The truth will set you free. But first, it will piss you off. – Gloria Steinem
I was thinking about conspiracy theories today over morning coffee. I had a disturbing thought. Conspiracy theories are everywhere! Then I started to think about truth. How sometimes we refuse to see the truth. How we turn truth into something else so we can go in denial about it. Because we don’t like the truth. Which is definitely our Brat. Then how continued denial makes us unhappy. Which is so very Drama Queen. Light thoughts over early morning coffee, no? So I thought it might be useful to use some humor with this subject so we can face the truth, apply action and move on.
We do this in relationships ALL the time. We don’t SEE the truth right in front of us and deal with it. Examples:
- He doesn’t call unless he wants something from you (like sex). Truth: He likes to hop on when he’s horny. Conspiracy Theory: The sex is so good! We have so much chemistry together! He only calls me when he wants sex because he is so busy, he is scared to commit and he doesn’t want his wife to know!
- He is late for a date and doesn’t call. Truth: He is being rude. Conspiracy Theory: Why isn’t he calling me? Oh I hope something hasn’t happened to him. Why? I’m angry and pissed off. He shouldn’t act this way. I know we are just having sex and not committed or anything but it’s just because he is scared! I know that he does truly love me and the chemistry is so perfect! He is so perfect!
- He breaks off with you. Truth: It’s over. Conspiracy Theory: He can’t possibly not want to see me. It was so good! We had so much chemistry! I love him! He is just scared! I have to make him come back and love me or his life will be ruined. No one is as good as me.
- He flirts with other women around you. Truth: He is being rude. Conspiracy Theory: That Bitch. It’s all her fault. She is skanky and I know she has some venereal disease. I have to let everyone know on Facebook so I and all my friends and friends of friends can talk about what a skank she is.
LOL. Not seeing and dealing with the truth can sink us into an unhealthy depression. Or an unhealthy focus. The bottom line is so simple and yet we make excuses and create drama and depression to avoid the truth. Truth: He was rude. Solution: Call him on it.
This works in life too:
- Your Boss wants you to do A, B and C. Truth: Things need to get done. Conspiracy Theory: My boss hates me. My boss has a miserable home life, crappy dating situation and dresses poorly. He/She has no idea how to lead and I need a new job.
- Travel is delayed. Truth: There is nothing you can do about it. Find a way to relax. Conspiracy Theory: You whine, moan and stew about all the difficulties. How the airlines are all screwed up…they should have stopped the tornado!
- You don’t live within your means and are in debt. Truth: Make a budget and stick to it. Conspiracy Theory: I don’t need to save. I need the new sparkly iPhone case! I’ll find a man to pay for all this stuff when I get married. (I have really gotten that one…multiple times!)
- Interim job while you achieve your goals. Truth: I’ll find a way to have fun with it so I can move on to my next goal! Conspiracy Theory: I hate my job. This is so beneath me. I don’t care if it provides me stability. I shouldn’t have to do this work. I should have my own company and everyone I meet is against me in that goal. Oh…here comes that SOB that has it in for me right now…
See how these little conspiracies we develop in our minds serve our depression? Our Brats and Drama Queens love this! They love it because conspiracy theories justify our depression over things. What we need to do is laugh a bit more and then face the truth. Because a lot of depression can be resolved by facing the truth, taking action and laughing a bit more. Love, Goddess
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