Beware these emotional vampires!
It was a gorgeous fall day. Sunny, warm and the wind still refreshing instead of the dreaded BRRRRR! I was happy, excited and looking forward to a rehearsal of good energy and production. Then I lost it. My happy. My excited. And I didn’t handle losing it well. What did I lose? My patience. My patience is really hard to lose. I mean…you have got to get on my very last nerve for me to lose it. I have decades long friends that, until recently, have not seen it. My last nerve is so understanding to everyone. I always try to help first. The thing that has made me lose it not just this past time but over the last few months is: All the complaining people do! I ask people how they are and rarely do I get “Good—how are you?” I get a list of complaints and no interest in me. People are so caught up in their own problems a simple “how are you?” back is becoming rare. Beware these emotional vampires. Just like me, they can get on your last nerve. So what is the 3 step process to keep emotional vampires off your last nerve?
- Complain about it. Oh wait. Done. LOL.
- Reasoning. Complaining all the time wastes time. So in one sentence we’re done here too.
- The Bottom Line. Hot Action.
The Bottom Line: Complaining is all BRAT. So to counter the brat we need to give her what she needs. A swift kick in the ***. Which is: Be grateful and notice the good. And this is going to be really tough for me. I’ve absorbed all the complaining my body can handle. My impatience with it is bursting. Oh God…I’m complaining again. And putting off my own remedy. LOL…do you ever do that? So let’s win by having some fun with this:
- When someone cuts me off while driving or some other such annoyance, I no longer will use colorful language and insults on them. I will find something pleasurable to replace that thought immediately. Ie: Focus on music, eat a bite of chocolate, stroke myself with a sparkle powder puff.
- When someone complains when I ask them how they are, I will be witty and playful in my response. The goal being to make them feel better.
- When I hear people being negative and complaining I will simply focus on something else.
- When people start complaining around me I will, with great enthusiasm, ask then how we can solve the problem together! Refocusing on action is energizing…not draining!
- When I find myself alone and complaining, I will immediately stop and take a break. I will do something that makes me feel good. Whether it is meditating, dancing my booty off to a great song, calling a friend or being inspired by a passion.
What about you? What are some things that make you complain? How can you find a fun and positive way for YOU to deal so it doesn’t suck you down in the muck? Be creative. Please oh please have a way to deal with this ever increasing societal problem without getting to the saturation point like myself! Ohhhhhh and do share! Positive thoughts are always appreciated and relished! Love, Goddess
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