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Michelle Yeoh-Lots to Love

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I love Michelle Yeoh.  She is gorgeous and goes after what she wants.   She doesn’t just succeed, she excels to heights of mastery and respect.  In her first movie “The Owl vs Bombo,” she was the beautiful damsel in distress.   The martial arts scenes in this movie fueled a desire to learn this ancient fighting art.  I can see the eye rolls and hear the doubt she must have dealt with.  But she did it!  She became hugely successful.  Not only in China, but world wide.

In “Tomorrow Never Dies,” Michelle Yeoh is the only Bond Girl to kick ass in 2—that’s right 2—action scenes solo.  No Bond, no problem.  She is such a special martial artist that they couldn’t find a double for her in Tomorrow Never Dies.   No one could match her talent, grace and expertise.  So she did all her fighting scenes.

Want more?  That’s her jumping and kicking and dominating a horde of male butts on a moving truck in  “Silver Hawk.” At the end of the scene, the men are crumpled at her feet.  Defeated.  Michelle:  Come on…let’s go…give me 5 more minutes?  Love it.  Just one of the reasons why Rotten Tomatoes has ranked her the greatest action heroine of all time?

And more still:  Michelle was nominated as Best Actress by the BAFTA for “Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon,” chosen as one of the 50 Most Beautiful People in 1997 by People magazine, and is a supporter of the Save China’s Tigers project which aims at saving the endangered South China Tigerthrough re-wilding and release them into the wild.

Michelle has become a fantastic actress as well.  Besides her nomination for Best Actress for “Crouching Tiger,” she starred in “Memoirs of a Geisha” and “Sunshine.”   Has she gone all “Hollywood?”  No.  She has this wonderful air of mystery about her because she has stayed who she is.  She lives in Hong Kong.  She’ll come out to her latest premiere, absolutely breathtaking and then disappear.   This is so much sexier than being caught wearing no underwear, the press discussing when you are going to jail or your latest romantic disaster.  Yawn.

So behold the gorgeous one, Michelle Yeoh.  I hereby crown her Queen Bitch of Martial Arts and Grace!  Love, Goddess

© S Stevens Life Strategies

Related Reading:

1.  Empowered Women Don’t Tolerate BS  

2.  Girl Power:  Charlies Angels  

3.  Elle Woods:  Legally Blonde and Great Friend

4.  Bitch Lifestyle Home

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Cowardice and The Bitch

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The Online Dictionary definition of cowardice:

Cowardice \Cow”ard*ice\ (-[i^]s), n. [F. couardise, fr. couard.  See Coward.]  Want of courage to face danger; extreme timidity; pusillanimity; base fear of danger or hurt; lack of spirit.

Everyone has fear.  Everyone has things to do that aren’t easy, or that they don’t want to do.  How you handle these things show whether you’re a coward or not.   Saturday night I was depending on someone for a show I was producing.  An hour before the show he flaked by email.  He knew I wouldn’t get the email until the next day.  This is a coward.  I was able to fix the problem easily regarding the show.   I like to focus on getting things done and not the drama.  Not easy in the theatre business.  There are a lot of Drama Queens to deal with.

Emailing and texting is designed for quick, concise communication.  If you want to learn how to communicate clearly in 140 words or less, Twitter is a fantastic tool.  However, I have people following me on Twitter that promote “ending relationships” or “tell them what you think without confronting them over TEXT messages.”   TEXT messages.  And these are popular businesses!  If you don’t make time for important discussions in person, you’re a coward.

Not having important discussions in person can impact your life negatively:

1.  Over time, the drama of dealing with people in person will become more unpleasant than it should be.  You may agonize for hours over something that could’ve been dealt with in minutes.

2.  People will lose respect for you and think you’re a wuss.  The definition of “wuss” from the Free Online Dictionary: wuss :  n. Slang A person regarded as weak or timid and especially as unmanly.  Because of this lack of respect, over time, people may not listen to your points of view or flat out ignore them.

Discussing and solving problems in person makes you a stronger person because:

1.  When life throws you curve balls and life is zooming at 200 miles per hour, this strength will serve you.   You’ll be able to adapt and communicate clearly.   Instead of thinking about what to say in a text or on the phone, you’ll be able to state your case in person.  Your heart may still beat faster at first, but I’d swap a few fast heart beats for being a wuss anyday.

2.  You’ll scare a lot of people if you are upfront, blunt and charming.  That’s power.  Remember this Dolly Parton video.

3.  You’ll attract and keep people in your inner circle who are not cowards and wussies.  They’ll have your back.  Cowards don’t.

4.  Think about all the extra time you’ll free up by taking charge and not agonizing.  You’ll have plenty of time to Get Outrageous!  

What I found most interesting in the cowardice definition:  The “lack of spirit.”  Mmmmm…lack of spirit.   That’s so hot when you think about it.  Cowards don’t fight for their wants, desires, dreams, or themselves.   Too afraid to offend anybody, they don’t say anything.  They’re non-confrontational and send a text.    Power is knowing that you can calmly discuss something without getting emotional.  Facing those fears.   A Bitch understands this.   She faces fears and difficult situations with relish.  And that’s spirit!  Love, Goddess

© S Stevens Life Strategies

Related Reading:

1.  Fear is a Future Emotion 

2.  Who Controls You, You’re Bitch or Your Brat?

Junk? Try Diamonds!

 Picture from the fabulous lyrics-video-music.blogspot.com/2009/10/kesha…

‘Boys tryna touch my junk…’ Kesha

When I heard this line in the popular song “Tik Tok,” my mouth dropped to the South pole.  Junk?  This is the new way women refer to their sexual organs and, or feminine parts?  Whatever happened us celebrating them like Maya Angelou-who refers to hers as “diamonds in the center of her thighs?”  Would you like to learn the origin of one of the most dirty and negative words in the English language?  Cunt=anatomical jewel. 

That should really make your jaw drop.  So should this:

From “Cunt: A Declaration of Independence,” the book by Inga Muscio:  ‘I looked up “cunt” in Barbara G. Walker’s twenty-five year research opus “The Women’s Encyclopedia of Myths and Secrets,” and found it was in a title, back in the day.  “Cunt” is related to words from India, China, Ireland, Rome and Egypt.  Such words were either titles of respect for women, priestesses and witches, or derivatives of the names of various goddesses.  The words bitch and whore also share a similar fate in our English language.  This seemed rather fishy to me.  Three words which convey negative meanings about women, specifically, all happen to have once had totally positive associations about women, specifically.’

And now “junk” has been added to the list.  Our society has thought up a trendy, cool way to refer to our sexual organs.  And it’s a synonym for garbage.  What a great way to degrade and diminish us.  (insert my feisty sarcasm here) Oh, really…think that is going to work?  (more feisty sarcasm)   Let’s get back to our diamonds.  Yours, mine and the worlds.  Because ladies, nothing is going to change this mentality unless we do.  That’s why when someone calls you a “bitch” I want you to give them a big smile and say “thank you.”  Because it’s honoring our ancestors and the original respect that word was given to woman.  And we’re bringing it back!  We are going to party with our hot, sexy diamonds and jewels!

Mama Gena does this very thing in her book “Mama Gena’s School of Womanly Arts.”  (Get the link to this wonderful book in the Bitch Boutique top right)  She has a whole chapter on “The Womanly Art of Sensual Pleasure.”  I highly recommend this book.  It will change how you look at your sensuality forever.  Check out the related reading below for even more ideas and incite.  So go out there and do woman kind a favor:  Celebrate the beauty of your beautiful feminine core.  And kiss Kesha and her idea of femininity to the curb!  Love, Goddess

© S Stevens Life Strategies

Related Reading:

1.  Embrace Our Sexual Organs: http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/06/embrace-our-sexual-organs/

2.  Embrace Your Sexual Organs-Hot New Info! http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/06/embrace-your-sexual-organs/

3.  When Do You Feel Most Beautiful? http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/06/when-do-you-feel-most-beautiful/

Let A Man Chase You In Life and Online

I have two men in my life that I like, a third I find intriguing, and a sexy, smart model from my past who has reappeared.   He’s so good looking it’s distracting!  I love the attention, but I want to make sure I stay true to me and not fall into the “Oh, no!”  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/09/the-perfect-kiss/

So I joined an online dating site.

Yes…I know.  Sounds a little much.   But I did this for a couple of reasons:

1.  When I first started Bitch Lifestyle, I joined a dating website to learn more about the online dating process.   I researched so we could all benefit.  I decided to take a refresher course and relate my experience to you.

2.  You know how I’m always talking about staying focused on your life and let the guys in on your terms?  Let them chase you?  Prove that they should have the privilege of dating hot little you?  I’m applying this to myself.  Because one of these men I might really like.  And he is in no way ready for a real relationship.  So I’m keeping myself all flirty and engaged with as many men possible so I don’t fall into the “Oh, no” again.

So let’s discuss online dating.  How do you online date and let the man chase you?  Easily.  Remember this is about you.  Who lights you up, who you find interesting.  Its up to you to select.  YOU.  So lets keep a few things in mind.

1.  Safety.  You know how to keep yourself safe.  Do it!

2. Keep an open mind about how a person looks and their age.  I have a friend who was dating old men, short men, fat men, bald men.  No one knew why she was doing it because she is beyond hot.  She was doing it to enjoy the men.  The play, the laughter, and keeping her mind open.  You want a man who will back up his words with thoughtful actions.  I don’t care how hot a guy is.  The hotter guy is the one who DOES what he SAYS he’s going to do.  My friend wound up dating the very hot John Corbett (Sex in the City, My Big Fat Greek Wedding) for awhile.  He treated her wonderfully, but she is marrying the man who adored her.  And it isn’t John.

3.  Have fun with this.  Don’t take it so seriously.  Have fun with your profile and post a picture where you are truly happy and having fun.

4.  Online dating is a fantastic way to keep your “Male BS” fine tuned.   Within moments of posting my profile I get an email from a guy.  Two paragraphs, well thought out.  Hysterical.  Dude sends out this message “en masse” to all the new females on line.  There is no way he could have written that and read my profile.  Lame.  The next morning I had an inbox full of it.  LOL.  And a few messages from potential dating candidates.  Emphasis on potential.

5.  Don’t be too available.  Within moments of posting my profile I got an IM from a man who wanted to chat with me.  We chatted for a bit, but I had other things to do (I was tired and wanted to veg in front of the TV) Remember to move to your own rhythm!  If you’re tired, need to work etc. do it, honey!

6.  Move to your own rhythm part 2:  The next morning my inbox was full of mail from men who wanted to chat with me.  I did not answer those emails until later that afternoon.  I had work to do, chores to do and some other fun things I wanted to do for me.  Don’t feel as though you need to answer those messages asap.  You don’t know these men.  There are other things in your life that are more important than men you don’t know.  They are your glue.  Stay glued and let the men earn more of your time.

7.  What is a beautiful girl like you doing on an online dating site?  Translation:  What’s wrong with you.  LOL.  Just laugh at this and change it around.  Roll your eyes and think “Why are you so special, hotpants?”  Don’t be angry or bratty about it.  Be amused.  Remember how Dolly Parton dealt with those obnoxious questions from Barbara Walters.   http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rBf5Y0KIUHk

8.  I’m pretty sassy dealing with these men.  But it’s all in fun.  I will use the word “Hotpants” when a guy is being obnoxious.  I’ll call them on their BS if I don’t like something they do or say.   Politely but playfully.   Then I sit back and watch their actions regarding this.  Actions are key. 

9.  A lot of men like to keep their options open.  Why not us?  May the best guy win.   A guy friend of mine (that’s a whole other story) was asking me about who I was dating.  Pumping me for information.  LOL.   He actually high fived me when he figured out I was keeping my options open.   (maybe because he knew his “option” might be opened?)

Does this sound like fun to you?  Being in control of your love life?  It’s a blast.  Below are a couple more blog posts to inspire your kick ass-ness!  Happy Hunting.  Love, Goddess

© S Stevens Life Strategies

1. Let a Man Chase You and Here’s How:  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/06/let-a-man-chase-you-heres-how/

2. What We Can Learn From Men’s Magazines: http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/06/what-you-can-learn-from-men-magazines/

3.  If you’re thinking about “him” too much:  Outrageous Fun: http://bitchlifestyle.com/2010/06/get-outrageous/