1.  It’s fresh strawberry season.  Get to the nearest farm stand and get some!  Or any other fresh yummy produce that ‘s in season now.  Bitch it up and feed them to your friends, a hot guy etc.

2.  It’s almost summer.  Make a list things you absolutely must do.  Then plan it.  Circle the date on your calendar—just like you would an important meeting or Doctors’ appointment.

3.  Go hiking and Bitch it Up.  Instead of the regular picnic items, bring a mini bottle of champagne, a small slice of the best and creamiest French brie,  red ripe grapes, homemade dessert.  Savor each moment in nature and of your sensual meal.  Don’t forget your a picnic blanket.

4.  Find a real old fashioned swimming hole and plan a day with your friends.  Extra points if you can find a tree with one of those tires you can launch yourself from into the water.  Men are Grill Masters.  Have them make you hamburgers and hot dogs.  You and your girlfriends bring potato chips, creamy cole slaw, homemade chocolate chip cookies and whatever goodies that make you smile.  Make sure you bring a comfy blanket so you can take a nice little nap.

5.  Skinny dip.  Bitch it up and invite all your girl friends.  Find a pool, lake, whatever and get over those body inhibitions together.  Or be even more outrageous and refer to #4.  (sly grin)

6.  Find a hot sexy man to walk in the summer rain with…tell him you’d like him to softly kiss you!  Where is up to you.

7.  Go on a lake or ocean day cruise.  Ask the Captain for a personal tour of the ship.  Or the really hot crew member.  It’s up to you. 

8.  Go to a bookstore and tell the help you are looking for books that have “outrageous adventure ideas.”  Ask the help what their most “outrageous adventure” was. 

9.  One of my goals is to get tickled often this summer.  It’s such a great stress re-leaser and so fun to laugh so hard.  So, get yourself tickled…often!

10.  Get yourself one fantastic summer item that you feel gorgeous in.  A summer dress, shoes or the perfect bling ring.

11.  Put a bag of summer fun in your car.  Sunscreen, beauty items, a badminton set, blanket for the park, fold-up chair, etc.  Enjoy them.  Know that they are there whenever you need them.

And this is just to get your summer fun juiciness running…

Love, Goddess

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Wassily Kandinsky (1866-1944), Murnau Street with Women, 1908. Oil on cardboard, 71 x 97 cm. Private collection, Courtesy Neue Galerie New York.

“Lend your ears to music, open your eyes to painting, and … stop thinking!  Just ask yourself whether the work has enabled you to “walk about” into a hitherto unknown world.  If the answer is yes, what more do you want?” Kandinsky, 1910

Had to share this with you.  Especially since we’ve been on the subject of opening up to new experiences.  So my answer to the question?  Let’s Bitch it Up and:

1. Be thankful for opening ourselves up more to the beauty of life surrounding us.  The new passions, the fears, blowing a sassy “bring it on kiss” to challenges we encounter.  Opening up to long ago buried dreams, wishes and goals.  Embracing and experiencing new worlds.  The new world we can create ourselves.  Our world.  Your world.  The one and only of its kind!

2.  What more could we want?  Even more delicious discovery, life and love!

3.  In the spirit of wanting more here are some ideas:  listen to a music artist that you’ve never listened to before, taste a new cuisine.  It was Cuban last week for me.  Go deep sea fishing, whale watching, take a dance, pottery, cooking, weight lifting class.  Drive for an hour on the highway then take an exit and explore.  Go to a museum, botanical garden, tapas eatery.  Spend an entire day without a cell phone or computer.  Savor whatever it is you decide to do.

4.  Imagine yourself in this painting.  Create your own work of art.  Women are the ultimate creators because we give birth.  So enjoy this creation and the beauty you create every moment of every day.

I’m wishing and longing for all of this and oh so much more for you!  Love, Goddess

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1.  I broke a board a la karate style with my hand.  On the very first try— hee ya!

2.  I got free drinks all weekend.   Even an open bar for two hours at a hot dance club.

3.  I got lots of free food—so yummy!

4.  I was dancing on a bar with my girlfriends and a hot sexy guy jumped up to dance in front of me.  He started taking off his shirt.  I’m thinking…okay, I’m open to enjoying this.  I stroked his tanned, muscular back and spanked his butt.  (Yes…the Sassy Bitch was out!)  Later he told me he and his friends were skipping a bachelor party to hang with us.  Now that is a compliment, huh ladies? 

5.  Remember my whole “Letting Go” experiment?  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/11/letting-go-success-part-one/ I got a lovely reminder from a gorgeous, sexy young man.  We were swimming in the most beautiful, warm blue water.  He held me in his arms and said…”Don’t worry, I won’t let you go.”  I felt so safe in that rough surf in his arms.  A reminder to me that my trusting and opening up is working. 

6.  There were some other ways I opened up to new experiences, but we’ll have to save those for another time.  (wink!)

I’m so grateful for my “Opening Up” experiment.  How about you?  Have you been opening yourself up to new experiences and new people?  Loving the amazing people in your life right now?  I would love to hear about your experiences about opening up. 

With love and a huge eye-opening kiss,  Goddess

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This quote is so hot.  So simple.  Get passionately curious gorgeous one!  Hold on to your passions like industrial strength glue!  When you’re plugged into this mode you’ll glow, you’ll be fulfilled and ooze sexiness and confidence.  It’s the absolute best beauty treatment and it costs nothing.

So why not try a little of this today?  Walk home a different day from work.  Splash someone in the rain.  Taste something you’ve never tried before.  Rent a foreign film…and don’t read the subtitles.  Try a new workout routine, book you would never read, sport, video game, eye shadow.  Eat naked by candlelight.  Find the juiciest fruit you can and savor it.  Let the juices run all over your face!  Get your curious on and play play play.  Oh…and do share you’re newly discovered passions.  You know how much I love to experience new things!

Love, Goddess

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Yes, there are things I’m not looking forward to when I get back.  My email inbox is so full it’s scary.  And that isn’t counting my personal email.  Double scary.   Today is jammed with “catch up.”  It’s cold and rainy and I woke up with some sort of illness and exhaustion.  But I’m not focused on all those inconveniences.  I’m focused on all the opportunity that lies around them.  The business opportunities, the fun social offers, the learning and growing.  The meetings I have later today that will allow me to create even more.  And all the moments in between. 

The moments in between.  Let’s look at those, shall we?  The fun, laughter and life surrounding us that we’re too busy to slow down and enjoy.  For instance today it’s cold and rainy.  How do you enjoy that?  Sit back, close your eyes and listen.  Listen to the splash against the windows, the swish when a car drives by.  If it was warm I would recommend taking advantage of all those puddles and playfully splash someone!

Today take a moment to enjoy something, anything.  To help you I’ve made a list.  Make it a habit.  Slow down and take more moments each day.  Fill your life with them.  Then maybe one day you’ll be coming home from vacation not sad but looking forward to the next moment life has to offer.  And the next…and the next.   Would you like to play “The Moment Game” with me?  (sly wink and smile)

1.  Drink champagne just because. 

2.  Send someone you care about a “just because gift.” 

3.  Stop, listen to and enjoy a street musician.

4.  When it warms up a bit, walk and splash in the rain.  Or…softly kiss someone in a warm rain shower.

5.  Find a pet store and play with the puppies.  Enjoy their soft fur and wiggly bodies.

6.  Eat your favorite piece of fruit.  Let the juices run all over your face!  Resist the urge to wipe away all the yummy juices.  Bitch it up and ask someone to “lick the juices off you.”

7.  Couch camp with all your favorites:  Food, movies, blanket, drinks.

8.  Play your favorite childhood game.  

9.  Stop everything and listen to or whistle the song that always makes you happy.

10. Fantasize about how you dream your life to be…then do it!   Refer to Fun Organization for more tips: http://bitchlifestyle.com/2010/01/bitchy-sassy-and-fun-organization/

11.  Tell someone you love them and relish the joy on their face.

Love, Goddess

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Appreciate, love, adore.  It’s our 5th Day of Valentines Day Bitch Style.  And your assignment is so fun and simple.  Thank everyone in your life.  Your Mom, Dad, siblings, Grandparents.   Your male friends.  Give them all a big smile and a big hug for being a part of your life.  Tell them you love them.   That’s it.

Sending you all a warm hug, smile and for joining me in our Bitch Rebellion!  I love you…  Goddess

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1.  Conduct your own chocolate study.  Bitch it Up by getting your girlfriends involved and making it a party.  Make a list of the types of chocolate on the market.  It can be as extensive or as short as you like.  (depending on your passion for dark yummy stuff!)  Assign a brand of chocolate to each girlfriend.  Give the party/study a fun name like “The Bitch Institute for Advanced Chocolate Lovers.”   Do a blind taste test and pick your favorites.

2.  Have a secondary chocolate party.  Discover your favorite way to eat it.  Do you love it au naturale?  Give me a dark chocolate bar and I’ll munch away.  Or do you like it melted in a fondue?  What is your favorite item dipped in this luscious fondue?   Strawberries, cookies, marshmallows, cake?  You name it then dip it!

3.  Or…do the same party but with a twist on the chocoate theme.  Conduct a tasting on your favorite Valentines chocolate, candy or novelty.

5.  Note your favorite type of chocolate.  Note your favorite way to eat chocolate.  Keep these goodies on hand at all times!

6.  Share your favorites here.  Then we can all get some sweet love!

Love, Goddess

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1.  Close your eyes, breathe deeply and say something in your mind that makes you feel fantastic.  Something like:  “I am the hottest, sexiest, savviest and loving woman alive!”  Repeat this phrase over and over until you feel calmer.

2.  Grab some of your body lotion and give yourself a hand massage, a foot massage, a neck massage.  Just enjoy the moment and how it feels so good to pay attention to YOU.

3.  Turn on some music and shake everything on that gorgeous body of yours!  Extra points if you can sing right along to the music. 

4.  Put a temporary tattoo, glitter, powder, sticker somewhere on your body and admire yourself in the mirror.

5.  Blow yourself a kiss and catch it.

6.  Make yourself a pot of tea and savor.  Use all your senses:  Smell, touch, sound, sight and of course taste.

7.  Put on some soothing music.  Light a candle and relax.

8.  List all the ways you “think” you don’t measure up.  Cut up the ways you “think” you don’t, put them in an ashtray and burn up those suckers!  Or flush them down the toilet.  Then list all the ways you are fabulous and display them.  Better yet, buy a gorgeous frame and put it on your wall!

9.  Make a list of all the things that make you feel good.  Your favorite of all favorites.  Keep them handy for an emergency pick-me-up.

10.  Get yourself to your “Bitch Spa.”  Create your own spa at home and go there for a do it yourself facial, manicure, salt scrub, etc.  Savor how good it feels to take care of yourself.

11.  Imagine me giving you a great big hug and tickle!

Love, Goddess

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Here’s the process.  (We Bitches take our fun seriously-wink!)

1.  Write down all the things that you would LOVE to have time to do this year.  Learn, eat, discover, travel to, add to your wardrobe, experience.

2.  Just like your financial goals…set them up yearly, quarterly, monthly and weekly.   Put this into Excell or another program that is most helpful to you.

3.  Don’t feel guilty.  This is your beautiful life.  What makes you beautiful and alive are your passions (newly discovered and old) 

Here is an example of what I’m doing this month for fun:  I’m studying sensual movement.  Moving my body slowly to music and through exercise.  This type of slow movement makes me feel beautiful, stretches my muscles and I really enjoy some sexy music.  I have material from these web sites:  S Factor:  http://www.sfactor.com/ and Nia:  http://www.nianow.com/  These are fun, sensual work outs.  But you don’t need to buy anything!  You can put your favorite music on anytime and just move.  Enjoy moving your body to music any way you want to.

So what’s on your “Bitchy and Sassy” agenda this year, gorgeous one?  Please share your discoveries with us!  It will give us new things to explore and enjoy.

Love, Goddess

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For choosing to focus on the positive and leave Drama Queen in the dust.

For adorning and appreciating your gorgeous body every day.  Appreciating every curve, loving every bump, and decorating it with glitter, lotion and that beautiful smile!

For appreciating what is fantastic in your life:  What you put your attention on grows.  The friends, family and creative forces that make you YOU.  For those people who love and adore every inch of you.  The good, the bad, the sassy, the slightly naughty and the sweet.

For picking up your girlfriends…the Bitches that are there for you, cheer for you and love you.  No matter what.  No judgement and no competition.

For the men that respect you, admire you and treat you like a Queen.  Give them a big hug and a beautiful smile today.  It will make their day!

For taking chances, pursuing your dreams, glorifying in your mistakes, for daring to dare.  For embracing every tear and temper tantrum.   Even though we know how to leave Drama Queen in the dust, we embrace our emotions, know there is a place for them and party with her royal dramatic ass!   For knowing when to stop being Drama Queen and giving her a sassy kiss goodbye!

For loving deeply, passionately and with abandon.  If only for a moment.  And then being open to more. 

For every time you take a step out of your comfort zone and into the unknown, you take a step into enriching your life and fully living!

For supporting Bitch Lifestyle.  Together we are going to lead a Rebellion, Bitches!  A Rebellion full of love, play, beauty and kick ass sassiness!

With so much love, appreciation and a huge hug!  Goddess

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