Rapunzel and Her Tower

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Rapunzel and her tower.  Last night I was watching Disney’s Tangled.  The first time the tower appeared in the movie I started to cry.  My brat got thoroughly disgusted with me and started saying things like:  You are so pitiful.  Crying because of a fairy tale!  Boo hoo.  My Bitch said, shut up and cry.  You’ll get the answer if you cry.

I did this morning while sweeping away the downed branches from yesterdays’ hurricane.  We all have towers that we are trapped in.  To keep us safe from the really scary things.  Fully loving, fully feeling, fully grasping and succeeding.  And we don’t even know it.  We can’t see it.  I see it in numerous people that write me and comment on this site.  I cried because I’m so desiring for everyone else to see it, but I can’t for them.  I so want you to see that your anger is not serving you.  That you are not as insecure as you seem.  You may be searching for “depression symptoms” on the web, looking for an answer to solving or managing your anger or stress.  Know that you are much more confident than it seems!

Back to Rapunzel.  Rapunzel, in Tangled, gets what she wants because she doesn’t quit on her dreams.  It’s what drives her.  Even though the Witch uses every trick up her sleeve to get her to stay put in the tower.  The Witch is symbolic of “the noise.”  The noise is what I talk about all the time on this site.  People who put you down or say you can’t do something.  That’s their fear talking.  Their manipulation.  That’s their problem.  YOU have to be strong enough to not listen and take care of yourself.  The noise feeds your fear if you let it.  When Rapunzel finally breaks free of the tower she is in a quandary.  Part of her is elated and enjoying every drop of her freedom.  Then the noise from the Witch takes over.  Her “Mom’s” words are affecting her enjoyment of her freedom.  That guilt is taking over her power.  Eventually she chooses her dream which gives her her power:  Seeing the Lantern Ceremony up close.  This dream gives her the strength to battle the snags and dangers she encounters along the way.  She even rescues the guy.  Rapunzel does not chase.  He chases her. (sassy wink)  And it leads her to the fulfillment of her dreams.  And so much more.  No Expectations Please  

What is your deepest fear?  Sometimes the thing we want most is the thing we fear the most.  That’s why we hold on so tight to some things.  Like men that don’t deserve the time of day from us.  These men serve us in a way, ladies.  Deep down we know they will hurt us.  We form a pattern.  We pick really bad men because if we pick a really good man and he leaves us…that would be the scariest thing of all.  Or what about success?  Success is very scary.  Everything we do is put under a microscope.  If we run a business there is so much that can weigh on us.  The responsibility of creating something that is safe and wonderful for our consumers.  Then, as we expand and employ people, we have to make sure we keep profits high so we can support all the new employees.  And their families.   One of the scariest things to do is just love.  Pure and simple.  So many people have hurt us in the past that it holds us back if we let it.  We build a tower around us to protect us from being hurt again.  We are stuck with the noise.  The Witch telling us it’s safer in here.  Don’t leave.  There’s no use.  You’re pathetic anyway.  You wouldn’t last out there in the world.  You’d fail.

Well I’m telling you to grab that frying pan and smash through your fear.  One stone at a time.  Or smash the tower in two…like Rapunzel did.  Which led to her greatest adventure…fulfillment of her dreams.

Love, Goddess

Suggested Reading:

  1. Mae West:  Truly Dangerous 
  2. Compromise and the Drama Queen
  3. Bitch Lifestyle the Manual
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What Makes You High

 Quote from the blog Ego-Wise http://www.ego-wise.blogspot.com/

What makes you high?

The perfection of creation.  That feeling you get in your body that makes you glow and hum pleasurably all over.  The moment where you succeed—the moment you accomplish a difficult goal.  You make the winning catch, pay off credit debt, make someone smile under really difficult circumstances, finish a painting, step on the Champs Du Lycee, skinny dip in crystal blue water for the first time, take the plunge on a roller coaster, face and conquer a fear.  An audience smiling back at you, admiring and enjoying all the work you did for the performance.  Negotiating and knowing you have the upper hand and all you have to do is sit back and do nothing.  When someone really important or whom you respects notices you and how good you are.

All creations by you.  All different.  We all have different things that make us high with passion.  That is the fruit, the heart of what will make you a success.  The elixir that will juice your life into living fully.  A connection that you’ll want to make and keep making.

Go out there, identify what makes you glow and GET HIGH.

Love, Goddess

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Cravings

 Whatever you do…don’t take a bite of that delicious cake!  Picture from The Nutrition Post: http://www.thenutritionpost.com/frontpage/dr-ozs-5-ways-to-outsmart-food-cravings.html

Cravings.

They’ll drive you crazy if you don’t control them.  But Goddess…you’re always talking about how we can’t deny ourselves.   Yes, but when we indulge until it doesn’t feel good, that’s not good either.  Like when you’re depressed and eat a whole cookie.  You know the giant one you can buy at the mall with all the frosting?  You know what your stomach feels like after that.  Over indulgence not good.

How do we keep from going over the deep end with cravings and satisfy them at the same time?  Willpower.  Oh that word makes me want to nap.  It is one unfun word.  Think about it.  Will power is a “test” of your strength to carry out your decisions and plans.  The dessert buffet tested my willpower…  To me this is a bit dramatic for everyday life.  That just sucked all the fun out of the dessert buffet.  Instead of enjoying a few bites of deliciousness, it becomes all about the fat, calories and what we should and shouldn’t do.  How come we can’t just enjoy those few bites of deliciousness without the guilt and worry interrupting the pleasure?

Conditioning.

We hear about what we should and shouldn’t eat all the time.  What we should and shouldn’t do all the time.  You know that scientific experiment where they put a little kid all alone in a room with nothing to do?  And then the ONE thing they have in the room is a beautiful chocolate chip cookie on a little white plate.  Then they tell the poor little thing not to eat the cookie.  Then the scientists go into their own little room and watch the little kid watch the cookie.  They put on their glasses and pick up their clip board and pens.  Then they say things like:  Will the child have the “will power” not to eat the cookie?  What if we do A B or C to test a different hypothesis?   Then they report to whoever.   My craving lately has been cup cakes.  Can you imagine if they tried the little room experiment with me?  This Bitch would give them an earful.  Ooohhh…that would be so fun.  They would bury the study for not being in “the norm.”  The norm is the poor person in the room eating the cookie at some point out of frustration.  And it’s not a fair experiment anyway.  There is nothing else to do in the room.  No reading, not puzzles, no painting, no nothing.   So maybe…

We don’t really want the damn cookie or cup cake.

Way to complicate cravings even more, huh?  So what is that about?  Is it all the noise telling us what we should and shouldn’t do making us want something we don’t?  How do we stop the noise?  By giving the noise a salute.  (Use the finger of your choice.)  I think, as a nation, we would shed serious calories, enjoy our food and exercise more if we just focused on how good we felt when we take care of ourselves.  For instance, I used to love nachos.  All gooey with loads of real guacamole and jalapenos.  On my birthday I treated myself to a small nacho at my favorite taco place.  Because of my healthier eating habits, I felt awful for the rest of the day.  Lethargic, indigestion, heartburn.  It took the fun right out of eating it.  Figured it out all by myself, too.  No will power necessary.

Think of all the things we crave that make us feel like crap.  The guy who is a jerk.  (That’s our ego not wanting to let a jerk go…we invested!  We couldn’t be that wrong about him!  He’s so cute!)  Hanging out with people that aren’t good for us so we won’t be alone.  Like the Faux Girlfriend http://bitchlifestyle.com/2011/01/the-faux-girlfriend/ Loneliness makes us do some unhealthy things.  On a small and large scale.  So the moral of this little story is do something good for yourself today.  And everyday.  When you make doing good for yourself into a habit, you crave less of the bad things.  Then you start craving more of the really good things!  You become more confident and choose what you want with relish and with definite purpose.  Enjoyment.  What really good things for you would you like, beautiful?

“There is no end of craving. Hence contentment alone is the best way to happiness. Therefore, acquire contentment.” Swami Sivananda

Contentment…so much more satisfying sounding than craving…

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Barbara Stanny-Money Inspiration

Barbara Stanny
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Barbara Stanny-Money Inspiration.  Barbara Stanny grew up in the lap of luxury.  She is the daughter of one of the founders of H&R Block.  She was blessed with a huge fat trust fund.  She married and had her husband take care of things financially for her.

And did he ever.

Her husband took care of things so well for her, she wound up broke with the IRS knocking at her door.  You see, her husband spent all her money and then some and took off to Europe.  Leaving her to pick up every pitiful piece.  The final pitiful piece?  When she went to her father for help he said,  “No.”  Our girl had to pick up the pieces of her life.  She was the daughter of an H&R Block founder and she had zero knowledge of finances, zero idea how to take care of herself and was 200% broke.  And she, for the first time in her life, had to take care of herself.

And did she ever.

“Go where you fear because that’s how you grow.”~Barbara Stanny 

She fought back.  She looked at how she got there through self-reflection and went out, paid her husbands debts, learned about finances, straightened out her life and realized what was holding her back, held lots of women back.  Now she is a is a woman on a mission–a mission to motivate women to become financially empowered.  She used her experiences to write three wonderful books:  Prince Charming Isn’t Coming: How Women Get Smart About Money grew out of her interviews with financially savvy women. Her next two books, Secrets of Six Figure Women and Overcoming Underearning focused on helping women go from financial survival to financial stability.  She coaches, speaks all across the country and has helped many many women.  I’ve seen her speak and was inspired by the bravery it took to take her biggest failure, turn it into success and the vulnerability she shared with her story.  A true Bitch doesn’t whine about a problem, she solves the problem.  And Barbara Stanny did this in true Sassy Bitch Style!  Thank you Barbara Stanny for reminding us that:

We ourselves must be transformed. That means enlarging our field of vision by thinking much bigger than we do now about how much more we can make, how much more we can do, and how much more we can be. ~Barbara Stanny, Secrets of Six Figure Women

This means US knowing what we want, knowing we deserve it, and developing the confidence to have it, hotties!  Oh…and being ready for the bigger and better than we ever imagined possible.

Sign us up!  Love, Goddess

For more:

  1. Are You Easy to Date? 
  2. Sign of Sassy Strength
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