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Every Girls Dream?

Clip from the movie “Dangerous Beauty,” based loosely on Veronica Franco and her life.  From the You Tube JackieP17402

Every Girls Dream?  Can you imagine getting PAID to talk?  Can you imagine having a conversation style that is so enchanting, so fun, entertaining and oh so challenging that you were paid for it? Veronica Franco was.  In 1546 Venice a woman didn’t “need” to be educated.  From the Book of the Courtesans:  ” Not only was she (Veronica Franco) bright but she was also educated, an accomplishment rare among the women of her time, when out of any given hundred women in the city, fewer than 10 knew how to read, and of these, less than four had received any public schooling. ”   Veronica was born to a family of “citiadini originari,” or working class citizens.  Only the sons would have received an education. Veronica had a choice.  The limitations of which may concern women today:

1.  Marry and re-produce.

2.  Say “Ciao” to marriage and pursue her true passion:  Education.  The catch?  She was to become a Courtesan.

When Veronica chose #2, she was allowed to go to the libraries of Venice and read to her hearts’ content.  To educate herself in philosophy, the “isms,” religion, literature, history and poetry.  You see, the reason why a Courtesan was permitted to learn was so she could bring pleasure to the men who paid for her.  Veronica’s passion toward learning usurped the pleasures her body could give to men (don’t get me wrong…men enjoyed both) but she was able to embrace her passion, give herself pleasure while still enduring the downside to being a young woman in the Venice of her day.

“When we too are armed and trained, we can convince men that we have hands, feet, and a heart like yours; and although we may be delicate and soft, some men who are delicate are also strong; and others, coarse and harsh, are cowards. Women have not yet realized this, for if they should decide to do so, they would be able to fight you until death; and to prove that I speak the truth, amongst so many women, I will be the first to act, setting an example for them to follow.  —Veronica Franco 1546-1591”

And so she did…men flocked to her to challenge them intellectually.

We are SO much luckier than Veronica because we have the freedom to choose to do whatever we want.  Veronica accomplished much with little choice.  We all have a gorgeous brain and passions that light us up.  Can you imagine the fun we can have if we indulge ourselves in them and learn how to communicate in an enthusiastic and passionate manner? Intelligent conversation can be tough in our Facebook, Text and Twitter world.   So let the story of the stimulating Veronica Franco spur your passions…and your ability to charm and draw in people with conversation.  Here are some ideas:

  1. Read something you never thought you would.  Go to the library and explore.  Take out a bunch of books and lounge while you explore new ideas, events and activities.
  2. What successful person do you think has a beautiful voice and amazing conversational skills?  Who do you enjoy watching on talk shows that draw you in?  Study and learn from them. Put your own personal spin on the qualities that YOU find inspiring.
  3. Discover something that is not “popular right now.”  Pop culture is complete escapism.  Yes, we all need to escape, but consider spending less time on pop culture and something that can enrich you.  Like a financial, cooking or art class.
  4. Go to a museum.  Discover which artists are you favorites.  Study WHY.  Be able to communicate why in an enchanting manner.
  5. Open your vocabulary.  Crosswords, scrabble with friends party, subscribe to the “word of the day.”
  6. When you are doing all this new discovery, keep an open mind.   Very hard to do when there is opinion everywhere!  Discover and enjoy without influence.

And please oh please share with us your conversational journey!  Love, Goddess

Suggested Research:

  1. Poems and Selected Letters, Veronica Franco
  2. The Honest Courtesan  A biography of Veronica Franco
  3. Dangerous Beauty The full length movie from above
  4. Bitch Lifestyle Home

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Sultry Summer Beauty Tricks

 Sultry Summer Beauty Tricks

Image from The Atlantic 


Sultry Summer Beauty Tricks to keep you cool and comfy this summer!   July…the hot and steamy days of summer are finally here!  Because of the long winter most of us experienced this year, I swear my “I’m over-heating now thermostat” is sleeping.  I was doing the dishes and was so happy when the cool water hit my skin.  I closed my eyes and let the cool water run over my arms.  Mmmmmm…

So let’s discuss ways to enjoy getting cooled off this summer.  Besides the usual dip in the ocean, pool or lake…how do we add a little beauty or sensuality to it?  Up the pleasure ante?  Here are some things I like to do:

  1. When you’re doing the dishes, savor some cool water.  Splash on arms, face and neck.  Repeat and enjoy!
  2. Keep a wet cloth in the refrigerator.  Smooth over skin when you are HOT.  Add some aromatherapy oil to the cloth…like lavender for a soothing aroma on a stressful day.
  3. Forget the nightie.  Sleep naked.  Spray a cooling mist all over you before you lay down on the sheets.
  4. Leave a yummy skin mister in the refrigerator.  They are everywhere in the stores.  I like this one Josie Maran Lavander Mist and she makes a rose water one too.
  5. Freeze grapes.  Pop them in your mouth for a yummy and refreshing treat.  Experiment with different fruit.
  6. Make fresh fruit beverages and leave in the fridge:  lemonade, pomegranate, mango, kiwi.  Add a little run or tequila after work for your own happy hour.
  7. Instead of using a creamy moisturizer, try a lightly scented oil. Something warm and sexy like this one:  Caudalie Divine Oil I get complements on it all the time!
  8. Shop.  Wherever there is air conditioning.  Try the above ideas before you buy.  Sephora is a great place to play and stay cool!

So what are your favorite sultry summer beauty tricks?  Please oh please share!  Love, Goddess

Suggested Reading:

  1. Summer Fun:  How Much Can You Handle?
  2. Get Outrageous!
  3. Bitch Lifestyle Home

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D Day: What Does it Have to do With YOUR Personal Life?

Inaction breeds doubt and fear.  Action breeds confidence and courage.

 If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it.

 Go out and get busy.  Dale Carnegie

D Day: What Does it Have to do With YOUR Personal Life?

Last night I finally watched historical documentaries on D Day.  I was putting it off because it’s horrifying.  In the back our minds we get it.  But if we don’t remind ourselves of how important the event was we may slip.  And let those powers that started the war take over us. Not just in the world…but in our personal lives.  In this recap on how World War 2 started, do you notice something that can affect you in your own life?

  • The Treaty of Versailles didn’t allow the Germans to rebuild their army.   In 1936 Hitler publicly dismissed the Treaty of Versailles. The British and French protested, but did nothing.
  • The Treaty of Versailles de-militarized the industrial zones of Saar and the Rhineland.  Hitler needed these zones to rebuild his military power.  Hitler gambled that if he invaded the Saar and Rhineland, the League of Nations would do nothing.  He was correct and easily took the zones over.
  • Germany used diplomacy to  convince the world of their peaceful intentions.  The world listened to their words of peace and ignored their actions of war.
  • In March 1938, the Germans marched into Austria, invited by the new Austrian Chancellor.  This was meant to be a union of two sovereign states.  In reality, Austria was absorbed into the German state.  Hitler was ecstatic because he was from Austria and had made it a part of Germany.  The British and French protested but did nothing.
  • Next, Hitler turned his attention to Checkoslovakia.  Hitler felt it had no right to exist.  Hitler targeted the Sudantland because that was where most of the Checkoslavakian defenses were located. Hitler demanded the Checkoslovakians turn the Sudantland over to Germany.  They refused.  After a “furry of negotiations,” the British and French signed an agreement with Hitler.  For the promise of “no more German” expansion, they gave Hitler the Sudantland.  This was supposed to create stability in Europe.  The Germans moved into the Sudantland.  Hitler flew into Prague and declared that Checkoslovakia no longer existed.
  • After this latest take over, Europe erupted with a flurry of diplomatic activity.  Each side trying to solidify their power.  The British and French formed an alliance and tried to bring Russia in. Russia was the only country that had an army that could challenge Germany.  Because Hitler despised Communism, this should have been attained easily for the British and French.  Despite this, Germany formed a “non-aggression pact” with Russia.  Germany also formed an alliance with Italy.  This stunned the world. Germany started plans to invade Poland.  Because of the animosity between the two countries, Hitler wanted to destroy it. The British responded by guaranteeing the independence of Poland.   Upon invading Poland, the Allies told Hitler to cease.  He ignored them.  As a result, Britain declared war on Germany.  However, the British did not do anything militarily to help the Polish.  Poland was soon violently defeated.
  • Hitler announced to the world that Poland ceased to exist.  The world was once again stunned.  And the British did nothing.

Notice the pattern on inaction here by the British, French and League of Nations?  Yes, what the Allies were facing with Germany was beyond scary.  No one wants to believe that that kind of evil exists.  Unfortunately, evil people exist.  No one can predict what would have happened if the Allies had been more pro-active, but the lack of action empowered the Germans.  That is definite.  One of the many things we can learn from World War 2 is how inaction on our parts can create a snowball effect on our lives.

Is there any area of your life that suffers from lack of action?  An example from my life:  Ya’ll know I run a busy improv troupe.  It’s tough managing a large group of people with different personalities and goals.  Not to mention maturity!  Every 6 months or so complacency sets in and I have to re-enforce rules. Complacency is such a motivation zapper. It cannot be pushed aside.  If I don’t remind people about their compacency in an effective manner, our audiences are the ones who suffer.  Our team work suffers.  The longer it goes on, the harder it is to restore.

So please, take a look at YOU and see where you can get active.  Don’t let your inaction empower those around you.  It may keep  you from succeeding!  Love, Goddess

Suggested Reading:

  1. The WRONG kind of action:  The Damsel in Distress
  2. RESPECT do you have it?  Respect Do You Own Yours
  3. How to take action to gain respect:  Research time!  The Respect Virus

© S Stevens Life Strategies

In Celebration Phenomenal Woman Maya Angelou

mayaangelou2 In Celebration Phenomenal Woman Maya Angelou

Kick *** inspiration image + quote from Maya Angelou found at

Maya Angelou…inspirational Goddess.

Tuesday night I was going through the pages I love to read for Bitch Lifestyle on Facebook.  I read Maya Angelou’s … one of my favorites.  She had been sick for a long time and she posted about it frequently.  Despite her illness, she was always upbeat, always inspiring, always a strong and sassy woman.  There was something different about this latest post to me.  I was having a hard time putting my thoughts together.  I couldn’t find the right thing to say in her comment section, never a problem before.  The reason why was because my Bitch voice was telling me something that I didn’t want to hear.  My Bitch voice was telling me this was it.  Who wants to listen to that truth?  When you are in tune with your Bitch, and all the women around you are in tune with their Bitch, you just know.  You feel it.  You feel them.  My Sassy Bitch intuition was telling me she was leaving us.  As I write this I’m crying.  Sad for the reality and in awe of the power.  Crying because our inner truth is so powerful.  Even with the women we don’t know personally.  And it’s scary.

The next day after running errands, yesterday, I opened my AOL and there she was.  A beautiful picture of Maya.  She had died.  Shocked because a few hours earlier I knew.  My Sassy Bitch intuition has been unbelievably accurate lately.  I could tell you things that would make you flip!  My intuition/Bitch voice.  Your intuition/Bitch voice.  It is so powerful.  It gives you incite that will make you…uh FLIP.   That voice who only looks out for you and sees the truth before the world.  That voice that connects you to other such powerful, inspirational women.  Women are all kindred spirits.

So in celebration of Maya Angelou, please create a little ritual for her, for you and all other women out there.  The powerful women, the mothers, the leaders and the repressed. Create a gorgeous place for your ritual.  Do whatever you need to do to feel beautiful and sacred as a woman.  Here is the link for her poem “Still I Rise.” Print it out and read it out loud. Really feel the celebration of woman in it.  To honor Maya and every other woman on the planet.

Love, Goddess

© S Stevens Life Strategies