How to Spring Clean Toxic Things From Your Life!

How to spring clean toxins from your life!
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How to spring clean toxins from your life!

Just start.  One baby step at a time…Just do the ONE toxic habit.  When you have conquered that toxic habit then consider taking on another toxic habit.  This is why we are doing this one week at a time.  A client of mine, Pam, was so cute.  She was the inspiration for this post.  During a session she was so edgy!  The Brat was just ruling her life!  After a series of questions from me, she finally fessed up.  She had gone on a diet, started exercising AND quit smoking.  All in one week.  No wonder she was being ruled by the Brat.  So we worked out a schedule.  Now Pam is smoke-free, lost 10 pounds and is enjoying glowing skin.  She took it slow and it made all the difference.

Week One:  Clear the toxic clutter in your inbox, Facebook, Twitter, other social media.  Old lovers, ex-friends? Delete.  Delete anything you follow or follow back that is not empowering.  I recently had to tell someone on one of my business pages to STOP posting negative stuff.  I told her exactly why and she did.  But if she hadn’t? Gonzo. Social media is full of toxic people looking for attention.  Honor yourself by not giving them any of your valued time.  Replace with POSITIVE fun feeds and energy.

Week Two:  Identify ONE toxic habit you would like to stop doing.  Assess what makes you go to the “toxic habit.” Then you will know the trigger.  Then you can deal with the trigger when it happens.  For me?  It’s taking care of myself…mind, body and soul.  You see when I am passionately doing things everything else falls away!  Time flies and I find I haven’t had lunch. Then I’m starving and more likely to eat crap, for example.  I deal with this by always having healthy and yummy food around.

Week Three:  Change a negative toxic feeling into a positive one.  This is freakin’ hard. Miss Drama Queen in your head is always messing with you:  Drama Queens Love…  Something happens and whammo!  She starts looking at all the worst case scenarios instead of the bottom line. Solving the problem.  Seeing opportunity in adversity. (Yes, it’s there) This requires re-programming that cute little brain of yours with positive thoughts.  I know…some of you are rolling your eyes.  Don’t blame you.  That’s your Brat talking: Who Controls You Your Bitch or Your Brat?   This action is required practice to slay the negative feeling toxins from your body.  One way to do this is to fall asleep to a positive affirmation video on You Tube.  

That’s enough for one lesson.  When you’re done with these?  Visit the Drama Queen section on this site for more articles so you can remove all the nasty toxins from your life…like the Faux Girlfriend!  Love, Goddess

Suggested Reading:

  1. Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom (Revised Edition): Creating Physical and Emotional Health and Healing
  2. I Can Do It® 2016 Calendar: 366 Daily Affirmations
  3. Bitch Lifestyle The Manual

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The Ugly Truth About New Years Resolutions

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The Ugly Truth About New Years Resolutions?

They don’t work if you don’t have a plan.  Resolutions.  Desires.  Wants.  Goals.  How fast are you getting them?  Are they coming at you like lightning or slower than slow? Unless you are doing these 5 steps?  I bet ya it ain’t happening.  Because unless you’re attaching these 5 steps to your resolutions, desires, wants: they are mere wishes.  Work is required.  Focused action and intent. This is nothing new.  I talk about action all the time here.  Intent, focus, action = Success.  So let’s hit the 5 action steps hard:

Step #1:  Get specific.  Example:  Pay off my credit cards.

Step #2:   Make it measurable.  Example:  I will pay off XYZ card in 3 months.  I will do this by making minimum payments of the other ones with larger debt.  When that card is paid off I will give myself a timetable for the next card and direct all my money toward that one. Ideally, you will have a time frame for all the cards in total, say 10 months.

Step #3:  This has to be your want, desire, goal.  If your parents want you to be a dentist and you have NO desire? That same desire (as in none) will go toward that goal.  It has to be something that lights you up, gets you motivated, and enhances your life.

Step #4:  Give it a time limit.  Example:  If you decide to pay off all your credit card debt and don’t give yourself a time limit?  It will never happen.  You’ll keep buying things you don’t truly need, using the card to do things you can’t really afford and dig yourself deeper and deeper.  A time limit makes it real.

Step #5:  Put it in writing.  Then break it down.  Your vision will not happen unless you write it down.  Want to really make it happen? Get support by telling everyone what you are going to do.  It adds accountability.

Nothing sexy here, Bitches!   It’s all common sense stuff that when followed, works.  I’ll never forget the confidence boost I got when I paid off a credit card when I thought I was broke. I really wasn’t as broke as I thought and was rather shocked at a couple of ways I was wasting my hard-earned cashed.  The journey to pay them off was rewarding too.  Each step I took made me feel lighter.  When I made the final payment and saw the statement balance at zero? Freedom.


What will you free yourself from with these five steps?  What will you accomplish, attain, conquer?  Let that thought marinate.  Then make it your intention and with these 5 Steps? Reality. Love, Goddess

Suggested Reading:

  1. Barbara Stanny:  Money Inspiration
  2. Amazon Link:  Overcoming Under Earning
  3. Bitch Lifestyle You Tube

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Now on YouTube

Now on YouTube…Bitch Lifestyle.

When you go to Bitch Lifestyle on YouTube, I want you to relax and enjoy as much as possible.  That’s why I’m keeping my channel ad free (mostly).  If I share something from another channel, I can’t control the ads. (Hence the mostly)  I’ll be keeping my videos short, sweet and ad free.  There will be videos about pleasure, fun, emotions, men.  The usual subjects from Bitch University.  Need a quickie pleasure fix to keep you going?  I want to be the girl for you!

I invite you to view videos, share experiences, comment, inspire and enjoy each other.   For the next couple of full, busy, overwhelming but wonderful months, we will be upping the ante here on Bitch Lifestyle. Lets enjoy every drop of the Holiday Season, 2015.  No matter what you do to celebrate this time of year, there is one thing we can all celebrate.  The gift of life and being woman.

For those of you new to Bitch Lifestyle, here is a quick introductory video:  Why Bitch Lifestyle?

Love, Goddess

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Adapting 101

Adapting 101.  How much can you handle being thrown at you and how hard can you rock it?  I had the flu last week and was confined to my couch and TV.  Lucky for me a movie favorite was on.  “Seems Like Old Times,” starring Goldie Hawn and Chevy Chase.  I just loved Goldie in this movie when I was a kid.  As an adult woman I appreciated something that I hadn’t seen when I was a young girl.

How she charmingly, sweetly and cleanly handled all the crap that was thrown at her during this movie.  The clip above pretty much shows it all.  Even in the one point in the movie where Goldie couldn’t take one more problem, one more curve ball, one more tiny bit of stress and she had an anxiety attack?  She was able to tell her husband exactly what she needed without screaming at him or taking her frustration out on him.  Without being awful and mean.

Can you do that?  You can if you had what Goldie’s character has in this film:

  1. Confidence.
  2. Her ability to communicate is outstanding.  Her training as a lawyer has given her this skill.
  3. Even when she is less than put together, her confidence and sense of humor shine making her quite irresistible.
  4. Her trust and love in people make them respect her. She sees the good in everyone.  She does not assume or judge.

Goldies’ character took action instead of letting her Drama Queen suck her under. Goldie is all feminine Sassy Bitch! Yeah…the movie is real old…but just think of how much you could stand out today? Among the crowds of over-reacting people if you channeled this in yourself?  Ready to take a couple steps into channeling this sweet, charming and oh so feminine part of yourself? Start with a crash course in communicating:

  1. Rent the movie “Seems Like Old Times,” and notice how Goldie communicates.  What do you notice?  What intrigues you and what do you wish YOU could do?
  2. Study people communicating around you.  Who reacts and who handles different people with aplomb?
  3. Watch the TV Show Shark Tank.  Notice who communicates well with the Sharks and who is a disaster.
  4. Take care of yourself every single day.  If you are run down and emotionally exhausted, communicating effectively is so much harder. Give yourself this break and notice how it helps you over the next few weeks and months.

Want more?  Read the suggested articles below.  Enjoy and play with what you are learning.  Practice becoming the best communicator ever!  Love, Goddess

Suggested Reading:

  1. Empowered Women Don’t Tolerate BS
  2. This Week at Bitch University: Strong Sassy Women
  3. Confidence:  Signs You’re a Sassy Bitch

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