Why is he ignoring me? I get this one all the time. Here is one from a reader last night:
I have been dating a guy for a year. He was so sweet! But now I feel he is ignoring me. When we hang out he is busy with his phone. I feel he is not respecting me anymore. Also less text, less phone, and less communication. Should I tell him, “respect me when we are together, you’re too busy with your phone!”
Or do I ignore him back like he does to me ??
Here is how I responded:
Why don’t you try a little honesty? The next time the guy you’re dating pays more attention to his phone than you: Look at him straight in the eye. State in an unemotional manner something like: “I’d appreciate it if you put the phone away while we are out together.” When he protests or makes a comment toward you, stay absolutely silent. If he still continues, raise an eyebrow while looking at him during your silence. If he continues to protest, call it an early night. And LEAVE. You want a man who is going to respect you and if he doesn’t in this small way, start looking for someone who will. Disrespect needs to be checked. When it happens. Wait until he picks up the phone and then follow this process. Let me know how it goes…Love, Goddess
Why not be honest, hotties? Why is it so hard to tell him when he’s being rude? Maybe…you’ve been letting it go on too long and now you are pissed? Maybe you argued with him when you knew you were right? Regardless, take a deep breath and then state what won’t fly. Then zip it. If you slip up the first time you do this, no worries. Practice makes perfect. So get in there and let the men you are dating know when something makes you happy or unhappy! Love, Goddess
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