Self Esteem Quiz How Do You Rate?

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How much can your sassy self esteem handle, Bitch?

Yes,  I know.  It’s exhausting being fabulous.  There are some days where we wish we weren’t so good at handling so much, right? Sometimes our Drama Queens and Brats take over. Making us question our decisions.  Through over thinking, forgetting to take care of ourselves or just plain over work.  Ultimately lowering our self esteem. Humor is an enhancer of self esteem.  I thought it would be fun to make up a little quiz to amuse ourselves with.  We’ve all had these situations happen in our lives.  And I’m pretty sure we have dealt with them with The Bitch, The Drama Queen or Brat in charge!  So which persona is more you at this moment in time?

Q1:  Opportunity is not thrown it is hurled your way.   How do you react?

  1. The Drama Queen:  You freak out.
  2. The Brat:  “Nobody can do this better than me.  I’ll do everything. ”  Then you slowly drive yourself crazy doing way too many things.  Until you…freak out.
  3. The Bitch:  Releases control.  After careful consideration you realize it’s doable when A, B and C occur.

Q2:  A person you have been working with on a charity project wants to do more.  What do you do with this valuable resource?

  1. The Drama Queen:  You feel threatened.
  2. The Brat:  You don’t trust anyone but you to get things done.  So you defiantly charge on.  Until…sniff…you start to feel taken advantage of and the Drama Queen takes over.
  3. The Bitch:  Is grateful.  Because you trust yourself and your choices.  Plus, it may give you time for that manicure you want!

Q3:  When you don’t get all you want done in a day, what best describes you?

  1. The Drama Queen:  You’re all avoidance.  You can’t remember what you actually did.  Except be unhappy about your life all day.
  2. The Brat:  You have way too much to do.  Don’t ask me to take a break.   “Screw breaks!”
  3. The Bitch:  You don’t focus on what you didn’t get done, you celebrate how much you have accomplished each day.

Q4:  You send a text to a guy you’re dating.  It’s been 5 minutes and he hasn’t responded.  Which best describes your reaction?

  1. The Drama Queen:  Has the phone in front of her on her desk.  Staring at it while tapping her foot anxiously.
  2. The Brat:  Just finished sending a second text.   Worded something like:  Where the hell are you and why haven’t you answered my very important text?
  3. The Bitch:  Is focusing on other tasks at hand.

Q5:  Fast forward an hour after you sent the text to the guy.  Which best describes you?

  1. The Drama Queen:  Is having a meltdown on the phone (another phone she has found just in case he texts back) to a friend about the crisis at hand:  his lack of communication and how he doesn’t appreciate her.
  2. The Brat:  Has decided that he is a complete jerk and wants to dump him.
  3. The Bitch:  Has heard back from him.  She has moved on to other things.

Q6:  You’ve been dating a guy for a few weeks.  He asks you for something outrageous.  Like take him to the airport at 11:00pm.  Which is your most likely response?

  1. The Drama Queen:  OKAY!
  2. The Brat:  Screw you.
  3. The Bitch:  I’ll be busy sleeping.  Have a nice trip!

Q7:  LOL…having fun yet?  If you aren’t laughing at this quiz, which reaction best applies to you:

  1. The Drama Queen:   What’s so funny?
  2. The Brat:  This quiz is stupid.  Screw you.
  3. The Bitch:  (laughing — she’s been there)

Still no giggle?  I have an assignment for you.  Get yourself some fun ASAP!  Have a bubble bath and sip champagne.  Get a massage, a pedicure or give yourself a little treat.  Here’s one I have right by my desk for a little pick me up:  Caudalie Devine Oil  Take a walk, have some sex, get a blow out.  Class dismissed.  Love, Goddess

Suggested Reading:

  1. The Sassy Bitch Rules
  2. Compromise and the Drama Queen
  3. Bitch Lifestyle the Manual
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Outsmart Back Stabbers!

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Outsmart back stabbers.  How do you deal with them?

Right now I’m dealing with a back stabber.  I run an improv group and someone crossed the line with me.  I communicated to this person in a bottom line, respectful way.  So they tried to circumvent me by talking to other members of the group.   When others in the group asked about the situation I said  “Why is so and so talking to you about this?  They are putting YOU in the middle of my decision.  Which isn’t fair to you.  They should be talking to me.  If you see so and so, tell them to talk to me about it.  Let me deal with it.”  Now the little back stabber has to go through me to get what they want.  This person, on their own, closed the door on opportunity.  So let’s discuss effective ways to outsmart back stabbers!

  1. Don’t trust them.  Back stabbers want what they want and that’s it.
  2. Don’t criticize them.  Be nice.  I will always be polite to this person.  If they freak out on me I’ll be rational and to the point.  This is power.
  3. Don’t marry a back stabber.  I get emails all the time from women who want guys who have stabbed them in the back.  They don’t trust them, but they still want to be with them.  Why would you want to marry someone to whom you can’t trust?
  4. Don’t believe what they say about others or about a situation.  They say and do anything to get what they want.
  5. Never try to one up them.  This will only fuel their desire to hurt you.  If they are on your last nerve, kick box it out.  Take a long walk.  Take a breath and remember:  what they want is for you to be upset.  If you give them what they want they will only repeat the cycle. Over and over whenever they need their “fix.”

So what do you think?  Have any fun and effective tips for dealing with back stabbers?  Please share on our Bitch Lifestyle Facebook.   

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  2. The Faux Girlfriend  
  3. Signs You’re a Sassy Bitch  
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Barbara Stanny-Money Inspiration

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Barbara Stanny-Money Inspiration.  Barbara Stanny grew up in the lap of luxury.  She is the daughter of one of the founders of H&R Block.  She was blessed with a huge fat trust fund.  She married and had her husband take care of things financially for her.

And did he ever.

Her husband took care of things so well for her, she wound up broke with the IRS knocking at her door.  You see, her husband spent all her money and then some and took off to Europe.  Leaving her to pick up every pitiful piece.  The final pitiful piece?  When she went to her father for help he said,  “No.”  Our girl had to pick up the pieces of her life.  She was the daughter of an H&R Block founder and she had zero knowledge of finances, zero idea how to take care of herself and was 200% broke.  And she, for the first time in her life, had to take care of herself.

And did she ever.

“Go where you fear because that’s how you grow.”~Barbara Stanny 

She fought back.  She looked at how she got there through self-reflection and went out, paid her husbands debts, learned about finances, straightened out her life and realized what was holding her back, held lots of women back.  Now she is a is a woman on a mission–a mission to motivate women to become financially empowered.  She used her experiences to write three wonderful books:  Prince Charming Isn’t Coming: How Women Get Smart About Money grew out of her interviews with financially savvy women. Her next two books, Secrets of Six Figure Women and Overcoming Underearning focused on helping women go from financial survival to financial stability.  She coaches, speaks all across the country and has helped many many women.  I’ve seen her speak and was inspired by the bravery it took to take her biggest failure, turn it into success and the vulnerability she shared with her story.  A true Bitch doesn’t whine about a problem, she solves the problem.  And Barbara Stanny did this in true Sassy Bitch Style!  Thank you Barbara Stanny for reminding us that:

We ourselves must be transformed. That means enlarging our field of vision by thinking much bigger than we do now about how much more we can make, how much more we can do, and how much more we can be. ~Barbara Stanny, Secrets of Six Figure Women

This means US knowing what we want, knowing we deserve it, and developing the confidence to have it, hotties!  Oh…and being ready for the bigger and better than we ever imagined possible.

Sign us up!  Love, Goddess

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  2. Sign of Sassy Strength
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Confidence: Signs You’re A Sassy Bitch

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Confidence: Signs Your A Sassy Bitch:

  1. The word “compromise” makes you yawn.
  2. You know what you want and succeed because you find a way when most people quit.
  3. You’re finances are in order.
  4. You take care of your mind, body and soul.  It’s your top investment.
  5. You listen to a man’s words with healthy skepticism.  Actions turn you on.
  6. You don’t whine about a problem. You solve the problem.
  7. You stay glued to your passions.  They are the keys to your success.
  8. You’ve been called a “spit fire” by a man at least once this week.
  9. You don’t care if the hot sexy piece of ass you just met calls you or not.  If he’s worth your time, he makes time for you.
  10. You take care of your home, family, friends, career, plants.  Because you respect how hard you worked and how lucky you are to have them.
  11. If your man tells you he “needs space” you blow him a sassy kiss or help him pack.
  12. You understand and appreciate the male ego.  So you can work it for both your pleasure.
  13. You know that just because a guy wants to have sex with you, it  doesn’t mean he actually likes you.
  14. You absolutely relish calling people on their crap in a calm and unemotional way.  True Bitches know why.
  15. You politely listen to the advice and ideas people give you.  Then do exactly what you want to do.  How you want to do it.
  16. If someone who loves you calls you on your crap, you listen.  You know they are doing it because they truly love and care.
  17. You can’t remember the last time you apologized for anything.

A Sassy Bitch got her confidence because:

1.  She takes care of herself.  She takes the time to know what turns her on and stays moving to her groove.  The better she takes care of herself the more confidence she attains.

2.  She doesn’t spend a lot of time apologizing for things she does.  Because she knows that what she did was right.  She knows she’s won when less confident “Drama Queen” people try to put the blame back on her and make excuses.  Thanks to taking care of herself, these less confident “Drama Queen” people are replaced with confident and wonderful people.  Confident and wonderful people are less prone to doing things that need an apology.  They know when they are wrong and fess up to it.  Much simpler than the Drama Queen, no?

3.  Because she takes care of herself, she always looks good.  She never looks like she just rolled out of bed, she fuels her body with healthy foods and has a wardrobe that makes her feel confident and put together.  She has glowing skin and enjoys playing with her make up.  That little girl that loves to play dress up is always in us!

4.  By taking care of herself she feels good.  When something doesn’t feel right or makes her cringe, she listens to that voice inside her screaming HELL NO!!!!

6.  She takes care of negative emotions (anger, fear, worry) before they have time to fester in her body.  Pushing away these emotions can lead to illness, chronic pain and other body ailments.

7.  Because she takes such good care of herself, she is able to laugh at most day to day annoyances.  And get right back into her groove.

8.  Have a yen to start your own hot little business?  A woman entrepreneur is an amazing organizer.  She knows it all starts with her.  She oozes confidence. Mindbody: together on purpose.  Mindbodysoul.

9.  Healthy relationships start with you.  A vibrant healthy you helps all your relationships.

Notice a theme here?  It all starts with you, honey.  Loving yourself is not negative or selfish.  It’s discovering and loving what makes you feel your best.  Which fuels your confidence.  Which is the fuel for everything.  Love, Goddess

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