Betty White Sassy and Sweet

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Behold Betty White.  Sassy and Sweet.  Fabulous and adored by millions at 88 years old!   This is a woman we can learn from.  She’s charming, has a wit that can challenge anyone and steals the show in everything she’s in.  She has more “oomph” than woman half her age.

Who was the scene stealer in “The Proposal?”  Or the Snickers commercial during the Super Bowl in 2010? Who had the Nation scrambling for her to guest star on Saturday Night Live?   And then who Bitches it Up by receiving an Emmy Nomination for her appearance on Saturday Night Live?  Ms. White.  Do you know how many Emmy’s Ms. White has won?  Seven.  So far.

On Mary Tyler Moore’s show she played Sue Ann Nivens.  Sue Ann was the Bitch you wanted on your side.  She’d put you in your place with a sweet smile and pointed zinger.  No one messed with her, even the grumpy, surly Lou Grant.  On Golden Girls she was warm, loving and had the biggest heart on the planet.  She was the reason I would watch once in while.  She really made me laugh as Rose.

When she was cast on my favorite soap opera “Bold and Beautiful” as “Ann,” Stephanie Forresters’ Mom, I was stunned.  Sweet Betty White,  I thought?  I wasn’t convinced Betty was the right choice.  Stephanie Forrester is one of the most notorious Villainesses on daytime.  Ever.  Played by the amazing Susan Flannery, a multi-Emmy winner in the role, Stephanie is a mouthful of a part.  Betty proved me wrong by winning an Emmy nomination this year.

A Tribute to this wonderful, special performer:

Betty White is a true testament to living life fully, for a smile that lights up a room,  for talent, wit and intelligence that keeps the ball rolling for a lifetime.  Love and a huge kiss to you, Queen Bitch of Multi-Media!  Love, Goddess

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Still I Rise by Maya Angelou

I found my favorite poem on this site:  Kali (what a beautiful name) displayed the poem between lovely purple hibiscus.  Whenever you need a pick me up, this blunt and sassy poem is for you!  Display it where you can see it.  Notice Angel is in Maya Angelou’s name?  Love, Goddess

Still I Rise by Maya Angelou

You may write me down in history
With your bitter, twisted lies,
You may trod me in the very dirt
But still, like dust, I’ll rise.

Does my sassiness upset you?
Why are you beset with gloom?
‘Cause I walk like I’ve got oil wells
Pumping in my living room.

Just like moons and like suns,
With the certainty of tides,
Just like hopes springing high,
Still I’ll rise.

Did you want to see me broken?
Bowed head and lowered eyes?
Shoulders falling down like teardrops,
Weakened by my soulful cries.

Does my haughtiness offend you?
Don’t you take it awful hard
‘Cause I laugh like I got gold mines
Diggin’ in my own back yard.

You may shoot me with your words,
You may cut me with your eyes,
You may kill me with your hatefulness,
But still, like air, I’ll rise.

Does my sexiness upset you?
Does it come as a surprise
That I dance like I’ve got diamonds
At the meeting of my thighs?

Out of the huts of history’s shame
I rise
Up from a past that’s rooted in pain
I rise
I’m a black ocean, leaping and wide,
Welling and swelling I bear in the tide.

Leaving behind nights of terror and fear
I rise
Into a daybreak that’s wondrously clear
I rise
Bringing the gifts my ancestors gave,
I am the dream and the hope of the slave.
I rise
I rise
I rise.

© Maya Angelou, 1978.
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Dealing With A Man Not Ready to Date

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The man not ready to date.  On our Bitch Lifestyle Facebook page I’ve been sharing obnoxious lines from men I’ve been meeting.  How to deal with them exactly.  But what happens when you meet a man who wants to date you but is doing everything wrong?  He’s not being a jerk, merely clueless.

Below is an email I sent to ****.  His generosity and eagerness to please women has made him easy prey for bad women to take advantage of.  A good man who has been hurt.  Because of this hurt, good women are missing out on him.  A good woman will be honest and try her best to leave him better than when she found him.  So the next woman can benefit.  You know all those great men that everyone wants?  The ones that treat you with respect?  They’ve had good women all over them.  A Mom, Sister or Ex-Girlfriend who treated him kindly and kicked him in the butt when he needed it.  So for us to get these men, it starts with us knowing who to blow off, and who to try and leave better.

Good Morning   ****,

I think you’re a warm man with lots of love to give to a woman. I also think that you need to step back and look at your approach with women.

I want to give you my feed back and thoughts as to why I feel that dating you is not going to work for me personally.

I think you’re a good man and this is why I feel that my feed back will be able to help you understand more for the next woman you are trying to pursue.

I thought about our first conversation and you told me that awful dating experience you had. It’s horrible that woman put you through the ringer, however, the 45 minute conversation was way too much about her. It also gave me the sign as to why you were so anxious about dating and it told me that you may not be ready to date. Then we had our second conversation, the one where you were busy in the “bathroom.” I appreciate that you wanted to talk to me, even though you were “busy.”

****, do you think talking to a woman you might want to date in the bathroom is romantic? I have a good sense of humor, so I was able to laugh at it with you, but in the future the women you want to date are going to be really turned off. Instead, if you are in the bathroom, don’t pick up the phone and let it go to voice mail.

It sounds like you have a wonderful sister and Mom who would love to see you happy. Maybe you could use them as a resource on what woman like?

I wish you nothing but love and success.

I’m hoping pointing him in the direction of two strong women in his life will help him.  Try to remember this the next time a man is pursuing you and he’s turning you off.  If he isn’t the jerk we’ve been discussing on Facebook, he may have been deeply hurt, rusty on romance, or not had a good woman as a role model.   Yes that’s right, Bitches.  Men have been hurt too.  And used.  I’m asking you to be firm yet show compassion for him.  Wouldn’t you want the same respect?

Each day as this web site grows, we have the opportunity to take a step forward in better communication between men and women.  By practicing kicking jerks in the butt and showing compassion to the men that deserve it, both sexes will win.  So review How to Make a Man Chase You and  Here’s How   and How Not  to Be Late Night Booty Call Girl  so you know who to kick in the butt or who to show compassion to!  Love, Goddess

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To kill the enemy, she would have to capture his heart....and break her own.
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Lust.  One of the seven deadly sins.  Let’s discover lust in all her naughty glory.  I’m not asking you to go out and commit a sin.  I want you to play with the word a bit.  Or rather, it’s definition.  I was researching “lust” on the web and found this to describe “lust.”

Lustful – vigorously passionate

And I got turned on.  Not so much on the “vigorously,” but the “passionate.”  Passionately Curious  So I started thinking about lust and passion.  The first thing I thought about was dark chocolate.  Not sex.  And how I need some.  Not sex.  LOL…but some seriously dark chocolate.  How much I longed to savor the rich taste slowly melting in my mouth.  Mmmmmm….!  Does that mean I just sinned?  No way.  I was enjoying one of the incredible things in this beautiful world we live in.  Does it mean I’m going to vigorously pursue this?  No.  I’ve got a busy day.  But maybe later on tonight.  🙂

Let’s play with “lust” a bit more.  Be a bit more naughty in the most fun way.  I’m going to create a “Lust List.”  Wanna create one with me?  Here’s mine…a few things that came off the top of my head:

1.  I lust for the taste of dark chocolate slowly melting in my mouth.

2.  I lust for success.  Success for my ultimate goal:  spreading fun, laughter and play worldwide.

3.  I lust for the fun of football season.  The start of fantasy football, the exciting highs and lows during a game that only NFL Football gives me in a sport.

4.  I lust for laughing so hard I almost can’t breathe.  You know what I mean?  It’s like you are standing on a balance beam.  On one side is the laughter, you can’t stop.  But if you don’t stop, you’ll fall into the pit on the other side of the beam.   It feels so good yet so bad!

5.  I lust for more passion because it leads to more appreciation for everything I have and every drop of life I can get.

How about you?  Would you like to play?  Create a little list.  Perhaps before you go to bad.  Turn off the light and enjoy the thoughts.   The possibilities.  Notice how much better it feels to ground yourself into what feels good instead of the drama, worries and troubles you face everyday.  Turn Worry Into Fun  Practice injecting it into your day.  When I do this, it’s amazing how the things I lust for come to me.  And I’m so grateful for it.  Lust, passion and joy opens up unknown worlds of discovery.  Please share your lust list.  It would be so awesome to discover new things together!  Love, Goddess

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