So I joined an online dating site.

Yes…I know.  Sounds a little much.   But I did this for a couple of reasons:

1.  When I first started Bitch Lifestyle, I joined a dating website to learn more about the online dating process.   I researched so we could all benefit.  I decided to take a refresher course and relate my experience to you.

2.  You know how I’m always talking about staying focused on your life and let the guys in on your terms?  Let them chase you?  Prove that they should have the privilege of dating hot little you?  I’m applying this to myself.  Because one of these men I might really like.  And he is in no way ready for a real relationship.  So I’m keeping myself all flirty and engaged with as many men possible so I don’t fall into the “Oh, no” again.

So let’s discuss online dating.  How do you online date and let the man chase you?  Easily.  Remember this is about you.  Who lights you up, who you find interesting.  Its up to you to select.  YOU.  So lets keep a few things in mind.

1.  Safety.  You know how to keep yourself safe.  Do it!

2. Keep an open mind about how a person looks and their age.  I have a friend who was dating old men, short men, fat men, bald men.  No one knew why she was doing it because she is beyond hot.  She was doing it to enjoy the men.  The play, the laughter, and keeping her mind open.  You want a man who will back up his words with thoughtful actions.  I don’t care how hot a guy is.  The hotter guy is the one who DOES what he SAYS he’s going to do.  My friend wound up dating the very hot John Corbett (Sex in the City, My Big Fat Greek Wedding) for awhile.  He treated her wonderfully, but she is marrying the man who adored her.  And it isn’t John.

3.  Have fun with this.  Don’t take it so seriously.  Have fun with your profile and post a picture where you are truly happy and having fun.

4.  Online dating is a fantastic way to keep your “Male BS” fine tuned.   Within moments of posting my profile I get an email from a guy.  Two paragraphs, well thought out.  Hysterical.  Dude sends out this message “en masse” to all the new females on line.  There is no way he could have written that and read my profile.  Lame.  The next morning I had an inbox full of it.  LOL.  And a few messages from potential dating candidates.  Emphasis on potential.

5.  Don’t be too available.  Within moments of posting my profile I got an IM from a man who wanted to chat with me.  We chatted for a bit, but I had other things to do (I was tired and wanted to veg in front of the TV) Remember to move to your own rhythm!  If you’re tired, need to work etc. do it, honey!

6.  Move to your own rhythm part 2:  The next morning my inbox was full of mail from men who wanted to chat with me.  I did not answer those emails until later that afternoon.  I had work to do, chores to do and some other fun things I wanted to do for me.  Don’t feel as though you need to answer those messages asap.  You don’t know these men.  There are other things in your life that are more imporant than men you don’t know.  They are your glue.  Stay glued and let the men earn more of your time.

7.  What is a beautiful girl like you doing on an online dating site?  Translation:  What’s wrong with you.  LOL.  Just laugh at this and change it around.  Roll your eyes and think “Why are you so special, hotpants?”  Don’t be angry or bratty about it.  Be amused.  Remember how Dolly Parton dealt with those obnoxious questions from Barbara Walters.   http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rBf5Y0KIUHk

8.  I’m pretty sassy dealing with these men.  But it’s all in fun.  I will use the word “Hotpants” when a guy is being obnoxious.  I’ll call them on their BS if I don’t like something they do or say.   Politely but playfully.   Then I sit back and watch their actions regarding this.  Actions are key. 

9.  A lot of men like to keep their options open.  Why not us?  May the best guy win.   A guy friend of mine (that’s a whole other story) was asking me about who I was dating.  Pumping me for information.  LOL.   He actually high fived me when he figured out I was keeping my options open.   (maybe because he knew his “option” might be opened?)

Does this sound like fun to you?  Being in control of your love life?  It’s a blast.  Below are a couple more blog posts to inspire your kick ass-ness!  Happy Hunting.  Love, Goddess

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1. Let a Man Chase You and Here’s How:  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/06/let-a-man-chase-you-heres-how/

2. What We Can Learn From Men’s Magazines: http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/06/what-you-can-learn-from-men-magazines/

3.  If you’re thinking about “him” too much:  Outrageous Fun: http://bitchlifestyle.com/2010/06/get-outrageous/

Would you like a hot, sexy shot of testosterone?  Rent The Magnificent Seven.  Seriously.  Even if you don’t like westerns.  The only reason I saw this movie is because I had to in a class.  And I wanted to skip that night.  I’m so glad I didn’t.  Not only was I blown away by this movie, but I had the chance to meet the man who created the music,  Mr. Elmer Bernstein.  After the movie he discussed creating the memorable music score and answered questions.  While watching the movie, I was mesmerized by the masculinity on screen.  You’ll learn a lot about men watching this film:

Synopsis:  A bandit terrorizes a small Mexican farming village each year. Several of the village elders send three of the farmers into the United States to search for gunmen to defend them. They end up with 7, each of whom comes for a different reason. They must prepare the town to repulse an army of over 100 bandits who will arrive wanting food.

1.  If a man likes you, he will try and impress you with his abilities to produce:  Chico is trying to impress a young woman with his tale of bravery.  She’s completely won him over.  You won’t find out how much until the end of the movie.

2.  Men work hard for us.  They are providers.  They want be heroes.  Charles Bronson plays O’Reilly who developes a fan following of young boys.  The boys are in awe of O’Reilly’s skill as a gunman.  One tells him that he thinks he is courageous, unlike his father.  O’Reilly slaps him for the disrespect and says:

“Don’t you ever say that again about your fathers, because they are not cowards. You think I am brave because I carry a gun; well, your fathers are much braver because they carry responsibility, for you, your brothers, your sisters, and your mothers. And this responsibility is like a big rock that weighs a ton. It bends and it twists them until finally it buries them under the ground. And there’s nobody says they have to do this. They do it because they love you, and because they want to. I have never had this kind of courage. Running a farm, working like a mule every day with no guarantee anything will ever come of it. This is bravery. That’s why I never even started anything like that… that’s why I never will.”

The next time you want to Bitch about the long hours your man works, think about this quote.  Appreciate your modern day hero.

3.  Men handle problems in an unemotional, stoic way.  The beyond sexy Steve McQueen plays Vin.  It’s near the end of the film.  To say they have reached a “snag” in their goal to protect the village is an understatement.  Here is the exchange between Vin and Yul Brynner who plays “Chris.”

Vin: You know the first time I took a job as a hired gun, fellow told me, “Vin, you can’t afford to care.” There’s your problem.
Chris: One thing I don’t need is somebody telling me my problem.
Vin: Like I said before, that’s your problem. You got involved in this village and the people in it.
Chris: Do you ever get tired of hearing yourself talk?
Vin: The reason I understand your problem so well is that I walked in the same trap myself. Yeah. First day we got here, I started thinking: Maybe I could put my gun away, settle down, get a little land, raise some cattle. Things that these people know about me be to my credit – wouldn’t work against me. I just didn’t want you to think you were the only sucker in town.

Men may act stoic while resolving a problem, but that doesn’t mean they don’t care.  Notice Chris gets annoyed when Vin states Chris’ problem.  The whole point of Vin pointing out the problem is he wanted Chris to know he wasn’t alone in caring.  They would fight on together.  Remember this in an argument.  It’s not about you.  It’s frustrating to a man when he can’t fix something.  So don’t lecture or push a man about a problem.  Support him and let him know you will be there with and for him.  You want a strong man?  You’ve got to be a strong women for him and that’s how.

Men want to be our heroes.  In our modern times things are a little different.  Men don’t have to learn to shoot a gun to save their families.  (Hoping!) Appreciate and support the men in your life.   Give them a hug, kiss and smile happily when you see them.  It will make their day.  Enjoy this movie.  It’s one of my favorites!  Love, Goddess

© S Stevens Life Strategies

Flirting with Colby

I’m working on adding video to the site.  I’ve been playing with a video plug in all day.   I resorted to a picture and a link this time.  But just you wait HTML land…I’m going to slay that tech fear and have video up here soon.  So let’s get to the juicy stuff! 

I’m not into Survivor unless Colby is on.  I started watching because I thought he was hot.  I kept watching because he kept his word, worked hard and stood by his decisions.  When things don’t work out he doesn’t make endless excuses.  He simply stands by his decisions, says he would do the same thing again, why and that’s it.  Mmmm…a man who says what he’s going to do, does it, and doesn’t whine.   Those qualities = Integrity.  Which is very yummy and sexy to me.  So click on the pink link above, “Flirting with Colby,”  listen to a Pro-Flirt and meet me back here for some fun.

I saw this video on the Survivor “Heroes vs. Villains” web site and loved it.  Pavarti is a villainess, but she totally gets how to flirt with men.  She’s playful and knows how to appeal to the male ego.  Yes, this is a game and there are loads of alterior motives to her flirting.  But the basic information she gives here is fantastic.  Let’s recap:

1.  Don’t throw yourself at men.  If a guy likes you, you’ll know.  And you don’t need to flash body parts to do it.

2.  She’s not impressed with Colby yet.  He’s done nothing to impress her.  She understands that men are producers and she’s waiting for him to produce. 

3.  She knows the ”Flirting 101 Rule:  Let the man come to you.”   Even though she admits he’s good looking (twice) she’s not going to throw herself at him like the other girls in the tribe.  Don’t be fooled by the Colby insult.  She wants the attention and he’s not giving it to her.   That’s her being a bit bratty about not getting the attention.  But…note that she says she is not going to budge on him coming to her.  We’ll see.

4.  Don’t compete openly over a guy.  Especially in front of the guy! 

Love, Goddess

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We were acting in a play together.  I’m friendly with everyone I meet.   I knew he didn’t like me.  He was flippant, impatient and gave me looks that said:  “You’re so full of it.  You aren’t sincere.”  But I was even more patient with him.  I wouldn’t let his attitude get me down.  We had scenes together and I wanted to make them work.  So despite being a jerk, I would smile and chat with him.   One night he said to me:

“You know…when I first met you I didn’t like you.  I thought your friendly nature was BS.  I was wrong.  You are a wonderful person.”

Wow, huh?  He has been a Prince to me since.  I’m lucky that I have met a real man—in a boys’ world.

That was years ago.  He has never forgotten my birthday, phones every Holiday and listens intently when I talk about my passions.  The first gift he gave me were DVDs of Buster Keaton, knowing I loved him as a comedian and filmmaker.  He has given me beautiful cards, music and even a crazy video (he admitted so) with a hot Rose McGowen on the cover because he thought she looked like me.   (Insert blush here)

Here’s the part that’s crappy of me.  Where I admit my non-appreciation.   I’ve only watched or listened to half the gifts he’s given me.   Again, what a brat.  He called to wish me a Happy Easter.  All I could think of was how I wasn’t worthy of his thoughtfulness.  What a hypocrite I was.  How many times had I been disappointed when I’d given friends thoughtful gifts?  Gifts they had forgotten I had given to them?  I’ve had people say to me:  “I finally read that book you gave me,”  “I haven’t listened to it yet,” etc.  It would really hurt.  I’d been doing the same thing to Kevin.

How can I expect someone to truly love and appreciate me when I don’t do the same in return?  Or worst, I do so “selectively” in return.  How many jerky guys have I adored that would forget important things to me like my birthday?  Or I would support them over and over and then when it was time for me they were no where to be found?  Worse, I would have to ask them to support me?  That was when I was a Brat.  Now that I’m a Bitch I can look what I’m doing wrong and fix it.  Make even more room in my life for those, like Kevin, who do things consistently to make me smile.

Have you done this in your life?  Are you too busy to slow down and appreciate the gifts people give you?  That was my excuse with Kevin.  No more.  Daniel is another wonderful man in my life.  A man who adores me.  And I’m really scared regarding him.  Is he the man that wins my heart?  I don’t know.  But fear is a future emotion, remember?  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/05/fear-is-a-future-emotion/

That isn’t the important thing right now.  I have to work harder at appreciating the men who adore me.  Fully.  Then…I can take in more.  Delicious more… 

Love, Goddess

© S Stevens Life Strategies

Related articles:

1.  Bitchy vs. Bratty:  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/08/bitchy-vs-bratty/

2.  Our Love Affair Day Two: http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/06/our-own-love-affair-day-two/

3.  Fear is a Future Emotion: http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/05/fear-is-a-future-emotion/

http://video.foxnews.com/v/4100904/talking-points-311#/v/4101742/how-to-get-him-to-call-you/?playlist_id=87249

Okay…did the process to get him to call you seem like a lot of work?  There were five steps in the video to get him to call you.  By doing these five steps you are doing all the work in dating or in the relationship.  If a guy truly likes you, he will call you.  They show the girl in the video waiting by the phone on her couch for his call.  When he finally calls,  she  jumps up and down like she just won the lottery!  Please… What sounds like more fun to you:  obsessing about a call that may never come or going out and enjoying life?  Find something anything that makes you feel good instead of waiting for a guy to call you.  Even when you are seriously dating.  Even when you are married!

So what’s my two word, one step answer to “How to get him to call you?” 

DO NOTHING.

These two words and ONE little step will save you so much time and frustration.  A guy who likes you will make time for you.  And please don’t count the late night booty call as a phone call.  These phone calls are just one thing: disrespectful.  Here’s how to deal with those: http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/08/how-not-to-be-late-night-booty-call-girl/ 

So there you go.   Now that I’ve diverted your attention away from those five steps in the video…think of all the fun you could be having!  Play dates with girlfriends, flirting with all the other guys around you, taking up a hobby, a bath, visiting a new town, state, store, etc.  Go out and live your passionate life.  The man who wants to talk to you might be right around the corner!  Need ideas?  Your wish puts a smile on my face.  Here you go:  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/10/fun-playful-and-slightly-outrageous-things-to-do-this-weekend/  The bonus to all this is:  When you are passionate about your life and your fun you are turned on.   And nothing is more attractive to a man!

Love, Goddess

© S Stevens Life Strategies

Related Reading:

Empowered Dating:  Mommy or Strong, Sexy Bitch?   http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/08/empowered-dating-mommy-or-strong-sexy-bitch/

Let a Man Chase You and Here’s How: http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/06/let-a-man-chase-you-heres-how/

Jason is a man that I have the pleasure of knowing.  He’s fun, playful, intelligent, creative and loves women.  The first time I met him I was in a particularly sassy and bitchy mood.   It’s not often I meet someone who can match me when I’m in full on Sassy Bitch mode.   He gave back just as good as I gave:  and I had so much fun!

He has been a gift for me and now I’m going to share him with you!  Every month he will share incite and answer questions for us.   Questions like:  How do I know a man likes me? or How do I get him to pop the question?  (You all know the answer to that one.  Don’t do anything and refer to:  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/06/let-a-man-chase-you-heres-how/ )  

Jason has the experience I want for the task.  He has been male all his life and he has done so with a huge and virile roar of masculinity.  Our common goal:  Creating the most delicious, playful and fun communication between men and women in the universe!  So…ladies, bitches:  What would you like to know about men?   From a man?   Email me your questions at:  goddesspower978@hotmail.com.   

Love, Goddess

© S Stevens Life Strategies

What can we learn about love from this music video?  A lot.  Here we go…

“You’ll make me work so we can work to work it out.  And I promise you kid, I give so much more than I get.   I just haven’t met you yet,”  he sings.

He just hasn’t met you yet.  In other words, ladies, bitches, hot ones.  He’s not ready to “work” at a relationship because he hasn’t met the right girl yet.  A lot of women may think “It’s me!  Pick me!  I’ll work with you!”  And it’s easy to say that if you are being bombarded by the romance in this music video.  And who is the ”right girl” he is singing about?  The right girl will see beyond the snappy beat, hot guy with the gorgeous voice and listen to what he is saying.  She’d be standing there amongst the confetti and all out band thinking…

“Nice words.  Back them up.” 

Because she will hear him singing about ”one day” and “someday” and think, I’m not Miss Right Now.  After the confetti settles, she’ll thank him for the song, give him a warm gorgeous smile and say “I’ve got to go.”  She’ll let him chase after her to get her phone number.  She’ll pull out her card and hand it to him.  Or not.  Her choice.  Why?  She is gauging his sincerity.  Then she’ll sit back and let him “work so we can work to work it out.”  Let him call, set up dates, show by his actions he likes her.  She won’t give herself up.  She’ll be aware.  Especially as the romance settles a bit and disagreements arise.   She’ll look for the strong man who is worthy of her heart.

“They say alls fair in love and war,”  he sings.  And he just declared it.  Are you ready to fight for your heart?

Yes, huge cliche. But this is your gorgeous heart, honey.  Make him earn it.  Let him show you he is a man and not a boy by his words and actions.  Follow through over time is what makes you hot.  (At least it does for me, LOL!)  Grand gestures like marching bands and confetti are nice.  Notice the little things he does…not just the over the top.  Does he treat you wonderfully?  Open doors for you, carry stuff for you and hug you just because?  

How about you?  Relationships go both ways.  Men are looking for a strong woman who appreciates him and who HE can count on, too.  Do you thank him for everything he does for you?  Even the stuff you don’t quite understand?  (None of this…he bought me a remote control when all I wanted was a rose)  Thank him for what he does.  Period.  When he shows you how the remote works, oooo over his “fixing things ability.”  One of the best things about men is that they fix things.  And he just gave you love by fixing your TV for you.  TVs are big things for guys.  By ooo-ing over him, you just gave your man his version of flowers.   Let’s be blunt.   Love is an action.  Give as good as you get.  If you’re whining over the lack of flowers and aren’t seeing what’s important,  maybe you aren’t ready to love.  Working to work it out works both ways.  Ask yourself a very important question.  Is your strong bitch ready for love or does your inner “brat” just “want” it?  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/08/bitchy-vs-bratty/ 

And remember the end of the video.  The beautiful girl in the video enters the store as he’s leaving, and he keeps walking.  It’s not about her looks.  Looks do not make a man work hard over the long term.  Initially yes, but it’s the strong woman who doesn’t tolerate disrespect from him that wins his heart.  It’s the woman who fights right back by not giving herself, her friends or interests up just to be with him.  And who is that strong, loving woman?  YOU.  Love, Goddess

© S Stevens Life Strategies

“I love it when people doubt me.”  Rodney Harrison.   I absolutely love this quote.  It’s inspiring and blunt.  When I get a smidgen of doubt, I glance at this quote in my office.  I remember when I first heard the quote.  Rodney Harrison was a football player on  The New England Patriots and had sustained a “career ending injury.”  Doctors, friends, family and the press were all telling him it was over.  But he still wanted to play.  He wasn’t ready to retire.  His passion for playing football was full throttle.  So he worked his (might I say very cute) butt off to get back on the football field. 

And Mr. Harrison did.  He got back on the football field and played two more seasons.  He recently retired and is a commentator on NBCs Sunday Night Football.  While at New England, he was a fiery, passionate and motivating leader on the team.  And I learned a lot from listening and watching him during his years as a New England Patriot.   Thank you Mr. Harrison for your inspiring strength and leadership.  For teaching me to look fear and doubt in the face and go for my passions.  For teaching me how to inspire those I’m leading.  You taught me that whatever wall is thrown up before me I must break through it to learn, grow and get to the next level of success. 

So who inspires you?  Is there a quote that makes you sit up straighter and continue?  A picture?  An inspiring story from your own life or a book/movie?  Let’s all take a moment and bask in that inspiration.  Thank you thank you!  Then look fear and doubt in the face, smile at it and blow it a sassy good-bye kiss!

Love, Goddess

© S Stevens Life Strategies

You’ve been dating steadily for a few months.  You’re having fun and getting closer.  And then you say it.  You give your man a term of endearment, like “honey,” or “baby.”  He says nothing.  Or worse, he gets a panic stricken look on his face.  Not what you expected.  Fun times cease to exist.  LOL.  So what is that about, ladies?  In this post we are going to answer 2 important questions. 

1.  Why did he panic when I gave him an endearment like ”honey” or “baby?”

2.  Why am I upset about this?

Let’s take number 2 first.  And let’s agree that we get upset.  We react emotionally. On the outside we may be calm, but our emotions on the inside are going haywire.  We feel put off when a man we just gave affection to seems to rebuff that affection.  And that’s completely feminine and perfect.  Except, that we are responding to the situation as a female.  We aren’t thinking from the male perspective.  We are responding as a female, and he is responding as a male.  We’re both responding according to our own unique female or male nature.   So let’s break down each “nature.”

“Female Nature.”  The reason why we get upset: when a guy calls us “honey” or “baby” and we kinda like him but don’t want to get any more serious, we freak out a bit, and say to ourselves, “well, he’s a great guy and all, but I don’t think I want it to go any further.”  So when the situation is reversed, and the male reacts that way, we think…oh he doesn’t really like me that much.  How many of you have been here?  I have, LOL!

“Male Nature.”  Is processing.  The reason why he is reacting this way is…he’s just realized he cares about you, too!  There is huge feeling going on and now he realizes he is vulnerable and could get hurt.   It’s a lot for him and he may need a moment…or a day or two to catch up. 

So what do we do?  We let him catch up and stop thinking this is about us.  And it’s hard!  We’re female and react in a feminine way.  How easy is it for us to walk around telling those we love “we love you!”  “See you later…love you!”  “I miss you and love you!”  Hug and kisses blown.  Very feminine.  Yay us.  Men don’t do this activity as much.  Have you noticed?  LOL.  So when men tell you they care and or they love you it’s HUGE!  Remember, men demonstrate their devotion to you through actions.  Yay them.  When they say they care, it’s HUGE.  So lets cut them a little slack, work against our very feminine nature and try to understand his male nature.  Play with this and make it no big deal.  

But Goddess…he should try and understand where I’m coming from!  Please. (that was sarcasm)  Love is action.  If you are caught up in ”what he should be doing for me” that is bratty and that is all about you.  Are you Miss Perfect all the time?  Do you want to be loved for who you are?  Do you want to be loved when you are at your worst?  This is where it starts.  If this is a man who has been showing you he cares through his actions, give back to him in a big way.  Understand his male nature and don’t take things he does so personally.   There is another person in the relationship.  Him.  And he doesn’t want to get hurt either.  This is a very vulnerable time for him.  Respect it by letting him process that he cares for you.

I love the song “High Enough” by Damn Yankees.  It deals with this very subject.  The song is about a male panic attack when his girl called him “baby.” And it’s so sweet.  He admits he made a mistake and didn’t know what to say. Then he asks her to “take him higher” in the relationship.   Listen and enjoy.  Play this song if you get this kind of reaction from a man who cares about you.  Smile at your “female nature.”  Think about how cute you are for reacting emotionally.  Rememember the “male nature,” and don’t take his reaction too personally.  And…by doing that…watch him move closer to you!  I would love to hear any experiences you’ve had regarding this subject.  With love laughter and a big hug, Goddess

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Baby Boy: “My Mommy feeds me, burps me, cleans up after me, changes my clothes and wipes my butt. I love my Mommy.”
Baby Girl: (To herself ) “So that’s how it starts.”

LOL!

The Should I or Should I not call Scenario. I’m so over it. But this is a game with men. And it’s a game that has been dramatized by our society. And it benefits the men. There’s even a movie about it: “He’s Just Not That Into You.” I won’t replay the whole thing. Everyone knows it. What’s important to know that it’s a game. Created by him to see how much you like him. Do you want to let him keep control of this little game or do you want to take control back? Right now you can establish yourself as:

1. His Mommy: Where you do all the work and he sits back, waiting for you to wipe his butt.
2. His Strong Sexy Bitch: The woman who lets him come to her. The sexy, successful woman who really doesn’t care about his butt (except how it looks in jeans). She’s really not all that impressed with his words. She sees if he’s worthy of her affections through his “actions” toward her.

You deserve a man who will do what he “says” he’s going to do. His words to you are backed up by thoughtful actions. And it’s important to establish this at the onset of any sort of “relationship.” Or he will think he can walk all over you. I once had a guy ask me to inspect a truck for him that he was thinking about buying. I wasn’t even his girlfriend and we hadn’t been seeing much of each other. No freakin’ way. If we were married, absolutely. If you have a single guy in your life who is asking you to do things like this for him, it isn’t about the task he’s asking you to do. He’s seeing how hard you’ll work for him. So this is how we proceed with the “Should I Call” scenario:

1. He makes a statement. “I’ll call you.” (Words)
2. You go on enjoying your fabulous life: friends, career, family, other potential love interests, etc.
3. He picks up the phone and dials your digits. (Action)
4. You can pick up if you want to or let him leave a message. (It’s your choice)

Remember if you are in the middle of something (eating, sleeping, working, painting your nails) and he calls, don’t stop.  Move to your own groove.  Call him back when it’s convenient for you.  If they don’t call, see if the next man will back up his words with actions. Period. End of story. When they do call…be happy to hear from them. Share bits and pieces of your exciting life with him. Let HIM bring up the possibility of a date with delicious little you.

And you…you sexy hot amazing intelligent thing…are SO worth it!

With love, play and laughter, Goddess