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What Do You Most Fear?

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What do you most fear?

I’m not taking vampires, zombies and witches oh…my.

What do you most fear?

I’m not even talking spiders.  Or anything that can creep up on you or fly in your hair.

I’m talking personal fears.  Sometimes the one thing that you really truly want eludes you.  So you try harder.  When the best thing to do is let go and trust.  Or worse, you keep choosing the wrong thing.  It’s what you know and what you think you like.  It’s what you’re used to.  Sometimes we do all these things because getting what we want can be terrifying.  What if we own and run a successful business?  What if we employ 50 or so people?  Not only do we then have to support our families, how do we make sure we keep bringing in more profit to support the other 50?  What if we really truly fall in love?  And that person leaves us?  Maybe it will all be easier if we stay in a job that doesn’t have so much responsibility.  Or stay with the guy we know who will hurt us.  Because losing the man who adores us and then leaves us we couldn’t recover from.  And the guy who hurts us?  We can whine and moan about.  We can get attention from this activity.  It satisfies our need for attention.  But in the wrong way.  We have substituted pain for feeling good.  And the pain that we feel becomes normal and comfortable.  It’s what we know.

What do you most fear?

Over time giving up what feels good for comfortable.

Screw that, Bitches.

How about trying new things.  New adventures.  When you find yourself being too comfortable, too regimented, too “doing the same thing all the time” changing it pronto!

What do you most fear?

Being alone, in the dark, in a creepy old house without power?

Stop.

Fear…is a future emotion.

Let me say that again.

Fear…is a future emotion.  When you are afraid of something happening that hasn’t yet.

Example A:  I like this guy as a friend, but I don’t want to go out with him if he asks me out.   This is fear and worry about something that may not happen.  This could fear and worry you right out of the best relationship ever.

Resolution A:   Stop putting expectations on something.  Just enjoy it.  Maybe he is the most incredible man you’ve ever met.  Give him a chance.

Example B:  We’re getting a new manager.  I heard she/he is a bear.  My job is going into the toilet.

Resolution B:  It ‘s natural to worry a bit when you have a new manager.  Take control of the situation by doing your best work.  Put your energy into that.

What do you most fear?

Trust.

All the above involves trusting yourself.  Trusting yourself into stepping a toe into what feels uncomfortable.  Dating “not your type.”  Trusting that the new management wants to succeed.  Knowing you are an important part to the managers’ success.  Throwing a cute guy a sassy smile, helping an older woman cross the street, killing the icky bug.  Trusting that you are confident enough to handle the curve balls thrown at you calmly and unemotionally. Trusting that if you step a little outside your “box,” you will find something interesting and new that you never thought of.

What do you most fear?

Me?  Not doing and missing something I would love!  You?  Make a list of your fears and conquer them.  One toe at at time.

Love, Goddess

© S Stevens Life Strategies

 

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