50 Shades of Grey. The “controversial book” that is (ahem) taking women by the millions. I’ve heard a lot of negative things about it. It’s just porn! It’s badly written! It’s degrading to women! Yadda yadda yadda. I’m only half way through the first book. You know what I think this book is about so far?
Mmmmm….surrender. Say whatever you want about the sex, how the guy doesn’t love her whatever. A lot of people may get mad at me for this. Maybe some are not being honest with themselves. I, personally, want a man I trust so much that I can collapse in his arms and surrender to the pleasure he wants to give me. Period. I can block out the world, all the problems in the world, the problems I’m trying to solve, the multi-tasking, all the mindless and endless tasks I have to complete each and every day. Completely surrender to pleasure. And oh will he ever get it back.
Surrender. Is that a bad word to you? Does it signify weakness? It used to with me. I surrendered to my rage, jealousy and all those horrible emotions that can hold us back from producing as humans. By living fully in the moment when these bad emotions crop up we are fully embracing them. Why would we be given the gift of emotion if not to understand, celebrate and use emotions constructively?
Those who don’t know how to weep with their whole heart, don’t know how to laugh either. Golda Meir
I’ve surrendered blissfully to all the good emotions too. Surrender, to me, is living life in full out abandon.
Something else that is rolling around my brain about 50 Shades of Grey? Men respond to us. They want to make us smile. They want to make us happy. They want to produce for us. The ones that really like us want to do all this for us. Sometimes, we are so caught up in over-thinking that we can’t see that he is only trying to give us what we want. We resist. Resist. Resist. Notice how the men in your life respond to you. Maybe…just maybe…you are resisting something that you really want. I’m not just talking about sex here. Listen to what men say to you, pause and let it wash over you. Ask yourself this: Do I want that?
Surrendering sexually … to receive pleasure with abandon. That’s the part I see in the story. So how about you, lovelies? Let the discussion begin. Here and on Bitch Lifestyle Facebook. Order the book: 50 Shades of Grey
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