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Getting Tickled…Enjoying an Unexpected Pleasure!

Getting tickled…enjoying an unexpected pleasure.

Last week on Facebook the assignment was for you to get either kissed or tickled.  I wasn’t thinking about my fun regarding that, I was thinking about yours.   And what happens?  Yesterday I get tickled in an unexpected way from an unexpected person.  Which turned into unexpected fun and pleasure.

Yesterday was a gorgeous day and a friend of mine and I were chatting and working outside.  I talked about the homework assignment that I gave everyone on Bitch Lifestyle Facebook.  We discussed how tickling is so fun, a great stress reducer and adults really need to do it more often.   You know…laughter being the best medicine and all http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/08/laughter-is-the-best-medicine/ We talked about so much.  We talked more than work, but no worries.  This was Sunday and any work done was a bonus.  Especially on a brilliant summer day! Then it was time to go.   He walked me to my car, I opened the door and I was surprised when he cornered me inside the door and playfully started tickling me.

Now is the point where I ask you this:  Can you enjoy an unexpected pleasure from a man?  Without thinking and over analyzing “What it all means?”  That’s a tough one, I know.  Our brains are always working overtime.  And yes, there was some of that going on with me.  I pushed away the worry and focused on the fun, laughter and playfulness of the unexpected.   It was really fun and surprisingly sensual.  But The Bitch was in control.  Even when he started caressing me softly.  Even when he tried to kiss me.   I just savored.  Finally I firmly took his lower arms, smiled as I looked into his eyes and said, “Thank you, this has been a lot of fun.  I’m going now.”  He smiled, laughed and said…”Good job taking control, Sharon!”  We both laughed because we had been talking about that very thing that afternoon.

How women have all the control over a man. 

Unless we give it up.  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/08/empowered-dating-mommy-or-strong-sexy-bitch/

Can you surrender to this kind of a moment with a man and stay firmly in control?   Surrender and Control moving together in a hot little dance.   Surrendering to a moment and truly enjoying it is not scary.   Especially if you take care of yourself and know what you want.   Take the first step in Love Affair week Day One:  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/06/our-own-love-affair-day-one/  Share incites and interact on our Facebook page:  http://www.facebook.com/pages/Bitch-Lifestyle/205875411841

Love, Goddess

© S Stevens Life Strategies

Related Reading:

1. Laughter is the Best Medicine:   http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/08/laughter-is-the-best-medicine/

2. Empowered Dating: http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/08/empowered-dating-mommy-or-strong-sexy-bitch/

3. Understanding Men Michael Buble’ Video: http://bitchlifestyle.com/2010/01/understanding-men-michael-buble-music-video/

“Love Affair” Starts Monday, June 28th!

“Love Affair” starts next week…Monday, June 28th!

Would you like to join me for a week of fun assignments and play?  All for free.  Our goal: to push forward the spreading of fun and play worldwide.  On my Facebook and Twitter page I will be posting lots of things for you to explore and have fun with.  Go solo or invite your friends, sisters…any woman you would like to do this with.   If you are really left brained put together a quick spreadsheet to plot your playful “Love Affair” experiment.  Here’s where we’ll rock it:

Bitch Lifestyle on Facebook:  http://www.facebook.com/pages/Bitch-Lifestyle/205875411841  Here we can interact with each other full out for the week.

Twitter:  https://twitter.com/Goddesspower 

To give you a little taste of the fun to be had, here’s your assignment for the weekend:  Get yourself kissed or tickled this weekend.  Your choice.  (sly wink!) 

Love, Goddess

© S Stevens Life Strategies

Related Reading:

1.  Elle Woods:  Legally Blonde and Great Friend: http://bitchlifestyle.com/2010/05/elle-woods-legally-blonde-and-great-friend/

2.  Passionately Curious: http://bitchlifestyle.com/2010/03/passionately-curious/

3.  Survivor:  Learn the Art of Flirting from a Villianess:  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2010/04/survivor-learn-the-art-of-flirting-from-a-villainess/

Lacking Love? Let’s Get Some!

 

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Do you concentrate on your “lack of love” or “giving love?”

Years ago, I used to focus on the lack of love in my life.  I gained weight and got sad and pissy.  On the inside I was focused on the lack of love I was receiving.  The outside was sunny and warm.  And false.  I decided that was not working for me.  And I couldn’t fit in my cute clothes anymore!  So I surrendered.  I waved a little light pink flag high in the air.  I realized that I was giving love to the wrong people.  People who didn’t love me back and pretty much took all that I was giving.  Over and over.  Why would I do that?  It’s safer.   Huh?  Yes.  If I’m giving love to the people that don’t deserve it, I’m keeping up with that internal monologue I had going.  “I have a lack of love.”  And I’m protecting myself from opening up to the real thing.  Which was much scarier to me. I even added an extra layer of fat to my body as “insulation.”  That insulation was a metaphor for my life.  You won’t hurt me because I have a wall I cleverly put up physically and mentally to keep you out.  Upon that realization I celebrated.  I waved my little pink flag.

I decided to surrender to the idea of not protecting myself anymore.  By concentrating on giving love and being thankful,  I’ve reset that internal “lack” clock with “abundance.”

And I’ve lost the weight.  I really take care of myself.  The warmth I was exuding on the outside entered my body.  The most amazing, adoring, wonderful, giving men have entered my life.  They stick like glue.  I’m grateful and love them back.  I have a circle of friends that would do anything for me.  The ones that have used me in the past have disappeared.  I don’t miss them or the drama that accompanies them.  It’s wonderful to have a group of friends that I know will be there for me.  I know that when I do something they don’t agree with, they’ll love me anyway.  Because it is who I am and they love me.  As I am.

It starts by waving that little pink flag.  Or lavender flag…whatever colored flag you want.  And starting your love affair with yourself.  Falling in love with yourself is one of the scariest things you’ll ever do.  But it is one of the most fulfilling.  You will never leave you.  Next week we’ll kick off our “Love Affair Week.”  Step by step, day by day we’ll reverse the lack of love, let go and just do it.  Love.  We’ll adore ourselves and those that adore us back.

You ready to take that first step, gorgeous?  Play with me.  I can be a lot of fun!

Love, Goddess

© S Stevens Life Strategies

Avec Plasir…

Avec Plasir…with pleasure in French.

I want my home to be a pleasure for me and those I love.  I put this phrase in a word file, colored it and put it in a beautiful frame on the mantle.  It’s one of the first things people see when they walk into my home.  I got the idea from Isabella Stewart Gardener.  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/10/think-youre-too-old-and-ugly-to-be-a-seductress-think-again/ She loved art, collected it and then put it in a museum that was named after her.   She put a similar phrase at the opening of the doorway to the museum.  A warm welcoming to her guests.  I loved it!

I’ve worked really hard to make my home welcoming to my guests and the people I love.  But it wasn’t really work.  The whole process was a pleasure.  Picking out beautiful pillows, candles, a soft faux fur blanket, incense, pink boas, etc.  The words that I used as inspiration were “Sensual,” “Feminine,”  “Warm,” “Comfortable,” “Inviting.”  I got a wonderful compliment from a friend who visited with me yesterday.  They loved coming over because it was so comfortable.  They felt they were on vacation and had really gone away!  Yay!

I haven’t spent a lot of money.  I just keep an open eye and mind to pieces that fit in my home, where I can arrange them, and my favorite colors.  You can spend a lot of money on things and never really enjoy them.  The faux fir blanket that I get so many compliment on only cost $19.95 at Marshall’s.  One comfy piece can make a room.  How about you, lovely one?  Have you made your home a comfy palace for you? No matter how small the space you can make a little sanctuary for yourself.   Incorporate as many senses as possible:  sight, taste, smell, hearing and touch.  Here are some ideas:

Kitchen:  Buy herb plants and put them in a sunny window, pick some daisies and put them in a vase on the table, get some new bright colored plates for summer, have your favorite thing to eat in the pantry or refrigerator.

Entry Way:  Hang some eucalyptus with a pretty bow, vacuum and get rid of any clutter, put some pictures up, or add a shelf to organize.

Family Room:  Add candles, incense, a beautiful art print, put a bright colored geranium in the window, get a new throw for your couch, or throw around some beautiful pillows.

Bathroom:  Put your favorite hand lotion next to the sink.  Throw out any old, worn out towels and toiletries. 

Bedroom:  Add your favorite color, a splash of pink, lavender, whatever you love.  Get some sexy smelling candles.  De-clutter your make-up area.  Put your most beautiful make-up, brushes, perfume bottles, lotions and potions on display.  Put your favorite glitter or lotion next to your night stand to enjoy before turning off the light. 

Sound like fun?  It really is fun decorating your space.  I was amazed at how many beautiful things I had just sitting in a drawer.  So pick a room to play with.  Make it your own little “Picasso in the works.”  And please share your fun ideas, beautiful.  We would all benefit from them!

Love, Goddess

© S Stevens Life Strategies

Related Reading:

1.  Elle Woods:  Legally Blonde and Great Friend http://bitchlifestyle.com/2010/05/elle-woods-legally-blonde-and-great-friend/

2. Unknown Worlds of Discovery http://bitchlifestyle.com/2010/05/unknown-worlds-of-discovery/

3. Bitch Rules http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/05/bitch-rule-1-love-yourself-with-abandon/