If you haven’t read my blog “Embrace your Sexual Organs,” please read that first. It’s so important to Embrace our Sexual Organs Part 2. Thank you! Here we go with Part 2: Have you ever wondered why a guy can be so “rough” and isn’t into the soft and tender lovemaking that woman adore? Did you know there is a scientific and biological reason behind our sensitivity?
A woman has roughly 8000 nerve endings on her clitoris. A man has roughly HALF that on his penis.
Yup. Women are blessed with double the fun and feeling! Yay! I found this information during my own celebration for my sexual organs. It’s from a wonderful book called “Extended Massive Orgasm” by Drs. Vera and Steve Bodansky. Extended Massive Orgasm Ready for a little…ahem…mind-blower from the book?
“The clitoris is here to have a good time. It is the center of all orgasm (in spite of what Dr. Freud thought). Its only function is to experience exquisitely pleasurable sensations. The only other organ whose sole function is pleasure is the male nipple, and they are not in the same league. More nerves fill the clitoris that fill the head of the penis: approximately eight thousand nerves, about twice as many as the penis has. This is particularly amazing since the clitoris’s only function is pleasure, while the penis has other functions: urination and impregnation. About fifteen thousand nerve fibers, all told, service a woman’s pelvis.”
Whenever I’ve told this to my male friends, most are genuinely surprised. They have no clue we have this many nerve endings to…can’t help it…”play with.” A lot of my female friends don’t know either. So how is a man supposed to know how to please us if we aren’t aware of all the power we possess? If our sexual organs aren’t given proper names, etc?
It’s up to us. Pure and simple. A man knows what he has to do personally to have an orgasm. He, in his “uniformed” way, is doing what he thinks is the right thing in order to please us. He has no idea what 8000 nerve endings feel like. It’s up to us to KNOW what turns us on, and to communicate communicate communicate. We can’t use anger. A loving, caring man just wants to please us. It’s up to us to toss away the years of frustration (if we have it) and not take it out on him. We take control by being proactive in our own pleasure, ridding our bodies of “man” frustration (kick boxing anyone?) and then communicating our needs back in a way he understands. (see my communicating in a mans’ language blog)
If you have a partner that is gentle and listens…thank him! He had a wonderful teacher and you have HER to thank! If not…talk to your partner. Don’t judge him. Tell him what you just discovered. Buy Vera and Steve’s book and read it together. If you’re single, the book is just as helpful. There are exercises for the single as well as the paired.
There is so much in this subject we will explore together. I would really love to know if you knew this mind-blowing biological fact about your clitoris. You can email me privately at firstname.lastname@example.org.
So in review:
1. Please enjoy my “Embrace Your Sexual Organs” blog.
2. Celebrate your gorgeous sexual organs and all they do.
3. Research. Study the book by the Bodansky’s, and embrace the sensual part of you. Extended Massive Orgasm