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Gratitude image from the wonderful blog Trinity Mops http://trinitymops.wordpress.com/page/2/

I’ve said it over and over.  Your wants and passions are the keys to making you glow and propel you into your Sassy Confident Bitch.

It’s important to stay aware:  looking over your wants and passions list, updating, adding, deleting, because they can be pushed aside for other things.  When you neglect a passion you may start to get cranky.  You miss it and want it!  You may start to let it affect other passions.  Then you have two passions affected.  Then another curve ball is thrown into the mix.  And another and another.  You’re the Sassy Bitch handling it all brilliantly.  But you’re still neglecting something.

Being a Sassy Bitch is a blast but it isn’t easy.  When you’re the Sassy Bitch you affect everyone around you. If you fall off your game, you start to feel guilt and beat yourself up a bit.  Then Drama Queen starts to babble silly advice to you.  Silly advice a Sassy Bitch would never take.  The next thing you know you can’t get in touch with your best friend to vent and you’re venting to a close guy friend.  He’s able to identify your problem in one sentence and then you get mad at him.  You…in your Drama Queen thinks he doesn’t know you well enough to understand ALL that is going on with you.  So you ignore him or tell him off.  The next day?  You’re Sassy Bitch tells you he was right.

This scenario happened to one of my coaching clients recently.  She has two very strong passions:  Her rock band and crafting.  For years she has been making beautiful things for craft shows.  The Holidays=high crafting season.  Her rock band has really picked up steam lately.  They have shows every weekend and she is loving the opportunities that are finally coming her way.  This conflicts with her craft shows.  She had to choose.  She chose weekends with the rock band.   She said to me one day:*

Sandy:  I’m totally in my Drama Queen.

Me:  You don’t sound it.

Sandy:  I am!  We had a show this weekend and I didn’t want to do it.  I was frustrated about the show and frustrated with myself because I felt ungrateful.  Then there were travel issues, I didn’t get all the work and shopping I needed to get done this weekend, AND this guy from my past has returned and he’s being wonderful.  Which is damn scary.

Me:  Why didn’t you really want to do the show?

Sandy:  This is going to sound stupid.

Me:  I’m not going to think that.

Sandy:  I haven’t had the time do craft shows this season.  That’s all I could think about!  And Calvin from the group said that to me and I told him off.  He noted how edgy I was during the show.  That was not cool of me.  What do you do when two passions collide like this?  How do you stay in your Bitch?

Me:  First, give yourself a break.  Your crafting passion is AWOL. The opportunities from your rock band have made you miss out on your crafting opportunities. So the solution is start being grateful for all the opportunities you have.  And find creative ways not to let your crafting passion be shut out.

Sandy:  I’m mad at myself for not making the time earlier.

Me:  You didn’t have the time earlier.  You’re beating yourself up again.

Sandy:  The success of the group is not forcing me to choose.  I need to find time for my other passion, crafting.  And ultimately, a way to make more money crafting.  Which I’ve always wanted.  I’ve wanted to start selling online for two reasons.  One, I can make more money.  Two, this would free up time on the weekend for my group.

Me:  Yes.  You’ve just turned the whole thing around.  That’s my Sassy Bitch.

Guilty feelings sometimes come up when we feel bad about getting all we want.  Hence the reason why we should start being grateful.  Anger, a lot of times, is fear.  It’s really scary getting everything you want.  When you push through it by taking creative action, like Sandy is now doing, it gives you something new and positive to focus on!  Questions?  Let me know!

Love, Goddess

*Name has been changed for privacy purposes.

© S Stevens Life Strategies

Gorgeous Red Heart Ribbon can be found at the fab Woman Around Town website:  http://www.womanaroundtown.com/sections/dining-around/you-can-be-the-queen-of-hearts

To make the most out of our “12 Days of Sassy Christmas,” I thought I would look up some time savers.  Because, like…I was having trouble finding time.    So here are some time-saving tips, things to stress less over and a few fun and sassy things to do…with all the time you’ve saved!

1. Schedule a day for YOU next year.  Give it a sassy name if you wish.  This is a day to nurture yourself and do only that which rocks your world.
2. Instead of doing all the wrapping at once, wrap whatever you have purchased as you get it.  I got this idea from one of my coaching clients, Sandy.  I hate wrapping and I seem to hate it less now.
3. Avoid the shopping marathon.  Use the internet and make short shopping trips.  Aim to get 1, 2 or tops three gifts done per day.
4. CHEAT!  Don’t have the time to make homemade brownies?  Don’t feel guilty.  Use a package mix and then add your personal touch.  Like a drizzle of chocolate, yummy nuts, etc.  Think to yourself…hmmm…what would make these even tastier?  Enjoy and play with the thought.
5. If you’re entertaining, make one really yummy celebration drink.  Like a champagne with a splash of peach or pomegranate juice.
6. Don’t feel guilty if you have to change your 45 minute work out to a 15 minute work out.  Catch up in the New Year.  Use the extra half hour to catch up with family and friends you love!
7. Wisp away grays with mascara.
8. You know all those Holiday Annoyances?  Standing in line, rude people, etc?  Create a hot little mantra to zone out to and lower the noise.  Something like:  I am ******* fabulous.  Say it over and over softly in your mind.  Breathe it in and let it wash over you.
9. I’m really not an E card person.  However, I no longer send out a bazillion cards to everyone I know.  Weed out the people who don’t send you cards.  Don’t drive yourself nuts remembering people who don’t take the time to remember YOU.  Don’t take it personally.  People are busy. 
10. Don’t say “yes!” to every social engagement.
11. Instead of worrying about keeping the whole house clean, spend 15 min. a day cleaning just one room.  If you have a family, assign a person to each room.
12. Tell Santa you’ve only been “slightly naughty” this year.
13. Hand out mistletoe wherever you go.
14. Before shopping, put on an outfit you feel absolutely divine in.  Do your hair and make-up.  Glam yourself up with sparkle and a spritz of your favorite perfume.  (If you see Santa…now would be a good time to tell him you’ve only been slightly naughty)

Please share your time-saving and stay sassy tips for this wonderful and busy time of the year on our Facebook page:  https://www.facebook.com/pages/Bitch-Lifestyle/205875411841

Love, Goddess

Private Coaching available.  For more information: @Goddesspower978@hotmail.com

© S Stevens Life Strategies

Bonus Sassy:  Get yourself a yummy cupcake!  Yummy cup cake from The Cupcake Blog:  http://www.thecupcakeblog.com/tag/red-velvet-candy-cane-cupcakes/

The 12 Sassy Days of Christmas (or whatever Holiday you would like to celebrate…ie “Bad-Ass Bitch Holidays) start today!  Every day on Facebook I’m going to give you something fun and sassy to do.  On some days you might be…really Goddess?  You want me to do what?  And that is totally cool.  Do as many as you want to do.  Keep a few on the back burner for another time if you wish.  Bottom line is we are going to celebrate having the gorgeous gift of life and the sexy little packages we enjoy life in:  Our hot little feminine bodies!

All you have to do is join the fun on our Facebook page:  https://www.facebook.com/pages/Bitch-Lifestyle/205875411841 and play, play, play!

On the First Sassy Day of Christmas:  Make a list of ALL and I mean ALL the things you want in your life.  Career, Family, Health, Friendships, Hobbies, Love.  Do this by candle light.  In your most gorgeous lingerie.  Or nothing at all.  Bask in your favorite perfume, listen to sexy music, nibble on chocolate.  Make this really relaxing and fun.  I don’t care how silly it sounds:  Ie:  “I want to visit the Tower of London with nothing but a soft, gorgeous silk robe on and flash one of the palace guards.  He passes out.”  Special note to my British Babes-don’t be getting yourself arrested!  ;)  The key is enjoying ALL of lifes’ possibilities.  Remember, nothing is impossible.  Impossible is just an opinion!  Bitch it up and either share with a friend or share with us on Facebook.  Sharing makes us all have options that make us go…  Oooooo…I want some of that!

Love, Goddess

Sassy Picture of Eartha Kitt from the blog Ironing Board Collective:  http://ironingboardcollective.wordpress.com/2011/04/18/eartha-kitt-where-have-all-the-sassy-women-gone/

‘Tis the season to…

Stop being so hard on yourself.  Right now.

It’s a gift we women have.  We love with our whole hearts and souls.  We give with our whole hearts and souls.  We love to see everyone happy.  Because of all this we strive to make everything perfect.

Perfection.

You’re already perfect.  Remember the quote I love from Dr. Christiane Northrup?  “Only perfect eggs are fertilized.”  The key in “stop being so hard on ourselves?”  See the perfection in every moment.  In every curve ball.  In every mistake.  Speaking of mistakes, a Sassy Bitch can work and correct a mistake like nobody’s business!  Her own and others.  She is Scarlett O’Hara when the fur is flying.  She can do this because even though sometimes she wants to curl up in a ball and eat a pound of brie in a darkened room, she knows that won’t fix anything.  In fact, it leads to more being hard on herself, more pounds of brie and high cholesterol counts.  Not fun.

Practice laughing at your mistakes, adoring every luscious drop of you, honing your sense of humor and kicking the edgy energy out with work outs.  When you hear that voice inside your head going “I don’t wanna do that.  I don’t wanna do that!”  Take a deep breath and ignore that whiny little Drama Queen Brat.  Get active, Bitches!  Here are some articles to help you.

1. Know the one thing you have control over? http://bitchlifestyle.com/2011/01/know-the-one-thing-you-have-control-over/
2. Dance your “hard on yourself” out:  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2011/02/were-bringing-sassy-back/
3. Turn Worry into Fun:  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/09/turn-worry-into-fun/
4. Mata Hari:  That Woman Knows How to Die:  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2010/12/mata-hari-that-woman-knows-how-to-die/
5. What is the one flaw in a woman?  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2010/10/what-is-the-one-flaw-in-a-woman/

When I was looking for images for this article, I loved the above one of Eartha Kitt.  Please read the article.  It’s fab and it is written by a man.  The article is titled “Where have all the sassy women gone.”  Her look says it all.  Sassy, beautiful.  You can just imagine her looking off to the side to whoever is there.  Is that person bringing her some adversity?  Her response?  “Bring it.”  With a purr.

Love, Goddess

© S Stevens Life Strategies