Why Are Some People So Mean?

Stop letting people who do so little for you control so much of your mind, feelings and emotions
Yeah!!!! Brilliantly said by Will Smith. From Quotes Lover: http://quotes-lover.com/wp-content/uploads/Stop-letting-people-who-do-so-little-for-you-control-so-much-of-your-mind-feelings-and-emotions.jpg

Why are some people so mean?  Envy, maybe. They want something you have and are jealous.  And mean.   Never go up against them.  If you do, you are only fueling their hatred and giving them fuel to tend to their “hatred of you” fire.  The best way to get them to go away?  Be polite.  Even do something nice for them in front of a lot of people.  Sincerely.  It will piss them off and they will go find another target.  Or if you do something nice for them, if they aren’t a hopeless Drama Queen, they may back off out of guilt or just stop the nonsense.  Or it may surprise them enough that they feel guilty about how they’ve treated you.  And maybe, just maybe,  try to make it up to you.

There is so much power in being polite.  Treat your enemies politely.  Enemies and mean people are uneasy with polite.  It isn’t the reaction they are used to getting.  It’s isn’t fun.  There is a reason why people push your buttons.  It’s to make you feel bad.  To control, manipulate or otherwise make themselves feel good because they wish they could feel good but have made it a habit to be mean.  Just seeing a happy person puts them in a jealous snit.  Deep down they are miserable.  Unhappy and pissed off beyond reason.  And the worst sorts want to wreck your day.  When you are polite they aren’t getting to you.   You will frustrate them so much they’ll either run away from you or learn from you. 

And it surrounds us on the news, television and internet.  I opened up AOL and there was so much Drama!  The poor little girl, Quvenzhané Wallis and the “C” word.  So and so “failed last night,” the most miserable place in the United States, a variety of things that are bad for you, I could go on.  And that was only the first page!  We are bombarded by drama every day.  It’s like a really bad episode of Real Housewives on Bravo.  Those women are constantly at each other.  She said this, she did that and then get together and fight about it.  Who wants to hang out with those kinds of people?  Give me the Bitch.  You know where you stand with her.  Because she tells you.  She wants to love life and the people in it.  Not waste time with stewing about all the “bad” out there.  I give you lots of tools in my book Bitch Lifestyle the Manual to kick the bad to the curb.  If all you want to see is bad, then fine.  See it.  Come join out party when you’re ready. 

Cut now to a brand new day (I usually start writing at night and edit during the day)  As part of the party invitation I decided to have a little fun with AOL.  If I opened the page today…a fresh new day…what positive empowering things can we enmesh ourselves in?  Here we go I’m going in… 

Well… 

That was a no go.  Everything was about death, how bad the economy is, celebrity problems and we’ll stop there!  So what does a Sassy Bitch do?  Try this:   1.  The Daily Good:  A newsletter…by the way it’s free…of real life inspiring good news.  2.  Cute Overload:  When you really need to smile: puppies, kitties being adorable, funny, huggable!  3.  Positively Positive:  Do I need to explain?  Go here for a healthy, good for you kick in the butt.   Now get in there and enjoy some JOY.  Love, Goddess

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