http://video.foxnews.com/v/4100904/talking-points-311#/v/4101742/how-to-get-him-to-call-you/?playlist_id=87249

Okay…did the process to get him to call you seem like a lot of work?  There were five steps in the video to get him to call you.  By doing these five steps you are doing all the work in dating or in the relationship.  If a guy truly likes you, he will call you.  They show the girl in the video waiting by the phone on her couch for his call.  When he finally calls,  she  jumps up and down like she just won the lottery!  Please… What sounds like more fun to you:  obsessing about a call that may never come or going out and enjoying life?  Find something anything that makes you feel good instead of waiting for a guy to call you.  Even when you are seriously dating.  Even when you are married!

So what’s my two word, one step answer to “How to get him to call you?” 

DO NOTHING.

These two words and ONE little step will save you so much time and frustration.  A guy who likes you will make time for you.  And please don’t count the late night booty call as a phone call.  These phone calls are just one thing: disrespectful.  Here’s how to deal with those: http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/08/how-not-to-be-late-night-booty-call-girl/ 

So there you go.   Now that I’ve diverted your attention away from those five steps in the video…think of all the fun you could be having!  Play dates with girlfriends, flirting with all the other guys around you, taking up a hobby, a bath, visiting a new town, state, store, etc.  Go out and live your passionate life.  The man who wants to talk to you might be right around the corner!  Need ideas?  Your wish puts a smile on my face.  Here you go:  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/10/fun-playful-and-slightly-outrageous-things-to-do-this-weekend/  The bonus to all this is:  When you are passionate about your life and your fun you are turned on.   And nothing is more attractive to a man!

Love, Goddess

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Related Reading:

Empowered Dating:  Mommy or Strong, Sexy Bitch?   http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/08/empowered-dating-mommy-or-strong-sexy-bitch/

Let a Man Chase You and Here’s How: http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/06/let-a-man-chase-you-heres-how/

Stunning…

I didn’t watch the Oscars.   Zero interest.  So the last thing I thought I would be doing today is writing about a dress!  When  I saw this dress on the news this morning, I thought it was perfect feminine glamour.  Love it. 

Is there a dress that blew your mind?  Why?  In the meantime enjoy Demi Moore in her Glamorous Glory!

Love, Goddess

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Jason is a man that I have the pleasure of knowing.  He’s fun, playful, intelligent, creative and loves women.  The first time I met him I was in a particularly sassy and bitchy mood.   It’s not often I meet someone who can match me when I’m in full on Sassy Bitch mode.   He gave back just as good as I gave:  and I had so much fun!

He has been a gift for me and now I’m going to share him with you!  Every month he will share incite and answer questions for us.   Questions like:  How do I know a man likes me? or How do I get him to pop the question?  (You all know the answer to that one.  Don’t do anything and refer to:  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/06/let-a-man-chase-you-heres-how/ )  

Jason has the experience I want for the task.  He has been male all his life and he has done so with a huge and virile roar of masculinity.  Our common goal:  Creating the most delicious, playful and fun communication between men and women in the universe!  So…ladies, bitches:  What would you like to know about men?   From a man?   Email me your questions at:  goddesspower978@hotmail.com.   

Love, Goddess

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Yes, there are things I’m not looking forward to when I get back.  My email inbox is so full it’s scary.  And that isn’t counting my personal email.  Double scary.   Today is jammed with “catch up.”  It’s cold and rainy and I woke up with some sort of illness and exhaustion.  But I’m not focused on all those inconveniences.  I’m focused on all the opportunity that lies around them.  The business opportunities, the fun social offers, the learning and growing.  The meetings I have later today that will allow me to create even more.  And all the moments in between. 

The moments in between.  Let’s look at those, shall we?  The fun, laughter and life surrounding us that we’re too busy to slow down and enjoy.  For instance today it’s cold and rainy.  How do you enjoy that?  Sit back, close your eyes and listen.  Listen to the splash against the windows, the swish when a car drives by.  If it was warm I would recommend taking advantage of all those puddles and playfully splash someone!

Today take a moment to enjoy something, anything.  To help you I’ve made a list.  Make it a habit.  Slow down and take more moments each day.  Fill your life with them.  Then maybe one day you’ll be coming home from vacation not sad but looking forward to the next moment life has to offer.  And the next…and the next.   Would you like to play “The Moment Game” with me?  (sly wink and smile)

1.  Drink champagne just because. 

2.  Send someone you care about a “just because gift.” 

3.  Stop, listen to and enjoy a street musician.

4.  When it warms up a bit, walk and splash in the rain.  Or…softly kiss someone in a warm rain shower.

5.  Find a pet store and play with the puppies.  Enjoy their soft fur and wiggly bodies.

6.  Eat your favorite piece of fruit.  Let the juices run all over your face!  Resist the urge to wipe away all the yummy juices.  Bitch it up and ask someone to “lick the juices off you.”

7.  Couch camp with all your favorites:  Food, movies, blanket, drinks.

8.  Play your favorite childhood game.  

9.  Stop everything and listen to or whistle the song that always makes you happy.

10. Fantasize about how you dream your life to be…then do it!   Refer to Fun Organization for more tips: http://bitchlifestyle.com/2010/01/bitchy-sassy-and-fun-organization/

11.  Tell someone you love them and relish the joy on their face.

Love, Goddess

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Appreciate, love, adore.  It’s our 5th Day of Valentines Day Bitch Style.  And your assignment is so fun and simple.  Thank everyone in your life.  Your Mom, Dad, siblings, Grandparents.   Your male friends.  Give them all a big smile and a big hug for being a part of your life.  Tell them you love them.   That’s it.

Sending you all a warm hug, smile and for joining me in our Bitch Rebellion!  I love you…  Goddess

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You know I got my own life and I bought everything that’s in it.

So if you want to be with me it ain’t all about the “bling” your bringin.’

I want a love that’s for real.  And without that, no deal.

And baby I don’t need a hand if all it wants to grab is one thing!   “I Don’t Need A Man” Pussy Cat Dolls

Enough said huh, hot ones?   Love, Goddess

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1.  Conduct your own chocolate study.  Bitch it Up by getting your girlfriends involved and making it a party.  Make a list of the types of chocolate on the market.  It can be as extensive or as short as you like.  (depending on your passion for dark yummy stuff!)  Assign a brand of chocolate to each girlfriend.  Give the party/study a fun name like “The Bitch Institute for Advanced Chocolate Lovers.”   Do a blind taste test and pick your favorites.

2.  Have a secondary chocolate party.  Discover your favorite way to eat it.  Do you love it au naturale?  Give me a dark chocolate bar and I’ll munch away.  Or do you like it melted in a fondue?  What is your favorite item dipped in this luscious fondue?   Strawberries, cookies, marshmallows, cake?  You name it then dip it!

3.  Or…do the same party but with a twist on the chocoate theme.  Conduct a tasting on your favorite Valentines chocolate, candy or novelty.

5.  Note your favorite type of chocolate.  Note your favorite way to eat chocolate.  Keep these goodies on hand at all times!

6.  Share your favorites here.  Then we can all get some sweet love!

Love, Goddess

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I miss him too.  I miss his playfulness, warm arms and sexy smile.  I haven’t told him I love him or used the word in any capacity.  I don’t know if I’m in love with him.  He understands this because we’ve discussed it.  He said that he knows he has to prove through his actions that he is worthy of my love.  He said he would prove that he’s a man in my eyes and that he is not a boy.  He said he would fight to win my love if anyone else tried to win it. 

Valentines’ Day is coming up and I expect nothing from him.   What he just said to me was my “Valentine.”  It’s perfect.  He called me “his love” on his own-without a Holiday telling him to do it.  And that means so much more to me than a date on a calendar.   A date that the world has put on a calendar.  A date that puts pressure on him to show me that he loves me.   

How about you?  What does Valentines Day mean to you?   Do you dread it because you’re not dating someone?  Are you praying to meet someone to celebrate with?  Are you disappointed when your boyfriend gets you something you don’t want, need or is unromantic?  Get a grip, Bitches!   That’s your Brat acting up.  And you know the Brat.  It’s all about what she doesn’t have and what she should have.  And she’ll never be happy because she can’t be in the moment and be grateful for the wonderful that comes her way.  She’s stuck on a date that the world has put on her calender.  

We are going to squash that Brat over the next couple weeks.  That’s what Bitches do.  We are going to enjoy the hell out of Valentines Day by not pressuring ourselves or the men in our lives.   We are going to do it together.  You, me and everyone else on this web site.  We are going to fall in love with our luscious asses (literally and figuratively)  We are going to shower everyone we love with love on the Holiday of Love:  Valentines Day.  We are going to put a Sassy Bitch spin on it.  I now present Valentines Day Bitch Style!

1.  Enjoy those aisles stocked with Valentine goodies in the stores.  I had so much fun in Target last night looking at all the pink, red and heart shaped items there.  Yummy candies, cards, rose petals, candles and this really soft pink heart pillow.  I enjoyed how wonderful that soft pillow felt on my skin.  And I got the cutest cards for my girlfriends.  Which leads me to Number 2:

2.  Buy some adorable Valentines and give them out to those you love.  Spread the love to your girlfriends!  Girls are the ones who get excited over these frilly little cards.  Your Mom, Grandmother, aunts, cousins and nieces would appreciate them so much more than a man.   I bought  Fashion Barbie cards that come with really cute tattoos.

3.  Show that hot body of yours some love.  Pamper yourself by using everything on your body that makes you feel beautiful.  Skin care, perfume, glitter, clothes and accessories.  Find a look in a magazine that you would love to try and then do it!  Copy some make up ideas, hair ideas.  See if you like it on you.  Experiment with your beauty.

4.  Make a commitment to falling in love with wonderful you.   Kick it up a notch, as Emeril would say.  Go to a store and try on a diamond ring.  Or any ring with a huge gem in it.  Enjoy the gem sparkling on your skin.  Try different jewels to see which one you like best and note why.  Promise to love and adore yourself as you gaze at you and the ring in a mirror.

5.  Share with us on this site:  Anything fun that you do to adore YOU.  Spread the fun, Bitches!

Love, Goddess

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The Bitch at Work:  Loves what she’s doing.  She feels fulfilled and enjoys each goal and aspiration met.  She doesn’t whine about a problem she solves the problem.

The Brat at Work:  Hates what she is doing, whines and bemoans her job and gets too involved with the Drama Queens and Kings at the office or wherever she hangs her career cap.

The Bitch at Home:  Whatever the size or limitations, has done everything she can to make her home her castle.  It’s clean, neat and organized.  (And she cuts herself slack if it’s not always perfect)  It’s full of things that make her comfortable: pictures, music, aromas, food and fond memories that make her smile.  She makes the most of what she has and is grateful for all she has produced.

The Brat at Home:  Looks at everything she has and laments the things she doesn’t have.  Nothing is ever good enough, pretty enough, expensive enough.  She cannot see the joy around her everyday because she chooses to see what she doesn’t have. 

The Single Bitch:  Her life is full of friends, activities and passions that fulfill her.  She never “settles” in a relationship because “settling” is far worse than being single. 

The Single Brat:  Laments she doesn’t have a man in her life, berates women who do and competes with other women over any guy in their orbit.  She doesn’t appreciate the freedom of being single.  It’s all about whining about not “finding the one,” “the perfect guy” and being “lonely.”

The Bitch in a Relationship:  Appreciates everything her man does for her.  She is always happy to see him and tells him so.  When he disrespects her she is polite but unemotional.  That puts the disrespect ball firmly in her court.  If he is a man he’ll be jumping through hoops to try and make things up to her.  If he’s a boy he’ll do various things like pout and try and blame it on her.  Which of course, won’t fly.

The Brat in a relationship:  Worries about “where things are going.”  She wonders when he will “pop” the marriage question and over analyzes everything a man does or says.  She gives up things she likes to do and pouts when he wants to have a beer with his buddies.  She calls and texts him constantly.  She allows disrespect from her man because she is afraid of losing him.  What she doesn’t understand is she  has already lost him by these actions.

The Bitch has made a choice.  So has the Brat.  What is more fun…wallowing in what you don’t have or enjoying the hell out of what you do?  I’ve found that when I focus on the positive, more positive comes my way.  Yup.  I get down.  We all do.  That’s why I have a whole subject on this web site called “Drama Queen.”  It’s where we can acknowledge all the drama in our lives and then take steps to be done with it.  And have a little fun in the process!  Then we can get back to all the Bitchy Sassiness.  The only thing you can control in life is the positive attitude you put forth when bad happens.

So…what’s your choice, hot ones?  Love, Goddess

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1.  Close your eyes, breathe deeply and say something in your mind that makes you feel fantastic.  Something like:  “I am the hottest, sexiest, savviest and loving woman alive!”  Repeat this phrase over and over until you feel calmer.

2.  Grab some of your body lotion and give yourself a hand massage, a foot massage, a neck massage.  Just enjoy the moment and how it feels so good to pay attention to YOU.

3.  Turn on some music and shake everything on that gorgeous body of yours!  Extra points if you can sing right along to the music. 

4.  Put a temporary tattoo, glitter, powder, sticker somewhere on your body and admire yourself in the mirror.

5.  Blow yourself a kiss and catch it.

6.  Make yourself a pot of tea and savor.  Use all your senses:  Smell, touch, sound, sight and of course taste.

7.  Put on some soothing music.  Light a candle and relax.

8.  List all the ways you “think” you don’t measure up.  Cut up the ways you “think” you don’t, put them in an ashtray and burn up those suckers!  Or flush them down the toilet.  Then list all the ways you are fabulous and display them.  Better yet, buy a gorgeous frame and put it on your wall!

9.  Make a list of all the things that make you feel good.  Your favorite of all favorites.  Keep them handy for an emergency pick-me-up.

10.  Get yourself to your “Bitch Spa.”  Create your own spa at home and go there for a do it yourself facial, manicure, salt scrub, etc.  Savor how good it feels to take care of yourself.

11.  Imagine me giving you a great big hug and tickle!

Love, Goddess

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