brady crap for his honesty.  Guess what “Guys in media talking about it,” how honest are you being with yourselves? Men LOVE doing this sort of thing to women!  LOVE LOVE LOVE.  It’s Male 101.  So here is a piece the article:

New England Patriots quarterback Tom Brady might not be the best guy to go to for marriage advice, but his methods apparently work. The 37-year-old revealed in an interview with Man of the World magazine that he’ll resort to childish ways to get his supermodel wife Gisele Bundchen to notice him while at home. “I like attention from her, so when I’m not getting it, I let her know in immature ways, like a young, immature child would,” Brady said in the interview, via the New York Post. While those juvenile tactics used to work like a charm for Brady, he admitted that he’s going to have to come up with new ways to get attention from Gisele,  who recently signed a multiyear contract with Under Armour, as she’s figured out what he’s doing with every fit he throws. “You throw fits…you pout and you whine until you get what you want,” Brady continued. “She’s on to me…So now I have to learn new tricks.” Who knew the secret to getting attention from a supermodel would be so … simple?

Mr. Brady is admitting an age old male tactic.  And bragging about it!  LOL. All men…the good and the bad, do it.  So how does a Sassy Bitch deal?  How does a Sassy Bitch deal with a GOOD man who is being a jerk for attention?  How does a Sassy Bitch deal with a BAD man who is being a jerk for attention? Would this tactic piss you off or amuse you?  It amuses the **** out of me. Because it puts all the power on our feminine plate.  To do with what we will. Do you know how to maximize your power here?  Or are you in Drama Queen or Bitchy Brat mode and have no idea how to deal? Brady admits that his lovely wife has won and he is looking for a new way to up the ante!  And trust me…he is relishing the challenge.  Do you know how to win and challenge a man like Giselle does? If you do GO YOU!  If not let me help you conquer this challenge from any man.  Anywhere. Anyhow.  With sass, wit and charm.  It all starts right here with my 3 week coaching program You’re Re-Awakening.  A few spots left in January 2015!  Email me for your spot… goddess@bitchlifestyle.com  Slots have filled up.  Please email me for new ones coming up!

“Thank you Sharon!  You turned my life around.  I can’t believe how much you have helped me with men AND my confidence in general.”  Sabrina

“Sharon…I want to thank you for our coaching sessions.  I forgot how to play with men!  Not in the manipulative sense…in the fun and sexy sense.”  FREE-ING!!!  Susan

“Without the tools you gave me I would have never seen MY truth behind the anger I had at my ex.”  Thank you.  Love, Pam

It’s time for you to start returning the relish…like Gisele does!  Love, Goddess

Read more at:  Tom Brady Admits

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