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Survivor: Learn the Art of Flirting from a Villainess

Pavarti from Survivor “Heroes vs. Villains,” Thursday nights CBS
I’m working on adding video to the site.  I’ve been playing with a video plug in all day.   I resorted to a picture and a link this time.  But just you wait HTML land…I’m going to slay that tech fear and have video up here soon.  So let’s get to the juicy stuff!
I’m not into Survivor unless Colby is on.  I started watching because I thought he was hot.  I kept watching because he kept his word, worked hard and stood by his decisions.  When things don’t work out he doesn’t make endless excuses.  He simply stands by his decisions, says he would do the same thing again, why and that’s it.  Mmmm…a man who says what he’s going to do, does it, and doesn’t whine.   Those qualities = Integrity.  Which is very yummy and sexy to me.  So click on the pink link above, “Flirting with Colby,”  listen to a Pro-Flirt and meet me back here for some fun.  I saw this video on the Survivor “Heroes vs. Villains” web site and loved it:  Flirting with Colby Pavarti is a villainess, but she totally gets how to flirt with men.  She’s playful and knows how to appeal to the male ego.  Yes, this is a game and there are loads of alterior motives to her flirting.  But the basic information she gives here is fantastic.  Let’s recap:
1.  Don’t throw yourself at men.  If a guy likes you, you’ll know.  And you don’t need to flash body parts to do it.
2.  She’s not impressed with Colby yet.  He’s done nothing to impress her.  She understands that men are producers and she’s waiting for him to produce.
3.  She knows the “Flirting 101 Rule:  Let the man come to you.”   Even though she admits he’s good looking (twice) she’s not going to throw herself at him like the other girls in the tribe.  Don’t be fooled by the Colby insult.  She wants the attention and he’s not giving it to her.   That’s her being a bit bratty about not getting the attention.  But…note that she says she is not going to budge on him coming to her.  We’ll see.
4.  Don’t compete openly over a guy.  Especially in front of the guy!
Your Assignment: You want to be ready for the man who is so hot you feel the temperature in the room rising.  So go out there and flirt and play warmly with everything that moves.  Animals, your girlfriends, the man behind the check out counter.  Safely!  Remember, practice makes perfect!
Love, Goddess
© S Stevens Life Strategies

Living Life Full Throttle

For the last week I’ve been a little stressed thinking about all I wanted to accomplish with my career and life.  Maybe it’s the Spring Fever.  And I’ve been boiling.  Then something happened that was so cool.  Something that was designed to make me feel insecure, jealous, angry, bitter and hurt.  It didn’t.  It inspired instead. It made me realize how much time people wasted being enmeshed in the “nonsense and drama.” 

Here was the inspiration:  An email from someone who looked me up on Facebook.  A woman who sent me an email about a man I know.   She wanted a reaction:  To make me jealous, to hurt me or him or I was a threat to her.  I don’t know and I don’t care.  I read it, deleted it and felt sad for her and this kind of behavior.  What a time waster to seek out someone you don’t know to get a reaction out of them.  We’ve got drama queen going on full blast here, ladies.  Don’t let these women have any power over you.   Leave the Drama Queen to her castle and get back to your Palace.

So I sit here now thinking of the past week.  All I’ve lived.  Thankful that my life is filled with opportunity and fun.  Grateful that I’m not wasting time stewing on something I’ve no control over.   I’ve begun a new business opportunity that will take me a step closer to financial freedom.    I’ve agreed to do something I’d never done before:  performing in a 26 hour improv marathon this weekend.  The biggest non-slumber party ever!  I received my favorite chocolates as a gift:  Champagne Truffles from Teuscher, Switzerland (delicious and decadent; they’re made with Belgium chocolate and Dom Perignon) And there is so much more!

When Drama Queen enters your life, have a Worry Party to honor and dispatch her  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/09/turn-worry-into-fun/.  Bitches don’t waste time hunting down people to blame or hurt for their problems!  So I’m sending you all a champagne truffle toast to our fun, adventurous lives and our beauty. To kissing the Drama Queens goodbye and embracing the good stuff:  Living life full throttle.

Love, Goddess

© S Stevens Life Strategies

Related Reading:

1.  Who Controls You…Your Bitch or Your Brat?  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2010/01/who-controls-you-your-bitch-or-your-brat/

2.  Turn Worry into Fun:  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/09/turn-worry-into-fun/

3.  Venting Anger 101:  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/09/venting-anger-101/

Appreciation for a Wonderful Man

I’m dedicating this post to a man that treats me like a Goddess.  I haven’t been deserving of this title.  I haven’t fully appreciated how lovely he is to me.  What a Brat.  He’s thoughtful:  fun phone calls, gifts and always greets me with a huge smile.  Want some fun irony?  He couldn’t stand me when we first met. 

We were acting in a play together.  I’m friendly with everyone I meet.   I knew he didn’t like me.  He was flippant, impatient and gave me looks that said:  “You’re so full of it.  You aren’t sincere.”  But I was even more patient with him.  I wouldn’t let his attitude get me down.  We had scenes together and I wanted to make them work.  So despite being a jerk, I would smile and chat with him.   One night he said to me:

“You know…when I first met you I didn’t like you.  I thought your friendly nature was BS.  I was wrong.  You are a wonderful person.”

Wow, huh?  He has been a Prince to me since.  I’m lucky that I have met a real man—in a boys’ world.

That was years ago.  He has never forgotten my birthday, phones every Holiday and listens intently when I talk about my passions.  The first gift he gave me were DVDs of Buster Keaton, knowing I loved him as a comedian and filmmaker.  He has given me beautiful cards, music and even a crazy video (he admitted so) with a hot Rose McGowen on the cover because he thought she looked like me.   (Insert blush here)

Here’s the part that’s crappy of me.  Where I admit my non-appreciation.   I’ve only watched or listened to half the gifts he’s given me.   Again, what a brat.  He called to wish me a Happy Easter.  All I could think of was how I wasn’t worthy of his thoughtfulness.  What a hypocrite I was.  How many times had I been disappointed when I’d given friends thoughtful gifts?  Gifts they had forgotten I had given to them?  I’ve had people say to me:  “I finally read that book you gave me,”  “I haven’t listened to it yet,” etc.  It would really hurt.  I’d been doing the same thing to Kevin.

How can I expect someone to truly love and appreciate me when I don’t do the same in return?  Or worst, I do so “selectively” in return.  How many jerky guys have I adored that would forget important things to me like my birthday?  Or I would support them over and over and then when it was time for me they were no where to be found?  Worse, I would have to ask them to support me?  That was when I was a Brat.  Now that I’m a Bitch I can look what I’m doing wrong and fix it.  Make even more room in my life for those, like Kevin, who do things consistently to make me smile.

Have you done this in your life?  Are you too busy to slow down and appreciate the gifts people give you?  That was my excuse with Kevin.  No more.  Daniel is another wonderful man in my life.  A man who adores me.  And I’m really scared regarding him.  Is he the man that wins my heart?  I don’t know.  But fear is a future emotion, remember?  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/05/fear-is-a-future-emotion/

That isn’t the important thing right now.  I have to work harder at appreciating the men who adore me.  Fully.  Then…I can take in more.  Delicious more… 

Love, Goddess

© S Stevens Life Strategies

Related articles:

1.  Bitchy vs. Bratty:  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/08/bitchy-vs-bratty/

2.  Our Love Affair Day Two: http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/06/our-own-love-affair-day-two/

3.  Fear is a Future Emotion: http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/05/fear-is-a-future-emotion/