Adapting 101

Adapting 101.  How much can you handle being thrown at you and how hard can you rock it?  I had the flu last week and was confined to my couch and TV.  Lucky for me a movie favorite was on.  “Seems Like Old Times,” starring Goldie Hawn and Chevy Chase.  I just loved Goldie in this movie when I was a kid.  As an adult woman I appreciated something that I hadn’t seen when I was a young girl.

How she charmingly, sweetly and cleanly handled all the crap that was thrown at her during this movie.  The clip above pretty much shows it all.  Even in the one point in the movie where Goldie couldn’t take one more problem, one more curve ball, one more tiny bit of stress and she had an anxiety attack?  She was able to tell her husband exactly what she needed without screaming at him or taking her frustration out on him.  Without being awful and mean.

Can you do that?  You can if you had what Goldie’s character has in this film:

  1. Confidence.
  2. Her ability to communicate is outstanding.  Her training as a lawyer has given her this skill.
  3. Even when she is less than put together, her confidence and sense of humor shine making her quite irresistible.
  4. Her trust and love in people make them respect her. She sees the good in everyone.  She does not assume or judge.

Goldies’ character took action instead of letting her Drama Queen suck her under. Goldie is all feminine Sassy Bitch! Yeah…the movie is real old…but just think of how much you could stand out today? Among the crowds of over-reacting people if you channeled this in yourself?  Ready to take a couple steps into channeling this sweet, charming and oh so feminine part of yourself? Start with a crash course in communicating:

  1. Rent the movie “Seems Like Old Times,” and notice how Goldie communicates.  What do you notice?  What intrigues you and what do you wish YOU could do?
  2. Study people communicating around you.  Who reacts and who handles different people with aplomb?
  3. Watch the TV Show Shark Tank.  Notice who communicates well with the Sharks and who is a disaster.
  4. Take care of yourself every single day.  If you are run down and emotionally exhausted, communicating effectively is so much harder. Give yourself this break and notice how it helps you over the next few weeks and months.

Want more?  Read the suggested articles below.  Enjoy and play with what you are learning.  Practice becoming the best communicator ever!  Love, Goddess

Suggested Reading:

  1. Empowered Women Don’t Tolerate BS
  2. This Week at Bitch University: Strong Sassy Women
  3. Confidence:  Signs You’re a Sassy Bitch

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Evita Peron

Evita Peron
Evita Peron image from Shining Wizard 

Evita Peron was a charming dynamo who took Argentina by storm.  She started out as a poor prostitute and died adored and mourned by millions.  She became a skilled political speaker and used her position to help people.  She wanted to help those, who like herself, started out in poverty.

  1. Embrace Risk:  She didn’t let her unfortunate beginnings keep her down.  Evita wanted to be successful in Argentina.  She had a dream and went for it.  She became a successful radio personality and actress.
  2. Adapt:  Evita adapted to the needs of up and coming politician Juan Peron.  She had to if she wanted to be more than a Mistress.  She wanted to be his wife which would help her realize her dream of fame and fortune.
  3. Appearances Matter:  She knew how much appearances mattered.  She knew she had to look her best to stand out and be admired by the people of Argentina:  She always looked glamorous.  Designer labels from head to toe so “the people who dreamt about her” wouldn’t be let down.
  4. Silence is Powerful:  She knew when to be quiet.  She knew the power of just listening.

So how do you channel a little of Evita into your life? Evita, the Legend of Eva Peron (1919-1952) Especially if you don’t (at the moment) have a rich, powerful head of a country to lavish his money on you?

  • Never be caught with unkempt roots.  Keep them in check between appointments.  Even if you need the swipe of a mascara wand.  Don’t be caught dead in public in sweats or pajamas.  Do your make-up and wear jewelry. If someone loves your outfit? Don’t tell them it’s Walmart.  (Even if it is) Say you got it in a store in New York City.   I wore this dress for years from Walmart that people thought was designer from New York City.  I did get in New York City (sassy smile).  Or just say “Thank you.”
  • Cultivate an air of mystery.  Let people wonder about you.  Just because they ask a question (especially if it’s personal!) doesn’t mean you have to answer.  Don’t give it all up…putting every aspect of your life on social media.
  • Adapt instead of whine, moan, or not take action.  What’s more effective…whining about how you can’t do something or actually taking steps to achieve it?
  • Take chances.  I’m not saying go to a dangerous area and walk around alone…I’m saying get adventurous.  And if something bugs you or you don’t like it?  Don’t let that have power over you.  If you are afraid of trusting people?  Analyze why.  Maybe it’s the people you are around?  Solution:  Take action by getting out and meeting new people.

Oh…and most importantly…enjoy channeling your inner Bitch Goddess…just like Evita did.  Love, Goddess

Suggested Reading:

  1. Relationship Advice:  The Seductress in Action
  2. Depression and Conspiracy Theories?
  3. Bitch Lifestyle:  The Manual

© S Stevens Life Strategies