Be Unforgettable

Actress Sherilyn Fenn from the web blog Sweet Life Saga

Do you feel unforgettable?  Yeah, some days I’m a little iffy there.  Well, let’s play with that a little bit.  Maybe make it a fun experiment over the weekend?  Hmmmm?  One or our favorite things to do growing up was playing dress up.  When we grow up, we get so busy we forget one of our most favorite activities EVER!  So let’s get back to that fun euphoria again.  Here are some ideas to sass you up into “Unforgettable You.”

  1. Do you have a signature scent?  If so, what is it?  If not, start exploring.  Go to a perfume counter and spritz some different brands on sample papers.  After letting them rest for a few moments, revisit the scents.  Take your two favorites and spritz on each wrist.  Wait a few more minutes.  Continue until you find something you absolutely adore.  I recently discovered Ralph Lauren “Romance.”  Mmmmmm….
  2. Who are you fashion wise?  Lauren Hutton All-American?  Soft and feminine?  Edgy Biker Chic?  Do you want to play with your Inner Seductress or Siren?  Find a way to bring your “Vixen” to your everyday wardrobe?  Look in your closet for ways to do this.  Go shopping and try something on out of your comfort zone:  a style of dress, color, accessory etc.
  3. Make-Up:  Play with different colors and looks.  Create your own personal “smokey eye.”  Combine with #2 idea from above.
  4. What is your favorite color?  Wear it.
  5. Your hair is your crowning glory.  Treat it that way.  Find a Sephora near you and visit the hair section.  I love Sephora because you can try everything!  Experiment with all the brands and then get the perfect hair care for your gorgeous locks.
  6. What are your favorite flowers?  Buy them.  Just for you.  Enjoy the scent, color and texture.  Put them by your bed when you go to sleep.  You deserve it!
  7. Find a glowing light like above and bask in it like Sherilyn does.  Dress, no dress, as naughty or nice as you like it.

Then…as a final touch, when you’ve made yourself unforgettable…say it.  Smile, feel the warmth tingling in your body and purr, “I Am Unforgettable!”

Resources, Ideas and Tips for your “Inner Unforgettable.”

Glamour: A History

Glamour: Making it Modern

30 Things Every Woman Should Have and Know by the Time She’s 30

Olay-Make Your Skin Glow!


Love, Goddess

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Why Do We Hurt Each Other With the Word Slut?

Goddess Sai Sushuri symbolizes Divine Love. From the gorgeous web site Mother-God

“You slut!”

She yelled at me seething in anger.  And I had absolutely no idea why she called me that.  I was about 15 years old and a virgin.

It scared the you know what out of me.  Had someone been spreading rumors about me that weren’t true?  What were they saying behind my back?  Those words flung my 15 year old mind into a Drama Queen tailspin.  I felt so horrible and I’d done absolutely nothing wrong.  Turns out the girl was mad at me because the guy she liked asked me a question about homework in class.  Yeah, what a little slut I was for answering.  (sarcastic snicker) The problem was, I was 15 and let those words haunt me for years!  I wasn’t going to be a slut.  I was going to save myself for marriage and for the man who loved me.  A few years later I was in a relationship.  Virginity intact.  My boyfriend knew how I felt and was wonderful and respectful about it.  Then I met a girl who was married.  Unhappy with her sex life, she told me that I shouldn’t wait for marriage because you wanted to make sure the guy was “good in bed” before making the commitment.  I was thrown into another tail spin.  Yeah, that made sense.  I reconsidered my stance.

For years I was caught between “slut” and “good girl.”  Not thinking about what I wanted by trying to maneuver between what society wanted me to do, not do and people using words like “whore,” “slut” and a few choice others as labels.  Labels designed to hurt.  Labels people used to hurt me when I gave homework information to the wrong person. (add another sarcastic snicker) Feminism has given us the power to enjoy every drop of our sensuality.  With a HUGE amount of backlash.  And we are stuck between two worlds.  The “slut” and the “good girl.”

So how do we enjoy our sensuality and become empowered while hovering between the two labels?  We understand how the two sides work.  And rock it.  Instead of being insulted by the two labels we are going to turn them into empowering role models.  You may be a little uncomfortable with this.  I was a first.  It’s all conditioning.  And it all can be eradicated.  Into one hot little luscious phrase.  Our Bitch Seductress.

  1. Bitch Seductress
  2. Good Girl
  3. Slut

Notice at the top I put “Bitch Seductress?”

  1. Good Girl
  2. Slut
  3. Bitch Seductress

Notice how I put Bitch Seductress at the bottom?  Well, she’s really not at the bottom.  She’s calling the shots.  It’s just that the world isn’t going to see it.

  1. Good Girl:  Charming, slightly aloof, she doesn’t have sex until a man proves he’s worthy of her.  Once she does, she still remains slightly aloof.  He keeps wondering if he has her.  Even after he’s married her.
  2. The Slut:  Gets her pleasure…all the orgasms and hot sex she wants.  With the man of her choice.  Condoms always, hotties!
  3. The Bitch Seductress:  Getting the best of both worlds because she has found a way to mesh “slut” and “good girl” without giving herself away according to society’s “rules.”  She knows how to keep her Slut in check.  She knows when to unleash it and when to hold it back.  She knows her power.  She is the Dominatrix in the “Push Pull” of love.  The man does not control this.  She does.  Feminism has forgotten this essential fact.

Sounds so delicious, doesn’t it?  Not only are we happier and embracing our inner sluts or as I’d like to say, Bitch Seductress, the men will love it.  They get the best of both worlds.  A woman who takes zero crap from him and all the lovin’ he could possibly want.  We get … everything.   It’s not easy to get here.  Anything worth something takes work.   Confidence is key to loving every drop of gorgeous you.  This site is full of information on how you can become the confident, sassy Bitch.  And if you want more?  A Facebook page to keep you grounded with like minded, sassy women:  Bitch Lifestyle on Facebook   And if you want even more, luscious more?  My private coaching program designed to help get you there: Private Coaching

So this week at Bitch University, here are your assignments:

  1. Making Friends Elle Woods Legally Blonde  and Movie Star Carole Lombard Knew How to Live 
  2. Feisty Fall Fun  
  3. Nurture your gorgeous intellect with Bitch Lifestyle Daily
  4. Join our Sassy Bitch Rebellion on Facebook  
  5. Unleash Your Anger 
  6. Understanding Men

Have fun (sassy smile) Love, Goddess

For a preview of the upcoming Bitch Lifestyle: The Manual 

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Steve Jobs Found His Playground

Steve Jobs found his playground.  And did he ever play in it!  Thanks to his creative “Apple Playground,” many lives world wide have become easier.  I want to honor him by honoring our own innate sense of play today.  Where is your playground?  What game do you most like to play in it?  When you envision your playground, what does it look like?  Here is an example from one of my coaching clients:

“When I created my “career playground,” I did the following.  Since I am a nutritionist, I put all that inspired me into my office.  Cook books, pictures of delicious food and quotes that keep me motivated and focused on the needs of my clients.  I added pictures of those I love having fun.  I added healthy teas and snacks that were as good for my clients and myself as they were tasty.  I also LOVE the color lilac…so I added dashes of that in my office.  I put a french memory board up with all the goals, wants and adventures I wanted to experience in my life.  When I was finished with my “career playground,” it didn’t feel like an office anymore.  It felt like home.  My clients had lots to be inspired by too.  They would ask questions about the cook books and other pictures.  So my “career playground,” became a fun nutritional tool, too!”

Your assignment today at Bitch University:  Create your own “Career Playground.”  Enhance the area with personal touches and things you love.  If you’re in school, raising a family or otherwise not engaged in a specific career at the moment, celebrate your innate creativity!  Another client created a “Female Room,” with all her craft projects, favorite teas and comfortable tables and chairs.

Create a space just for you.  A place you can go at any time, night or day…just to play!  Love, Goddess

Here’s a link to a sneak peak of what you will find in the upcoming, “Bitch Lifestyle:  The Manual:”

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Who is Strong For You?

Want more? Image from CDN Media:

This post is a fine excuse to post a picture of a hot guy.  Josh Morrow from The Young and Restless.

Who is strong for you in your life?  Who makes you smile when you’re stressed, listens always and gives you a warm hug just because?

I was playing in Boston with a bunch of friends.  One I’m really close to.  Amazing man.  He’s going through a rough patch in his life, but is taking advantage of all the opportunities coming to him.  He is turning every adversarial wall into opportunity.  Which I admire.  Other people in his life, his Dad and his son, are going through major transitions.   His Dad and his son are leaning very hard on him with their problems.  He is being strong for himself and strong for everyone around him.  I felt his frustration as we were talking and I said:

Me:  “You’re being strong for everyone, ***.”

Him:  “Yes.”

Me:  “So who is being strong for you?”

Him:  “At the moment, no one really.”

Me:  “I’ll be strong for you.  Whatever you need, whenever you need to talk, vent or whatever.  I’ll be there.”

He is always there for me.  He does a lot for me.  I appreciate that SO much.  Last night he called and his voice was edgy.  He said he was exhausted.  I was there for him by making him laugh, being his “wing woman” and in a few other ways.  He thanked me and said “You’re wonderful.”  So is he.  I was just happy to make a wonderful person smile and forget about his problems.  Then he went right back to helping me.  Love is so reciprocal.  The ones that are there for you always are the ones that love you.  They teach you how to love.

Who is strong for you?  Your family?  Friends?  Lover?  Take a moment today to thank them, call them, tell them you’re thinking about them.  Make them smile.  Give them a warm hug.  They so deserve it.  It’s a simple way to not only send love back, but to open yourself up to more.  Love is an action.  So…just love.  (warm smile)   Love and a huge warm hug to you, Goddess

Here’s a link to a sneak peak of what you will find in “Bitch Lifestyle:  The Manual:”

Suggested Reading:

  1. Let a Man Chase You.  Here’s How
  2. Bitch Lifestyle the Manual
  3. Bitch Lifestyle Home

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