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If you haven’t read my blog “Embrace your Sexual Organs,” please read that first. It’s so important to Embrace our Sexual Organs Part 2.  Thank you! Here we go with Part 2: Have you ever wondered why a guy can be so “rough” and isn’t into the soft and tender lovemaking that woman adore? Did you know there is a scientific and biological reason behind our sensitivity?

A woman has roughly 8000 nerve endings on her clitoris. A man has roughly HALF that on his penis.

Yup.  Women are blessed with double the fun and feeling! Yay! I found this information during my own celebration for my sexual organs. It’s from a wonderful book called “Extended Massive Orgasm” by Drs. Vera and Steve Bodansky. Extended Massive Orgasm  Ready for a little…ahem…mind-blower from the book?

“The clitoris is here to have a good time. It is the center of all orgasm (in spite of what Dr. Freud thought). Its only function is to experience exquisitely pleasurable sensations. The only other organ whose sole function is pleasure is the male nipple, and they are not in the same league. More nerves fill the clitoris that fill the head of the penis: approximately eight thousand nerves, about twice as many as the penis has. This is particularly amazing since the clitoris’s only function is pleasure, while the penis has other functions: urination and impregnation. About fifteen thousand nerve fibers, all told, service a woman’s pelvis.”


Whenever I’ve told this to my male friends, most are genuinely surprised. They have no clue we have this many nerve endings to…can’t help it…”play with.”  A lot of my female friends don’t know either. So how is a man supposed to know how to please us if we aren’t aware of all the power we possess? If our sexual organs aren’t given proper names, etc?

It’s up to us. Pure and simple. A man knows what he has to do personally to have an orgasm. He, in his “uniformed” way, is doing what he thinks is the right thing in order to please us. He has no idea what 8000 nerve endings feel like. It’s up to us to KNOW what turns us on, and to communicate communicate communicate. We can’t use anger. A loving, caring man just wants to please us. It’s up to us to toss away the years of frustration (if we have it) and not take it out on him. We take control by being proactive in our own pleasure, ridding our bodies of “man” frustration (kick boxing anyone?) and then communicating our needs back in a way he understands. (see my communicating in a mans’ language blog)

If you have a partner that is gentle and listens…thank him! He had a wonderful teacher and you have HER to thank! If not…talk to your partner. Don’t judge him. Tell him what you just discovered. Buy Vera and Steve’s book and read it together. If you’re single, the book is just as helpful. There are exercises for the single as well as the paired.

There is so much in this subject we will explore together. I would really love to know if you knew this mind-blowing biological fact about your clitoris. You can email me privately at goddesspower978@hotmail.com.

So in review:
1. Please enjoy my “Embrace Your Sexual Organs” blog.
2. Celebrate your gorgeous sexual organs and all they do.
3. Research. Study the book by the Bodansky’s, and embrace the sensual part of you.  Extended Massive Orgasm

Love, Goddess

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Embrace Our Sexual Organs

It’s time to celebrate our gorgeous sexual organs! I have a gorgeous and sassy friend who like myself is spreading the word about the beauty of women: The celebration of our beauty, our minds and sexuality. I’m honoring her today because she wrote a letter to the Boston Globe.  This is in response to a “Dear Margo” letter. Here it is:

I’m writing in response to “Sex Starved” in today’s Boston Globe. I would like to comment on the first 3 words of your response; “For some reason,” some middle-aged women decide to close up shop, deciding that part of life is over…an old-fashioned idea, to be sure.”  “For some reason” could and should be elaborated on. It does not need to be vague, and bringing clarity would be a great service to your readers. Here are “some reasons” women who now at middle age, no longer have an interest in sex. If you are a middle-aged woman now (age 50+) you were:

1. Brought up to feel shame towards your own body. That feeling does not magically go away when you become an adult.
2. Not told the proper names of your sexual organs. Without names there is “nothing.” Language is the way humans connect and share mutual experiences. Anecdotally, women are either given no naming skills or given made up words to refer to their genitalia. The absence of appropriate language prevents women from communicating about their bodies.
3. Without proper and respectful language, there is nothing “down there” for a woman to be proud of. And if despite everything, she is proud of her sexual body – whoa! That’s too much. It’s counter-culture. She’s suspect.
4. Not given the tools to understand how your sexual organs function, and that their main function is to provide you with pleasure.
5. Made to understand through cultural conditioning that any connection you may have to your own body is wrong. It’s wrong to touch your own body, speak of it, or acknowledge it in any way.
6. Disconnected from the power and beauty of your own sexuality.

If you are deprived of a common and respectful language for your sexual organs, disconnected from your own body’s pleasure center, and made to feel guilty and/or ashamed if you do feel pleasure – it’s not surprising that by mid-life you find no pleasure from sex, and finally, put it aside.  Have you heard of The Body exhibit that is touring the United States? It’s a comprehensive exhibit of human anatomy. When I went to see it, there was a display case showing all the different parts of the human sexual organs. Apparently women don’t have sexual organs because there were none displayed. I did not see a note that said “The female sexual organs were too controversial to be shown” or “The female sexual organs are on loan to another exhibit.” There was nothing. And that emphasizes my point. (End of letter)

Wow, huh? Is it any wonder that a lot of women have trouble communicating with men how to please them? So how do we change this? By turning it around. Pointing this out to people who don’t know in an understanding manner, like my friend. Most important, we must start celebrating the beauty of our sexual organs. Revel in every feminine fold.  Revel in the fact that we have an organ called the clitoris. The clitoris was created for our pleasure.  So let’s rock it, ladies!

1. When you check out your naked body in a mirror, don’t gloss over your feminine core.  Blushing allowed. 😉
2. Do you know all the proper names of your sexual organs?
3. Research your sexuality and share your discoveries with your girlfriends, boyfriend or husband.

This is going to be hard for some of us.  Yes…just try it.  Adore her a little and see what happens.  A little bit…every day.

Love, Goddess

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What You Can Learn From Mens Magazines

What you can learn from mens magazines
What you can learn from mens magazines…
Did you know that men look at the cover of female magazines to learn about us?  Interesting.  So lets do the same. What would we discover about men if we did similar research?
Example A:  Let’s look at the covers of Men Magazines I found on the web. The first is GQ and a cover had the following: Don’t Mess With Christian Bale, 25 Best Pizza Places on Earth, Lean and Mean. Then there’s Details magazine:  The Greatest Virginity Story Ever Told, The Sandwich You Have to Try. Next we have: The Dinner Date Seduction-Men’s Health, Rafael Nadal Fears No One-Men’s Journal, The Billion Dollar Art Vault-Men’s Vogue, The 3rd Annual Badass Issue-Penthouse, The Scariest Man in America-Maxim.  The articles seem to have this air of conquest, power and success don’t they?  The marketing of these magazines seems geared towards a mans’ attraction to elements of “success,” “danger,” “toughness,” or “difficulty.”
Lesson #1: Men like difficult and challenging things.  Men love achievement, it seems. You ever notice how the men you aren’t attracted to won’t go away? And you don’t understand why? It’s because you’re not interested and he likes that challenge. And then there are the guys you absolutely adore that are paying no attention to you? Maybe you are making it too easy and there is no challenge. Interesting thing to explore a bit huh, ladies? Solution: Let a Man Chase You  Here’s How  
Example B:  Then I went to the “Ask Men”  web site and found some interesting things too. There’s an article about teenage girls hating actress Kristen Stewart who stars in the movie Twilight.    They hate her so much they have web sites dedicated to hating her. The reason for the hatred?  She is the on-screen love interest for Robert Pattison-the hot guy in Twilight.

Lesson #2: This is how men learn to pin women against each other. Solution: Let’s stop pouring our energy into competing with women. Especially women we don’t even know. This only enables him to use other women to get an emotional reaction out of us.  He stays in control this way.  Mmmmm…not here at Bitch Lifestyle.

Example C:  Another article is entitled: “How many vices you can get away with?” He knows these are bad for you but wants to play with the danger.

Lesson # 3:  A man wants to know what his boundaries are. That’s why it’s so important that a woman respects herself and sets boundaries with him regarding her. Solution: Make sure he knows that there are consequences to his actions if he disrespects and doesn’t appreciate you. This must be done up front by a woman. He’s going to test you either way.  With boundaries set, he will learn walking all over you gets him nowhere.

Example D:  There were 2 articles about food.  And very simple food.  The “best pizza on earth” and a “sandwich they must have.”

Lesson #4:  Don’t try too hard by cooking him fancy meals.  Solution:  Perhaps the first time you cook him a meal you make it much much simpler.  Start out with potato chips.  (Lays are good) As time passes and he shows with his actions how much he likes you, add the pizza and sandwich options.  Can you imagine how special he’s going to feel when you finally get around to cooking him a T Bone steak?  You both win!

Love, Goddess

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Let a Man Chase You. Here’s How…

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Let a man chase you!  As women we have been taught to “go after what we want.”  That’s perfect for business, but in our love lives, it’s a bit backward.  Men have always been the hunters.  They love difficult things.  Like football, extreme sports and climbing the corporate ladder.  (yes…that one is fun for us, too!)  Men LOVE to produce then brag about it.  Like in business, hunting or fishing.  You ever notice how they talk about these accomplishments?  It’s always the struggle (in dramatic detail) about the giant fish he caught. (even if it’s a Minnow)  Or the meanest, toughest smartest animal he ever “brought down.”  Then they display the animal on the wall so he can talk about it whenever someone comes in the room.  Men are all about accomplishment and production, ladies!  If he says this to you, he wants you to see what a great producer he is.  (for life, maybe?) And he wants you to be proud of him.  Awww….  So how do we “go after what we want if it’s him?”  Dating tips for women:  we let him chase us and how.

He wants the thrill of the hunt and chase with you, too.  The part that drives a lot of us women absolutely nuts:  Will he call?   Why does he need space etc.  Is a thrill for him.  Did you know that when guys are sitting around with their buddies saying things like this:  “I can’t do that my wife would kill me.”  He is bragging about you to them?  He and his buddies all want the woman they can never quite figure out or control.  Strong men want a strong woman who won’t take any of their BS and will call them on it.  He knows he’ll never have you mounted on his wall and likes it that way.  🙂

So…how do we apply this dating tip for women?  How do we let him chase us?

1.  You love yourself with abandon.  No excuses.  If he can’t love you the way you are don’t bother with him.  If he says he likes blondes and you’re a brunette?  Look at your watch and say nicely, “Thanks for the drink.  I have an early morning and it’s time to go home.”  Notice his actions.  Action is key with him…the producer.  Men do a lot of things on purpose to get an emotional reaction from us. ( yes…an upcoming blog on that one! )  When he doesn’t get an emotional reaction from you, you just put the kibosh on that little game of his.  Remember one of my favorite “bitches”  Dolly Parton?  She’s “This is who I am, take it or leave it.” Period.  I’ve quoted this before in my blogs and here it is again.  When asked the key to her successful marriage she said  “When my husband gets a little complacent, I pack a bag and stay gone!”  Love it!

2.  We won’t compete with other women over a man.  If he’s trying to make you jealous with other women he is not respecting you.   And we are going to blame her?  Blame the source.  If he tells you about women that are “coming on to him” or an “ex-girlfriend” he is getting together with?  He is doing it to get a reaction from you and it’s disrespectful.  Tell him something along the lines of this:  “I really want you to be happy.  Let me know what you decide.”  Then no contact.  Let him “explore all those possibilities” if there are any.  One of two things will happen.  If he’s a jerk, and leaves you-you win because who needs that?  If he’s just trying to get the reaction, get ready for flowers.  You gave him the kick in the butt he needed.

3.  You let him “chase you” by letting him call, letting him make the plans. (and yes…you let him know what you would like to do, too!) You continue to lead your amazing life, career, pursing and researching your dreams, hobbies and desires because your life is awesome and fun without him.  Even when you’re an established couple.  Your life is important to you.  It’s something you’ve been working at, excelling at and enjoy.  It’s what makes you wonderful you!  Don’t give it up.  (After you’re an established couple, yes you can start calling him)

4.  You don’t tell him every detail of your life, so he wonders what you’re up to.  If you’re exhausted and all you can think of doing is relaxing in a bath tub?  Do it.  If he calls, he can leave a message.  You don’t have to tell him what you are doing every minute of every day.  And don’t expect him to account for his every minute.  Maintain a little mystery by keeping focused on you and your needs.  Keep moving to the rhythm that makes you feel good.

5.  While you’re getting to know each other, try to keep your dates shorter and don’t spend long hours talking about feelings with him.  (call a girlfriend) Don’t ask him “Where he thinks things are headed.”  Never bring up marriage, kids, etc.  Let him bring it up.  When he DOES bring them up, give a vague but clear answer.  “Marriage?  I haven’t really thought too much about it.  If I do get married it will have to be someone wonderful.”  Perfect.  First he’ll probably be shocked that HE was the one bringing up marriage.  Second, if he has brought it up, he’s been thinking about it and wants to see your reaction.  When you aren’t really “thinking” about it and want someone “wonderful” you just told the hunter what he has to do catch his “intended prey.”  Let the producer produce!

And there are so many more things you can do to let him chase you.  We will discuss, I promise!  This is key:  Remember that you are a “wonderful catch.”  Any man would be lucky to get you!  Make him prove that he is your hero.  Men love being heroes.  Let him prove worthy of fabulous you!  And when he does?  Appreciate the hell out of him!  Love, Goddess

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