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Valentines Day Special

Forget him and fall in love with you.  The Sassy Bitches’ Way!

How wrong it is for a woman to expect the man to build the world she wants, rather than to create it herself.  Anais Nin

Love it!  We will go over the keys that will help you get on the path to unleashing your Confident Sassy Bitch.  3 Week Valentine Special includes:

• A one hour private coaching session with me each week via telephone and follow-up emails. 
• Fun & empowering homework with sassy tips & hints to help keep you inspired & motivated.

Oh, and one more thing.  If you sign up by midnight on Saturday February 4, 2012?  I’m taking 25% off the price of this three-week coaching module with me.

Regular price of the program is $450.00.  Promotion price through Saturday February 4, 2012 is $337.00.  Program requires payment in advance through secure PayPal. 

If you are interested send me an email:  Goddesspower978@hotmail.com

Your blog empowered me to dump my current boyfriend.  Thank you!  Stefanie

I love how you empower women to be strong, confident and wise.  Your blog is really inspiring me to live that “Bitch Lifestyle.”  Thanks Necarrus 

Love, Goddess

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***Gorgeous Pink Heart is available at the web site World Images:  http://www.worldimages.com/KidsRoom_Girl_Hearts.php

Glamorous picture of Audrey Hepburn from the blog V State:  http://vstateclothing.com/may-6th-v-state-ladies-night/

The word  “glamour” originates from the ancient term necromancy-the harnessing of supernatural force.  Yeah…hot!  And at your fingertips.  Any woman can turn her glamour on.  Whenever she wants to.

“Enjoy the fact that you’re a woman and men will enjoy it too.”  Marilyn Monroe.

I love that quote!  So today at Bitch University I’m going to give you glamorous tips from some of the most magnetic women that ever lived.  Why do this?  Because it keeps away The Drama Queen Brat.  The Drama Queen Brat craves attention.  When she doesn’t get it she may start to do obnoxious things.  Like text a guy 40 times a day or moan about all she doesn’t have and drain the energy of all those around her.  By giving attention to things that make you feel beautiful and playful, she is getting attention.  A part of you wants attention and by enjoying being a woman and playing with glamour, you get attention in a constructive, fun way!   Do one a day.  Or two.  As many as you want.  Add a touch of glamour a day and see how it makes you feel.  This is taking power away from your Brat.   This will help harness that supernatural force deep inside you.  The Strong, Sexy, Confident Bitch.

1. Gwen Stefani loves watching old movies.  She’ll see something she loves-like a leopard print and decide to wear it the next day.  Add a little leopard print to your life.  Scarf, shoes, a hot skirt.
2. Sophia Loren loves pasta.  Savor a bowl no guilt like she does.
3. Love your body like Mae West did.  “I never worry about diets.  The only carrots I’m interested in are the number in a diamond.”
4. Create your own fashion trademark. Something that you love to consistently wear.  Is it smokey eyes?  Flowers always in your home?  The way you wear your hair?  A blingy ring?
5. Laughing at yourself makes you very adorable and charming.
6. Enjoy your voice.  Speak clearly and take your time.  This draws people in.
7. Take the time to groom your eyebrows.  Fill them in and brush them.  They frame your eyes-the mirrors to your soul!
8. Red lipstick has been a quick way to glamour forever!  Cleopatra used red lipstick to lure Caesar.  Find your perfect shade and work it.
9. Brush glitter on your cleavage.
10. Wear only your favorite perfume to bed.
11. Put a huge bouquet of the most glamorous flowers by your bed.
12. Movie star Greer Garson used to rinse her hair in champagne.  She would not rinse it out.  This made her feel incredibly pampered.
13. Try on the absolute sexiest heels you can find.  Manolos, Louboutins.  Admire your legs in the shoes in a mirror.
14. Make your entrance.  Even in the grocery store.  Think up a fun little thing to say in your mind…like a mantra as you enter.  “I’m the sexiest woman on the planet.”  Practice everywhere.
15. Note your posture.  Walk tall and don’t slouch.  Walk with purpose or a with a subtle, sensual shift of your hips.  Slow down.  Enjoy walking.
16. The next time you’re at a restaurant, order the sexiest, naughtiest, glamorous sounding cocktail and savor it.
17. Turn your bedroom into a boudoir.  Google for tips.

Please share your glamour ideas on here and on our Facebook!  https://www.facebook.com/pages/Bitch-Lifestyle/205875411841  Get in there and play!  Class dismissed.  Love, Goddess

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Please…please try and pull something over on me…***

Sign you’re a Sassy Bitch:  You absolutely relish calling people on their crap in a calm and unemotional way.  True Bitches know why.

And it is so fun.  It goes like this:

1. Someone screws you or does something that doesn’t fly with you.
2. You call them on it.  Politely.  Calmly and in a bottom line type way.  And it feels soooo good.

Why are you able to do this?  Because you have noticed and taken note of someones’ actions and let them hang themselves on their own rope.  You know why I tell you to watch Judge Judy?  Because that Sassy Bitch does it all the time.   She reads the statements by the complainant and defendant.   You do not want to be the one she talks to the most.  She has found the “gotcha” in their statement and like a brilliant lawyer in her groove, is settin’ em’ up for the fall.  Yeah…she gets mean.  Yeah…she yells at them. That’s her schtick.  Think of how much power you have when you learn how to do this in a calm and bottom line type of way.  Looking them straight in the eye.  This is power.  This scares a lot of people.  It’ll scare them right out of your life or into not wanting to be called on their crap again.  Because, like they are ”a scared.”  Sassy Wink.   I’d much rather be a Scary In Control Bitch than a doormat.  And YOU?

So get in there and work your assignments, Sassy Bitch!

1. Listen to a persons’ words with a healthy dose of skepticism.
2. Watch their actions.  Do they produce?  Do they back up their words with action?  Beware statements like “I should be there.”  “Should” implies a huge probability of a no show or tardiness.  This should be noted by you!
3. If they don’t back up their words with action, take notes.  Watch how people like Judge Judy set people up with their own words.  This is a classic:  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nzGOJJmrPNo
4. Listen and practice practice practice!

This takes time to learn and do.  That’s what you do at Bitch University.  Learn and do.  Mistakes are always a step in the right direction.  As long as you see the mistake, make conscious steps to learn from and correct them, and keep on keeping on.  Class dismissed.  Love, Goddess

*** Gorgeous picture of Lauren Bacall from the FAB web site  Let Them Eat Cup Cake:  http://let-them-eat-cup-cake.blogspot.com/2011/02/i-love-me-classy-sassy-woman.html

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I have one very important assignment for you this New Years.

It’s simple.

It will help propel you into a year full of Sassy Confidence, Fun and Success.

If you let it.  (Sassy Smile)

I would like you to mull over this question.

What are the things you can do for yourself so you fall deeper in love with Every Drop of Gorgeous You?

Let the thought wash over you like a lovers’ soft, sensual kisses.

Let’s make this…The Year of YOU.

Love and a Huge Warm Hug,  Goddess

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***Gorgeous Pink Wallpaper can be found at: http://nature.desktopnexus.com/wallpaper/30232/

Gratitude image from the wonderful blog Trinity Mops http://trinitymops.wordpress.com/page/2/

I’ve said it over and over.  Your wants and passions are the keys to making you glow and propel you into your Sassy Confident Bitch.

It’s important to stay aware:  looking over your wants and passions list, updating, adding, deleting, because they can be pushed aside for other things.  When you neglect a passion you may start to get cranky.  You miss it and want it!  You may start to let it affect other passions.  Then you have two passions affected.  Then another curve ball is thrown into the mix.  And another and another.  You’re the Sassy Bitch handling it all brilliantly.  But you’re still neglecting something.

Being a Sassy Bitch is a blast but it isn’t easy.  When you’re the Sassy Bitch you affect everyone around you. If you fall off your game, you start to feel guilt and beat yourself up a bit.  Then Drama Queen starts to babble silly advice to you.  Silly advice a Sassy Bitch would never take.  The next thing you know you can’t get in touch with your best friend to vent and you’re venting to a close guy friend.  He’s able to identify your problem in one sentence and then you get mad at him.  You…in your Drama Queen thinks he doesn’t know you well enough to understand ALL that is going on with you.  So you ignore him or tell him off.  The next day?  You’re Sassy Bitch tells you he was right.

This scenario happened to one of my coaching clients recently.  She has two very strong passions:  Her rock band and crafting.  For years she has been making beautiful things for craft shows.  The Holidays=high crafting season.  Her rock band has really picked up steam lately.  They have shows every weekend and she is loving the opportunities that are finally coming her way.  This conflicts with her craft shows.  She had to choose.  She chose weekends with the rock band.   She said to me one day:*

Sandy:  I’m totally in my Drama Queen.

Me:  You don’t sound it.

Sandy:  I am!  We had a show this weekend and I didn’t want to do it.  I was frustrated about the show and frustrated with myself because I felt ungrateful.  Then there were travel issues, I didn’t get all the work and shopping I needed to get done this weekend, AND this guy from my past has returned and he’s being wonderful.  Which is damn scary.

Me:  Why didn’t you really want to do the show?

Sandy:  This is going to sound stupid.

Me:  I’m not going to think that.

Sandy:  I haven’t had the time do craft shows this season.  That’s all I could think about!  And Calvin from the group said that to me and I told him off.  He noted how edgy I was during the show.  That was not cool of me.  What do you do when two passions collide like this?  How do you stay in your Bitch?

Me:  First, give yourself a break.  Your crafting passion is AWOL. The opportunities from your rock band have made you miss out on your crafting opportunities. So the solution is start being grateful for all the opportunities you have.  And find creative ways not to let your crafting passion be shut out.

Sandy:  I’m mad at myself for not making the time earlier.

Me:  You didn’t have the time earlier.  You’re beating yourself up again.

Sandy:  The success of the group is not forcing me to choose.  I need to find time for my other passion, crafting.  And ultimately, a way to make more money crafting.  Which I’ve always wanted.  I’ve wanted to start selling online for two reasons.  One, I can make more money.  Two, this would free up time on the weekend for my group.

Me:  Yes.  You’ve just turned the whole thing around.  That’s my Sassy Bitch.

Guilty feelings sometimes come up when we feel bad about getting all we want.  Hence the reason why we should start being grateful.  Anger, a lot of times, is fear.  It’s really scary getting everything you want.  When you push through it by taking creative action, like Sandy is now doing, it gives you something new and positive to focus on!  Questions?  Let me know!

Love, Goddess

*Name has been changed for privacy purposes.

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Today at Bitch University we are keeping your homework simple.  I’ve made a list of women for you to study, learn from and admire.  Note what you like about each womans’ style.  Maybe…somewhere deep inside you…it’s a link to your inner Sassy Bitch.

A.  Catherine the Great:  Empress of Russia (June 28, 1762 – November 17, 1796).  From Alexanders Time Machine http://www.alexanderpalace.org/palace/catherine.html  :

“Catherine’s achievements were many. She left Russia much stronger, more prosperous and beautiful than she had found it. That she failed in much she had set out to do had less to do with her and more to do with human nature. Catherine was unable to transform Russia through her will alone. Since she was unwilling to use terror or force to transform society, she chose a more patient path, hoping to gradually raise the level of culture by legislation, education, and example.”

What we can learn from Catherine:

1. She kept her voracious appetites throughout her life.
2. Excellent advice:  “I like to praise and reward in a loud voice and to scold in a whisper.”
3. A charming conversationalist, writers Diderot and Voltaire jealously vied for the pleasure of her company.
4. Don’t believe the nonsense about her death and the horse.

B.  Coco Chanel:  Fashionista (1883-1971)  This is powerful:

“It’s an unseen, unforgettable, ultimate fashion accessory.  It heralds your arrival and prolongs your departure.”  Coco Chanel

It’s not the dress, the make-up, the bag the shoes.  It’s your scent.  Study Coco, explore the world of fragrance and find your signature scent.

1. Official Website of Chanel:  http://www.chanel.com/en_US/fragrance-beauty/Fragrance-Coco-88325?WT.srch=1
2. Biography from About:  http://womenshistory.about.com/od/chanelcoco/a/coco_chanel.htm

C.  Greta Garbo:  Swedish actress (1905-1990) Official website:  http://www.gretagarbo.com/Offical_Website_of_Greta_Garbo/Home.html  What we can learn from Ms. Garbo:

1. Keep a little mystery.  Social networks like Facebook and Twitter allow you to post things about everything you are doing every minute of the day.  I think the last thing I posted was over a week ago on my personal Facebook page.  I’m too busy!  And really, I like to keep my private life…unless it helps you on Bitch Lifestyle.  I share with those that I’m truly close to.  Keep a little mystery.  It will be that much more powerful in our “overly open” society.  Just because someone asks you something about yourself doesn’t mean you have to tell them.  Especially if it is personal information!
2. Garbo had lots of eccentricities.  She had layer upon layer which only added to her mystery.
3. Garbo expressed her “kooky self” with no apologies.  She would leave a person alone mid-conversation.  When asked if she was available for dinner she would respond “How do I know that I’ll be hungry that day?”

Share an inspirational woman with us on Facebook.  Who rocks your world and why?  https://www.facebook.com/pages/Bitch-Lifestyle/205875411841

Enjoy your assignments!  Love, Goddess

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Picture of Catherine the Great from Picsbox:  http://picsbox.biz/key/catherine%20the%20great%20of%20russia

Picture of Coco Chanel from the website Style Check up:  http://stylecheckup.com/coco-chanel-fashion-icon/

Picture of Greta Garbo from the web site Flickriver:  http://www.flickriver.com/groups/vamosalcine/pool/interesting/

My life for the past few weeks has been a series of never ending curveballs.  Curveballs with Bitch Lifestyle, Family, Improv.  You name it, a curveball has been thrown at it.  And the thing is?  They’ve all been ridiculous.  Crazy…nuts!  I almost wrote about it last week, but didn’t.  Instead I decided that all the curveballs were over.  I over came the hurdles and all I had to do was just take my own advice and chill.  So I took a long hot yummy shower, slathered on my favorite moisterizer, spritzed some glitter on my body, lit some incense and settled down in my bed with a huge stack of magazines.  Blissfully I sank into my comfy pillows and opened my first  magazine.  Heaven.  A few pages later, I heard the pitter patter of little feet.  I looked up…and into my cozy bedroom a squirrel ran and stopped.

Seriously ridiculous, right?

I sat there in disbelief.  My mind goes blank.  Well…the thing wound up running out of my bedroom.  It was late, I didn’t know the first thing about squirrel catching, so I sealed the door.  I would borrow my brothers’ squirrel trap the next day to take care of the problem.  I went to sleep.  Two hours later I awoke with a start.  Something was digging at my bedroom door.  No way it was going to get in.  I lay there in the dark.  Silence.  Then I heard the pitter patter of little feet running around my bed.  I was absolutely frozen with fear in the dark.  Then the thing jumped on one of my feet!  I screamed and turned on the light in time to see it climb my wall and stare at me on top of the window curtain.

There we sat.  Looking at each other.  Why the **** didn’t I leave earlier?  What the **** was I going to do?  So we sat looking at each other for another minute.  Then the thing started running back and forth on the top of the curtain. Then I heard the pitter patter of another set of feet.  I calmly picked up the phone and called my parents.  It was 2:00am.  My Dad answers the phone.  I tell him that I’m coming over to spend the night because I am having a staring contest with a squirrel in my bedroom.  I hang up, get some clothes on, all the while watching the squirrel.

Anyway, the next day my brother, who has had a huge problem with squirrels in his apartment this fall, became my squirrel advisor.  He’d caught 4 of the things in his garage!   I gave him a title ”Master Squirrel Hunter.”  We named my squirrel “Scooter.”  By the end of the day we had captured Scooter in a Have a Heart trap.  We plugged up a hole we thought squirrels may be getting in and here I am in my comfy bed writing this post.  After another day of HUGE curveballs that had nothing to do with squirrels.

Why all the crazy curveballs?  Why is such a waste of time.  The only thing to do when oh I can’t help it…the fur is flying…is to take extra care of ourselves, keep our killer sense of humor and deal.  And…look forward to all the fun that our healthy sense of humor is going to bring us!  Lost your humor?  Check into Bitch University for help in getting it back:  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2011/08/rapunzel-and-her-tower/

Love, Goddess

Want more humor, confidence and sass?  Private Coaching available http://bitchlifestyle.com/private-coaching/

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**** Gorgeous image “Abstract Chaos” can be downloaded at the website 123rf:  http://www.123rf.com/photo_1194564_abstract-chaos-blue-pink-communication-rays-background.html

Kim Kardashian’s Faux Marriage.  This is something we can learn from and Rebel against.  You know how I’m all about the Rebellion.  My first inkling this was all a faux marriage was a month ago.

I’ve had the flu not once in the past month but twice!  So I’ve spent a lot of time in bed watching crappy tv.  All they show on E television is “Kim’s Fairytale Wedding.”  I finally watched it.  Something struck me as odd.  When the dude (minister, reverend, was he legit?) was saying the final part, where I now pronounce you “man and wife,” Kim wasn’t looking at the guy she was marrying.  (I don’t care what his name is.  I’m not going to waste my time looking it up)  What Bride doesn’t look at her Groom then?  A Bride who isn’t in love or into it.  My humble Bitch opinion.

(This is dripping with sarcasm)  Then!  The new season is coming up in a few days!  Kim and Khloe take New York or something.  And now Kim is divorcing. Coincidence?  I think not.  I think it’s all some publicity stunt for her TV show.  And it’s ALL over the internet.  These people are making a  mockery out of a sacred institution, marriage.

How?

This whole story plays on the “drama” and “spectacle” of marriage.  (More sarcasm)  Marriage is about some big ceremony and a ridiculously priced designer dress.  It’s about dumping truck loads of money into some event that lasts less than a day.  This is about the woman being “Queen for a Day,” or the familiar term:  “Bridezilla” having her day.  Her day.  Speaking of money and weddings, young girls are becoming Bridezillas before they even get proposed to.  I was in a restaurant on Tuesday night and there was a party going on in the next room.  The people at the next table asked what the party was for.  The waitress said:  “It’s a wedding party.  I mean, who gets married on a Tuesday night?  They must be really cheap people.”  I was floored.  I could think of a million reasons why someone may get married on a Tuesday night.  Maybe Tuesday night has some significance.  It could be when they first met.  Or maybe it was a second or third marriage.  Maybe they met at that restaurant and that was the best night available. Or maybe they wanted to spend the money on a honeymoon, put it in an IRA or make a down payment on a house.  Anyway, my first thought in no way was “they’re cheap.”

And I’ve heard comments like that a lot more than I would like to admit from women.

Marriage is about love.  Sticking together through tough times.  It’s about YOU and HIM.  It’s about the vows, not the money.  I mean really, how many starving people could have been fed off Kim Kardashian’s wedding?  Maybe it’s the romantic in me.  Maybe when I get married I want it to be simpler.  Surrounded by memories of how we met, activities that we love and adventures that we had.  Maybe before I get married I will discover any “irreconcilable differences” we may have.  Maybe I take love and commitment to those I love seriously.  When I say I’m there for you I am.  When I say I’ll love you no matter what I do.  Just because something is “hard” like a commitment, doesn’t mean you just stop doing it!  Quitting like this is so lame.  Like this quote I saw somewhere that says:

Put your big girl panties on and deal with it.

So I’m officially rebelling against the mocking of a sacred institution:  Marriage.  I’m putting my attention on the healthy version.  The Bitches’ Version:  “To love, honor, appreciate, respect, cherish and play our asses off together.  Til’ death do us part.”

Love, Goddess

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Picture of Tom Brady from the Technorati web site:  http://technorati.com/entertainment/glosslip/article/eli-manning-vs-tom-brady

Flirting Basics.  Do you know the one word a successful flirtation relies on?

Confidence.

Confidence.

Confidence.

The way you get confidence?  Through daily practice.  Yeah…practice means work.  Things that people do that seem effortless takes discipline!  Passion for what you are doing!  Let’s use the classic sports analogy.  One of my favorite athletes is Tom Brady.  This weekend, with 22 seconds left in the game, he threw a touchdown pass to win the game.  He made it look so easy.  The reason why he made it look so easy is because he has done the work.  His teammates have done the work. He and his teammates have spent hours going over that one play.  Hours working their bodies so they can perform at their absolute best.  Hours pouring over playbooks, video and meetings discussing execution.

Flirting is a lost art.  It takes similar practice to execute.  It’s all about fun, play and confidence.  And practice.  You have to practice this art.  On everything that moves!  Puppies, girlfriends, the guy you meet at a store.  Each time you try you will get better.   This would be Tom Brady making a touch down pass when he is ahead by 40 points.  It is much easier and there is less pressure to make the pass then.  This helps you when you meet the guy you absolutely adore.  This is when you will need every drop of confidence you’ve gained.  When you need to be confident like Tom Brady in the last 22 seconds of the game.  The game isn’t on the line…it’s your heart!  So you want to have ALL your wits about you, be completely focused and still play the **** out of the flirtation.

So let’s break it down.

A.  Confidence.  In yourself.  Knowing who you are, what you like and being in love with every Sassy Drop of YOU.

1. Every day take a moment to adore something about you.  Your body, your hair, eyes, luscious butt.  If it’s your eyes, accent them with a little glitter eyeliner.  Then blow yourself a kiss in the mirror before you leave the house.
2. Get your life in order.  Whatever you have, love and appreciate.  Take pride in the order of your finances, closet, computer, goals, beauty routine, home.
3. Make a list of all the things you love to do and plan them.  Make dates with your girlfriends and family.  Work that calendar.
4. Instead of apologizing, look to what you could do better.  Focus on that.
5. Embrace and be passionate about your talents.  Share the energy of that passion with those you love and meet.
6. Get rid of edgy energy by working out.  With focused intent.  Ie:  Anger?  Punch it out with kick boxing.  Discover what works for you.

B.  Confidence:  Flirting

1. Follow a beauty routine.  Start small.  Maybe with your favorite lip gloss or bright scarf.  Wear something out everyday that makes you feel gorgeous.  Notice how it makes you feel.  Is your smile a little wider?  Do you notice men looking at you?  Take notes!  The point is to see what works for you and work it.
2. Smile.  It’s sending out warmth to everyone you meet.  Do this for men, women and children.  If they react, play a little more.  Add a compliment or playful word.
3. If you’re on a date, compliment the man you are with.  Men love compliments.  Add a sassy, warm smile while you compliment.
4. Touch a man lightly on his shoulder, arm, hand.  Add a compliment.
5. Whisper a warm compliment in a mans’ ear.

C.  Confidence.  Deleting your Drama Queen.

1. Laugh at yourself and don’t take the whole thing so seriously.  This is play, remember?
2. Flirting takes confidence, and a dash of vulnerability.  If you feel uncomfortable, it may be fear.  The more you try, the less this uncomfortable unease will affect you.
3. Join our Facebook community for more confidence.  https://www.facebook.com/pages/Bitch-Lifestyle/205875411841  We are building a community of women who will have each others’ backs!
4. Keep reading and doing the exercises on this site.  Investing in you builds your confidence.

Sound like a lot?  Anything worth it takes work.  Start small.  A few minutes a day.  Make it part of your routine.  Look at the picture of Tom Brady above.  Something tells me-the smile on his face-that the effort is well worth it.

Love, Goddess

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Goddess Sai Sushuri symbolizes Divine Love.  From the gorgeous web site:   http://www.mother-god.com/goddess-religion.html

“You slut!”

She yelled at me seething in anger.  And I had absolutely no idea why she called me that.  I was about 15 years old and a virgin.

It scared the you know what out of me.  Had someone been spreading rumors about me that weren’t true?  What were they saying behind my back?  Those words flung my 15 year old mind into a Drama Queen tailspin.  I felt so horrible and I’d done absolutely nothing wrong.  Turns out the girl was mad at me because the guy she liked asked me a question about homework in class.  Yeah, what a little slut I was for answering.  (sarcastic snicker) The problem was, I was 15 and let those words haunt me for years!  I wasn’t going to be a slut.  I was going to save myself for marriage and for the man who loved me.  A few years later I was in a relationship.  Virginity intact.  My boyfriend knew how I felt and was wonderful and respectful about it.  Then I met a girl who was married.  Unhappy with her sex life, she told me that I shouldn’t wait for marriage because you wanted to make sure the guy was “good in bed” before making the commitment.  I was thrown into another tail spin.  Yeah, that made sense.  I reconsidered my stance.

For years I was caught between “slut” and “good girl.”  Not thinking about what I wanted by trying to maneuver between what society wanted me to do, not do and people using words like “whore,” “slut” and a few choice others as labels.  Labels designed to hurt.  Labels people used to hurt me when I gave homework information to the wrong person. (add another sarcastic snicker) Feminism has given us the power to enjoy every drop of our sensuality.  With a HUGE amount of backlash.  And we are stuck between two worlds.  The “slut” and the “good girl.”

So how do we enjoy our sensuality and become empowered while hovering between the two labels?  We understand how the two sides work.  And rock it.  Instead of being insulted by the two labels we are going to turn them into empowering role models.  You may be a little uncomfortable with this.  I was a first.  It’s all conditioning.  And it all can be eradicated.  Into one hot little luscious phrase.  Our Bitch Seductress.

1. Bitch Seductress
2. Good Girl
3. Slut

Notice at the top I put “Bitch Seductress?”

1. Good Girl
2. Slut
3. Bitch Seductress

Notice how I put Bitch Seductress at the bottom?  Well, she’s really not at the bottom.  She’s calling the shots.  It’s just that the world isn’t going to see it.

1. Good Girl:  Charming, slightly aloof, she doesn’t have sex until a man proves he’s worthy of her.  Once she does, she still remains slightly aloof.  He keeps wondering if he has her.  Even after he’s married her.
2. The Slut:  Gets her pleasure…all the orgasms and hot sex she wants.  With the man of her choice.  Condoms always, hotties!
3. The Bitch Seductress:  Getting the best of both worlds because she has found a way to mesh ”slut” and “good girl” without giving herself away according to society’s “rules.”  She knows how to keep her Slut in check.  She knows when to unleash it and when to hold it back.  She knows her power.  She is the Dominatrix in the “Push Pull” of love.  The man does not control this.  She does.  Feminism has forgotten this essential fact.

Sounds so delicious, doesn’t it?  Not only are we happier and embracing our inner sluts or as I’d like to say, Bitch Seductress, the men will love it.  The get the best of both worlds.  A woman who takes zero crap from him and all the lovin’ he could possibly want.  We get … everything.   It’s not easy to get here.  Anything worth something takes work.   Confidence is key to loving every drop of gorgeous you.  This site is full of information on how you can become the confident, sassy Bitch.  And if you want more?  A Facebook page to keep you grounded with like minded, sassy women:  https://www.facebook.com/pages/Bitch-Lifestyle/205875411841  And if you want even more, luscious more?  A private coaching program designed to help get you there: http://bitchlifestyle.com/private-coaching/http://bitchlifestyle.com/private-coaching/

So this week at Bitch University, here are your assignments:

1. Study strong sassy women: http://bitchlifestyle.com/2010/05/elle-woods-legally-blonde-and-great-friend/ and http://bitchlifestyle.com/2010/09/carole-lombard-fiesty-and-fabulous/
2. Insert fun into your life everyday:  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2010/09/feisty-fall-fun/
3. Nurture your gorgeous intellect with Bitch Lifestyle Daily:  http://paper.li/Goddesspower/1312999704#
4. Join our Sassy Bitch Rebellion on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Bitch-Lifestyle/205875411841
5. Unleash your rage in healthy ways: http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/09/venting-anger-101/
6. Understanding men:  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2010/07/giving-you-a-hot-sexy-shot-of-testosterone/

Have fun (sassy smile) Love, Goddess

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