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Valentines Day Special

Forget him and fall in love with you.  The Sassy Bitches’ Way!

How wrong it is for a woman to expect the man to build the world she wants, rather than to create it herself.  Anais Nin

Love it!  We will go over the keys that will help you get on the path to unleashing your Confident Sassy Bitch.  3 Week Valentine Special includes:

• A one hour private coaching session with me each week via telephone and follow-up emails. 
• Fun & empowering homework with sassy tips & hints to help keep you inspired & motivated.

Oh, and one more thing.  If you sign up by midnight on Saturday February 4, 2012?  I’m taking 25% off the price of this three-week coaching module with me.

Regular price of the program is $450.00.  Promotion price through Saturday February 4, 2012 is $337.00.  Program requires payment in advance through secure PayPal. 

If you are interested send me an email:  Goddesspower978@hotmail.com

Your blog empowered me to dump my current boyfriend.  Thank you!  Stefanie

I love how you empower women to be strong, confident and wise.  Your blog is really inspiring me to live that “Bitch Lifestyle.”  Thanks Necarrus 

Love, Goddess

© S Stevens Life Strategies

***Gorgeous Pink Heart is available at the web site World Images:  http://www.worldimages.com/KidsRoom_Girl_Hearts.php

Gorgeous Art Work can be downloaded at YouToArt.com:   http://www.youtoart.com/index.html

Falling in Love Key:  Dating Yourself.  If you don’t want to date yourself…how do you expect anyone else to want to?  So for the next few weeks every time you leave the house you’re going on a fabulous date.  With yourself.  I don’t care if you’re going out to pump gas.  It’s the best pumping you’ve ever gotten.  I know…naughty metaphor.  Make everything you do a fun, kick ass sassy date, Bitch!  Yeah…it’s winter.   Yeah…it’s cold.  Yeah…sometimes you just want to cuddle up with your lap top.  I get it and want to do that too.  You have to get out though and play.  Even after a long day of work.  Looking for someone to love besides yourself?  Get out and play, then!

1. Get out of the house.  If you’re healing from a break up, anywhere will do.  If you’re feeling more adventurous, join a club, take a class, search the local entertainment papers for something, anything to do!
2. Step out in style.  Make the effort to look your best.  Fave outfit, fun make-up, hot shoes and accessories.
3. Own your walk.  When you walk into a room, store, anywhere, enter with confidence.  Make up something to say that makes you feel good:  “Hope you all are ready.  Cuz’ here I come!”
4. Ooze happiness.  When you’re getting ready to “step out in style,” play your favorite music, take a few minutes to slow down and get excited about discovering and meeting new people.
5. Be aware of your body language.  Don’t slouch.  Hold your head up high.  Stand up straight.  LOOK lively.
6. Try, if you’re up to it, to get a man’s attention with your smile.  Or make eye contact then give him the gift of a dazzling smile from hot little you.
7. Spark spontaneous conversation.  Be warm, open and friendly.
8. Make a man feel good.  Feel important.  With sincerity!
9. Bitch it Up and make this a one day a week affair with a wonderful girlfriend.
10. Slow down and savor touch.  If you’re out shopping, seek out different textures and materials.  Caress the material with your fingertips.  Enjoy the touch.  Purchase only that which feels incredible on your beautiful skin.  Your skin is so worth it!
11. Give yourself flowers at least ONCE during these weeks.
12. No expectations.  Don’t over think it.   Enjoy being in the moment!

So what are your favorite ways to get out of the house and create a little fun?  Please share on our Facebook Bitch Lifestyle page.  https://www.facebook.com/pages/Bitch-Lifestyle/205875411841  Love, Goddess

© S Stevens Life Strategies

The Wen Hair Care commercial.

Sucks me in every time!  One time a girlfriend, Suzana and I, were on a girls’ overnight and we stayed in the hotel room watching that darn commercial.  Both of us mesmerized by the hair transformations.  Both of us talking about how much we wanted to try it.  Blissfully wishing for THAT kind of hair.  So finally, as a Christmas present to myself, I bought the introductory kit.  Here’s what I learned:

The Good:

1.  I got the Almond Mint…which really does smell wonderful!
2.  I loved how the mint made my scalp tingle.
3.  I loved the extra pampering time it took.  The directions wanted you to work the product into your hair throughout the shower.
4.  I thought the kit itself, for $29 + change was a good value.  You get to try a lot of things (what girl doesn’t love that!)  and the comb is cool.

The Bad:

1. You have no idea how bummed I was when Wen didn’t work on my hair!  For those of you who have seen my Facebook photo, you know I have A LOT of hair.  https://www.facebook.com/pages/Bitch-Lifestyle/205875411841  My hair was done by a stylist for that photo because my hair is THE definition of curly, frizzy, thick and unruly hair.  I used Wen exactly as the directions said.  For 2 weeks.  I had to stop because my hair kept getting frizzier.  Not good with my wild hair.
2. You have to use a lot of product each time you use it.  Even if you have short hair you have to separate your hair into 4 sections and then use 3-5 pumps of cleanser in each section.
3. In order to get the starter kit, you have to sign up to be on their “membership renewal program.”  Which means they have your credit card number and send you more every few months for a discounted price.  In order to cancel, you have to call them.  Which means you’re going to have to deal with the hard sell by an associate when you do.  Unless of course, you’re a Sassy Bitch. 

You know what feels just like Wen, minus the tingle in drugstores?  TRESemme’ conditioner.  I use that all the time and love it.  Now…and into the future I’m going to take the pampering aspect of Wen and use it when I’m conditioning my hair.  Work the product into the hair and massage.  So really, I got something cool when I ordered Wen.  A new way to slow down and enjoy myself in the shower.  Thank you, Wen!  Love, Goddess

© S Stevens Life Strategies

Careful of the Pussy’s hiss!  From the fab blog:  Iva Messy   http://www.ivamessy.com/2009/07/men-and-women-annoying-habits.html

There’s something that men do that can be SO annoying to us women.  It’s when we, as women, are talking about one of our dearest passions, and a man starts giving us crap and poking fun at us about it.  So what’s that all about, Bitch?

Attention.

They like you.  They want attention from you.  Unfortunately, they’re going about it the wrong way.  A lot of us women don’t really dig that.   It can get our panties in a bunch.  Here we are, all excited about our passion, and he’s dissing us, teasing us and we just want to smack him.   So what do we do about this, Sassy Bitches?

Play our cute, curvaceous butts off about it!  We take our studies from ”You’ve Been Sassed,” http://bitchlifestyle.com/2012/01/youve-been-sassed/  and Bitch it up.     We not only call them on their crap and use their own words to do it, we do it all sassy and playful.  Why?  Because you know you can play his own “game” (more on that in a bit) *** and relish the fun challenge he’s presenting you with.  Because remember, men love a challenge.  Can he handle the challenge of hot little you?  (God…he hopes so!)  An example from my life today:

My friend J calls me.  We have things to discuss regarding a project we’re working on together.  All goes well and we end the phone conversation.  We hang up.  He IMMEDIATELY calls again.  I pick up.  Here is part of our conversation:

J:  Sharon, I was just calling you to tell you “Go Giants!”

Me:  Now you know the only reason you’re telling me that is to push my buttons.  Football is one of my passions.  (He had started the day before on me.  This time using the Ravens.  And I knew he was calling me back to give me crap about my deep passion for Patriots football)

J:  Don’t be so sensitive, Sharon.  It’s just an opinion I have.  Football isn’t a really important thing.

Me:  Oh no.  (really playfully)  Like for me I don’t understand why people meditate.  I think it’s for people with way too much time on their hands.  Just my opinion.

J got irritated.  Score a big one for the Sassy Bitch.  A few more words and then the conversation changed.  Why?  J is really into meditation.  I like it too.  The point is, HE has this passion for meditation and I used that to call him on his crap.  Used his own words against him.  So playfully fun, too.  Bitch won because he DROPPED it.

So why wasn’t I mad?  No reason to be.  This is how guys talk to each other.  You ever notice how much crap they give each other?  They respect the person who gives it back to them and don’t lie down and take it!   So it actually is a playful game *** they are “playing” with you and you are just  ”playing” back.  You just can’t let it piss you off (kick box it out!)  and play back.  That is the sort of play they understand.  Got it?

Now get in there and play back with those scoundrels who are just craving your attention.  Sassy wink!   Love, Goddess

© S Stevens Life Strategies

Glamorous picture of Audrey Hepburn from the blog V State:  http://vstateclothing.com/may-6th-v-state-ladies-night/

The word  “glamour” originates from the ancient term necromancy-the harnessing of supernatural force.  Yeah…hot!  And at your fingertips.  Any woman can turn her glamour on.  Whenever she wants to.

“Enjoy the fact that you’re a woman and men will enjoy it too.”  Marilyn Monroe.

I love that quote!  So today at Bitch University I’m going to give you glamorous tips from some of the most magnetic women that ever lived.  Why do this?  Because it keeps away The Drama Queen Brat.  The Drama Queen Brat craves attention.  When she doesn’t get it she may start to do obnoxious things.  Like text a guy 40 times a day or moan about all she doesn’t have and drain the energy of all those around her.  By giving attention to things that make you feel beautiful and playful, she is getting attention.  A part of you wants attention and by enjoying being a woman and playing with glamour, you get attention in a constructive, fun way!   Do one a day.  Or two.  As many as you want.  Add a touch of glamour a day and see how it makes you feel.  This is taking power away from your Brat.   This will help harness that supernatural force deep inside you.  The Strong, Sexy, Confident Bitch.

1. Gwen Stefani loves watching old movies.  She’ll see something she loves-like a leopard print and decide to wear it the next day.  Add a little leopard print to your life.  Scarf, shoes, a hot skirt.
2. Sophia Loren loves pasta.  Savor a bowl no guilt like she does.
3. Love your body like Mae West did.  “I never worry about diets.  The only carrots I’m interested in are the number in a diamond.”
4. Create your own fashion trademark. Something that you love to consistently wear.  Is it smokey eyes?  Flowers always in your home?  The way you wear your hair?  A blingy ring?
5. Laughing at yourself makes you very adorable and charming.
6. Enjoy your voice.  Speak clearly and take your time.  This draws people in.
7. Take the time to groom your eyebrows.  Fill them in and brush them.  They frame your eyes-the mirrors to your soul!
8. Red lipstick has been a quick way to glamour forever!  Cleopatra used red lipstick to lure Caesar.  Find your perfect shade and work it.
9. Brush glitter on your cleavage.
10. Wear only your favorite perfume to bed.
11. Put a huge bouquet of the most glamorous flowers by your bed.
12. Movie star Greer Garson used to rinse her hair in champagne.  She would not rinse it out.  This made her feel incredibly pampered.
13. Try on the absolute sexiest heels you can find.  Manolos, Louboutins.  Admire your legs in the shoes in a mirror.
14. Make your entrance.  Even in the grocery store.  Think up a fun little thing to say in your mind…like a mantra as you enter.  “I’m the sexiest woman on the planet.”  Practice everywhere.
15. Note your posture.  Walk tall and don’t slouch.  Walk with purpose or a with a subtle, sensual shift of your hips.  Slow down.  Enjoy walking.
16. The next time you’re at a restaurant, order the sexiest, naughtiest, glamorous sounding cocktail and savor it.
17. Turn your bedroom into a boudoir.  Google for tips.

Please share your glamour ideas on here and on our Facebook!  https://www.facebook.com/pages/Bitch-Lifestyle/205875411841  Get in there and play!  Class dismissed.  Love, Goddess

© S Stevens Life Strategies

Please…please try and pull something over on me…***

Sign you’re a Sassy Bitch:  You absolutely relish calling people on their crap in a calm and unemotional way.  True Bitches know why.

And it is so fun.  It goes like this:

1. Someone screws you or does something that doesn’t fly with you.
2. You call them on it.  Politely.  Calmly and in a bottom line type way.  And it feels soooo good.

Why are you able to do this?  Because you have noticed and taken note of someones’ actions and let them hang themselves on their own rope.  You know why I tell you to watch Judge Judy?  Because that Sassy Bitch does it all the time.   She reads the statements by the complainant and defendant.   You do not want to be the one she talks to the most.  She has found the “gotcha” in their statement and like a brilliant lawyer in her groove, is settin’ em’ up for the fall.  Yeah…she gets mean.  Yeah…she yells at them. That’s her schtick.  Think of how much power you have when you learn how to do this in a calm and bottom line type of way.  Looking them straight in the eye.  This is power.  This scares a lot of people.  It’ll scare them right out of your life or into not wanting to be called on their crap again.  Because, like they are ”a scared.”  Sassy Wink.   I’d much rather be a Scary In Control Bitch than a doormat.  And YOU?

So get in there and work your assignments, Sassy Bitch!

1. Listen to a persons’ words with a healthy dose of skepticism.
2. Watch their actions.  Do they produce?  Do they back up their words with action?  Beware statements like “I should be there.”  “Should” implies a huge probability of a no show or tardiness.  This should be noted by you!
3. If they don’t back up their words with action, take notes.  Watch how people like Judge Judy set people up with their own words.  This is a classic:  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nzGOJJmrPNo
4. Listen and practice practice practice!

This takes time to learn and do.  That’s what you do at Bitch University.  Learn and do.  Mistakes are always a step in the right direction.  As long as you see the mistake, make conscious steps to learn from and correct them, and keep on keeping on.  Class dismissed.  Love, Goddess

*** Gorgeous picture of Lauren Bacall from the FAB web site  Let Them Eat Cup Cake:  http://let-them-eat-cup-cake.blogspot.com/2011/02/i-love-me-classy-sassy-woman.html

Private Coaching available. For more information: http://bitchlifestyle.com/private-coaching/

© S Stevens Life Strategies

Love, Goddess

© S Stevens Life Strategies

You can relax with this crossword puzzle from The Pregnancy Calendar:   http://www.linholm.com/pregnancy_info/freebies/puzzle.html

When someone asks a Sassy Bitch what’s new she wouldn’t be caught dead saying “Not much.”

Sometimes we don’t think what is going on in our lives is very exciting.  And sometimes, yes, day to-day life doesn’t seem that exciting.  Or is it?  Every single day we, as Sassy Bitches, are working toward something.  Something fulfilling and amazing.  For US.  Sometimes these things take more than one step.  We’re still working toward our fulfillment.  So get passionate about that!  Sell that to the world!  Be proud of your dreams, passions, goals, discoveries.

Sometimes just the fact that we had a chance to pamper ourselves a bit is WAY exciting.  LOL.  Or relaxing for just a moment is a slice of heaven.  Be passionate and appreciative about that.  Share those moments of heaven and sell it to whoever is asking.  That passion and enjoyment is infectious.  So even if that Sassy Bitch is just thrilled with her new beef stew recipe and you hate beef stew?  Bitch has passion for the cooking.  The creating.  The process.  The love she puts into it will bring enjoyment to all those who get to savor her passion.  Even those who may not find it thrilling.

Are you proud of your passions?  Do you find yourself not talking about them because they don’t seem as exciting as some things?  Is your hobby crafting and your best friends’ is sky diving?  Who gives a whoop.  Embrace your passions, or find and cherish them.  That which is exciting to you will rock your world.  And you will rock those whom you encounter.

I love crossword puzzles.  Especially the huge challenging Sunday crossword puzzles!  Is that a passion?  Yeah.  Is it one of my more exciting ones to a lot of people?  Nah.  I can totally understand why a lot of people would find the thought of sitting around doing a crossword puzzle boring.  I love it.  I pour myself a nice glass of wine, get ready for bed, sink into my pillows and start solving.  Sometimes I don’t do very well.  Other times I rock that puzzle.  I love it because it satisfies my need to slow down and my need to keep thinking.  It turns my intellectual side on.

So your assignment today is to embrace your ‘less than exciting” “what’s new.”  If someone ask you what is new in your life remember your everyday passions.  Take pride in them.  Allow yourself to ooze with happiness over them.   Every time you take a moment to savor and love even the smallest passion without excuse, it makes you stronger, happier and charismatic.  A true Sassy Bitch can make watching paint dry fun!  Love, Goddess

© S Stevens Life Strategies

Picture from the web site Water Encyclopedia:   http://www.waterencyclopedia.com/Oc-Po/Oceans-Tropical.html

I’m swimming in lush, warm tropical waters.  Completely in the moment.  Relishing the feel of the water caressing my skin, the lapping of the waves, the sun warming my face.  Nothing could be more perfect, right?  I open my eyes and see the most gorgeous man off in the distance.  The definition of hot.  We make eye contact.  I smile then go back to my swimming.  A few minutes later we make eye contact again.  I let him hold my gaze  for a few minutes longer.  He flashes back a huge smile.  He knows he’s hot, yeah.  I’m way hotter…The Sassy Bitch.

He swims toward me and we start flirting.   Swimming around each other in the warm water…the sensuality of the experience drawing us closer together.  Then we are in each others’ arms.  We start to kiss.  I pull away.  I take a moment to enjoy the moment.  His gorgeous green eyes and warm smile.  Among other things.    He asks me out.  I tell him I have plans.  Which is true.  These are unbreakable plans too.  Amazing plans that I’ve been waiting forever to happen!  I  give him a long, sensual kiss and thank him for this incredible moment.  I tell him I’ll never forget it.  I caress his face, turn and leave him and the water.   I let the encounter wash over me as I wade further away.  Never thinking of looking back.  That was an amazing moment.  I wanted so much to have more moments like those!  And the next unexpected moment to savor?  Is going to be even better!

When was the last moment you savored like this?  Was it at a restaurant with a new food?  With your family?  Or a playful moment when you were out with friends?  Savoring the moment, with practice, makes the most incidental encounters a full on body rush.  Find a way to start doing this today…and enjoy what unfolds!  Love, Goddess

© S Stevens Life Strategies

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Picture from the fab web site Denim Devotion http://denimdevotion.wordpress.com/

Sign You’re a Sassy Bitch:  You don’t whine about a problem. You solve the problem.

Is this you?  Or do you spend hours, days, weeks whining about all you don’t have and things you wish you did?  Come on, Drama Queen.  Really?   Here’s your New Years’ Kick in the Ass.  Stop whining about what you can’t control and awaken your Sassy Bitch.  She needs awakening because you’ve bored her into a freakin’ coma.  Time to wake that Bitch up.  How?  One yummy, thrilling word:  ACTION  Ooooo…a REM period just missed a beat in our Sassy Bitches’ sleep.  You have a choice.  You can continue whining and stay in your Drama Queen.  It’s easy.  Do exactly nothing.  Want to start awakening your Sassy Bitch?  Here’s how:

ACTION #1:   Get it out.   Go here:  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2011/01/so-you-had-a-bad-day/  Throw yourself into your Pity Party.  I am giving you permission to let out every pathetic whine to the David Powter song.  Seriously do it.  Twice, three times if need be.

ACTION #2:  Cool.  You’ve kicked that whiny ass Brat out of your body.  Relax.  Be proud of yourself.  Now is the time to do something good for you.  Take a warm hot shower, go out shopping, or have a glass of wine and watch your favorite movie.  Whatever little treat you want to give yourself?  Do it.

This will help you rid yourself of your ”whiny” problem.  Your whiny Drama Queen wants attention.  So give it to her and then move on.  By doing this, you are releasing the control she has on you.  Now practice using ACTION with everything in your life.  When you find yourself saying:  “Oh great.  What?  Really?  Can this have any worse timing?  I’m so sick of the crap!”  Stop the lamenting and take ACTION #1 and ACTION #2.  Then go on to ACTION #3:

ACTION #3:  Solving the problem.  Because you’re letting your Drama Queen moan and whine, you’re the releasing control she has on to you.  When you do this, you will start to see through the bullshit…which is all the Drama Queen sees.  Piles and piles of bullshit.  The Sassy Bitch sees the bullshit and walks around it.  She sees the answers and takes the necessary steps to solve the problem. Some problems take one step.  Bigger problems will take more.  It’s all good. 

When you find yourself slipping into “whiny mode” go back to ACTIONS 1 & 2.  Lather, rinse, repeat.  Got it?  Good.  Now get in there and take some hot action now.  Love, Goddess

Private Coaching available.  For more information: http://bitchlifestyle.com/private-coaching/

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