Bitch Lifestyle: The Manual Now on Amazon!


Hey Sassy Bitches!  Bitch Lifestyle the Manual  is now available on Amazon!  And for a limited time…at a ridiculously low price.   What you will find in Bitch Lifestyle The Manual:

  1. Learn how to party with fear, worry, doubt…all the messy emotions and silence your Drama Queen Brat. 
  2. Check into Bitch University and relish every drop of your glorious femininity. 
  3. Get  prepared for the ultimate battle of all…love!  We study the hot male species and how they tick.  We go over communication skills that will help you communicate what you want so you can surrender powerfully to him.  And not lose your sassy self in the progress. 
  4. Plus…resources and fun homework to keep you focused on the ultimate love story:  Falling in love with every drop of gorgeous you!

And ohhh…so much more!

Love, Goddess

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Amazing Teachers

Amazing teaches and mentors.  Who are yours?

I was very lucky to meet one of mine in college.  One day I was wandering around the theatre and Carol Lucha Burns came up to me.  I’ll never forget it.  I’d just become a theatre major and had just started taking one of her classes.  To say that Carol is passionate about theatre and her students is putting it mildly.  She greeted me warmly and we started discussing my schedule.  She asked me a few questions and then within moments, she had my schedule optimized for the rest of the year!  So I could take advantage of all my major had to offer while taking care of “electives.”  Stuff I had to take to satisfy my Liberal Arts degree.  She had taken those few minutes and really listened to me.  She saw in me something that I hadn’t seen yet.  I was still a very shy young woman who knew what she wanted but had no idea how to go about it.  She saw my determination and good work ethic.  Carol was encouraging and was not afraid of kicking her students in the butt if we needed it.  And sometimes we did.  It was so important that she did that because things are not easy in life!  Life is going to kick you in the ass!  You have to be able to take action and keep going when it happens!  She did it because she cared about us.  By doing that, she was preparing us for hardships.  Tough love is loving love.

Carol opened her house to her students.  One night I was rehearsing my Senior Project in her dining room.  In the living room another group of students were rehearsing a musical comedy show that was coming up that weekend.  Another group of students was doing something else in another part of the house, I can’t remember what for.  Carol would go from room to room that night and see how the progress was going.  The memory makes me smile always and, because inside of me is a big softie, shed a few grateful tears.

Carol’s students threw her a huge retirement party in New York City.  It was such a blast!  A lot of past students performed, there was a roast and it was filmed so we could all enjoy now and into the future.  Inspiring teacher and now…inspiring to women in retirement.  What has she been up to during retirement?  To keep in shape she does Pilates…even though she is the oldest at the studio.  She needs to keep her energy up for all the adventures she has been on:

  1. She volunteered to teach English to orphans in Vietnam for a month!
  2. Summer stock as Miss Marple at Cortland Repertory in New York State.
  3. Took voice lessons so she could bring back and improve a revue she did in the past titled, aptly:  “Bring it Back,” in New York City.
  4. Travels to Peru and safaris.
  5. Writing:  She is working on a new fictional story.
  6. And…she just published her first novel:  Georgia, a New York Story.  Georgia, a New York Story draws on her knowledge of human behavior and a strong belief in the ability of people to endure, expand and change, despite any obstacle. Like the eclectic family in her first work of fiction, she believes honesty, tough love, and humor are the most essential tools of survival.  Georgia, A New York Story  Georgia sounds like a Sassy Bitch we could all learn from no?  I’m looking forward to reading all about Georgia.

Who were your amazing teachers?  What did they teach you?  Did they give you a loving kick in the butt when you needed it?  Take a moment and appreciate them:  smile at the sky and yell “Thank you!  Also…look for mentors and teachers you can learn from that you admire right now.  Let their drive and passion motivate you-push you toward your own personal success.  Love, Goddess


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What is Your Eternal Essence?

 Anne Taintor image from the fab blog Marla Muppets:  http://

The people who I am close to have something in common.  Integrity and the conviction to back it up.

Integrity is staying true to your internal moral and ethical principles.  Conviction is holding firm to your internal moral and ethical principles.  Which requires a lot of confidence in our society today.  Certain factions of our society don’t respect integrity.  When they meet a person with integrity, conviction and the confidence to back it up?  They know they can’t control you.  They want to control you.  Certain factions of our society are so hypocritical.  Anything goes with them and then when they are called on their lack of consistency here, YOU become judgemental.  Which is just deflection. Just know that when someone does that to you, you’ve already won the argument.  That’s all they’ve got.  “The anything goes mentality” = lack of integrity.   So they put it on you.  They can’t defend their view because they lack integrity which connects them to what drives them deep deep down.  They haven’t connected to their internal essence.  And trust me, your Sassy Bitch knows her internal essence.  Her integrity is her passion, drive and truth.  Because she knows her eternal essence, she will not compromise herself.

Because I am in tune with my eternal essence, I do a lot of out of the box things.  I’ll call you on your crap and will let you go if you don’t appreciate me.   I also have no problem side stepping away from “shit,” people who do things to hurt me or other people.  I will tell them politely why they will not be a part of my life and I’m done.  If I see them in a social setting I will be polite.  But that’s it.  I’ll share my time with the people who make me feel good.  So why this little tangent?

I was surprised the other day when a friend of mine did the same thing.  Because of my view on a person.  (For the purpose of this article we will call this person Bad Karma)  I was taken aback because this can be such a lonely place.  Confidently fighting for your integrity with conviction.  Most of the time?  People will tell you you’re wrong because they feel the need to defend the other person.  If they are your true friend they will see through your past actions and fairness that they should listen to you.  I’m not one to fly off the wall about another person.  If I do?  That person has earned my disloyalty.  I’m like a lawyer laying out the case:  Here’s why they are guilty.  Nothing but the facts and why this doesn’t fly.  If I can’t trust them I back it up.  A side note:  this scares a lot of people.  A lot of people can’t handle the truth because that means they have to face it, or don’t want to rock the boat.  If you don’t rock the boat when needed, things will fall apart.   If something is important to you you will have no problem rocking the boat because you want to keep moving forward.

Back to my friend who startled me.  To make a long story short, he too is an acquaintance of Bad Karma.  After laying out why I don’t trust Bad Karma a few months ago, he started noticing what Bad Karma was doing and saw that I was right.  Bad Karma on his very own has proven my case with his actions.  That’s the funny thing about calling people on their crap.  They have a choice.  They can keep on with their garbage or shape up.  Either way?  You prove your case and release “shit” from your life.

True friends have your back when you tell them someone or something won’t fly with you.  They will have your back because they trust you and your opinion.  Conviction, integrity and the confidence to stay true to your internal moral and ethical principles will earn their trust.  First you need to earn it for yourself.  By fighting for yourself and what you will not tolerate in your life.  By having the confidence to stay glued to your eternal essence.  By being fair and true to you?  You earn trust and trust will love you back.

And THAT is good karma.

Good Karma Reading:

  1. Unleash Your Inner Siren
  2. The Secret
  3. The Karma Chow Ultimate Cookbook

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Listen to Your Body!


Love and listen to your body! Gorgeous picture can be purchased at Blingee:

How well do you listen to your body?

Your body gives you clues everyday to your health and well-being.  When we get enough rest we’re full of energy and raring to go.  When we eat something too salty we spend the night drinking water which interrupts our sleep.  When we are exhausted and don’t slow down?  We just keep getting more and more run down and sometimes our cold/flu/whatever—keeps staying the same or gets worse.

Where do you fall on the scale of taking care of yourself?  I’m pretty good. Until I get a cold.  I just don’t want to slow down!  There is so much to do, experience or take advantage of!  I just don’t know how to quit sometimes.  Last week I had the flu.  I was good for a couple of days.  Then the weekend came!  I started feeling better so there was no way I was going to turn down the fun of my alumni weekend at the college I graduated from.  I also had lots of fun planned in Boston.

Flash forward to today, Tuesday, after a weekend of play.  Not feeling great.  I’m I sorry?  Hell no!  Today I will still work, but I will drink tea, eat healthy and focus on all I want to accomplish.  I will try my absolute BEST to go to bed early.  (snicker-so not fun)  Even if I feel better I will take it easy tonight.  Because in a few short days, there is a weekend full of fun coming my way.  I don’t want to miss it.  So I’m listening to my body now so I can play later.

What if your body is giving you a much bigger kick in the butt?  There is a more serious illness, or the cold just won’t go away?  This is your body giving you a much deeper signal.  And sometimes those “signals” are keys to improving your life.  Signals that you aren’t getting.  Because you’re NOT getting them, your body is getting sicker, protesting more, ie:  trying to get your attention.  Listen, pronto!  There is a  fantastic book on listening to your body by Louise Hay.  She wrote a book called You Can Heal Your Life and I use it as a gauge in my life.  I was introduced to it by my best friend Mary Ann.  When she first gave it to me I was all…sounds a little “new age tofu.”  She made a believer out of me.

Why a believer?  According to Louise Hay, all the signals Mary Ann’s body sends her are about anger.  We even joke about it.  She’ll have something going on in her body and call me and ask me to look it up in the book.  I do and will say, “Okay…who are you angry at?”  It’s that consistent.

With me?  It’s all about receiving.  Receiving.  Receiving.  Receiving.  Receiving what, may you ask?  Everything.  I’m going to give you a personal little tid bit about me.  Not one I’m proud of, but one that I understand about myself and have worked hard at letting go.  It’s a realization that I’m grateful for because it has given me the words to relate to you on this website and through the coaching I do.  When I was in college, because of a pattern of giving and not receiving back, OR being pushed away for giving,  I closed up.  I figured what’s the use.  I’m going to take care of me and nothing else.  I was so tired of getting hurt by people who were “supposed to care,” that I decided not to let anyone in at all.  This was the ultimate in control.  I’m over it now, but trust me.  Sometimes this buried mentality gets unearthed.  Usually right at the moment I’m starting to feel vulnerable.  But my Bitch always protects me!

I love this book and am so grateful for Mary Ann sharing it with me.   I now share it with you.  Check out this book.  It may give you some powerful insight to what is going on with you.  It has helped me when my “receiving issue” comes roaring back!

Books by Louise Hay:

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