Girl Power: Charlie’s Angels

From left to right:  “Sabrina” Kate Jackson, “Jill” Farrah Fawcett and “Kelly” Jaclyn Smith.  Picture from wikiality.wikia.com/File:Charlies_angels.jpg

Girl Power is wonderful.  I loved Charlie’s Angels Season One.  I so wanted to hang out with these gorgeous, warm, friendly, fun, witty, talented women.  Best of all?  These women really took care of each other.  Supported each other.  No judgement, just love.  The first thing Sabrina does in episode one is make a juice shake for her friends.  So they stay “healthy.”

The Angels were spot on detectives, but human.  They were hurt in relationships, betrayed, and thrown major curve balls to deal with.   We watched Sabrina learn to sing for a crush she had, Kelly break off with a wonderful man (Tom Selleck!) in order to protect him, and watched Jill’s excitement when she met a gorgeous, successful man:  A man who wound up using her.  You felt all the pain and cheered when they won the day.

Which Charlie’s Angel did you identify with?  For me, it was Kelly.  She was warm, giving and an orphan.  Because of that background, she was emotionally unavailable with men.  But she was open about that fact.  It made you like her more and root for her to have a family.  She had one within the detective agency, but I knew someday she would have so much more!   I always wanted to enjoy my life first and be successful on my own before I settled down with a man.  Like Kelly.

Here’s a link to Season One Charlie’s Angels on YouTube:  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nzgl5-WOH-c&feature=PlayList&p=DuxPqZNF_qM

Enjoy cheering and learning from 3 amazing women!  I would love to hear about how you feel about Charlie’s Angels.  Who was your favorite and why?

Love, Goddess

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Empowered Dating!

First dates can be stressful.  What do I wear, what will I say, how will he be, etc.   Turn this drama into fun “empowered dating.”    Whatever you do before the date, dress, work out, do this for you, not him.  Feel fabulous about you.  Keep this thought in your mind:  Is he worthy of the hotness that is you?  Does he treat you like a lady?  Does he say things to you that raise a little red flag?  If he says something you don’t like, tell him.  Order whatever you want.  Thank him for a lovely evening.   Below is an example of a recent date.  It addresses the above issues.  I have included tips in italics that help you effortlessly steer the wheel in dating.  You’re in the drivers’ seat ladies!  So let’s start driving the car.

Last night I met “A” at a lovely tavern that features live music.  We sit and I’m hungry.  I’d like to share something.  Sharing is fun.  

Me: Would you like to split something?

A:  Sure, whatever you’d like.

Me: How about the cheese tray.

His expression was priceless.  Not a cheese tray guy.  (Lesson #1: Order exactly what you want.  Not what you think you should be ordering on a date) He says sure to the cheese tray.  Good, witty conversation.  He’s interested in every aspect of my life. We get to him.  He talks a bit, but it becomes very clear that he’s lonely. 

A:  I just want to meet someone, anyone to spend time with.  (Lesson #2:  This is a red flag.  Do you want to be Miss Anyone?)

Me: (I smile warmly…remember to play) and say  “We’ll that’s flattering!” 

A:  No no, that’s not what I meant.  (Lesson #3:  Yes it is.  He was caught and back pedaled in a way that said “Gotcha!” to me)

I let this go…for now.

More conversation about how lonely and hard it is to be single.  I tell him that people should focus on the good in their lives.  A lot of single people look at the coupled people and want that.  Then they pick someone “just to be in a relationship” and a lot are miserable and settling.  The married people yearn for the freedom of the single people.  If we’re constantly looking for the good in our lives, we’re focused on good and not “the what ifs” “if onlys” and “I so wish I had this.” (Lesson #4:  Express your opinion.  Even if it’s something he may not agree with)

He agrees but continues his lonely tangent. I’m understanding.  I encounter so much loneliness everyday.  That’s why I want to bring back laughter, fun and play into our lives.  (Lesson #5: Communicate.  Dating is not just about him.  This is about you and your pleasure. I’m not going to be “Miss Anyone” for this lonely guy.  I want respect, fun, play, laughter.  I don’t want to hang out with a guy who’s going to be a downer all the time.  I’m going to communicate this to him, see his reaction, and see if he produces by his actions.  If not…I’ll move on to another prospect, and not think about it one more minute.  Unless it helps you, gorgeous!)

“A” wants to know what I’m doing this weekend.  I’m booked.  I don’t divulge too much information.  I tell him that on Friday night I’m watching my favorite TV show Battlestar Galactica.  He can’t believe I would rather sit home and watch TV than go on a date with him. ( Lesson #6:  Don’t give your stuff up for a man…it’s your stuff.  Especially for a second date )  It’s time to go.  I know he is going to ask me out again. 

A:  Would you like to go out again?

Me:  Maybe…(with a smile)

A:  Oh…man…

Me:  I didn’t say no…

A:  That’s true…

Me:  Listen…I have a request.

A:  Okay.

Me:  If I go out with you again, I want to play more.  You went on quite a tangent on how you want anyone to spend time with.  I’m not going to settle for being “any” girl.  It’s like me saying to you on the first date:  My biological clock is ticking.  How can we get this moving so A B and C can occur as soon as possible?  That would turn you off wouldn’t it?  Do you understand what I’m saying to you?

A:  Yes…I’m sorry I didn’t mean to be such a downer.

(Lesson #7:  Do not let something that turns you off go.  Communicate clearly and unemotionally. ) Cut the man some slack. He could have made an honest mistake due to nerves.  He listened to what I had to say.  He followed up on it first thing this morning in an email:

Hi Sharon,

It was a pleasure sharing your passion and energy last night.  It would be nice to play together again.  Except Friday at 10PM.  Enjoy the Sci-Fi…

Best Wishes,

“A”

Does driving the car sound fun to you ladies?  Women have so much power over men.  They don’t realize the fun they could be having.  Loving yourself, knowing exactly what you want and clear communication are keys a fantastic love life.

Love, Goddess

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Command Respect!

Do you command respect? I‘m talking in all aspects of your life: at work and at home, with family and friends. Do you have a set of life rules that you live by? When your rules are disrespected by someone, do you call them on it politely but firmly? The Bitch does. The Bitch knows that by loving herself and calling someone on their disrespect, problems are solved faster.
 
1. Setting up life rules commands respect for yourself and of others.
2. Your life rules make the choices you make easier.

The Bitch knows that her rules may change over time. She knows that it’s important to study and practice them:

Old Life rule: I treat everyone with love and respect.

Problem: I discovered I wasn’t giving myself the same loving patience I give others. http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/05/impatiencea-virtue/ I now expect the same patience from those I care about for me. This led to refining that life rule and morphing it into a Bitch Rule:

Bitch Rule: My family, friends and acquaintances treat me with the same loving patience and understanding that I honor them with.  I honor myself by treating me with the same loving actions.

Over time, as you respect yourself more, pleasurable things begin to happen. I love having doors opened for me wherever I go. I discovered how much I loved this respectful behavior from men and this action multiplied. Friends notice and comment on it. They say “that never happens to me.“ I tell them it would if you desire and enjoy it.

Respect for yourself multiplies in other areas, too. I don’t get hurt or angry any more from random disrespect. I communicate much more effectively my displeasure. If someone is having a bad day, it’s not my fault. Why take it personally? Taking random disrespect personally is a time waster. There are so many other things to enjoy!

Today’s assignment: Create your list of Bitch Rules. How you would like to be treated by everyone you encounter and love? Put your Bitch Rules on gorgeous paper and print them out. Post them somewhere so everyone can see them. Practice them daily and take notes. Review them in a few weeks. Do you want to make changes or additions? Continue the process until they make you feel amazing and free.
I would love to hear what your life rules are, ladies! Please share.  Love, Goddess
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Frolick with Abandon

Today we are going to learn all about frolicking and how to do so with abandon.

#1.  Let’s look at the definition of frolicking in the online dictionary:

Frolic frol·ic (frlk) adj.  Merry.  To engage in merrymaking, joking, or teasing. To behave playfully and uninhibitedly; romp. frol·icked, frol·ick·ing, frol·ics A playful antic. A gay, carefree time. Gaiety; merriment: fun and frolic.

Frolic Verb[-icking, -icked] to run and play in a lively way

Frolic Noun:a light-hearted occasion [Dutch vrolijk] lively and merry behaviour

#2.  Frolicking benefits and enhances our lives and here’s how:

a.  It’s fun

b.  When done as a form of exercise, increases heart rate and can be considered a healthy aerobic activity.  See Shape Magazine for more:  http://www.shape.com

c.  As we grow into adults, we get busy and forget how to play.  Fun and laughter is something to live for!  Want more? See Tweens and Tween News:  http://www.tweensandteensnews.com

‘Play Deserves a Comeback:  Aside from letting off steam and letting out pent-up aggression or distress, making up games stimulates the imagination and jump starts the brain.’

3.  Video demonstration of frolicking:  Young men frolicking:   http://frolicking.org/52/deep-woods-frolicking/

See where I’m going with this?  Frolicking is fun and healthy.  I’ve laid out all the benefits for our cute, busy, rationalizing and responsibility driven minds.   So go ahead and indulge.  It’s easy to forget to frolic, so here’s what I do:  I schedule frolicking time.  Here’s an example of my “frolicking work load” the next few days:

Tonight I’m going to frolic in Boston with 8 gorgeous women.  We are going to this super sexy place with delicious food and naughty sounding drinks:  “Sugar Daddy from Miami,”  “Dirty Little Secret,” or “Satan’s Whiskers.” One of these hot sounding cocktails may be my “poison” tonight.  Friday night I’m frolicking with one of my dearest friends, Lori.  Saturday and Sunday I’ll be frolicking with my friend Suzana.  We’re having a girl get away.  We’re going to a soccer game at Gillette Stadium. (home of the New England Patriots) I’ve never been to a professional soccer/football game before.  Fun bonus:  Gillette Stadium has developed so many playful opportunities with “Patriots Place.”   http://www.patriot-place.com/about.aspx  So glad we decided to spend the night there.

So your assignment today is:  Frolick.  Schedule it if you have to.  Play, play, play!  I would love to hear about all your frolicking adventures!

Love, Goddess

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