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What are the Health Benefits of Meditation?

What are the Health Benefits of Meditation?  I’ve finally done it.  A habit I’ve wanted to get into because of benefits I’ve heard from it.  According to WebMD (click here for the full article) meditation may help reduce stress.  This is how it has helped me:

  1. Much better sleep.
  2. More energized in the morning…because of the better sleep, I assume. (said with playful sarcasm)
  3. More FOCUS (because of the better sleep?)

In the three weeks I’ve started meditating, I’ve noticed better sleep and more energy.  What I really love is that it has seemed to slow my mind down. Instead of 200 things going through my mind on what I need to do, have to do, want to do I’m more focused.  And I was pretty focused before.  LOVE!

How about you?  Have you ever tried the practice of meditation?  According to Louise Hay and other experts at Hay House.com…three things will happen during your meditation session:

  1. You will go to sleep.
  2. You will start thinking about all things you should be doing instead of meditating.
  3. You will get in the meditation zone…which is truly cool.  A yoga friend of mine calls it the “third eye.”  Which in my experience is relaxed, not sleepy and completely focused on the subject I chose for the meditation session.

I found this really cool website that gives great advice on making the meditation experience a pleasurable ritual.  So Bitch Goddess like!  Here it is:  Wellness Hero  I’m going to be adding this to my daily meditation. Here are more sources I like on the subject:  Meditation for Dummies, and above is one of the videos I use nightly.  It’s from a great You Tube Channel. Click on this link for more meditation videos and support: EmilyStoneMusic.

The bottom line for me is that I’m seeing benefits.  I want to explore more. The more I do it, the more I realize you can customize to whatever you need at that moment.  For instance, meditation didn’t work for me until I tried the “guided meditation” on the Louise Hay site.  I also found I wanted to just wind down and NOT think about anything. By not focusing on anything, I found an interesting surprise. I needed to “let go” even more.

I was in the middle of a deep meditation.  One meditation I do has you create a sacred beautiful place in your mind for you to enjoy.  My sacred beautiful place has a gorgeous field, a soothing water fountain, tons of sweet smelling roses and a white temple.  There is a crystal clear lake behind the temple. While relaxing by the water fountain I look up and there are two men from my past standing on the edge of my sacred beautiful place.  I started to cry.

I started crying because they were waiting for me.  To let them go.  Not for them…for me!  I had absolutely no idea I hadn’t let them go. Until that exact moment. My mind wanted more clarity. Somewhere, deep inside me, I needed more closure. So I invited them both over.  I thanked them for what they gave to me, gave them a warm hug and told them it was time for them to go.

Want to hear another intriguing discovery of my meditation?  I’ve been doing a guided one for prosperity.  I can’t tell you how many $1 bills I’ve picked off the ground since starting 3 weeks ago. On the first day of the prosperity meditation?  I found a $20 bill.  Coincidence?  Maybe.  Cool? Definitely! Ahhh…thank you Universe!

Your meditation exploration…think of the fun…and please share your discoveries! Love, Goddess

Suggested Reading:

  1. Meditation for Dummies
  2. Test Drive a Relationship?
  3. Bitch Lifestyle Home

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Slaying Doubt

Slaying Doubt. This weekend I had it.  The fact that I had it drove me absolutely batty.  I was so pissed at myself I could have just screamed!  I was disappointed in myself…teetering on the edge of diving into the Drama Queens’ rather deep pool of “woe is me.”  God how I hate doubt.

Today I realized it was not doubt.  I wasn’t doubting myself at all.  It was the PERSON who made me feel icky.  I handled this person well.  I confused the “icky” feeling with the “doubt” feeling. How do I know?

Because I looked and felt hot and the Universe was giving me free stuff.  I took the time to look hot and feel hot for the comfort it would give me.  So…hot ones.  The subject for today at Bitch University is doubt versus the stuff that makes you feel icky.  How do you tell and how do you deal?

First how to deal. So you can stop judging yourself.

1.  You’ve got to do the work on you.  You’ve got to figure out WHO you are and what won’t fly. Exactly how to treasure yourself so you can communicate it. Read my articles at Bitch University, take my Awakening Course or read Bitch Lifestyle the Manual on Amazon.  OR…get yourself to the Sassy Bitch Rules and form a plan so you start rocking them.

2.  Do the work on you.  Every single day!

Now “how to tell the difference between doubt and icky.”

1.  Even though you are dressed in your new absolute fave dress, have the perfect blow out and feel absolutely divine, you feel icky about a situation or someone.  You may think you screwed up. You may think you needed to take a stronger stand.  Just as you’re berating yourself, something cool happens. Like you get a free dinner or something.

2.  You look and or feel HORRIBLE. You have the flu, food poisoning, no make-up on, your hair is a wreck and the outfit you’re wearing screams “Fashion HELL no.”  Yet guys are checking you out—hot ones—and everything you need to accomplish is going beyond well.

Two completely different circumstances being rocked by YOU and you have no idea how well you are doing.  Then the moment happens…the moment you get free food or the hot guy checks you out?  You realize it’s about ONE thing.

Self-awareness.

Doubt goes out the window.  You may still feel icky…emotionally or physically, but the power of self-awareness and knowing yourself so well powers you through and makes you feel amazing.  Despite the fashion hell no.  Despite raging sickness. So start doing the work on you.  Right now.  Check out the sources I just gave you here on the website and beyond.  Get cracking!  Get self-aware!!! Love, Goddess

Suggested Reading:

  1. Curveballs and Your Sense of Humor
  2. Beware These Emotional Vampires
  3. Test Drive a Relationship? 

© S Stevens Life Strategies

Honor Your Divine Feminine with Music

Honor your divine feminine with music

Gorgoeous image found at Dreamstime

Honor your divine feminine with music…all day long. However possible. Really play with this idea! It’s so fun.  Get into the habit of saying to yourself “what sort of music would capture what I need and desire right now?” Use music to play, dissipate stress, recharge, feel sensual or sexy…and to wind down at the end of the day.  Examples:

1.  Did something happen to really piss you off or cause you stress?  Here is a great video to scream, dance, and move that emotion out of you.  So you can relax and deal in a calm way.

2. Mourning a lover?

I love this one because you watch it and it’s all there.  The anger, the frustration the sadness. Mirrored right back at you.

How about really bitching it up and inserting music into your entire day?  Here is what I have been doing lately and how it enhances my day:

  • In the morning when I am doing early chores and getting ready for the day I have this CD called “Sexi.”  It makes me feel playful and energetic as I start my daily routine.
  • While I’m working I listen to “Spa Radio” on Pandora.  It helps me focus.  If I’m really busy and have a lot of clients during the day this really does the trick.  If I have a less busy day I may listen to 80s or 90s music.  That music really helps me when I am doing mundane tasks for this website!
  • At night, when I’m writing or researching, I listen to two stations, a yoga station and a station that plays music from the TV show Twin Peaks. Both really help me continue tasks I want to accomplish yet also help me wind down and relax.

The great thing about Pandora is you can have it with you all the time.  How can YOU use something like this to really enhance your day?  Now go play…class dismissed.  Love, Goddess

Suggested Reading:

  1. Confidence:  Signs You’re a Sassy Bitch
  2. Rapunzel and Her Tower
  3. Choice, Compromise and the Drama Queen

© S Stevens Life Strategies

Infatuation Versus Real Love

Infatuation versus real love

Is this hot sexy man for real or full of red flags? Hot picture of Hugh Jackman from the amazing website Shanghai Expat

Infatuation versus real love.  That magical moment happens…you meet a man who is attractive, intelligent and there is chemistry.  The conversation is fun, playful and you’re thinking to yourself…OMG…finally!  A man I can get excited about!  I’m here to give you an excited for you but – maintain your Sassy Bitch grip on this scenario!  Please…ask questions, be aware of red flags…keep things moving slowly so you have the time to get to know him.  So you don’t…

Look past the red flags and fall into…infatuation. Infatuation makes your brain go to sleep. Infatuation makes you not care about the red flags because he smells so good and kisses sooooooo….sooooo…

Here is a nice overview of infatuation versus real love that I enjoyed on Diffen.com

Love takes time. It takes work to get to know someone. Don’t have sex too quickly.  Women do it on the second date now!  I don’t get it! Unless that is all you want…to “get it.”  Are you sure that’s all you want? One of my favorite lines from a movie is from Clueless.  When asked “how far she had gone,” Cher admits she’s a virgin and says…”you know how picky I am about shoes and they just go on my feet.” She had a clue here.  But do the rest of us?  The sexual revolution has allowed us to do it anytime, anywhere with anyone we want. Cool, right? But there are consequences if we let infatuation rule and have sex too quickly.

Like completely missing those pesky little red flags.  The red flags that will doom you to a relationship with a man who doesn’t give you what you truly need to relax, let go and fall in love with him.  Red flag awareness will keep you from wasting your time on the wrong guy.  So start asking him questions, listen to his answers and watch his actions.  Before you give yourself away and then email me asking “why is he acting this way?”

So … I met a man I could get a little excited about.  Our first conversations were epic and amazing. Our third conversation set off some red flags for me.  I cut him some slack.  He seemed genuinely nervous talking to me.  Then the red flags continued.  I asked him questions about them.  He seemed to realize my concern and tried to assure me these red flags were not a problem.  I was skeptical.  In our short dating life we already had a pattern here. The red flag was that he was too self-involved.  He would talk about himself endlessly.  I took a lot of interest in him but his interest in what was going on with me was…not satisfying me.

So I called him on it.  He called me needy.  (See this article for exactly what he tried to do by calling me needy: The Deflection)  Which I found to be hilarious because he talked endlessly about me being understanding about HIS needs, quirks, problems and issues.  How he “needed” me to be patient with him.

I understand male deflection well … I called him out on that too.  I told him that crap wasn’t going to fly with me.  To which he…freaked out.

Ahhhhh….Check mate for me. I was done with this child man.

I’m so glad I listened to those red flags and paid attention to his actions!  It has saved me so much grief.  I desire a man who is inspired by my passions.  They make me ME. He takes as much interest in me as I do him. Every girl deserves this and more.  Do not settle for anything less than a man who is passionate about YOU, sassy one…mind, body and soul!  Love, Goddess

Suggested Reading:

  1. The Obnoxious Male
  2. Bitch Lifestyle:  The Manual
  3. Love Games:  An Outrageous Proposal

© S Stevens Life Strategies