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“Life is really simple but we insist on making it complicated” Confucius

Yes we do.  And we are sooooo brilliantly good at it aren’t we? 

The next time you find yourself doing this, you know my mantra. 

Kick box the annoying little Drama Queen out, do something fun or call a girlfriend pronto! 

Oh…and laugh a little. 

This post is dedicated to my best friend Mary Ann.  It is dedicated to our Drama Queen moments.  How we are dedicated to keeping each other grounded in the simple.   Helping each other find the bottom line and then taking the action to stay in our Sassy Confident Bitch.

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 Assuming that I’m nice?  Pic can be purchased at Zazzle  http://www.zazzle.com/sugar_and_spice_tshirt-235693426451919663

Assuming.

(Cue morose music)

Drama Queens assume that someone doesn’t like them.  Assume their boyfriends are cheating on them.  Assume that people are out to get them.  Drama Queens assume that their bosses don’t respect them. Because their bosses hate them, Drama Queens assume that their bosses would never promote them, never listen to them or give them a raise.  Drama Queens assume that they aren’t hot enough for some guy. Assume that they don’t have enough for this or that but they DESERVE it.  (insert whine here)  Assume that no one understands, cares, loves, appreciates them.  Blah Blah Blah.

Bitches don’t have time to assume.  They’re too busy.  If they have a question on their minds, they ask it and be done with it.  They don’t spend hours wallowing in it.  Assuming, like whining, makes a Sassy Bitch want to nap.

When you are in ”assuming” mode, you know your Drama Queen is ruling the roost.  She must be exercised.  Literally!   Exercise that little whiny brat out.  My Drama Queen surfaced yesterday.  Was I ever a little brat.  Just back from a fab vacation.  My coaching sessions with some really beautiful, inspiring women were so fun!  And my panties were soooooooo in a bunch.  It was raining out so my Drama Queen couldn’t go for a walk. (Dramatic sniff)  So what does a Sassy Bitch do when exercising won’t get rid of the brat?

Appreciation.  I went over and over in my mind what I was thankful for.  I felt better.  Then I found out a family friend had died.  He had cancer, was not expected to live long, but he died much quicker than anyone had thought.  Another reason to be grateful.  I was happy, healthy and surrounded by those I love.  More appreciation needed and completed.

So when your Drama Queen goes into “Assume Mode,”  try the following:

1. Exercise the brat out of you.
2. Be deeply grateful for all you have.  List all the things over and over in your mind.
3. Lather, rinse and repeat until you are feeling your happy sassy self again.

Love, Goddess

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Cartoon from the wonderful site “My Opera,”  http://my.opera.com/angel292005/blog/?tag=women&startidx=30&nodaylimit=1

Back stabbers.  How do you deal with them?

Right now I’m dealing with a back stabber.  I run an improv group and someone crossed the line with me.  I communicated to this person in a bottom line, respectful way.  So they tried to circumvent me by talking to other members of the group.   When others in the group asked about the situation I said  “Why is so and so talking to you about this?  They are putting YOU in the middle of my decision.  Which isn’t fair to you.  They should be talking to me.  If you see so and so, tell them to talk to me about it.  Let me deal with it.”  Now the little back stabber has to go through me to get what they want.  This person, on their own, closed the door on opportunity.  So let’s discuss effective ways to deal with back stabbers!

1. Don’t trust them.  Back stabbers want what they want and that’s it.
2. Don’t criticize them.  Be nice.  I will always be polite to this person.  If they freak out on me I’ll be rational and to the point.  This is power.
3. Don’t marry a back stabber.  I get emails all the time from women who want guys who have stabbed them in the back.  They don’t trust them, but they still want to be with them.  Why would you want to marry someone to whom you can’t trust?
4. Don’t believe what they say about others or about a situation.  They say and do anything to get what they want.
5. Never try to one up them.  This will only fuel their desire to hurt you.  If they are on your last nerve, kick box it out.  Take a long walk.  Take a breath and remember:  what they want is for you to be upset.  If you give them what they want they will only repeat the cycle. Over and over whenever they need their “fix.”

So what do you think?  Have any fun and effective tips for dealing with back stabbers?  Please share on our Facebook page:  https://www.facebook.com/pages/Bitch-Lifestyle/205875411841

Related Reading:

1. Who Controls You:  You’re Bitch or Your Brat?  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2010/01/who-controls-you-your-bitch-or-your-brat/
2. The Faux Girlfriend:  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2011/01/the-faux-girlfriend/
3. Signs You’re a Sassy Bitch:  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2011/05/signs-youre-a-sassy-bitch/

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“Mean Girls” movie pic from the web site Psych Central:   http://blogs.psychcentral.com/research/2011/mamas-dont-let-your-babies-grow-up-to-be-popular/

Women who bash other women.  Portrayed in the Mean Girls movie by Lindsay Lohan, Rachel McAdams and Amanda Seyfried, these Drama Queens have no place in our lives.  She will create havoc and pain in the lives of the women around her.  She is extraordinarily unhappy and filled with rage.  She goes against so many of the Bitch Rules.  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/05/bitch-rule-1-love-yourself-with-abandon/  The two most important being:

1. Bitch Rule #2:  We will not compete with other women.  This forum is a place where we can support, cheer, and turn each other on with our individual sense of fun, play and laughter.
2. Bitch Rule #5:  We love our girlfriends and stay faithful always!  We do not break dates with them when our new guys call us last minute.  Or change plans with them if he wants to do something.  Our time with our girlfriends is sacred.  We keep that time when we start seeing a new man, have a boyfriend or get married.  Yay girlfriends!

Like attracts like, right?  If you choose the Drama Queens in this world, what is it about them that you are choosing?  In my past I chose Drama Queens because they always needed me.  When they didn’t need me, it was usually because they had a new guy.  I’d been dumped by them.  When they got dumped, they would come running back into my life.   I let them come back because I lacked confidence.  I lacked the confidence to tell them to “go pound sand.”  All gloriously pitiful, right?  I can laugh at this now and I would love it if you could laugh at it with me.  Because I think most women have been there.  In this day and age the “Drama Queen” epidemic seems to be rampant.  Glamorized.  Big business.   Hello any of the “Real Wives of XYZ,” on Bravo.

When you say “no” to her, you open up your world to the really good women out there who will have your back.  Ones that you may not have seen, were close to but still kept at arm’s length, or lacked the confidence to truly embrace.  To truly embrace means to truly love, doesn’t it?  And to truly love you have to know that you truly deserve it.  Love.  And we all do, it’s just sometimes life gets in the way and we don’t do what we have to do to take care of ourselves and stay grounded in our wants, desires, dreams, goals, fun and play!  So here is your Bitch University refresher course to get and keep you on the path of confident, good for you choices.

1. After re-reading The Bitch Rules:  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/05/bitch-rule-1-love-yourself-with-abandon/  Put the rules in a journal or notebook.  What areas do you need to work on?  Your sensuality?  Your appreciation of all you have?  Get to it.  Pronto.
2. Are you pissed off?  Edgy?  Constantly question every little thing you do?  You’re probably in your Drama Queen.  Start banishing her from your life:  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2011/12/stop-being-so-hard-on-yourself/  Lather, rinse, repeat until you have a grip.  Yes…this may take a while.  Commit to it and getting control over your Drama Queen.
3. DO NOT feel bad about being in your Drama Queen.  We all go there.  Women are emotional creatures.  It’s in our DNA.   The problem is instead of making the choice to do something about it, we revel in it.  Now it’s time to revel in YOU and do something good for you.  Celebrate YOU.  Here are some fun things to do for you:  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2012/01/a-doorway-to-harnessing-your-super-natural-force/

Love, Goddess

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Picture from the fab web site Denim Devotion http://denimdevotion.wordpress.com/

Sign You’re a Sassy Bitch:  You don’t whine about a problem. You solve the problem.

Is this you?  Or do you spend hours, days, weeks whining about all you don’t have and things you wish you did?  Come on, Drama Queen.  Really?   Here’s your New Years’ Kick in the Ass.  Stop whining about what you can’t control and awaken your Sassy Bitch.  She needs awakening because you’ve bored her into a freakin’ coma.  Time to wake that Bitch up.  How?  One yummy, thrilling word:  ACTION  Ooooo…a REM period just missed a beat in our Sassy Bitches’ sleep.  You have a choice.  You can continue whining and stay in your Drama Queen.  It’s easy.  Do exactly nothing.  Want to start awakening your Sassy Bitch?  Here’s how:

ACTION #1:   Get it out.   Go here:  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2011/01/so-you-had-a-bad-day/  Throw yourself into your Pity Party.  I am giving you permission to let out every pathetic whine to the David Powter song.  Seriously do it.  Twice, three times if need be.

ACTION #2:  Cool.  You’ve kicked that whiny ass Brat out of your body.  Relax.  Be proud of yourself.  Now is the time to do something good for you.  Take a warm hot shower, go out shopping, or have a glass of wine and watch your favorite movie.  Whatever little treat you want to give yourself?  Do it.

This will help you rid yourself of your ”whiny” problem.  Your whiny Drama Queen wants attention.  So give it to her and then move on.  By doing this, you are releasing the control she has on you.  Now practice using ACTION with everything in your life.  When you find yourself saying:  “Oh great.  What?  Really?  Can this have any worse timing?  I’m so sick of the crap!”  Stop the lamenting and take ACTION #1 and ACTION #2.  Then go on to ACTION #3:

ACTION #3:  Solving the problem.  Because you’re letting your Drama Queen moan and whine, you’re the releasing control she has on to you.  When you do this, you will start to see through the bullshit…which is all the Drama Queen sees.  Piles and piles of bullshit.  The Sassy Bitch sees the bullshit and walks around it.  She sees the answers and takes the necessary steps to solve the problem. Some problems take one step.  Bigger problems will take more.  It’s all good. 

When you find yourself slipping into “whiny mode” go back to ACTIONS 1 & 2.  Lather, rinse, repeat.  Got it?  Good.  Now get in there and take some hot action now.  Love, Goddess

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Sassy Picture of Eartha Kitt from the blog Ironing Board Collective:  http://ironingboardcollective.wordpress.com/2011/04/18/eartha-kitt-where-have-all-the-sassy-women-gone/

‘Tis the season to…

Stop being so hard on yourself.  Right now.

It’s a gift we women have.  We love with our whole hearts and souls.  We give with our whole hearts and souls.  We love to see everyone happy.  Because of all this we strive to make everything perfect.

Perfection.

You’re already perfect.  Remember the quote I love from Dr. Christiane Northrup?  “Only perfect eggs are fertilized.”  The key in “stop being so hard on ourselves?”  See the perfection in every moment.  In every curve ball.  In every mistake.  Speaking of mistakes, a Sassy Bitch can work and correct a mistake like nobody’s business!  Her own and others.  She is Scarlett O’Hara when the fur is flying.  She can do this because even though sometimes she wants to curl up in a ball and eat a pound of brie in a darkened room, she knows that won’t fix anything.  In fact, it leads to more being hard on herself, more pounds of brie and high cholesterol counts.  Not fun.

Practice laughing at your mistakes, adoring every luscious drop of you, honing your sense of humor and kicking the edgy energy out with work outs.  When you hear that voice inside your head going “I don’t wanna do that.  I don’t wanna do that!”  Take a deep breath and ignore that whiny little Drama Queen Brat.  Get active, Bitches!  Here are some articles to help you.

1. Know the one thing you have control over? http://bitchlifestyle.com/2011/01/know-the-one-thing-you-have-control-over/
2. Dance your “hard on yourself” out:  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2011/02/were-bringing-sassy-back/
3. Turn Worry into Fun:  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/09/turn-worry-into-fun/
4. Mata Hari:  That Woman Knows How to Die:  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2010/12/mata-hari-that-woman-knows-how-to-die/
5. What is the one flaw in a woman?  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2010/10/what-is-the-one-flaw-in-a-woman/

When I was looking for images for this article, I loved the above one of Eartha Kitt.  Please read the article.  It’s fab and it is written by a man.  The article is titled “Where have all the sassy women gone.”  Her look says it all.  Sassy, beautiful.  You can just imagine her looking off to the side to whoever is there.  Is that person bringing her some adversity?  Her response?  “Bring it.”  With a purr.

Love, Goddess

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Cute Turkey Manicure Idea from Make Up Videos 4 U: http://makeupvideos4u.com/tag/beginner/

Mmmmm…Thanksgiving.  The food.  The long weekend off from work.  Hours of *ecstatic sigh*  NFL Football, the anticipation of more celebrations to come with family and friends.  The suprises!  And the less so fun.  Like the co-workers or that certain family member that just LOVES to push your buttons.  And they’re soooo good at it.  They bother you even before they stick out their button pushing finger.  LOL.  So how do we keep the Thanksgiving celebration going with the irritations and curve balls that may crop up?  How well to you let things slide off you?  My Thanksgiving gift to you is your own little “Keep the Sassy Bitch Purring During the Celebration Season Guide.”

1. Are you prepared to Celebrate your Sassy Bitch Ass off during the upcoming season?
2. Are you able to stay focused on being happy and sassy when things go awry?
3. Do you have a sense of humor when things out of your control go awry?

Item number 1:  Are you prepared to Celebrate your Sassy Bitch Ass off during the upcoming season? 

a.  I’m not talking about your Martha Stewart calender of organization.  I’m talking your “fun schedule.”  The schedule that makes you fashionably late for a party because you took an extra half hour to give yourself a manicure before the event.  Spend time developing your very own Celebration Ritual to you keep sane, sassy and rested.  So you can enjoy the whole crazy, wonderful, loving, suprise filled season with relish.  You have energy to make snow angels or go ice skating with some spiked or not spiked hot cocoa.  Experience your first sleigh ride or have a snow ball fight.  Take your moments to play and it will pay off in dividends during this season.

b.  Take care of your stress by dancing your booty off, working out, meditating. Whatever works for you!  My clients have noticed how much dancing and working out has helped their stress.  How much more they can do and how it helps keep them calm.

Item 2:  Are you able to stay focused on being happy and sassy when things go awry?

This takes a little Martha Stewart preparation, but make it fun!  Schedule fun every day.  Find creative solutions when road blocks happen.  Try to start thinking like this:

• When I get this done tonight…I would love to relax with so and so later.  I’ll call to see if they want to meet up for a champagne toast or yummy dessert.  If not, I’ll find the perfect place to go and just do it!
• Oh…there is so much traffic.  Tonight I’ll go home and do my shopping online.  I know I can get A, B and C done.
• I’ve got my work party tonight.  I’m going to go early, talk everyone up then make the quickest exit possible.  Then I’ll do this (insert your fun idea here) to celebrate all I have accomplished this year and think and enjoy all the goals I’m going to accomplish next!
• It’s family time and so and so will be there.  I’m going to prepare myself with pleasant, vague ways to excuse myself when they try to corner me.  I will not let them bring me down.  I’ll do anything to make myself feel empowered…maybe create a hot mantra while applying lip gloss.  “Yes,  I’m ******* fabulous.”  Then let the irritation slide off me.

Item 3:  Do you have a sense of humor when things out of your control go awry?

If you take really good care of yourself, your sense of humor will appear naturally.  You may finding yourself wanting to giggle when no one else wants to.  Priceless.

Now get out there and play your butts off this week!  Be thankful and take exquisite care of hot, sassy little YOU!

Love, Goddess

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Scary halloween pumpkin from the website Softonic:   http://onsoftware.en.softonic.com/trick-or-treat-halloween-wallpapers-for-everyone

What do you most fear?

I’m not taking vampires, zombies and witches oh…my.

What do you most fear?

I’m not even talking spiders.  Or anything that can creep up on you or fly in your hair.

I’m talking personal fears.  Sometimes the one thing that you really truly want eludes you.  So you try harder.  When the best thing to do is let go and trust.  Or worse, you keep choosing the wrong thing.  It’s what you know and what you think you like.  It’s what you’re used to.  Sometimes we do all these things because getting what we want can be terrifying.  What if we own and run a successful business?  What if we employ 50 or so people?  Not only do we then have to support our families, how do we make sure we keep bringing in more profit to support the other 50?  What if we really truly fall in love?  And that person leaves us?  Maybe it will all be easier if we stay in a job that doesn’t have so much responsibility.  Or stay with the guy we know who will hurt us.  Because losing the man who adores us and then leaves us we couldn’t recover from.  And the guy who hurts us?  We can whine and moan about.  We can get attention from this activity.  It satisfies our need for attention.  But in the wrong way.  We have substituted pain for feeling good.  And the pain that we feel becomes normal and comfortable.  It’s what we know.

What do you most fear?

Over time giving up what feels good for comfortable.

Screw that, Bitches.

How about trying new things.  New adventures.  When you find yourself being too comfortable, too regimented, too “doing the same thing all the time” changing it pronto!

What do you most fear?

Being alone, in the dark, in a creepy old house without power?

Stop.

Fear…is a future emotion.

Let me say that again.

Fear…is a future emotion.  When you are afraid of something happening that hasn’t yet.

Example A:  I like this guy as a friend, but I don’t want to go out with him if he asks me out.   This is fear and worry about something that may not happen.  This could fear and worry you right out of the best relationship ever.

Resolution A:   Stop putting expectations on something.  Just enjoy it.  Maybe he is the most incredible man you’ve ever met.  Give him a chance.

Example B:  We’re getting a new manager.  I heard she/he is a bear.  My job is going into the toilet.

Resolution B:  It ‘s natural to worry a bit when you have a new manager.  Take control of the situation by doing your best work.  Put your energy into that.

What do you most fear?

Trust.

All the above involves trusting yourself.  Trusting yourself into stepping a toe into what feels uncomfortable.  Dating “not your type.”  Trusting that the new management wants to succeed.  Knowing you are an important part to the managers’ success.  Throwing a cute guy a sassy smile, helping an older woman cross the street, killing the icky bug.  Trusting that you are confident enough to handle the curve balls thrown at you calmly and unemotionally. Trusting that if you step a little outside your “box,” you will find something interesting and new that you never thought of.

What do you most fear?

Me?  Not doing and missing something I would love!  You?  Make a list of your fears and conquer them.  One toe at at time.

Love, Goddess

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 Scott Zolak (L) and Andy Gresh (R) my heroes during a Patriots football game loss from 98.5 The Sports Hub.  Picture from http://boston.cbslocal.com/ On Twitter: @GreshandZo

“Yesterday I went home and stared at the wall for 3 hours.  It’s like going crazy when you’re already nuts.”  Scott Zolak

The agony of defeat.  That’s exactly how I felt yesterday after The Patriots lost to the Buffalo Bills.  It made me laugh so hard this morning when I heard it on the Gresh and Zo radio show!  I know exactly where to go to heal my pain after a football loss.  Gresh and Zo.  XOXO to them.

That’s exactly how I felt yesterday-and I couldn’t go home and stare at the wall.  I had to be responsible and run a rehearsal for my improv group.  My friend Gio…who is in the group is just as frustrated as I am.  He is listening to the football game on his iPad as we try to find another building to rehearse in. (Normal building not available)  I’m so proud of my group though.  Everyone is stepping up.  I have limited knowledge of the area we rehearse in, so one is leading the way and another is making phone calls to the other group members so they can find us. This frees me up so I can charm the man who caught us rehearsing where we shouldn’t have been.  We finally find a space, and the game is over.  My best friend, Mary Ann, has heard the Patriots have lost and calls me to see if I’m okay.  I instantly feel better.  THIS is exactly what I need when the Patriots lose.  The frustration disappeared from my body.  Almost instantly.  I thanked her, told her I loved her, was in rehearsal so I would call her later.

After a hectic rehearsal, my friend Jason did the exact WORSE thing to me after a Patriots game.  He started picking on me and giving me **** about the loss.  I did not get angry.  Though I did enjoy the thought of throwing a table at him.  LOL.  I said, “My best friend did the perfect thing for me after the loss.  She called me to see how I was.  It made me feel so much better.”  He did a complete 180.  He became sweet and awesome!  We hung out and had a great chat and he gave me some fantastic knowledge about some things I was curious about.  By telling him what would make me feel better and not being angry about it, he became my hero.  I gave him that opportunity and it felt great for both of us!

How do you get here?

1. Know how to deal with your anger and frustration.
2. Discover what makes you feel better and stay grounded in it.
3. Communicate it.

Using me as an example:

1. Know how to deal with your anger and frustration.  For me it’s kick boxing, long walks-I must get my body moving!
2. Discover what makes you feel better and stay grounded in it.  After a Patriots loss I listen to Gresh and Zo.  They feel the same way.  They always say the perfect thing which makes me laugh!
3. Communicate it.  When people give me crap after the game, it makes me feel worse!  The person who saw through me and how much football means to me is a wonderful man named Daniel.  He called me after a loss because he saw me after a loss and knew how to make me feel better.  He didn’t DISMISS something that was so important to me.  xoxo to you, Daniel!  Because he gave me what I needed, I can share it with those I love.

Dealing with your anger is everything!  How do you deal, gorgeous?  Share on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/pages/Bitch-Lifestyle/205875411841  Love, Goddess

For more:

1. Anger is Scary-If You Let it Be  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2010/09/anger-is-scary-if-you-let-it-be/
2. So You Had a Bad Day  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2011/01/so-you-had-a-bad-day/
3. Venting Anger 101 http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/09/venting-anger-101/

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Adorable picture from the website Nick Jaina: http://nickjaina.com/2011/05/22/jealousy-and-l-a/

Today at Bitch University we study Envy and Jealousy.

Two of the deep dark emotions that are bad.  Bad bad bad.  Think of the last time you talked to your girlfriend.  Something really amazing and fabulous has happened to her.  You’re happy for her.  Ecstatic even.  But…it starts out as a little but deep voice inside you.  There is a little “but” voice inside you going, “Great.  She has such a fantastic X, Y or Z.  I wish I had that.  I work so hard and I just can’t seem to get it.”  Then you start to feel worse because you know it’s jealousy and that’s bad.  That little “but” makes you feel awful.

What if these two emotions aren’t so bad?  What if “envy” and “jealousy” are another way to “shoulda” all over the place?  You know how I’m always telling you to listen to all the bad/scary emotions?  To let them go?  Angers and tears are a release.  You have to dissipate that energy.  Your body is screaming at you to do so so you can see the truth in your anger and tears.  So you know how to correct it.  We’re going to correct envy and jealousy now.  Your envy and jealousy is simply:

Deep, deep desires and wants.  Instead of “shoulding” and feeling guilty all over the place turn “envy and jealousy” into what they really are: ”I wanta!”  Get juiced by them!  Here is an example:

Your Girlfriend:  I had this amazing encounter with my boyfriend on the beach.  He had candles, champagne and a warm comfy blanket.  We looked at the stars, had the most incredible soft kisses, for what seemed like hours.  Then he slowly made love to me.  I was absolutely spent in the most pleasured way possible!

You:  Oh…yeah.  I want some of that!

Replace the negative feeling with a positive one…acknowledging your want and …. it’s going to come to you.  And when it does it’s going to be 100 times better than what you imagine.  A friend of mine told me this incredible story about a man she met on the beach.  I got that and SO much more.  The posts ”Letting Go Part One, Two and Three” http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/11/letting-go-success-part-one/ http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/12/letting-go-success-part-two/ http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/12/letting-go-success-yes/ are about this.  The keys to making this work are:

1. KNOW when you are envious and jealous.
2. KNOW that whatever it is that is making you this way that you WANT it!
3. Enjoy the thought of attaining this want.
4. Don’t put expectations on it.  Just enjoy it.  I promise you it will be so much better.  Surrender to not painting the picture.  Let it be created on its own.  Trust.

What will you get, hottie?  Just enjoy the thought!

So how is that for seeing envy and jealousy in a new light?

Love, Goddess

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