I watched a morning news show today, ladies. Apparently there is a best seller on the market right now that tells ya’ll how to “land a man!” I knew where they were going with this. I so wanted to flip the channel. But we’re all falling in love with ourselves aren’t we? So, in the spirit of our common goal I watched and listened.
I was assured up front that these were some of her “best tips” on how you should “land a man.” It was all about pleasing him. What a shocker. Now I’m not saying “do nothing” to please your man. When you care about someone and you’re having fun and respect each other it’s reciprocal. What I don’t want to see us do is make it all about him. Her “best tips” are in italics. My thoughts follow:
1. Make sure your bedroom isn’t too frilly, girls! You don’t want to scare him. As an example a bed was shown that was dressed in grey sheets. Grey sheets? I am so not a grey sheet girl. What do you think the chances are of me changing my bedroom around for HIM? I have a gorgeous pink boa above my bed. I love pink boas. They make me feel sexy. And I have used them on men for our pleasure. (Slowly caressing each other with a pink boa is SO fun and sensual!) I’ve never had any complaints. The boa stays.
2. Throw away all those beige bras! They are not sexy. Excuse me? I love my beige bras. I find them to be comfortable and practical. Love the frilly ones too and yes they make me feel sexy. But do you really think if you are standing in front of a guy in a beige bra he really cares about the bra? Do you think he is saying to himself: “God…she’s gotta throw out those beige bras in order to “land me?” This may be a little more accurate…”Mmmmm….breasts. Whoo hoo!!!!!”
3. Next was advice on various things you don’t want to “pop out” on a date. Falsies, nails, etc. Dolly Parton has broken all those “pop out” rules since she was a teenager. She loves herself and is a brilliantly successful woman. She is utterly charming and says point blank: “This is who I am…take it or leave it! Love me for who I am.” Yay Dolly!
4. Wash your hair! Huh?
5. Wear this and that fragrance because that’s what men like. Of course this doesn’t take in account our own unique sexy body chemistry. Why should it? This is all about pleasing and landing a man right? Why would I ever want to wear a fragrance that would please…me? (In case it didn’t come across…that was sarcasm)
This advice is so demeaning women. We are beautiful women with our own minds, our own sense of style. Books like this do not bring us up. They bring us down. And women are making these things best sellers! So let’s get back on the Loving the hell out of ourselves Band wagon!
Your assignment is to boldly love yourself with abandon today. Do unto your body only that which makes YOU feel fabulous. I would love to hear how it goes for you! Love, Goddess
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