Keys to Success: What a Savvy Woman Wouldn’t Do

Keys to Success: What a Savvy Woman Wouldn’t Do.  Having one of those days?  A day full of curve balls, irritations and no room to fit them all in?  First things’ first.  Before you do one more thing:

  1. Take care of yourself.  With a shot of tequila, a shower or a manicure/pedicure.
  2. Find your humor and your perseverance.  Watch the video above and then revisit the full article here:  What a Sassy Bitch Wouldn’t be Caught Dead Doing

Right here and now we are going to focus on one of the biggest Keys to Success: What a Savvy Woman Wouldn’t do scenarios:

Failing to rise to the challenge.

You have two choices here.  Rock it or Run.  Challenges are like a little wink from the Universe. You want more in life?  Universe is asking if you want to play.  Throw off the urge to give Ms. Universe the finger.  Or not.  Give her the finger and then start rocking that challenge!  But back to first things first…

1. Take care of yourself.  So you can get past the emotional element and start to focus on what you want.  The Drama Queen, aka “the emotional element” in you wants to keep you unfocused and unhappy.  She loves you unhappy and insecure.  This is why you must take care of yourself.  By putting the attention on you and not her negative ways, you are telling her to SHUT UP!    Once you get Drama Queen to shut up…you can focus.  Which brings us to the second part of the “rising to the challenge” process.

2.  Look for the positive in the challenge.  Trust me.  There IS one in there. Lurking past the pain, frustration and anger.  Drama Queen wouldn’t know pleasure if it hit her in her depressed little face. She only knows pain.  She can’t see that the challenge is change. A change that means your desires are going to be fulfilled. Desires are funny that way.  Sometimes they are hidden behind something you don’t want to let go:

  1. A man who is bad for you
  2. A “friend” who does nothing but suck the life out of you
  3. Your comfort zone

Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.” – Neale Donald Walsch

Ms. Universe wants you to be uncomfortable sometimes.  So she can give you oh so much more. So the next time Ms. Universe gives you a challenge?  Go ahead and lament about it for a bit.  Vent to a friend.  Then take action:

  1. Take care of yourself.
  2. Find the positive in the challenge.  What is the desire behind the challenge that Miss Drama Queen doesn’t want you to see?
  3. Embrace that which is making you uncomfortable. Be grateful for the change that is coming. Because change may be granting you your desires.

It’s up to you…rock it or run?  I know you want to rock it.  So here is more inspiration for you to do just that.  Lord knows sometimes we need more that just the friendly written reminder.  (warm smile)  Love, Goddess

Suggested Reading:

  1. Bitch Lifestyle:  The Manual
  2. Love this lady for inspiration on leadership and success:  Lolly Daskal and on Twitter: @LollyDaskal
  3. Need some positive mojo on a more consistent basis because Drama Queen won’t, ahem…shut up?  Manifestation Miracles.
  4. Private Coaching with me:  Negative Emotions-How to Kick Them to the Curb
  5. I’ve been talking about this a lot lately…find a way to make this work for you…play!  What are the Health Benefits of Meditation

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How Do I Get Rid of Self-Doubt?

How do I get rid of self-doubt?  A Bitch Goddess knows it isn’t just bubble baths and blow outs.  It’s an ongoing process. Every single day.  And then?  As you take care of yourself daily, you grow more confident and sassy.  Doubt slowly disappears.  Doubt happens. That is normal.  As your self-confidence grows so will your ability to bounce back.  You’ll be able to let go of this nasty little emotion so much quicker. And quicker and quicker.  Are you ready to choose self-confidence over doubt?

“One important key to success is self-confidence.  A key to self-confidence is preparation.”  Arthur Ashe

Bitch University is now in session Bitch Goddess!  Click here for the full article: “How to Get Rid of Self-Doubt.”    After reading the post, start your Slaying the Doubt Class Schedule. Review the Sassy Bitch Rules:  Sassy Bitch Rules and see what you need to review and incorporate.  Which Sassy Bitch rules are you rocking and which need work?  Action Action Action is the focus.  Add actions every single day to your schedule.  Practice makes perfect.

Want more?  To motivate you even more I’m recommending a little positive reinforcement.  #1 Through daily meditation: What are the Health Benefits of Meditation — meditation has really helped me with my busy lifestyle.  #2 Changing those doubting thoughts is helpful with a program to kick you in the butt in the most pleasurable way…every day:  Manifestation Miracles.  Or consider my private coaching program below…

Let me know how it goes!!  Love, Goddess

Other resources:

  1. 7 Simple Steps to Conquering Self Doubt
  2. Private Coaching with me to help you rock this:   Negative Emotions: Kick them to the Curb!
  3. Bitch Lifestyle Home Page

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Why Bad Days are Good for You?

Why bad days are good for you.  This has been written about a lot but there is a reason why.  So we can appreciate the good days. Yeah…I can feel your eyes rolling at me. Whatever Goddess. But it’s true.  You know another thing it can show you? (Watch the video above and then we will discuss below)

How self-aware you are.

Yup.  I’ve been writing about that a lot lately.  A symptom of the problems we face in society today is directly linked to how self-aware people are.  I betcha if the guy who drove through his garage door with his bikes on the roof was a little less pre-occupied?  May not have happened.  He was driving kinda fast too.  At least we can laugh about it, no?

Anyway…back to self-awareness.  I was really happy when I started writing this yesterday.  Today I was CRANKY. And I felt bad about it. I am so lucky:  I have zero reason to be cranky.  But therein lay the answer to my crankiness. I am self-aware enough to know that there is guilt in being happy.  Especially around people that aren’t so happy. And unhappy people are everywhere. Distracted people are everywhere.  Notice that?  So when I let that go I realized I was not cranky from a bad day but really really restless!

See what a little self-awareness can do?  Turns a bad day into personal growth. LOL.  It also got me my sense of humor back.  The simple truth will do that for you. I am restless because in three days I am finally going on vacation. Away from the snow, cold and layers and layers of clothing.  Waiting for that moment to arrive…your work is done, chores are done and packing is done. The moment where you are finally free!  Free to play no excuses, no responsibilities.  The lead up to that would make anyone restless.

So Goddess…how do I become more self-aware?  Bitch University suggests one little thing for you to do this weekend.  And you are going to hate it.  Abhor it. Tell me to (insert un-lady like explicatives here).  Here it is:  Slow the f* down. Start with two hours.  Then expand. Turn off the phone. Unplug the computer. Meditate. Relax with a book. No TV. Play relaxing music if you wish. Have a private dance party if you wish.  Just unplug.  If you are more self-aware you probably won’t leave your car door open on a busy street. Because, after-all, a completely un-self-aware driver is guaranteed to take it off!

Why bad days are good for you?  So you can figure out how self-aware you are! So keep reading…there will be oh so much more coming up with the super sexy and confident ability called “self-awareness.”  Love, Goddess

Suggested Reading:

  1. Why is He Ignoring Me?
  2. Exactly How to Deal with an Enemy
  3. Negative Emotions:  How to Kick Them to the Curb!

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