Every Girls Dream?

Clip from the movie “Dangerous Beauty,” based loosely on Veronica Franco and her life.  From the You Tube JackieP17402

Every Girls Dream?  Can you imagine getting PAID to talk?  Can you imagine having a conversation style that is so enchanting, so fun, entertaining and oh so challenging that you were paid for it? Veronica Franco was.  In 1546 Venice a woman didn’t “need” to be educated.  From the Book of the Courtesans:  ” Not only was she (Veronica Franco) bright but she was also educated, an accomplishment rare among the women of her time, when out of any given hundred women in the city, fewer than 10 knew how to read, and of these, less than four had received any public schooling. ”   Veronica was born to a family of “citiadini originari,” or working class citizens.  Only the sons would have received an education. Veronica had a choice.  The limitations of which may concern women today:

1.  Marry and re-produce.

2.  Say “Ciao” to marriage and pursue her true passion:  Education.  The catch?  She was to become a Courtesan.

When Veronica chose #2, she was allowed to go to the libraries of Venice and read to her hearts’ content.  To educate herself in philosophy, the “isms,” religion, literature, history and poetry.  You see, the reason why a Courtesan was permitted to learn was so she could bring pleasure to the men who paid for her.  Veronica’s passion toward learning usurped the pleasures her body could give to men (don’t get me wrong…men enjoyed both) but she was able to embrace her passion, give herself pleasure while still enduring the downside to being a young woman in the Venice of her day.

“When we too are armed and trained, we can convince men that we have hands, feet, and a heart like yours; and although we may be delicate and soft, some men who are delicate are also strong; and others, coarse and harsh, are cowards. Women have not yet realized this, for if they should decide to do so, they would be able to fight you until death; and to prove that I speak the truth, amongst so many women, I will be the first to act, setting an example for them to follow.  —Veronica Franco 1546-1591”

And so she did…men flocked to her to challenge them intellectually.

We are SO much luckier than Veronica because we have the freedom to choose to do whatever we want.  Veronica accomplished much with little choice.  We all have a gorgeous brain and passions that light us up.  Can you imagine the fun we can have if we indulge ourselves in them and learn how to communicate in an enthusiastic and passionate manner? Intelligent conversation can be tough in our Facebook, Text and Twitter world.   So let the story of the stimulating Veronica Franco spur your passions…and your ability to charm and draw in people with conversation.  Here are some ideas:

  1. Read something you never thought you would.  Go to the library and explore.  Take out a bunch of books and lounge while you explore new ideas, events and activities.
  2. What successful person do you think has a beautiful voice and amazing conversational skills?  Who do you enjoy watching on talk shows that draw you in?  Study and learn from them. Put your own personal spin on the qualities that YOU find inspiring.
  3. Discover something that is not “popular right now.”  Pop culture is complete escapism.  Yes, we all need to escape, but consider spending less time on pop culture and something that can enrich you.  Like a financial, cooking or art class.
  4. Go to a museum.  Discover which artists are you favorites.  Study WHY.  Be able to communicate why in an enchanting manner.
  5. Open your vocabulary.  Crosswords, scrabble with friends party, subscribe to the “word of the day.”
  6. When you are doing all this new discovery, keep an open mind.   Very hard to do when there is opinion everywhere!  Discover and enjoy without influence.

And please oh please share with us your conversational journey!  Love, Goddess

Suggested Research:

  1. Poems and Selected Letters, Veronica Franco
  2. The Honest Courtesan  A biography of Veronica Franco
  3. Dangerous Beauty The full length movie from above
  4. Bitch Lifestyle Home

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