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If A Man Wants To Borrow Money

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If a man wants to borrow money from you, ladies, I have a one word answer for it.

RUN!! Period.

I get so many emails from females that are having problems with guys asking them for money.  Some have only known these dudes for a few weeks!  Whenever I ask one of my guy friends about this, they say, “Don’t do it.  Don’t lend a guy money that you’re dating.  Or who is a boyfriend. That’s not cool.”

Why?  This is what the good men know:

A man will not ask a woman he truly likes for cash.  The man you want takes care of himself and looks for ways to take care of you.  I don’t care what the reason is.  He needs this, he needs that.  He wants to buy a car.  He tells you he’ll make it a loan.  Don’t fall for it.  He will not pay you back.  Contract or no.  Want to see some proof of this?  Watch a court show on TV.

And a lot of women take advantage of men this way too!  He’ll take her out to dinner and then when they are on errands she talks about what she “needs.”  Does she whip out her cash?  No.  She’s waiting for him to take the bait.  And the nice guys will.  She’ll use him then dump him.  When he could have been with:

The Bitch.  The Bitch takes care of herself.  She wants the man who can take care of himself.  That’s what grown-ups do.  Take care of their lives.  They don’t expect anyone else to do it for them.  So in conclusion:

  1.  If you are dating a guy and he asks for money?  RUN.
  2.  If your boyfriend asks you to borrow money:  RUN.
  3.  If a guy friend of yours asks to borrow money:  RUN.
  4.  If guy friend asks you to do financial stuff for him:  Mommy or Sexy Bitch  RUN.

Run TO the man who is responsible.  The man who takes care of himself and looks for ways to take care of you.  And I’m not talking only money here!  Run to the man of action:  He doesn’t “say” he’s going to do something.  He does it.  The man who opens doors for you, gives you warm hugs, fixes things for you and is interested in your life.  Let me know what you think.  icon wink If A Man Wants To Borrow Money  Love, Goddess

Are you going through this problem in real life?  I have the course and the tools to help you attract the men who wants to worship you…not use you as a bank!  Your Re-Awakening

This post is dedicated to my brother Gary who is very adamant about the subject. Instead of giving it to him-give to yourself and increase your net worth, beauty!

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    • Elisa

      uhm, agree. I’ve made that mistake and learned it in a hard way with my ex. Stupid, but I was in love.

      And just finished dating with a guy who talks more than he acts (good that I’m done with him anyway). He is rich, good looking (a hot body!), a pretty good cook and a ‘trying to clean up’ guy who said ‘I’m a different person now that I’ve met you’ bullshit. Gave me his keys to his place when he went away for three weeks(a very trusting action), and his water got cut off in the second week cause the water bill wasn’t settled (which was about US$50), so I did that for him so he would have water back on when he comes back(and I was staying there for a bit while he was away). When he came back, he thanked me and said he will pay me back but never did.

      I trust not that the US$50 is alot to him, cause he makes more than 200 times than that amount of money anyway. But he just doesn’t care about other things except making more money and partying till morning a few days a week – yikes! I had enough of that ‘ready to settle down’ bullshit! (Sorry, whenever this is brought up, I still got a bit frustrated…)

    • Goddesspower

      Elisa Honey,
      This rocked! I think you should turn on your favorite song and dance your booty off
      to your brilliance. This guy did not please you and you freed yourself.
      Go you!! Love, Goddess

    • Elisa

      Thanks. I reckon so, I freed myself. Later I got news from someone that this guy said he knows I’m a very nice girl but he has problems… well then, be with the problems as he wishes, that’s his life, that’s his choice. And I already went onto a nice date with a new guy, so much fun! I’m better off now definitely.

    • Goddesspower

      Yes, Elisa honey! You’ve got it. Hugs, Goddess

    • Spell Vixen

      I love your dedication to Gary! RUNNNNNNN if a man wants to borrow money , um you need to kick his butt out the door, buh bye!

    • Goddesspower

      Yes, Gary, God of Sarcasm is quite smart. Love, Goddess

    • lamonica anderson

      Thank you SIS

    • Goddesspower

      You’re welcome! ;)

    • lamonica

      What if they talk about not having money alot?

    • Goddesspower

      If it’s a young man, they probably don’t have a lot of money yet. Which is fairly normal. Men want to create security first in their lives so they can take care and provide for someone they love later. In order to become a man they need to do this for themselves. It’s their problem. Women who give them money aren’t letting them grow into a man. A man who asks for money from a woman is too immature or scared to “man up” and do it on his own. That’s why a woman should run from this kind of man.

    • Rachy

      This is a wakeup call for me!thanks heaps been in relationship for 5 years and constantly he asks me for money for his business and that he would pay back,thousands of dollars later, didn’t happen now did it ???? would go out to dinner and he would stand back to let me pay or conveniently forget his wallet.I had a go at him for being a tightarse and he turned into a huge fight and went cryin to mamma and told me this in SMS “Good work sabaraege the rest go hard I raised my family from nothing to some thing I work hard to pay the bills travel 5000 km to get job i am doing the best that I can fuck u mate fuck me over” and “U will get yours mate” and” Weak as shit grow up your nothing special anyway”and”go sit on shelf find what u want stop fucking with me”and “U are far too mean there is no love”last SMS “U are far too mean there is no love go away rach” so ladies don’t let him bludge off u cause in the end he won’t appreciate it anyway let him grow a set of balls and pay his own way!

    • confused

      I was talking to a child hood friend/crush who moved and lives 10 hours away…he asked to borrow $400 because his car was in the shop. Well me being the “nice girl” that I am & knowing he didn’t have any family to help him, I let him borrow it. He said he’d pay me back in a few weeks…only paid half of it back and said he wanted to save the other $200 for a trip to come see me a a week. He DID come see me when he said he would and we had a great time together. He is moving home(here)actually in a few weeks and said he would like nothing more than to date me. Everything about him is everything I’ve ever wanted and he makes me feel very special, & brings out the absolute best in me. However, in the back of my mind, I still think about him asking me to borrow money and not paying me back in full…kinda confused? I do NOT want to put myself in a situation that I’m going to regret later on. Any advice?

    • Goddesspower

      Hi Confused…
      You’re right to be confused. By agreeing to spend the $200 on coming to see you, you have forfeited that part of the money-in his mind-IF you agreed.
      Why don’t you tell him to pay the money back to you first and then see what happens as far as dating? Then he will show you whether he has integrity or not.
      You deserve nothing less. Make sense? Love, Goddess

    • This can also create a man being dependent on you financially and that’s not a good look!

    • Goddesspower

      Yes, Milah…you’ve got it. Who wants to be someones’ “Mummie”? I don’t. Love, Goddess

    • cancerlady28

      this dude I was seeing asked me to borrow 50 bucks to get his plates or title for his car. After I practically laughed in his face i told him hell naw! U got a job by your own damn title! I aint your girlfriend! He said you are my girlfriend! I said what!? when did we establish this?!? Then he says he dont sleep with nobody else but me. I told him whatever u must have forgot how many times u told me that u have alot of women nevertheless the answer is still NO you a grown a** man get your on shhh!!! Or go ask one of your other lady friends for money! Then he hung up on me! lmao!!! Jerk! So i tell u this ladies dont lend no man money a real man makes his own and dont have to depend on a woman for shhhh!!!!!!!! Only broke worthless womanizing bums ask women for money! Kick they broke a**ses to the curb like i did him and laugh in his face! (*_*)

    • Goddesspower

      Yes! Love it Lady! xoxo Love, Goddess

    • Darlene

      Within a year. I dumped 3 guys coz they think im their bank.. Yup im a banker.. But im not own da bank. What s wrong with da guys nowaday ?????

    • Goddesspower

      Hi Darlene,
      Go you for kicking these guys to the curb! Unfortunately, a lot of women do not understand that they have so much power over men. So they let men run all over them. Not here. Welcome
      to the Bitch Rebellion! Love, Goddess

    • PassionateOne

      What if he says, a family member got hospitalized and that the bill went skyrocket to more than 3000$, would you believe that? would you loan him? would you make an exemption and lend him them money? im uncomfortable but guilty. im torn apart. i want to loan him for humanity’s sake. but i feel bad about myself and for him. i dont want to loan him to save him and myself for future discomfort and embarassment. 2nd date. no gf/bf relationship. just date. what do you say?

    • Goddesspower

      NO! Do not lend this guy you barely know ANY money. RUN! He is playing on your “niceness.” Tell him you hope things get better for him, wish him well then MOVE ON! Seriously. Do not engage him anymore and delete all contact info. Period. End of his story.

    • mary

      the right thing to do was: meet him first and plan after be engaged in real life! I know all this but i was trying believing in good! :(

    • Goddesspower

      Mary, you are a beautiful, intelligent and sassy woman. You deserve a man who wants to provide, protect and be there for you. Let this guy find his money somewhere else and open your heart ONLY to the man
      who wants you for you. Join our Facebook page and surround yourself with fun women who will be your cheerleaders for this! https://www.facebook.com/pages/Bitch-Lifestyle/205875411841 Love, Goddess

    • nakeshia

      Thanks for telling me to run. this guy who am dating always want me to lend him money. I never lend him a penny. He claim he is a business man but am puzzle why he always asking for a loan. Hemade because i didnot lend him the money and told me to go hell.

    • Goddesspower

      I am so proud of you, Nakeshia! Go you for running…and welcome to our Sassy Bitch Rebellion. Love, Goddess

    • Niharika

      Thanks for the advice.I had a similar experience,I had known by bf for about 6months. he said he is well off and all. I found him as a lazy bum.He said he was earning a lot of money but I don’t trust him now,meanwhile he sold his car and got a big amount.he wanted to buy another car and for that he needed some more money.I am financially independent and never ever asked him a penny.at that time we had a real fight when he asked his friend who is a female to loan him cash.then he came back and said he had stopped all those plans and we were again happy for 3more months.now before a week he again asked me lend him my hardly earned money which I had myself kept for some emergencies and I said no way since I have some very important plans, at once he disconnected the phone and pulled me out from all his contacts in fb,gmail and all those stuff he blocked me.I am very happy now to know that he never ever loved me and I wasn’t fooled around Nd I was saved from such a bloody relationship.I really wish him best of luck to go to hell…:)

    • Goddesspower

      I’m soooo happy you saw through his bs. GO YOU!!! Love, Goddess

    • Babyangel

      Well me and this guy have started a relationship and we have talked about having sex and so on and he is saying I have to buy the condoms and stuff and I was really shocked. Now he is asking me for money and I asked him for what and he jus tells me I need money. For some reason I tink he is trying to take advantage of me. Also, he is always asking me to put minutes in his phone. I did it before out of kindness but then it started getting too constant. What do I do?

    • Goddesspower

      Babyangel: RUN!

    • Chris

      I just asked my fiance for some money because my Dad is in jail and I live in the middle east where its very difficult to get justice. My Dad was framed by his company and put in jail because they didn’t want to pay my Dad’s gratuity when he leaves the company.

      My mum doesn’t have a job. I told my fiance that I will give her a post dated cheque as guarantee if she gives me the money.

      She pointed me to this article. I am 23 and I don’t have that kind of money to release my Dad from jail. I borrowed from my Dad’s friend the most and I needed a little bit of money more which my Dad will pay my fiance back when he is out of jail.

      She pointed me to this article and she think I am like this article says and thats totally not true about me :(

    • Fancy

      Lending a man money is not healthy. Two people who really want to be together, should start with a proper foundation, “getting to know each other” for however long. Do small things for one another. A man who borrows money, makes you wonder if he’s capable of taking care of you. A man should be a provider, but it is a bonus if both parties make their own money. There is nothing more sexy than being proud of your partner for his hard work, without hesitations.

    • Goddesspower

      Love the way you think, Fancy! “There is nothing more sexy than being proud of your partner for his hard work, without hesitations.” That’s what we all want, yet it is surprising how few of us
      actually do the action needed for that, huh? Love, Goddess

    • Goddesspower

      Hi Chris,
      Sounds like you’re in a really bad situation out there. I’m sorry to hear that. This is a very complicated question to answer in this venue. I haven’t heard her side of the story either.
      Let me ask you this: Outside of this scenario that you have described to me, have you shown by your actions that you are the man who wants to take care of her? And does she take care of you like a man should be? Relationships go both ways. You’re a smart and resourceful man. I have no doubt you will find the way to help your Dad. I’d love to hear you tell me about your victory in dealing with this difficult issue! Love, Goddess

    • Debra

      I foolishly became involved with the biggest mooch, loser EVER, over 20years ago, while getting divorced from another loser, mooch. What really bothers me the most, is that my so-called “friend” at the time, had encouraged me to become involved with both of these greedy pigs (accusing ME of being too “materialistic”–yeah right, at least *I* WORKED for my money) and looking back, I think it was mostly due to her jealousy and desire to see me penniless and humiliated–maybe it helped her to feel superior, who knows. In both instances, I ignored my “gut instinct” about these jerks and lo and behold–just like I thought, they were BOTH after my money, and believe me it wasn’t ALL that much either. The 2nd jerk even taught his nasty brat sons to use me. The older one had admitted to me, after I broke up with his father that he was encouraged to dress in raggedy looking clothes/shoes, so that I would take pity (which I did) and buy both the creep and his ungrateful, nasty, rude kids stuff. I think what bothers me the most, is that the swine of a “BOY-friend” actually earned $200 a wk more than I did and lived rent-free in a house his dad owned, yet had nothing to show for all the 20yrs he had worked–not even a used car paid for and maybe all of $4,000 in a 401k. Total loser. Of course he blamed it on his fat, lazy, stay-at-home mom of a cheating ex-wife, that squandered his paycheck on stupid diets, gym memberships, clothes, her hair and nails (such a “priority” since she hadn’t worked for 15yrs), booze, etc. I guess it was his way of getting back at ALL women–by stealing from, making a fool of, and blatantly using me. And my own fault for being so stupid, trusting and depressed that I even gave him the time of day. Now, years later, I am permanently disabled and unable to work any more, so I can’t even earn back what that filthy slob/”born again Christian” (no less) stole from me. Not to mention the fact that I am so jaded any more after that experience that I have no desire to even be in a relationship. THAT’S the risk you take ladies, when getting involved with trash, whose only goal is to bring you down…

    • Liz

      Ok, I met this guy, who is getting divorced and we have been talking for a little while now.. So, anyway, My job just cut me back on hours so everyone knows im struggling, however, I am still holing my own… He flat out tells me ” your in need, so I want you to use me, take my money, use my debit card, use me” and he like friggin gets off on this… and wants me to act like this to him…. Please tell me, is this normal.. are there really some men who like to be used??? its so strainge

    • Goddesspower

      Hi Debra, I’m so sorry that you went through so much with this guy! But I’m also happy that you saw the truth and moved on. Don’t let your anger keep you from embracing a wonderful man! When you’re ready to do that, take my course “Re-Awakening” it has tools that will help you let go of the “jaded” and start to open up again. Here is the link: http://bitchlifestyle.com/2012/07/your-re-awakening/ Love, Goddess

    • Goddesspower

      Hi Liz. I’m sorry that you have been struggling! It really is a hard thing to adjust to and still hold your own. Go you! I think, however that you may be looking at this the wrong way. Part of that is because you are taking charge and making sure to take care of YOU. Try to look at the amazing part of this…how lucky you are! Here you have a man who wants to do ANYTHING for you to make your life easier. He wants to give give give to you. Pretty amazing. Why don’t you try a little gratitude with him. Say something like this: Use his name and then “this is so amazing and thoughtful of you to want to help me like this. I really appreciate it. I’m so used to taking care of myself and this situation has thrown me for a loop. Let me think about how you can help me and then I will share with you.” Then do it! Make a list. This can be very simple.
      1. I would love it if you took me out to dinner at my favorite restaurant.
      2. Let him take you to the grocery store but then cook him dinner to say thank you.
      The point is, keep it simple. It is too much (it sounds like) for you to take his debit card and cash. Understandable. Keep it simple and find ways that would help you. Let him be a man for you. How does that sound? Love, Goddess

    • FurryMom

      Hi Goddess,

      Thank you for your spreading the word in a healthy way. Although it may be common sense all over the blackboard to some, others completely miss this lesson altogether. While I believe there are extremely rare exceptions to loaning out money, they are exactly that – rare exceptions (Disclaimer: if you’re on this page you aren’t an exception… seriously…. AND RUN!!).

      I speak from experience on the receiving end of this scenario and from loving others (both genders) on the receiving end… There can be different types of people asking for money out there and different reasons why. Here are the main reasons I’ve heard (from what I consider to be the the most manipulative type): DIVORCE(S), transitioning/changing job/career, bankruptcy, health issues (themselves, past spouse, parent), etc. On the surface, some of the reasons you’ll hear will be “good” reasons – but when you dig a little deeper – you’ll see the bigger picture. For example, they’re driving a new car, bought a diamond ring during the “bankruptcy”, rent a home that’s completely not conducive to paying off debt, AND they have $ for their hobbies and travel. LOOK and TAKE NOTES – These financial problems are generally coupled with larger issues, big spending/unaffordable habits, credit card debt, student loans, and rarely (if any) savings. They MAY have at one point in their lives HAD money, but it’s the past, but they’re still talking about it.

      Life happens – things happen – does someone pick you up and do your financial plan FOR YOU?! No. Does someone make you eat healthy, go to the gym, show up for your job for you? No. So, quit picking up someone elses bills, planning someone elses life. Love yourself – love the life that you can give to someone worthy enough to respect you (themselves), your (their) money, and a future together!!!

    • Goddesspower

      Beautifully said, FurryMom! Wise words from a Sassy Woman…Love, Goddess

    • Sasha

      I just wanted to say, my boyfriend has asked me for $15,000 of which I did not choose to lend. He said it would be smart and I could think of it like an investment because he’d pay back more. On our first date, he said he’d lent $20,000 to a friend of whom he was later offered to move in with to repay the debt since he didn’t have anywhere to go after his divorce.. funny how when I reminded him of that lame choice, he swore he never said the sum was $20,000 and that it was only 8 or 9 thousand of which the guy paid him in $20 and $100 sums which he never recorded and now is owed about $3000.. and the guy kicked him out. So here I have a bf who lives at his business office and I’m not sure he tells me the truth all of the time. The other night I called and I heard a woman laughing a few times in the background, he said that it was just men over and Why do I want to make him mad? Welll how rude. I don’t want to make anyone mad, I just don’t want to be played like a cheap fiddle. Then today on the phone, he says “we went out to dinner with my son”. I said, as any smart woman would, what do you mean? Who is “WE” because you said we to which he said “my son and me” and I’m baffled, I said you said WE and he swears we implied just him and his son but I’m KNOW when someone says “we went out to dinner with kid” that implies a party of more that just him and the kid. This guy then said in anger and impatience, “Sasha, go to sleep, it’s late there and I need to drop my son off” uhhh yeah, at 10pm, time to drop off a kid, wtf. WHAT AM I DOING?!?

    • Goddesspower

      Sasha,
      You are doing exactly what you want to do. You want a man who lies, treats you like a child, tries to borrow money and cheats on you. What you deserve is a man who is honest and trustworthy. When you WANT that, check yourself immediately into my course “Your Re-Awakening.” http://bitchlifestyle.com/2012/07/your-re-awakening/ Love, Goddess

    • Nakia

      I started back talking to an ex from 20 years ago, and he is always asking me to spend money for something he needs, and it doesn’t sit well with me. I a single mom with 2 teenage daughters’ one of which heads to college in less than a month. How can I focus on or like a man that is always in need of something. I just got back money for things he asked for weeks ago, mind you he still owes me $20 and today he asks for $50. What man does that? I wanna tell him to stop asking me for stuff I am not a money machine.

    • Goddesspower

      Hi Nakia,

      Sounds like this man is still a child looking for a Mommie. You are right on the money (no pun intended) on this one. A man who is willing to take the hard earned money you earn out of the mouths of your children is one you should RUN from. Free yourself. Love, Goddess

    • Aileen

      Hi,
      I’m 16, and not that popular but a popular at guy school asked me for $300 to order something online. I ordered it, and he gave me 200$. He gave me $13 so far, so 213$ has beeen repaid. Its summer so i dont see him, im scared i wont get it back, and im moving. I did it because i was scared i would be called names and im not the most confident person. i made $25 online to pay my dad back. Im so ashamed i dont know what to do. i shouldve told him to fuck off but i was so lonely and he talked to me so i didn’t know what to do. im going to make the rest of the money back but he says hes going to pay it back but its so slow. He knows im going to move and dragging it out. He only pays me back a couple dollars per time. It was basketball shoes, and he got 3 new pairs since i got him that pair. Hes a liar at school and relationships, and i feel so stupid for believing him. I can’t run because i need the money.

    • Sharon Stevens

      Hi Aileen,
      First off, do not be ashamed. You have learned a valuable lesson…don’t lend a guy money! The great thing is, you are moving and you can start fresh. If you are ever in a similar circumstance, just decline
      politely. Say you “wish you could, but don’t have any.” All you can do now is hope he’ll pay you back. If he doesn’t, look for other options. Like baby sitting or a part time job. Working part time will increase your confidence. Again…don’t feel bad. Learn and move on. Key: learning and not putting yourself through this sort of drama again! How does that sound? Love, Goddess

    • Nina

      Hello everyone. I am happy for you all to move on from deadbeats that have no goals and want to mooch. It is truly sad that alot of women and men go through this in their lives. It hurts even more to see a loved one being used. A decent person wants a mate who can help support them, NOT USE THEM. I see this all the time and this is the main reason that I had to let alot of my so-called friends go for good.

      Now I may be thinking about this too hard, but there is this guy I work with. We have alot in common, but I don’t date on the job or any of that crap. We are just friends. But, sometimes we will have conversations about traveling or buying something health wise. He would ask me the cost of some of the things I purchase, and after telling him the cost, he will go on and make a comment like, “You got that type of money”. He has said this three times now. I tell him that I don’t and he says nothing after my statement. I’m trying to figure out if he says that more than once because he sees me as a potential bank ATM in the future? He says his previous relationships ended “REAL BAD”. I don’t plan on being in a relationship with him or anyone in the near future, but I wanted to know if his actions are a hint of a wannabe mooch or is it just talk?

    • Sharon Stevens

      Hi Nina,
      Welcome to our Rebellion! What you wrote is beautiful and true, thank you for you words.

      As far as what this guy said. It sounds like he is being a bit judgmental toward you. What a shock, huh? There is judgement everywhere today. I think he is putting his past “stuff” with money on you. That doesn’t make him a bad guy, but yeah, I would call that a red flag. Maybe don’t share with him how much you spend. If he asks why you’re not sharing change the subject.

      Make sense? Love, Goddess

    • Guest

      During discovery of a relationship it’s a good idea to not talk about money per-say but observe him.
      A good indication is how he spends it, on himself, his family and friends and his debts and bills.
      Also look at his lifestyle. Is his apt/home scarce? I always try to see a new mans home as soon as possible.
      The way he lives sends you signals of the way he earns.
      Be on guard for his questions or comments on how you keep house or spend money. If he says “oh that’s too expensive”
      “why are you spending so much?” “you must be rich or something” “I wouldn’t buy that, can’t afford that”
      Also a man who wants your money will be a man who tends to run hot N’ cold. He does this because he knows, as a con man that alot of women love to please. So be aware he’s playing on your emotions. The best way to tell is how you feel.
      If you feel, insecure, uncertain, mystified, guilty, drop him. It’s you’re inner intelligence and intuition that is screaming at you to get the hell away from any man who makes you feel “Less” and believe me, they will push all of these buttons, like a slimy used car salesman.
      You will then get the “request” – “can you pick me up… on the way” – “it’s pay day tomorrow, can a borrow $ until then” The best way to handle that last one is like this “Pay day is tomorrow, you need money today, don’t you have any in your savings account?” Then LISTEN LISTEN LISTEN.. you’re about to hear his excuses (and they will blow your mind) why he has no money in the bank or if he even has a bank account. You’re going to very awaken, listen and get the hell out of Dodge.
      If you EVER EVER EVER see a man counting or showing off a ton of bills, GET THE HELL OUT. People who have no money often flaunt alot of money when they can. Stay clear. It also can mean they get paid under the table. Very shady.
      If they gamble and you don’t, run faster. They will try to convince you to do it too or ask you to put money on a bet to get you interested or even more sneakier, they will ask you for money to place a bet for you. A con, a sham, a looser. Don’t fall for this, EVER….
      I dated all of the above for 2 months before I was convinced and even though I never lent him any money I still should have left as soon as I saw his spartan apt with not even a book, let alone a magazine to be found. My life lesson “no more Miss Pleaser. EVER EVER AGAIN. It was a hard one won.
      My validating clue, was when he told me he was having dinner with his ex wife, (the hated one, just another story) He said to me “I had dinner with the ex and the kids, I told them about you, and how rich you were, they are all jealous”
      So there it was, not only was he in it for my money, he puts down his own family in the process, using my hard work and gain as a way of boosting his own ego. Totally disgusting and I told him so as I left.
      STAND YOUR GROUND, ASK THE QUESTIONS before some con man gets your emotions hooked. DO NOT get your emotions hooked until you’ve got solid answers and have seen solid actions. You will never again meet a man who is a looser if you keep your head ahead of your heart. If you do, it will take you a very short while, not for you to exit, but they will first. Always be very very happy for the men who drop out of your life. They know you’re too real, to aware,
      to even try to pull one on you. Let them find a sucker, I’m not one of them!
      Watch them ladies, more men are divorced, out of work, alone, broke and can’t get their act together.
      If a man says anything derogatory when you ask “so, what do you do?” and they give you the “oh, that question already” attitude. They are not enjoying their work or have none, they are setting a no talk rule, they have something to hide. Don’t spend your life under the moon, find the sun, let the clarity be real. Discovery before commitment. Love yourself at all times. Use discretion at all times, life is what you buy into.

    • Sharon Stevens

      Hi Ms. Integrity,

      Amazing…thank you for writing such an awesome comment. You have some excellent points here that we can all use! Love, Goddess

    • Pall

      HI ,

      my bf always take care of me and love me. After a month i asked him to go for dinner in a good hotel he said he is saving money for future to buy flat. i said ok. when my birthday is coming he is saying he is going to buy watch for me . on my birthday he gifted nothing saying he has family problem and supporting his family . i said ok . i asked to for a movie he said he is comfortable in morning show nt evening or afternoon becoz saving money for future . i said for 100 and 200 rs you are becoming rich . o fought him related to money . i donot know wht to do . Everytime he makes excuses in terms of monetary terms . Plz advice me and guide me . i make him understand a lot but he is nt just bother

    • Sharon Stevens

      Hi Pall,

      Your boyfriend seems to be very clear in that he does not have a lot of disposable money. He is saving and thinking for the future. This is very responsible. In your own words he “always takes care of you and loves you.” You sound like a lucky woman. Take care of him back by doing this: Find inexpensive things to do together so you show him that you respect the fact that he is respectful of money. That is a loving way to appreciate a man who loves you. Make sense? Love, Goddess

    • Lisa

      Known this guy for few weeks. Called me his girlfriend. Lent him 20 pound and not heard or seen from him since. Feel so foolish!!!

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