Divorce depression…how do we remove the drama?
Divorce is one of the most difficult, emotionally charged and draining life events to deal with. Break ups with boyfriends are emotionally tough but divorce really ups the ante! You’ve planned a life with someone because you believed heart and soul that you found your soul mate. Then you lose them. Why would not be in the throes of divorce depression?
I’ve had many women clients who are going through this very thing. They come to me when they have realized they have lost who they are. They want to get passed the pain and stress of divorce depression and re-discover themselves! They don’t know how and they have little time. They have careers, responsibilities and possibly children. What they need is to stop for a few moments and start taking care of themselves, no guilt, so they can take care of everything else. They need to heal and don’t know how to feel good again. I really and truly believe that life events like this must be mourned. For us to take every drop of emotion we have about it and let it out. Cry until we are exhausted, rage until we collapse, sleep until we are no longer spent. When we give ourselves permission to feel it instead of pushing emotion away, then we begin to heal.
“You’ve got to feel it to heal it.” Dr. Christiane Northrup
I’ll never forget the first time I read that quote. The world slowed down to a stand still. Me…Miss Push Everything Aside and deal with the next thing just stopped everything. When I was in my very early twenties I got hurt by several people whom I thought were friends. I remembered thinking to myself, well, that’s it. I’m not going to let anyone or anything hurt me ever again. And I got so good at it. For years nothing. I would never give anyone the satisfaction of hurting me again. Great, right?
When I read that quote I realized I had gone to sleep all those years ago. I needed to wake up from my own protective advice! Advice I took on to save myself from hurting. I needed to wake up and start LIVING again. The quote woke me up…but how was I ever to stay awake and deal with painful things in a mature way? This led me to some important questions. How do I fall apart in a structured way so I can pick up the pieces of my life and start to live again? Why were we given emotions to only push them away? We aren’t robots, right? What is the use in us being robots?
Life is full of rituals that we celebrate. Births, Graduations, Birthdays, Weddings. We have rituals from the simple to the extraordinary to celebrate. Why don’t we have something for lifes’ non-celebrations? A way to let go, release and heal. We must honor all these passages in our lives. The good and the bad. Women are vibrant, emotional beings. We must live through our emotions so we can find the truths that they hide. Not only so we heal ourselves, but so we learn and don’t make similar mistakes again. Like choosing the wrong guy! Does this sound amazing to you? The release and clarity we receive is cathartic in our growth process. And I’ve put it all in this course: Re-Awakening There is absolutely no judgement. We will immerse ourselves into our emotions and I will give you key tools that will awaken your spirit. Tools that will help keep you focused and alive even while dealing with challenges that we face in life! Help move us from divorce depression into celebration. It works with relationship depression too. Are you ready? Email me so we can get started! firstname.lastname@example.org
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