Category Archives: Men

Understanding Men a Valuable Resource!

By   June 3, 2015

Understanding men a valuable resource!  This article is a follow up to “What We Can Learn From Mens Magazines.” Please re-read.  A specific example of their competitive nature came up this weekend to me constantly.  Would you like more info on how to deal with their competitive nature?  Yeah…I know you do.

I was channel surfing the other night and the movie “Friends with Benefits” was on.  If you haven’t seen it, it’s about two friends-Jamie and Dylan-who decide to have sex without the strings of a “relationship.”  Jamie decides that it isn’t working and they should stop.  She meets a guy. On her first date she tells him she doesn’t sleep with anyone until the fifth date. After sleeping with this guy on the 5th date, she is surprised when he ditches her.  She is upset (of course) and thinks it’s her:

Jamie: I gotta stop thinking it’s not me. I mean, it’s gotta be me!
Dylan: It’s not you. Nothing is wrong with you. He’s a guy. You gave him a five date challenge, he got you and cut out. Forget the douche! He’s a dick. He’s a dick douche.

This is great advice from Dylan.  But Jamie was right.  It was her.  She told the guy exactly what he had to do to “get her.”  If she doesn’t want that anymore? Perhaps she should keep the guy guessing.  Not as a game, but as a way to gauge his interest in her.  Every guy wants to get laid and Jamie made it WAY too easy for him.  You’ve got to be smarter than a guy. And guys are the first to admit they aren’t too smart.  Don’t lay all your cards on the table.  Men will love it.  You told them exactly how to get what they want from you with very little effort.

Other examples:

If you have a guy friend who is being rude or obnoxious?  Call him on it.  Then watch his actions.  If he is sorry, he may not say it.  He will show with his actions.  I recently called a guy friend on his crap.  He hasn’t apologized, but boy oh boy has he been a sweetie!

Another guy friend of mine likes to have Sunday breakfast with me.  So he started SKYPE-ing me first thing Sunday morning.  I told him to call me because I would have to get out of bed to talk to him through SKYPE.  I had a phone by my bed.  What did he do?  He continued to SKYPE me.  Whose fault is this?

MINE.

But Goddess…you told him what wasn’t acceptable to you and he disrespected you by calling you.

No, Brat.

It’s my fault because I made a challenge/game out of SKYPE-ing to this guy.  You have to know when you have presented a challenge to a guy.  A fun little button to push.  This is what my guy friend heard me say: “This is annoying.  Don’t do that.”  He will do a happy dance in his mind thinking of all the fun he is going to have SKYPE-ing me on a Sunday morning.  Oh how men LOVE to annoy women they love.

You’ve got to be smarter than him, Bitch.  Simple solution.  Turn the lap top off.  Now he calls.  And we discussed it.  He admitted he was enjoying pushing my buttons.  I’ll let him push my buttons in a playful way but not in a way that irritates me!  You know the old saying…give an inch and they will take a mile?  Be smarter Bitch.  Want even smarter?  Learn from a man:  I like Michael Fiore.  I’ve seen him on TV and he tells women exactly how to get and keep a mans’ attention.  Click here for more.   Finally, if you really want to rock it here is my Private Coaching Program:  Your Re-Awakening  Class dismissed.  Love, Goddess

Suggested Reading:

  1. Let a Man Chase You:  Here’s How
  2. Sassy Success Secrets
  3. Bitch Lifestyle:  The Manual

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Infatuation Versus Real Love

By   February 26, 2015

Infatuation versus real love

Is this hot sexy man for real or full of red flags? Hot picture of Hugh Jackman from the amazing website Shanghai Expat

Infatuation versus real love.  That magical moment happens…you meet a man who is attractive, intelligent and there is chemistry.  The conversation is fun, playful and you’re thinking to yourself…OMG…finally!  A man I can get excited about!  I’m here to give you an excited for you but – maintain your Sassy Bitch grip on this scenario!  Please…ask questions, be aware of red flags…keep things moving slowly so you have the time to get to know him.  So you don’t…

Look past the red flags and fall into…infatuation. Infatuation makes your brain go to sleep. Infatuation makes you not care about the red flags because he smells so good and kisses sooooooo….sooooo…

Here is a nice overview of infatuation versus real love that I enjoyed on Diffen.com

Love takes time. It takes work to get to know someone. Don’t have sex too quickly.  Women do it on the second date now!  I don’t get it! Unless that is all you want…to “get it.”  Are you sure that’s all you want? One of my favorite lines from a movie is from Clueless.  When asked “how far she had gone,” Cher admits she’s a virgin and says…”you know how picky I am about shoes and they just go on my feet.” She had a clue here.  But do the rest of us?  The sexual revolution has allowed us to do it anytime, anywhere with anyone we want. Cool, right? But there are consequences if we let infatuation rule and have sex too quickly.

Like completely missing those pesky little red flags.  The red flags that will doom you to a relationship with a man who doesn’t give you what you truly need to relax, let go and fall in love with him.  Red flag awareness will keep you from wasting your time on the wrong guy.  So start asking him questions, listen to his answers and watch his actions.  Before you give yourself away and then email me asking “why is he acting this way?”

So … I met a man I could get a little excited about.  Our first conversations were epic and amazing. Our third conversation set off some red flags for me.  I cut him some slack.  He seemed genuinely nervous talking to me.  Then the red flags continued.  I asked him questions about them.  He seemed to realize my concern and tried to assure me these red flags were not a problem.  I was skeptical.  In our short dating life we already had a pattern here. The red flag was that he was too self-involved.  He would talk about himself endlessly.  I took a lot of interest in him but his interest in what was going on with me was…not satisfying me.

So I called him on it.  He called me needy.  (See this article for exactly what he tried to do by calling me needy: The Deflection)  Which I found to be hilarious because he talked endlessly about me being understanding about HIS needs, quirks, problems and issues.  How he “needed” me to be patient with him.

I understand male deflection well … I called him out on that too.  I told him that crap wasn’t going to fly with me.  To which he…freaked out.

Ahhhhh….Check mate for me. I was done with this child man.

I’m so glad I listened to those red flags and paid attention to his actions!  It has saved me so much grief.  I desire a man who is inspired by my passions.  They make me ME. He takes as much interest in me as I do him. Every girl deserves this and more.  Do not settle for anything less than a man who is passionate about YOU, sassy one…mind, body and soul!  Love, Goddess

Suggested Reading:

  1. The Obnoxious Male
  2. Bitch Lifestyle:  The Manual
  3. Love Games:  An Outrageous Proposal

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The Obnoxious Male

By   December 19, 2014

The Obnoxious Male

Tom and Gisele pic from: US Magazine

I LOVED this article written by Anna Fogel I found on the NESN website.  I’m also amused when I hear other men talking about it on the radio.  Giving Mr. Brady crap for his honesty. Guess what “Guys in media talking about it,” how honest are you being with yourselves? Men LOVE doing this sort of thing to women!  LOVE LOVE LOVE.  It’s Male 101.  So here is a piece the article:

New England Patriots quarterback Tom Brady might not be the best guy to go to for marriage advice, but his methods apparently work. The 37-year-old revealed in an interview with Man of the World magazine that he’ll resort to childish ways to get his supermodel wife Gisele Bundchen to notice him while at home. “I like attention from her, so when I’m not getting it, I let her know in immature ways, like a young, immature child would,” Brady said in the interview, via the New York Post. While those juvenile tactics used to work like a charm for Brady, he admitted that he’s going to have to come up with new ways to get attention from Gisele,  who recently signed a multiyear contract with Under Armour, as she’s figured out what he’s doing with every fit he throws. “You throw fits…you pout and you whine until you get what you want,” Brady continued. “She’s on to me…So now I have to learn new tricks.” Who knew the secret to getting attention from a supermodel would be so … simple?

Mr. Brady is admitting an age old male tactic.  And bragging about it!  LOL. All men…the good and the bad, do it.  So how does a Sassy Bitch deal?  How does a Sassy Bitch deal with a GOOD man who is being a jerk for attention?  How does a Sassy Bitch deal with a BAD man who is being a jerk for attention? Would this tactic piss you off or amuse you?  It amuses the **** out of me. Because it puts all the power on our feminine plate.  To do with what we will. Do you know how to maximize your power here?  Or are you in Drama Queen or Bitchy Brat mode and have no idea how to deal? Brady admits that his lovely wife has won and he is looking for a new way to up the ante!  And trust me…he is relishing the challenge.  Do you know how to win and challenge a man like Giselle does? If you do GO YOU!  If not let me help you conquer this challenge from any man.  Anywhere. Anyhow.  With sass, wit and charm. It all starts right here with my 3 week coaching program You’re Re-Awakening.  Email me for your spot… goddess@bitchlifestyle.com

“Thank you Sharon!  You turned my life around.  I can’t believe how much you have helped me with men AND my confidence in general.”  Sabrina

“Sharon…I want to thank you for our coaching sessions.  I forgot how to play with men!  Not in the manipulative sense…in the fun and sexy sense.”  FREE-ING!!!  Susan

“Without the tools you gave me I would have never seen MY truth behind the anger I had at my ex.”  Thank you.  Love, Pam

It’s time for you to start returning the relish…like Gisele does!  Love, Goddess

Read more at:  Tom Brady Admits

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Category: Men

Test Drive a Relationship?

By   December 5, 2014

Anne Tainter image found on Flicker!

Test drive a relationship?

I turn on the radio in my car and start backing out of my garage.  Two girls are having a giggling fit on the station I am listening to.  I get ready to change the channel because they are annoying me. I stop ONLY because this dude that used to play for my beloved New England Patriots,  Jerome Wiggins or “Wiggy,” (his nickname) starts talking.  He has a very distinctive voice!  LOL.  He is on this dating show and he is the “guy” advice.  The subject?  A girl has moved in with her boyfriend and it hasn’t turned out as she had planned.  The giggling girls think moving in with a guy is fab. They think it’s perfectly okay to move in with a guy and take him for a “test drive.” Giggle giggle giggle.  So here is the scenario:

The girl who has moved in with her boyfriend is shocked to find out that the guy is a bum.  He sits around all day and does nothing.  He says he is looking for a job but there is no real proof.  Now she is pissed off at the guy and is looking for advice.  The two giggly girls ask “Wiggy” what he thinks. Which is EXACTLY what I am thinking.  He says:

“Didn’t she know he was a bum before she moved in with him?”

Seriously.

Turns out she hadn’t been dating him very long.  (Really shocking, huh?)

Anyway…the giggling girls stopped in their giggly tracks upon hearing the common sense question from Wiggy.  Which to me was quite sad.

Girls…why the **** would you take a guy you barely know for a “test drive?”  Why would you go through all of that upheaval in your life for a “test drive?”  Moving is a huge deal!  I know because I just did it!  Why would you giggle about the scenario with such silly relish?  Could it be you aren’t thinking?  Uhmmmm….yeah.  That could be it.  Or the way he makes you tingle when he stands near you has fried your senses?  You better make sure that tingle doesn’t get you in a mess like this poor girl who is now stuck living with a dead beat bum. Hopefully she can extradite herself from the situation quickly without losing too much money over the deal.  We all know he doesn’t have the money to move.  So ladies…in conclusion: be ****** sure you know a guy, trust a guy and know exactly where your relationship is going before you move in with him.  Your time is a terrible thing to waste.  Love, Goddess

Related Reading:

  1.  Signs You’re a Sassy Bitch
  2.  Bitch Lifestyle the Manual
  3.  Exactly How to Deal with an Enemy

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Category: Men