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Sassy Anne Taintor pic from the web site Planet Stef:  http://stephscott.wordpress.com/

“Inner Beauty won’t get you laid.”

I saw that quote somewhere and yeah, it’s all in Bitchy fun.  I so disagree.  Inner Beauty is your hot sensual driving force of seduction.  It’s the driving force of your success and happiness in life.  It  is so powerful sometimes the world tries to suppress our power.  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/06/embrace-our-sexual-organs/  Because, like the playful woman in the pic above, you can be as nice as you want or as naughty as you want.  (sassy wink)  So lets discuss just how sexy our inner beauty is:

1. It’s your luscious brain that decides YOU want to be your best possible YOU. Your inner and outer self.
2. It’s your luscious brain that trains your voice and how you use it in every possible circumstance:  Career, debate, seduction.
3. It’s your luscious brain that listens to someones’ words with a healthy dose of skepticism.  Because it’s protecting the heart and soul from distrust by waiting for the action to back up the words.
4. It’s your luscious brain that encourages curiosity, discovery and adventure to feed the heart and soul.
5. It’s your heart that skips a beat when you find the perfect pair of shoes that make you feel oh so sexy in.
6. It’s your heart that warms when your eyes enjoy a beautiful sunrise or sunset.
7. It’s your heart that warms when you give to someone and it makes them smile.
8. It’s your heart that makes you appreciate all that is around you.
9. It’s your heart that sends out love and playful joy to all those around you-and warms their hearts.
10. It’s your soul that awakens on that early morning work out session when you feel re=charged.
11. It’s your soul that doesn’t try to limit your choices.  Because your soul knows that the heart and mind are working for it to create the perfection in every moment.
12. It’s your soul, upon awakening to another precious day that happily looks forward to all the delicious opportunities and pleasures that await you.
13. It’s your brain and heart working together to lovingly call someone on their crap.  To save the soul from the spiritually draining feelings of inadequacy and insecurity.
14. It’s your brain, heart and soul working together on many different levels that make your Sassy Bitch tick and purr and walk around the piles of shit that surround us every day.

Because you are in your Sassy Inner Bitch you don’t see all the piles of shit.  You see the good around you.  You enthusiastically face challenges with determination.  Because you know that your brain, heart and soul are aligned.  You aren’t even aware of how attractive and magnetic this is.  Your inner beauty gives you that confidence, that glow.  And makes you the irresistible, dynamic force that you are!

Further Reading:

1. Dell Williams:  A Sexual Pioneer for Women:  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2010/09/dell-williams-a-sexual-pioneer-for-women/
2. Hail to the V:  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2011/09/hail-to-the-v/

Let’s discuss on Facebook:  All the gifts of our inner beauty:  https://www.facebook.com/pages/Bitch-Lifestyle/205875411841

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I’m a naughty teacher.  I’ve been so bad.  Here’s what you have to do to enjoy me.   Cameron Diaz pic from Bad Teacher Trailer  http://bad-teacher.movie-trailer.com/

You and I are open for business.  Our business?  Our very own “School of Gallantry.”  Inspired by one of the greatest Seductresses of all time:  Ninon De Lenclos http://bitchlifestyle.com/2012/02/ninon-de-lenclos/  By doing this we are honoring her brilliance.  And ours.  Our ability to communicate exactly HOW a man is to pursue us, seduce us, love us…be worthy of us. (sassy wink)

Not one whine.  Knowing without question that YOU are the hottest thing that was ever created on this planet.  Knowing that you deserve to be treated like the amazing woman you are.  This is not about arrogance.  You are a confident, loving, caring woman.  A good man will see this and will appreciate the chance to put a smile on your beautiful face!  School your potential lovers and male friends in the following ways:

1.  Techniques you desire in courting and seduction.
2.  A peak into how you tick as a woman.  Slower than slow.  You may want to keep a bit of mystery about you.
3.  The proper way to break up with a woman.  None of which involves a text.
4.  The physiology of sex.
5.  The seductive qualities in conversation.
6.  Be sure to give your school a hot name. Worthy of you.

What will you add to this list?  This is about YOU remember.  Exactly what you desire from a man.  Exactly how you want to be treated and adored.  Before you do this take the time to relax.  Really relax and get into your hot, sensual self.  The cares of the day behind you.  If you have a boyfriend or a husband…what would you like from him?  Is it a soft, sexy kiss?  Let the pleasure of experiencing one of those kisses wash over you.  Enjoy enjoy enjoy.  When you feel yourself all warmed up, give him a call.  Tell him…

“I was just thinking about how much I enjoy kissing you!  It’s so good.”

Don’t try to get him to come and see you.  Keep it short.  Just let him know you were enjoying something about him.  See what happens…and take notes like a good (or bad) teacher.   Oh…and if a potential lover gives you crap about how high maintenance you are or some other silly thing about how you want to be treated?  Purr playfully and say something like:  “I’m soooo worth it.”

And you are…now get in there and play, Sexy Teacher!  Love, Goddess

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The Brilliant Ninon De Lenclos (1620-1705)  http://blog.thepfisterhotel.com/2012/01/pfister-art-ninon-de-lenclos/

In the Victorian Era-where women were not permitted to be “independent,” Ninon De Lenclos took that social norm and kicked its’ ass!  Not only was she beautiful, she was considered an “equal” to men in her intelligence and wit.  She was an author and thanks to a string of very wealthy lovers, lived her life as she pleased, was loved in French court and became an author.  She also held on to her wealth…something a lot of women were not taught how to do back then.  I mean, that would involve becoming independent so you can take care of yourself, right? (sassy wink)  Want more?  She was a patron of the arts and her son was none other than the famous Voltaire.  Some more inspiring tidbits:

1. Ninon was born in poverty and to keep her independence, joined a convent.
2. Her father, in a time where women were not taught how to write, made sure Ninon learned her letters.
3. Noticing how women were taught to buy “frivolous things,” Ninon took note instead of what men bought.  And chose those things.
4. She divided her admirers into 3 groups: “Payers”-Conversation seekers, not necessarily sex. “Martyrs” those who struck out. “Favorites” flocked to her home to hear her play her lute.
5. King Louis XIV never changed mistresses without asking Ninon first.
6. Men wanted her so much. However they didn’t meet her high standards.  So she opened “The School of Gallantry” to teach them how to romance women.  LOVE it!
7. Ninon’s lovers paid her bills, but she refused to be “bought.”  She did exactly what she wanted.  Whenever, whoever, whatever.

Mmmmm…so ladies.  When are you opening up your “School of Gallantry?”

Suggested Reading:

1. Scandalous Women:  Ninon de Lenclos – Mademoiselle Libertine http://scandalouswoman.blogspot.com/2007/11/ninon-de-lenclos-mademoiselle-libertine.html
2. Carole Lombard:  Feisty and Fabulous http://bitchlifestyle.com/2010/09/carole-lombard-fiesty-and-fabulous/
3. Think You’re Too Old and Ugly to be a Seductress?  Think again! http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/10/think-youre-too-old-and-ugly-to-be-a-seductress-think-again/

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Strong male hand at work can be found at Royalty Free Stock Photos 123rf:   http://www.123rf.com/photo_5313692_repairing-work-spanner-wrench-tool-in-human-hand.html

Do you know when a man is being vulnerable with you?

A close male friend, “M” and I are talking.  We’re talking about his family.   ”Ms” Dad is so cute and I ask him how he is doing.  M says he’s good but he isn’t able to use his hands like he used to.  M is so like his Dad to me in that way-how much they love to work with their hands.  The next thing M says puts the exclamation point on it:

“I don’t know what I would do if I couldn’t work with my hands anymore.”

Do you understand how much a man just said to you when he says something like this?  He’s stating a huge part of who he is and the fear of losing it.  This is him being vulnerable and open with you.   An interesting metaphor is menopause for women.  BOTH sexes are losing the ability to produce.  Never to come back.  This post is something for us as women to think about and be aware of.  What is something about a man you care about that is SO important to him?  Does he relish his business mind?  His creativity?  His ability to discover solutions to problems?  Does he crave adventure?  These are keys to appreciating the men you care about.   As he gets older, his body and mind will bear the inevitable aging process.  Strong, loving you will find ways to make sure he still feels strong and connected to his joys in life and the deeply male, primal need to produce.

Truly loving involves reciprication.  Communicating wants, desires and letting the other produce for you.  Truly loving notices what the other lives for and encourages always.

Related Reading:

1. The Dark Side of the Male Ego:  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2011/08/the-dark-side-of-the-male-ego/
2. Giving You a Hot Sexy Shot of Testosterone:  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2010/07/giving-you-a-hot-sexy-shot-of-testosterone/
3. What You Can Learn From Men’s Magazines:  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/06/what-you-can-learn-from-men-magazines/

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