For everything. For the less obvious: the water and the pipes it travels to get to your home. For the obvious: Your health. To the challenges that make you grow in confidence and sassy experience. Your friends, family, lovers. The air, the ocean, the breeze. All the delicious food choices, music choices and entertainment choices we have access to. How the cool grass feels on your feet. There is a lot to Be Grateful for. See it. Feel it. Cherish it! This is a lot. You better get started. Love, Goddess
It’s really simple. Just do it. Here are some inspirational choices for weekly fall fun:
1. It’s apple season get in there and enjoy. Go to an apple farm, pick some apples and make yummy pies, tarts and crisps. Throw in different fruits that turn you on, different spices. Try different apples too. Bitch it up by making or finding the gooiest, most decadent caramel apple you’ve ever seen and enjoying it. Savor it. Absolutely no guilt.
2. Go on a hay ride with all your girlfriends. Bitch it up by wearing hot yet comfy fall outfits. Bring blankets, hot cocoa or tea and frolic in the hay together. Flirt with your driver, flirt with the girl selling the tickets. Pick a song to celebrate the outing and play it.
3. Accept last minute offers for fun. I don’t care what it is. A party, a baseball game, movie, dinner, just do it. Make time for it. It will refresh you. You may be a little tired the next day, but the impromptu fun is so worth it.
4. Get outside this weekend by the beach, the park, the pond. Bring a blanket, lie down and close your eyes. Enjoy the rays of warm sunshine on your face and body. Breathe deeply the fresh, cool, crisp air surrounding you.
5. Find a local charity you love. Work with them to create a haunted house with all your friends. Create the most fun, haunted house, field, hayride, barn whatever, ever! Give the profits to your charity.
A week of “Bs” Wednesday is not easy. It’s a process that needs to be a discipline in your life ASAP. Week of Bs Wednesday: Be Aware. Sounds so simple, doesn’t it? It’s not. We live in a world where a lot of people are addicted to tech and the apps that support them. These devices…if fully implemented in your life can lead to distraction and addiction:
Accidents/distracted driving from people texting, eating, fiddling with belongings, etc. etc. while driving cars or operating any sort of machinery.
IMMEDIATE need to know who is calling/texting/emailing. This ruins focus. Whether at work, on a date or relaxing on a day off.
Walking into the street rapt in whatever is up with the cell phone. Not looking to see if there is ongoing traffic or other pedestrians.
Spending hours playing games on a computer, tweeting, Facebook and Instagram updating.
Believing everything you see and read on the Internet without finding out if it’s true or not. Especially something that says “New research,” Experts say,” “According to XYZ.” Here’s a biggie: “Un-named sources.”
I could go on and on but you know where I’m going. New tech is great. It helps our productivity, connects us to the world, gives us information on any little thing that we desire. We can even have books downloaded to us in an instant. The irony is…because we are so dependent on these devices, we miss the world…the REAL world right in front of us. And because of all the information thrown at us we sometimes don’t have the time to educate ourselves to see if said “info” is really true. (Bonus B: Be Skeptical) There is so much to do, so much we want to do that we rush from one thing to another. One commitment to another. One job to another. Errand here, errand there. By the time we have done all that we have to do we are exhausted and must sleep. Because of this, our “self-care” suffers. That Bitch voice deep within us gets crowded out with all the things that can distract us.
Bitch voice = our truth. And she must have attention. Every day. Awareness comes from attention. Whatever you give attention to expands. If we give most of our attention to a tech device…think of all we are missing! There is a new DirectTV commercial. It’s supposed to be humorous because of our obsession with our phones. To me it’s just sad. Instead of enjoying amazing places (where some of these people are) they are watching their phones:
Don’t let this happen to you! LOL… What are quickie benefits to Be Aware?
You’re less likely to fall off a cliff. You’re more likely to enjoy the gorgeous view, the wind on your face, the accomplishment you have just achieved.
When you devote all your attention to a person you are with? That sort of attention is infectious.
You will not be the person standing in the way or invading personal space.
Food, music, sounds, sight become more beautiful and intense.
That unease you feel in your body makes you act. Example from my life: A few days ago I had to cancel a meeting. The meeting is normally held in a safe place. Once a year they have a carnival where we meet and it was going to happen during our meeting. The first time I saw the carnival it made me very uneasy. I trusted that awareness this time and canceled the meeting. There was not one but two shootings at that carnival on the day I cancelled. Exactly where we meet!
So unplug purposefully. This is so important to you reaching full bad ass Bitch mode that I want you to put this right under your “Be Pleasured” and do it every day. Want to make kick-*** decisions? Be aware through self-care so you can trust yourself. Love, Goddess
Power of Letting Go These Stress Makers. There are so many, but lets touch on a couple today. Have you been dealing with these in some way shape or form?
Power of Letting Go #1: Excuses. Excuses are a form of denial/fear. Own your mistakes, own what fears you and it will create trust in yourself and confidence galore. It will help you succeed! Example: A girl I work with ALWAYS has an excuse. A few days ago she was complaining about how much she hated doing something. How it didn’t help her, etc. What she doesn’t understand is all the power the “something” had over her. She has no idea how much this has to do with her fear and trust. She isn’t ready to hear it either. I’ve tried. It’s sad because she resists the very thing that can make her stronger. If it were me? I would take the power back by not making any more excuses and rocking what she “hated doing.” Don’t let resisting the truth lead to excuses.
Power of Letting Go #2: Being anyone else besides you. Now there are certain things and people that will light you up (I have such a girl crush on Kate Beckinsale—she does feminine with a rock n’ roll edge that inspires me) but adapt what you like to fit you and your personality. The world sometimes tries to mold us into a neat little box. The world talks about the same thing, tells you what THE style is right now, THE thing to do right now, THE thing to eat right now. Get curious about the world and discover who you are, what you love and live it. No resistance. (Remember Power of Letting Go #1)
Power of Letting Go #3: Being in relationships for the wrong reasons. I get letters every day from women who make excuses for the men who take from them, emotionally abuse them, cheat on them and lie to them. Despite reading an article I wrote telling them exactly what to do. I can’t help them because they can’t help themselves. If this sounds like you? Please let him go. Focus on you and your happiness. He is not making you happy. Let him go.
Power of Letting Go #4: Being everything to everyone. It’s exhausting. You will eventually lose yourself by trying to please too many people. You won’t know what you want and worse you will find yourself going around in circles. Refer back to #1 and #2 above.
Take a deep breath…look at your life and be really honest with yourself…what can you let go of? Take action to do it and enjoy the results. Huge warm hug…Love, Goddess