Bratty B

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Ever find yourself in a place where the world around you is the definition of fabulous and yet you feel…

Like Bratty Bitch?

First…you’re in shock mode.  Why would you be bratty here and now?  You brush it off.   A little while later you catch yourself being all bratty and drama again.  Then guilt sets in because you can’t believe you’re surrounded with such good and all you can feel is Bratty, Surly and Drama Queen Bitchy.  Then the beauty around you blurs and fades away…the sights, sounds, flavors and sass disappear.  There is nothing of beauty, nothing of pleasure.  All guilt, all brat, all downer.  Which depresses you.

And then you are really in the dark.

Then…slowly over the months and years it becomes a habit.  The “dark” becomes the norm.  You see good but most likely it will piss you off.  Like the really happy in love couple, the piece of cheesecake you no longer allow yourself to eat, the car you feel you will never have, the vacation you will probably never take, the job you would die to have but it takes too much work.  Then it’s…

Going through the motions time.  Go to work, go home, do chores, read a book or watch a movie and then to bed.  Maybe you giggle over a moment during a TV show.  Maybe you have some cool plans at a new restaurant over the weekend.  You meet new people, new guys, but nothing really thrills you.  “It’s them, not you.”  You lie to yourself.  The truth is, it’s all you, Bitch.

The going through the motions, the dark, the bratty, the drama.  Not meeting any great guys?  Yeah…it’s YOU.   Not happy with your course in life?  That’s called “settling” and that is your fault too. Bummed that you are not doing A, B or C?  That’s you, too.  Whiny brat.  Does this piss you off?  Great!  That’s all you too!  You’re making a choice to settle, be mad and go through the motions. Two things can change this.  Problem is.  You are not willing to do it.  And that is all you.  I’m going to tell you the first right here and now.

The first is gratitude.  As soon as you find yourself being bratty, be grateful.  Instead of looking at the piles of shit around you, look for the piles of good.  There are always going to be piles of shit.  We walk around piles of shit all day long.  Friends get together for lunch to share each others’ shit.  We watch reality TV for more of it.  It makes us feel better to hear that someone elses’ shit is worse than ours.  Or we want validation that our shit is awful.  Problem is it is all shit.  It is all “shit focused.”  Stop focusing on the shit and start being grateful for all the beauty and good.  We see what we want to see.  Seeing shit all the time is not useful.  It is all Drama Queen.

So stop.  Take a deep breath with me and close your eyes.  Listen to the sounds around you and be grateful.  Take another breath and savor the smells swirling around you.  On your next breath start listing all the things you’re grateful for in your mind.  When you are done, write the most important on a piece of paper and print it out.  Carry it with you and look at it often. Replacing “shitty” thoughts with good ones is breaking a bad habit.  Can you even believe we have this bad habit?  It’s not hard when the world is one great big soap opera meets reality tv. You can do it though. Which leads me to choice #2.  If you really want to know?  Email me and I will tell you exactly what to do:  goddess@bitchlifestyle.com

Class dismissed.

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Gratitude

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Gratitude.

Today at Bitch University we honor it.  What are you grateful for?

I’m grateful for my loving family and friends.  I’m grateful for my health, curvy strong body and my sense of humor. I’m grateful for my Bitch.  She always protects me and speaks up for me.   I’m grateful for you for reading my posts and getting my ultimate goals:

1.  For every woman to love every drop of her gorgeous self.

2.  To spread fun, play, laughter and love world wide.

Gratitude is a key element for both goals to succeed.  Gratitude keeps you out of the Brat.  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2010/01/who-controls-you-your-bitch-or-your-brat/ Every one of us has so much.  When we notice how much we have and pay attention to it, we notice more good.  It’s choice.  Pick a week and focus on being grateful.  Think about all the fun things you could do:

1.  Make a list of all those that you love.  Make plans with them.  Give them a little gift, or greet them with a warm hug and tell them you love them.  If they live far away, send them a beautiful card telling them why you love them.  Reconnect and stay connected.

2.  Gratitude for music.  Sing, dance, shower and work to your favorite songs.

3. Gratitude for your senses.  For instance, taste.  Eat all your favorite foods for a whole day.  Savor every last bite.

4. Gratitude for your gorgeous body:  Spend a whole day loving it.  Work out, spa, pedicure, manicure.  Adorn it. 

5. Gratitude for life.  Spend a day in nature.  Listen to the wind, admire the trees, people and animals you encounter.  Close your eyes and inhale deeply the smell of the air.  Feel this essential element enter your body and soul.  Bitch it up by looking up into the sky and yelling Thank you!!!

Please inspire me to even more gratitude by sharing your thank yous on our community on Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/pages/Bitch-Lifestyle/205875411841

Love, Goddess

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