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‘Boys tryna touch my junk…’ Kesha

When I heard this line in the popular song “Tik Tok,” my mouth dropped to the South pole.  Junk?  This is the new way women refer to their sexual organs and, or feminine parts?  Whatever happened us celebrating them like Maya Angelou-who refers to hers as “diamonds in the center of her thighs?”  Would you like to learn the origin of one of the most dirty and negative words in the English language?  Cunt=anatomical jewel. 

That should really make your jaw drop.  So should this:

From “Cunt: A Declaration of Independence,” the book by Inga Muscio:  ‘I looked up “cunt” in Barbara G. Walker’s twenty-five year research opus “The Women’s Encyclopedia of Myths and Secrets,” and found it was in a title, back in the day.  “Cunt” is related to words from India, China, Ireland, Rome and Egypt.  Such words were either titles of respect for women, priestesses and witches, or derivatives of the names of various goddesses.  The words bitch and whore also share a similar fate in our English language.  This seemed rather fishy to me.  Three words which convey negative meanings about women, specifically, all happen to have once had totally positive associations about women, specifically.’

And now “junk” has been added to the list.  Our society has thought up a trendy, cool way to refer to our sexual organs.  And it’s a synonym for garbage.  What a great way to degrade and diminish us.  (insert my feisty sarcasm here) Oh, really…think that is going to work?  (more feisty sarcasm)   Let’s get back to our diamonds.  Yours, mine and the worlds.  Because ladies, nothing is going to change this mentality unless we do.  That’s why when someone calls you a “bitch” I want you to give them a big smile and say “thank you.”  Because it’s honoring our ancestors and the original respect that word was given to woman.  And we’re bringing it back!  We are going to party with our hot, sexy diamonds and jewels!

Mama Gena does this very thing in her book “Mama Gena’s School of Womanly Arts.”  (Get the link to this wonderful book in the Bitch Boutique top right)  She has a whole chapter on “The Womanly Art of Sensual Pleasure.”  I highly recommend this book.  It will change how you look at your sensuality forever.  Check out the related reading below for even more ideas and incite.  So go out there and do woman kind a favor:  Celebrate the beauty of your beautiful feminine core.  And kiss Kesha and her idea of femininity to the curb!  Love, Goddess

© S Stevens Life Strategies

Related Reading:

1.  Embrace Our Sexual Organs: http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/06/embrace-our-sexual-organs/

2.  Embrace Your Sexual Organs-Hot New Info! http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/06/embrace-your-sexual-organs/

3.  When Do You Feel Most Beautiful? http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/06/when-do-you-feel-most-beautiful/

I have two men in my life that I like, a third I find intriguing, and a sexy, smart model from my past who has reappeared.   He’s so good looking it’s distracting!  I love the attention, but I want to make sure I stay true to me and not fall into the “Oh, no!”  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/09/the-perfect-kiss/

So I joined an online dating site.

Yes…I know.  Sounds a little much.   But I did this for a couple of reasons:

1.  When I first started Bitch Lifestyle, I joined a dating website to learn more about the online dating process.   I researched so we could all benefit.  I decided to take a refresher course and relate my experience to you.

2.  You know how I’m always talking about staying focused on your life and let the guys in on your terms?  Let them chase you?  Prove that they should have the privilege of dating hot little you?  I’m applying this to myself.  Because one of these men I might really like.  And he is in no way ready for a real relationship.  So I’m keeping myself all flirty and engaged with as many men possible so I don’t fall into the “Oh, no” again.

So let’s discuss online dating.  How do you online date and let the man chase you?  Easily.  Remember this is about you.  Who lights you up, who you find interesting.  Its up to you to select.  YOU.  So lets keep a few things in mind.

1.  Safety.  You know how to keep yourself safe.  Do it!

2. Keep an open mind about how a person looks and their age.  I have a friend who was dating old men, short men, fat men, bald men.  No one knew why she was doing it because she is beyond hot.  She was doing it to enjoy the men.  The play, the laughter, and keeping her mind open.  You want a man who will back up his words with thoughtful actions.  I don’t care how hot a guy is.  The hotter guy is the one who DOES what he SAYS he’s going to do.  My friend wound up dating the very hot John Corbett (Sex in the City, My Big Fat Greek Wedding) for awhile.  He treated her wonderfully, but she is marrying the man who adored her.  And it isn’t John.

3.  Have fun with this.  Don’t take it so seriously.  Have fun with your profile and post a picture where you are truly happy and having fun.

4.  Online dating is a fantastic way to keep your “Male BS” fine tuned.   Within moments of posting my profile I get an email from a guy.  Two paragraphs, well thought out.  Hysterical.  Dude sends out this message “en masse” to all the new females on line.  There is no way he could have written that and read my profile.  Lame.  The next morning I had an inbox full of it.  LOL.  And a few messages from potential dating candidates.  Emphasis on potential.

5.  Don’t be too available.  Within moments of posting my profile I got an IM from a man who wanted to chat with me.  We chatted for a bit, but I had other things to do (I was tired and wanted to veg in front of the TV) Remember to move to your own rhythm!  If you’re tired, need to work etc. do it, honey!

6.  Move to your own rhythm part 2:  The next morning my inbox was full of mail from men who wanted to chat with me.  I did not answer those emails until later that afternoon.  I had work to do, chores to do and some other fun things I wanted to do for me.  Don’t feel as though you need to answer those messages asap.  You don’t know these men.  There are other things in your life that are more imporant than men you don’t know.  They are your glue.  Stay glued and let the men earn more of your time.

7.  What is a beautiful girl like you doing on an online dating site?  Translation:  What’s wrong with you.  LOL.  Just laugh at this and change it around.  Roll your eyes and think “Why are you so special, hotpants?”  Don’t be angry or bratty about it.  Be amused.  Remember how Dolly Parton dealt with those obnoxious questions from Barbara Walters.   http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rBf5Y0KIUHk

8.  I’m pretty sassy dealing with these men.  But it’s all in fun.  I will use the word “Hotpants” when a guy is being obnoxious.  I’ll call them on their BS if I don’t like something they do or say.   Politely but playfully.   Then I sit back and watch their actions regarding this.  Actions are key. 

9.  A lot of men like to keep their options open.  Why not us?  May the best guy win.   A guy friend of mine (that’s a whole other story) was asking me about who I was dating.  Pumping me for information.  LOL.   He actually high fived me when he figured out I was keeping my options open.   (maybe because he knew his “option” might be opened?)

Does this sound like fun to you?  Being in control of your love life?  It’s a blast.  Below are a couple more blog posts to inspire your kick ass-ness!  Happy Hunting.  Love, Goddess

© S Stevens Life Strategies

1. Let a Man Chase You and Here’s How:  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/06/let-a-man-chase-you-heres-how/

2. What We Can Learn From Men’s Magazines: http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/06/what-you-can-learn-from-men-magazines/

3.  If you’re thinking about “him” too much:  Outrageous Fun: http://bitchlifestyle.com/2010/06/get-outrageous/