Evita Peron

Evita Peron
Evita Peron image from Shining Wizard 

Evita Peron was a charming dynamo who took Argentina by storm.  She started out as a poor prostitute and died adored and mourned by millions.  She became a skilled political speaker and used her position to help people.  She wanted to help those, who like herself, started out in poverty.

  1. Embrace Risk:  She didn’t let her unfortunate beginnings keep her down.  Evita wanted to be successful in Argentina.  She had a dream and went for it.  She became a successful radio personality and actress.
  2. Adapt:  Evita adapted to the needs of up and coming politician Juan Peron.  She had to if she wanted to be more than a Mistress.  She wanted to be his wife which would help her realize her dream of fame and fortune.
  3. Appearances Matter:  She knew how much appearances mattered.  She knew she had to look her best to stand out and be admired by the people of Argentina:  She always looked glamorous.  Designer labels from head to toe so “the people who dreamt about her” wouldn’t be let down.
  4. Silence is Powerful:  She knew when to be quiet.  She knew the power of just listening.

So how do you channel a little of Evita into your life? Evita, the Legend of Eva Peron (1919-1952) Especially if you don’t (at the moment) have a rich, powerful head of a country to lavish his money on you?

  • Never be caught with unkempt roots.  Keep them in check between appointments.  Even if you need the swipe of a mascara wand.  Don’t be caught dead in public in sweats or pajamas.  Do your make-up and wear jewelry. If someone loves your outfit? Don’t tell them it’s Walmart.  (Even if it is) Say you got it in a store in New York City.   I wore this dress for years from Walmart that people thought was designer from New York City.  I did get in New York City (sassy smile).  Or just say “Thank you.”
  • Cultivate an air of mystery.  Let people wonder about you.  Just because they ask a question (especially if it’s personal!) doesn’t mean you have to answer.  Don’t give it all up…putting every aspect of your life on social media.
  • Adapt instead of whine, moan, or not take action.  What’s more effective…whining about how you can’t do something or actually taking steps to achieve it?
  • Take chances.  I’m not saying go to a dangerous area and walk around alone…I’m saying get adventurous.  And if something bugs you or you don’t like it?  Don’t let that have power over you.  If you are afraid of trusting people?  Analyze why.  Maybe it’s the people you are around?  Solution:  Take action by getting out and meeting new people.

Oh…and most importantly…enjoy channeling your inner Bitch Goddess…just like Evita did.  Love, Goddess

Suggested Reading:

  1. Relationship Advice:  The Seductress in Action
  2. Depression and Conspiracy Theories?
  3. Bitch Lifestyle:  The Manual

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Healthy Habits of Centenarians

Healthy Habits of Centenarians
Open your arms to living more! Image of the Queen Mother from Telegraph.co.uk 

Healthy Habits of Centenarians?  Today we are keeping it so simple.  I read this today and just had to share with you all.  This is from the Queen Mother, who lived to be 101 years old. With everyone telling you how to eat, when to eat, what to eat, how to do this for your health, how to do that for your health…this was refreshing.  It is what she made clear in her official biography “Queen Elizabeth the Queen Mother,” regarding her longevity:

“Wouldn’t it be terrible if you’d spent your life doing everything you were supposed to do, didn’t drink, didn’t smoke, didn’t eat things, took lots of exercise, all the things you didn’t want to do, and suddenly one day you were run over by a big red bus, and as the wheels were crunching into you you’d say “Oh my God, I could have got so drunk last night!”  That’s the way you should live your life.  As if tomorrow you’ll be run over by a big red bus.”

TRUTH!!!

So there you have it — superior advice from a woman who LIVED.  Healthy habits of centenarians is a real helpful thing to study…no?  Yes, we want to keep our energy level at its peak so we can do all we want to do.  BUT if we don’t sprinkle some fun into our day every day we are not living.  Live pleasured.  Every single day.   Love, Goddess

Suggested Reading:

  1. Fun, Playful and Slightly Outrageous Things to Do This Weekend
  2. Click the image below for Bitch Lifestyle:  The Manual on Amazon…

Or…. it’s always nice to plan ahead for summer:  Get Outrageous!

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Amazing Teachers

Amazing teaches and mentors.  Who are yours?

I was very lucky to meet one of mine in college.  One day I was wandering around the theatre and Carol Lucha Burns came up to me.  I’ll never forget it.  I’d just become a theatre major and had just started taking one of her classes.  To say that Carol is passionate about theatre and her students is putting it mildly.  She greeted me warmly and we started discussing my schedule.  She asked me a few questions and then within moments, she had my schedule optimized for the rest of the year!  So I could take advantage of all my major had to offer while taking care of “electives.”  Stuff I had to take to satisfy my Liberal Arts degree.  She had taken those few minutes and really listened to me.  She saw in me something that I hadn’t seen yet.  I was still a very shy young woman who knew what she wanted but had no idea how to go about it.  She saw my determination and good work ethic.  Carol was encouraging and was not afraid of kicking her students in the butt if we needed it.  And sometimes we did.  It was so important that she did that because things are not easy in life!  Life is going to kick you in the ass!  You have to be able to take action and keep going when it happens!  She did it because she cared about us.  By doing that, she was preparing us for hardships.  Tough love is loving love.

Carol opened her house to her students.  One night I was rehearsing my Senior Project in her dining room.  In the living room another group of students were rehearsing a musical comedy show that was coming up that weekend.  Another group of students was doing something else in another part of the house, I can’t remember what for.  Carol would go from room to room that night and see how the progress was going.  The memory makes me smile always and, because inside of me is a big softie, shed a few grateful tears.

Carol’s students threw her a huge retirement party in New York City.  It was such a blast!  A lot of past students performed, there was a roast and it was filmed so we could all enjoy now and into the future.  Inspiring teacher and now…inspiring to women in retirement.  What has she been up to during retirement?  To keep in shape she does Pilates…even though she is the oldest at the studio.  She needs to keep her energy up for all the adventures she has been on:

  1. She volunteered to teach English to orphans in Vietnam for a month!
  2. Summer stock as Miss Marple at Cortland Repertory in New York State.
  3. Took voice lessons so she could bring back and improve a revue she did in the past titled, aptly:  “Bring it Back,” in New York City.
  4. Travels to Peru and safaris.
  5. Writing:  She is working on a new fictional story.
  6. And…she just published her first novel:  Georgia, a New York Story.  Georgia, a New York Story draws on her knowledge of human behavior and a strong belief in the ability of people to endure, expand and change, despite any obstacle. Like the eclectic family in her first work of fiction, she believes honesty, tough love, and humor are the most essential tools of survival.  Georgia, A New York Story  Georgia sounds like a Sassy Bitch we could all learn from no?  I’m looking forward to reading all about Georgia.

Who were your amazing teachers?  What did they teach you?  Did they give you a loving kick in the butt when you needed it?  Take a moment and appreciate them:  smile at the sky and yell “Thank you!  Also…look for mentors and teachers you can learn from that you admire right now.  Let their drive and passion motivate you-push you toward your own personal success.  Love, Goddess

 

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Seduction as an Art

Veronica Franco image from the amazing “The Honest Courtesan” blog:  http://maggiemcneill.wordpress.com/2011/11/14/veronica-franco/

 

One of my favorite books ever is Seductress by Betsy Prioleau.  The reason why I love this book so much is because not only does she take us on a journey of the great Seductresses in history, but she made me realize seduction is an art!  We “seduce” daily.  Seduction, in business, becomes “negotiating skills.”  Courtesans were our celebrities of today.  Our Elizabeth Taylors and Marilyn Monroes.  They were followed everywhere.  They fascinated and enticed.  They ruled in a world where playing full-out with your femininity was snubbed in society.  It just wasn’t “proper.” (Insert sassy eye roll here)  How did these women do it?  How were they able to rock their femininity and live exactly the way the wanted to in repressed times?  There are women in this book that were not attractive.  They were described as “homely” and “thin-faced” or “old.”  Yet they had men all over them.  What was their secret?

They were glued to whatever gave them pleasure.  To their passion.  They were glued to their self-respect and NO ONE was going to take those things away from them.  Some were brazen about this.  La Belle Otero was known for her dancing.  Here is a link to a video on YouTube.  It shows pictures of this famous courtesan and then a rare treat.  A film of her dancing.  What struck me was the very end of the video.  How she suddenly moves with abandon!  And like a little teaser…the video ends.  I love being teased…sigh.   I’ll just have to imagine what the rest of the dance was like.  Or having the pleasure of seeing her live.    La Belle Otero

Seduction as an Art Tip #1:   Dance for yourself.  Dance with abandon like Belle Otero.

Then there is Veronica Franco who had a movie Dangerous Beauty based on her.  In Venice in the 1500s, women were not allowed to educate themselves.  Reading was forbidden. Veronica had a brilliant mind that would not be suppressed.  So she chose her mind and became a courtesan.  Venetian courtesans, in their rebellion against this suppression were brilliant conversationalists.  Men paid them just for the privilege of their witty, learned, fascinating ability in conversation.  Veronica wrote poetry and published both in a book during her life time.  Veronica Franco: Poems and Selected Letters

Seduction as an Art Tip #2:   Work that beautiful mind.  Get curious.  Don’t be afraid to question the written word and back your opinions up!

Seduction as an Art Tip #3:   Beryl Markham was all about her passion for adventure.  She roamed the world for men, excitement and prizes.   Embrace your passions.  No excuses.  Ever!

Madame De Pompadour worked her innate “grace.”  Grace is a complex virtue and when mastered it can move even the most jaded of characters.  Something that served her well in what was a very complex and treacherous existence:  Mistress to King Louis XV.  You know how bad competition among women is now.  Imagine being Mistress to the King-something you don’t exactly have power to do or not to do and all the people in court trying to take your place and bring you down.

Seduction as an Art Tip #4:   Grace is a skill Madame De Pompadour possessed and mastered.  Master yours.  It’s so much more affective than yelling, texting, IM or emailing.  You will never fully embrace your Sassy Bitch if you count on communicating through a device.  Communicate LIVE. 

Ninon de Lenclos created a school for men.  To teach them exactly how to adore and relish women.  Here’s a link to the article I wrote about her:  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2012/02/ninon-de-lenclos/

Every day I take a moment or two to be inspired by these women.  Women who rocked their feminine in a world where they were repressed.  How will you embrace yours today?  Love, Goddess

Books to inspire and educate you on these famous Seductresses:

  1. Beryl Markham
  2. Madame De Pompadour
  3. La Belle Otero
  4. Life, Letters and Philosophy of Ninon de Lenclos

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