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It’s 8:00 am. I sit down at the computer to enjoy the last few sips of coffee and answer email. I get an IM from a man who wants to meet me. If a man wants to flirt with you have fun with it. Communicate how you want to be treated and then watch his actions. Practice this with every man you meet. Practice makes perfect. This conversation was about him getting me to do what he wanted. It amused me. Because I wasn’t falling for it. In order to protect the less than innocent, we’ll name him “George.” My analysis of the conversation is in italics.
George: do you know the north shore grill high st and ocean
George: can u meet me there in 20 minutes
Assuming that I have nothing else better to do than meet him for coffee=disrespect.
George: sit outside coffee…
Me: I’d love to, but I’m busy working.
George: blah blah blah
George: come on…coffee break
George: just have a cup of coffee with me then you can go
Me: I would enjoy having a cup of coffee with you… but my work is important and I have commitments.
George: i understand that
No you don’t.
George: is 30 minutes going to throw off your whole day
I say nothing on purpose.
George: never mind
He’s going to switch tactics with me. That one didn’t work.
George: i thought it would be fun to meet briefly
I get it. The tactic is guilt.
George: perhaps some other time
Me: It depends on when the 30 minutes is, honey. I need more notice. I run a business.
I’m not meeting at “the drop of a hat girl.” If you want to meet me, then respect my time.
George: i figured it was relatively early in the morning and getting away now would be easier than later
You figured wrong.
I’ve won the round.
George: well…you tell me
It’s moving forward…
George: my cell is ******* text me anytime
Just took a step back. He expects me to call and chase him. Not happening.
Me: How about…Monday morning at 9:00 am. That would give me time to arrange my day.
I reiterate my point. Sometimes you have to communicate your point multiple times with a man.
George: i will be working in CT
Me: Oh come on. You don’t have 20 minutes? 😉
I just threw all disrespect of me right back at him. In a playful manner of course.
George: that makes no sense. i work out of state
Me: I was playing with you. You were playing with me about not meeting you in 20 min for coffee?
George: yes…because you’re on the seacoast and working from home…
Here’s where I have to make my point yet again.
Me: Just because I work at home doesn’t mean that I can just go at the drop of a hat anytime. I wish. Maybe one day, but not now. You know what I mean?
Have you got it now?
George: yes i do
George: maybe you will want a break later on…you have my phone…call or text me…we can meet… i’m not working today
Me: Beautiful day for you not to work.
George: see you later…maybe
Me: I have a feeling that we’re going to meet…? 😉
George: oh really…hmmmm
George: tell me more oh great psychic
Me: It’s a little unclear of the when right now (insert mysterious music here)
Let setting up the first date be his decision.
George: do you see heat and passion flowing
Not with this IM conversation, honey. But you have to practice with every man. Telling them what you want. This will make it easier when you meet the man you REALLY want.
Me: A man of action, not words makes me see heat and passion.
George: so you like mutes. LOL
Notice he’s being charming now to get what he wants.
Me: if the mute signs what he is going to do and then does it. YES!
George: well all this time you are typing from behind your monitor we could have been eyeball to eyeball having coffee
Here we go again. Time to make my point again, but stronger.
Me: True, but haven’t we gone over the whole giving me 20 minutes to meet you thing?
If he keeps going with this, he’s going to look like an ass. My statement alludes to this.
George: yes dear
He got it.
Me: smart man
George: mom did not raise a fool
The jury’s still out, buddy.
Me: Well…I have to focus on work now. Enjoy a gorgeous day off!
George: call me later on in afternoon when you have a break
George: i will come say hello, or we can meet briefly by the beach
Me: I have plans in Boston tonight. When you get back from CT maybe we can meet?
Now he wants me to chase again. Or he’s flirting. Hard to tell in an IM. Bottom line, he’s going to have to do the asking. I tell him it would be great to meet him, have a wonderful day off and zip…log off.
Study this and notice the signs of a man wanting you to chase him. And disrespect you. Don’t let this anger you. Anger is loss of power. Visit Drama Queen on this site so you stay in control. And practice, practice, practice! You’re the Bitch in charge of who you want to date. Bathed in glowing light, like Gisele above. Love, Goddess
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