Control

 My favorite flower-Hibiscus.  Picture from http://www.hickerphoto.com/picture-of-a-hibiscus-flower-10306-pictures.htm

Control.

How many times have you said to yourself, “I don’t want to lose control.”  If you’re saying it, you may already be halfway there.  Halfway to your Drama Queen Brat.  Close your eyes.  Take a deep breath.  Take another deep breath.  Open your eyes and do what needs to be done.  That’s taking control in a good way.  “Control”  can be a very bad thing.  It also can be the best thing that ever happened to you.  When you’re Drama Queen Brat is a ranting and a raving, wallowing and a stewin,’ that’s bad.  When you let your Bitch take over and push her away, that’s good.  Here’s how you start going for the good:

1.  Take care of yourself.  Health, mind, body, and soul. 

2.  You make time for fun.  Always.

3.  You know how to release frustration and anger.  So you don’t let that emotion control you.

When you take these steps, over time, you start to see things more clearly.  The more you release your anger and frustration, the more relaxed you become.  Relaxation helps you start seeing what you truly love and truly don’t.  You gravitate toward the good because the Drama ain’t noooo fun.  When you have to deal with drama…and you will, you’re calmer.  Or you know what to do to dissipate negative emotions to get you to calm action quicker.  See why I’m always harpin’ ’bout you taking care of yourself?  That’s the bottom line.  That’s the seed you’re planting for your Bitch to grow.  Just like a plant. You need to nurture, feed, and provide the right environment for YOU to grow and blossom.  Yes, it’s an over used cliche,’ but it’s also the perfect one. 

So what kind of flower are you, honey?  What is your favorite fertilizer, type of water?  If you could sit anywhere, where would it be?  What pisses you off and makes you shrivel and dry up?  What pisses you off and makes you shrivel and dry up? I’m repeating that because it’s so important.  What keeps you from your vitality?  Know these answers better than anyone.  Then you can take control by taking action to do that which brings you to life!  You’re sassy, sexy, witty…force of nature.

Love, Goddess

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Who Controls You, Your Bitch or Your Brat?

 

Victoria’s Secret Angel Giselle pic from Date Hook Up

Who controls you, your Bitch or your Brat?  Do you see the wonder around you or do you choose to wallow in the dirt?  The Bitch sees the joy.  The Brat wallows.  We have both in us, hotties.  Here are the traits of the Joyful Bitch and the Drama Queen Brat:

The Bitch at Work:  Loves what she’s doing.  She feels fulfilled and enjoys each goal and aspiration met.  She doesn’t whine about a problem she solves the problem.

The Brat at Work:  Hates what she is doing, whines and bemoans her job and gets too involved with the Drama Queens and Kings at the office or wherever she hangs her career cap.

The Bitch at Home:  Whatever the size or limitations, has done everything she can to make her home her castle.  It’s clean, neat and organized.  (And she cuts herself slack if it’s not always perfect)  It’s full of things that make her comfortable: pictures, music, aromas, food and fond memories that make her smile.  She makes the most of what she has and is grateful for all she has produced.

The Brat at Home:  Looks at everything she has and laments the things she doesn’t have.  Nothing is ever good enough, pretty enough, expensive enough.  She cannot see the joy around her everyday because she chooses to see what she doesn’t have.

The Single Bitch:  Her life is full of friends, activities and passions that fulfill her.  She never “settles” in a relationship because “settling” is far worse than being single.

The Single Brat:  Laments she doesn’t have a man in her life, berates women who do and competes with other women over any guy in their orbit.  She doesn’t appreciate the freedom of being single.  It’s all about whining about not “finding the one,” “the perfect guy” and being “lonely.”

The Bitch in a Relationship:  Appreciates everything her man does for her.  She is always happy to see him and tells him so.  When he disrespects her she is polite but unemotional.  That puts the disrespect ball firmly in her court.  If he is a man he’ll be jumping through hoops to try and make things up to her.  If he’s a boy he’ll do various things like pout and try and blame it on her.  Which of course, won’t fly.

The Brat in a relationship:  Worries about “where things are going.”  She wonders when he will “pop” the marriage question and over analyzes everything a man does or says.  She gives up things she likes to do and pouts when he wants to have a beer with his buddies.  She calls and texts him constantly.  She allows disrespect from her man because she is afraid of losing him.  What she doesn’t understand is she has already lost him by these actions.

The Bitch has made a choice.  So has the Brat.  What is more fun…wallowing in what you don’t have or enjoying the hell out of what you do?  I’ve found that when I focus on the positive, more positive comes my way.  Yup.  I get down.  We all do.  That’s why I have a whole subject on this web site called “Drama Queen.”  It’s where we can acknowledge all the drama in our lives and then take steps to be done with it.  And have a little fun in the process!  Then we can get back to all the Bitchy Sassiness.  The only thing you can control in life is the positive attitude you put forth when bad happens.

So…what’s your choice, hot ones?  Love, Goddess

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