Doubt

From Shannon Wheeler’s awesome blog: http://illustrationalaska.blogspot.com/2009/01/presenting-shannon-wheeler.html

Never doubt yourself.  Except maybe sometimes.  Shannon Wheeler

I hate doubt. 

I made the right decision.  I know I’ve made the right decision.  Things are running brilliantly.  Then for some reason, I start to doubt my decision.  Then I start to waffle.  Then I start to worry.  Then I start to hate myself for doubting, waffling and worrying.  I’m starting to feel Drama Queen taunting and tempting me.  Then she apprears:  The Brat shaking her baby rattle.

Yes, I get it too.  The Bitch Goddess gets doubt.  Last night I got huge doubt over something.  What is my problem?  I’ve been mulling over it the past few hours.  Not mulling.  I need a stronger word.  Stewing.

I hate stewing.

So now I have to take my own advice and I hate that because I really just want to stew, doubt and hate myself.   I haven’t had a day off in weeks and I’m going on vacation soon.  So really, I shouldn’t take the day off.  I’d feel guilty.

I hate feeling guilty. 

See how my Bratty Little Mind works?

LOL…Okay. Does anyone else do this?  Anyone laughing with me?  This sort of activity in your mind does absolutely nothing for you.  It’s a complete waste of time.  For the most part.  Unless of course you want to go full out and celebrate it: http://bitchlifestyle.com/2011/01/so-you-had-a-bad-day/ Celebrate if you want but remember, Bitch likes action.  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2010/07/cowardice-and-the-bitch/ Tomorrow I’m going to take care of myself a bit better. Are you?  I’m going to play with the idea of taking a day off.  Maybe.  😉  I may give myself a pedicure or a manicure.  Or work out before I do both.  I’ll ask a special someone to tickle me.  Push the brat out by way of laughter.  And it will feel sooooo good. 

So here’s your assignment today at Bitch University.  The time you notice yourself having the above dialogue, get yourself tickled.  As soon as possible!  A good tickle works best for me, but give yourself a fun little assignment and find out what works for YOU.

Love, Bratty Goddess

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Man-el Question #1 How Do I Know If You Like Me?

Let me introduce you to my hot Man-el.  This weeks answers are from:

1.  John:  Single.  A former boyfriend who is a good friend.  He’s blunt and I love him for it.

2.  Daniel:  Married to a wonderful girlfriend of mine.

3.  Giovanni:  Divorced and dating.  He does what he says he’s going to do.  This is a hot quality in a man, ladies.  Watch for it.

So men…here is my question from our readers this week.  “How do I know if you like me?” 

Daniel:  I’m married, but if I wasn’t, I’d call to see how she is.  If I see her enjoying something I’ll get it for her.

Goddess:  Mmmmm…that’s thoughtful.  How about you, John?

John:  If I like a girl, I’ll ask her on a date.

Goddess:  Love it.  John definitely goes for it.  Daniel, you seem to take a slower approach.  Why is that?

Daniel:  If I like a girl, I’m trying to gauge my chances of success.  The goal being a “yes” to a date.

Goddess:  Makes sense.  Men don’t like being rejected.  Women don’t either.

Giovanni:  I generally indicate I like a woman by focusing on her if in a crowd of people. Or if it’s just the two of us then she has my undivided attention.  If I’m fidgety or distracted then I am probably not interested.

Goddess:  I’m so glad Giovanni brought this up.  Sometimes we women put it all on the man to show interest.  We wait for him to ask us, wait for him to make a move, and we sit back and wait.  We forget to watch a man and see how he is around her.  It’s not easy sometimes to ask a woman out.  We can encourge the man a bit by being aware of his body language.   If I know a man likes me, I’ll still wait for him to ask me out, but I will be more active in my flirting.  For instance, I’ll smile warmly and give a man a caress on his arm to indicate more interest.  Would that encourage you to ask a girl out?

John:  That would work with me.

Goddess:  (sassy smile)  It did work with you.  Daniel…would that work with you?

Daniel:  Yes.

Goddess:  Why?

Daniel:  The warm gesture makes me think I’ll get to my goal quicker.  A “yes” to the date.

Goddess:  So, what other things do you do to show you like a girl?

John:  I’ll ask her out, tell her things about myself, be interested in her life and I’ll call her.

Daniel:  Yes to the above.

Goddess:  So if I’m wondering if you like me, is that a bad sign?

John:  I’m going to get into trouble if I answer that.

Goddess:  No you’re not.  I’m asking you that because I get so many emails from women who are crazy about men who don’t call, or if they do call it’s weeks later.

John:  If a guy waits weeks to get back to you, that’s disrespect.

Goddess:  What if he says he’s busy?

John:  If he likes you and respects you, he won’t keep you hanging for weeks.

Goddess:  Thank you for that bluntness, John.  We women could save ourselves so much trouble understanding this.  So in conclusion:  If a man likes you he tries to get your attention, is interested in your life, calls you and does things for you.  He won’t disrespect you by ignoring phone calls for weeks.  John, Daniel, Giovanni:  I really appreciate you taking the time to do this for everyone on this web site. 

Stay tuned for more answers to your top ten male questions, hot ones!  In the meantime, read these other posts for addition info on this subject:

1.  Empowered Dating:  Get clear on how you wanted to be treated by a man http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/07/empowered-dating/

2.  Let a Man Chase You and Here’s How… http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/06/let-a-man-chase-you-heres-how/

3.  How Do I Get Him To Call You  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2010/03/how-to-get-him-to-call-you/

 

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Bitch U Bad Ass Assignment

 

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Your assignment today at Bitch University is a really important one.

For some, it might be the absolute last thing you want to do.  Your Drama Queen Brat doesn’t want to go there.  For some, you might have a listful of things.  Because you’re in your Bitch Bad Ass Glory.

I’m somewhere in between today, which is exactly why I’m writing this post.  I have raging PMS and my back and arm are killing me again.  So I realized this was the perfect thing for us to do today.  LOL.

Your assignment is to go to our Facebook page and briefly share why you’re beautiful.  http://www.facebook.com/pages/Bitch-Lifestyle/205875411841  Example:

I have the most gorgeous hazel eyes.  With long, thick lashes!

There are three reasons why I want you to do this.

1.  We have to learn to own how extraordinary we are.  Society is always telling us what to do and how to do it.  The only person you have to listen to is your Beautiful Bitch.  Let her relish in her beauty.  It will make you feel good.  Others will notice your glow.

2.  By doing this together on Facebook, we’re growing the Bitch Rebellion.  You have a place to go to when we’re feeling low and a group of women to cheer each other on.  A community of like minded, confident, beautiful women.  A resource for you is a mouse click away!

3.  By owning how extraordinary you are, you’re less likely to take crap from anybody.  Confidence gives you the ability to see clearly what you want and then state it.  Combined with dissipating any frustration or anger  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/09/venting-anger-101/   confidence in your beauty will help you to see when you’re in your Bitch or your Brat. http://bitchlifestyle.com/2010/01/who-controls-you-your-bitch-or-your-brat/

So take your power, Bitches!  Relish in your hotness.  Can’t wait for you to share and make me ooh, ahh and smile.

Love, Goddess

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Happy Birthday Hot Bitch!

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 Yummy Cake recipe available at Cooking with Sugar:  http://www.cookingwithsugar.com/sugars-delicious-strawberry-whipped-cream-cake-an-ultra-rich-strawberry-shortcake/

You’ve reached a milestone.  Maybe it’s your birthday, or a job promotion.  You decide to do something special for yourself to celebrate.  Go you!  I have a question for you, hotties.  Why do you have to wait for something special like a milestone to treat yourself so wonderfully?  Hmmmm?

That just ain’t right.  So I’m asking you to treat yourself this way today and everyday.  No milestone needed.  Take a moment to celebrate all you have.  All you are.   All you have planned.  Your brilliance.  If you could do exactly what you wanted today, what would that be?  What would you wear?  What would you eat?  What would you do?  Where would you go?  Who would you spend it with?  Write this down.  Give it a fun title.  Like “My Bitch Celebrates Me.”  Now all you have to do is do it.  Create your perfect day.  Doesnt’ that sound like heaven?

Every day is another day for you to treat yourself as the treasure you are.  From this moment forward…

This blog is dedicated to my best friend Mary Ann.  Who always encourages my dreams and takes amazing care of me.

Love, Goddess

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