Relationship Advice: The Seductress in Action

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Image of Minette Helvetius from the fab blog Raucous Royals

“Oh, there’s life in the old girl yet.” Graham Green

Relationship Advice: The Seductress in Action.  Old women can’t seduce, can’t charm, aren’t desirable?


Society is obsessed with youth.  With beauty.  What’s the deal with older women?  How do they capture the attention of those in the room from their younger counterparts?  Despite being stigmatized by society as being “over the hill,” “menopause mamas,” and “ugly and old.”  ?  Older seductresses are not swayed by these insults.  They don’t see them as such. They see them as a challenge to put the dissenters in their place. The back of the room!  Succumb to their “age issue?  Please.  Sassy Bitches roll their eyes at this judgement and forge ahead with their passions and desires. The ones that really get this disarm anyone who doesn’t respect them.  How?

  1. They disarm with brilliant conversation
  2. Older Seductresses know that men are attracted to older women on a deep level.  Men are attracted to their wisdom, wit, maternal nurture and seismic sexuality

Ninon De Lenclos took a lover at the age of 80 as a birthday present.  The amusing thing about this?  The man had approached her about making love to her when she was in her youth. Finally, tired of rejecting him she told him she would bed him “When I’m 80.”  He took her literally and he was on her doorstep the moment she turned 80.  Amused, she granted him his desire.  Many years earlier she decided to do something about mens’ cluelessness toward women.  She opened “The School of Gallantry,” to educate them on all things feminine.

Isabella Stewart Gardner was considered “old and ugly.”  Despite this, she landed the hottest, wealthiest bachelor in Boston and had throngs of young men follow her where ever she went.

Minette Helvetius didn’t see her wrinkles and moles at 61.  She saw all the life that was to be lived!  She had weekly jamborees at her salon in Paris.  She would greet all the men…the scholars, statesmen, poets and philosphers with delight.  These were the most sought after men in Paris and they wouldn’t miss a party thrown by Minette!  Seventy year old Benjamin Frankin felt like a young boy in her presence and was completely infatuated.   She repeatedly refused his offers of marriage.  She told him she was devoted to her salon and personal freedom.  Check out Raucous Royals for a fab article on Minette Helvetius.

Diane de Poitiers:  King Henry the II never made a decision without consulting Diane and couldn’t live without her. Despite Diane being 20 years older him.  Despite her “menopausal malady.” Which was attacked by the young and comely Queen Catherine de’ Medici.  Queen Catherine failed in her attempts to rid herself of Diane.

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Image of Diane de Poitiers found on You Tube. Check out the video for more on her life.

Mae West would hand pick her studs for the night.  What was her secret?  No late nights, alcohol, cigarettes and sunlight.  She ate lots of healthy food, drank lots of bottled water and loved to exercise.  Mae was so orgasmic she could climax in thirty seconds.  Uhm…WOW!

Late nineteenth century no place for an independent woman?  Have you ever heard of Mrs. Frank Leslie? She made out with men and money.  She used a mans’ name to rake them all in:  success, husbands, lovers and money.  She was in her prime for all those pleasures in her sixties!  Don’t think you can have a Marquis and a Prince coming to blows over you in your sixties?  Mrs. Frank Leslie did in her parlor one night.  You are not living your ecstasy, honey… up your Sassy Bitch!

So the next time anyone makes you feel old, ugly or inadequate…remember these HOT Mamas.  They took the insults hurled at them and spun them into success and sexy GOLD. When any lady does this, young OR old…this is power.  Use it wisely.  (Warm and Sassy Smile) Love, Goddess

Suggested Reading and a Course for ACTION!

  1. My Course: Bridge the Gap Between Mars and Venus!
  2. One of my FAVE books!  Seductress
  3. Bitch Lifestyle Home

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Love Games An Outrageous Proposal

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Image of Genevieve Lanthelme from Amis et Passionnes


Love Games…an outrageous proposal.

I love this story about Genevieve Lanthelme from Book of the Courtesans! Genevieve Lanthelme was a beautiful actress that was raised in her mothers’ brothel.  She was put to work there at age 14.  From the moment she was born she had a fierce independence.  She rejected the profession fate had chosen for her:  being a prostitute.  She studied acting at the Conservatoire and even though she was offered a position at the Comedie-Francaise she rejected this.  She wanted to perform at the popular theatres on the boulevards of Paris.  And she did…becoming a sensation! Audiences were charmed by her performances onstage and off.  Audiences were particularly interested in her lovers…both men and women.

One of her lovers was Alfred Edwards who gave her an elegant home filled with the most gorgeous furniture. His wife, Misia, was none too pleased.  Misia was also successful in the Paris theatre world. She was a successful producer and very powerful.  Misia planned a meeting with Lanthelme very carefully. She studied Lanthelme closely.  Misia matched her clothes, dress and rehearsed Lanthelmes’ charming dramatic appeal.  Misias’ intention? Confront Lanthelme in “mirror image” and deliver the following lines:

“You have a woman’s heart.”


“Give him back!”

Unfortunately Misia had no idea who she was dealing with.  Lanthelme was 3 steps ahead of Misia without even knowing her.  Lanthelme didn’t want to burn any bridges with her rivals’ wife.  The wife was a powerful player in the Paris theatre world.  She knew of Misia’s plans. And was prepared.  Upon Misia’s arrival:

  • Lanthelme had Misia wait for her in her salon…beneath a gorgeous painting of Lanthelme by the artist Boldini.
  • Lanthelme disarmed Misia with her entrance.  Not only with her breathtaking beauty, but with the charm at which she greeted her vistor…Misia.
  • Lanthelme showered her with compliments, discussed the theatre season and asked if she could help Misia in ‘any way.”

Thoroughly flustered, Misia told Lanthelme that she came to discuss her husband.  Lanthelme said there was “absolutely nothing to worry about.”  She told Misia he “hardly interested her.”  Then she abruptly changed her tactics:

She told her she could “really have him.”  On three conditions:  “I want the necklace you’re wearing,  a million francs and YOU.”

That did it.  Misia…not even acknowledging condition #3, removed her necklace, gave it to Lanthelme, promised she would receive the francs in a few days and hurried out the door. When Misia returned to her hotel, a package was waiting for her.  Inside the package were her necklace and a note that said:

“I have decided to to forget the money and return the necklace.  I am holding you only to the third condition.”

LOL…I haven’t been able to find out much more about Lanthelme except this brief entry in Wikipedia:  Geneviève Lantelme  She died of an apparent drowning…people think she may have been murdered.  One of the dangers of being beautiful, talented and highly spirited, maybe.  The reason why I wanted to share with you is that nothing seemed to get this lady down.  Not the brothel, the “you can’t do that,” not the powerful woman/rival.  She was a woman of passion and determination.  She used charm to disarm her enemies. Enemies do not expect to be treated with respect. People competing with you do not think you will treat them with respect.  It throws them for a loop when you are charming, helpful and polite!

A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort.”   Bitch 101

Who knows?  With a little charm and caring you may turn your worse enemies into faithful friends. Or not.  Bottom line:  You are handling the situation in an empowering way.  And that is what matters!  Love, Goddess

Suggested Reading:

  1. Ninon De Lenclos
  2. Think You’re Too Old and Ugly to be a Seductress? Think Again!
  3. Seductress

© S Stevens Life Strategies

Hedy Lamarr

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Gorgeous image of Hedy Lamarr from Classic Cinema Images

Hedy Lamarr…one of the most gorgeous movie stars to ever grace the big screen.  But we aren’t going to talk about that today.  Sure, I’m going to share some beautiful pictures of her for your viewing pleasure.  What we are going to discuss is something you may not know about her.  Have not one clue about.  The fact that this beautiful and talented actress had another passion.  She was also  a brilliant inventor.  That’s right.  She and her partner in invention crime, George Anthiel, discovered something so ahead of their time it took the world YEARS to catch up.  The year they patented their product was 1941.  It was a  “Secret Communication System” that rocked the world.  What they discovered did the following:

  1. Helped defeat the Nazi’s in World War 2
  2. Helped the United States military in numerous applications.  It helped us survive the Cuban Military Crisis.
  3. Completely changed the way the world communicates today.
  4. Enables us numerous forms of communication making work and life tasks run quickly and effectively.
  5. You now use the technology she developed every single day.

WAY ahead of her time.  So what did she and George Anthiel invent?

Spread Spectrum technology.


Spread Spectum technology manipulates radio frequencies at irregular intervals between transmission and reception.


Spread Spectrum technology forms the backbone of our modern day digital technology.  It allows us the pleasure of using fax machines, cell phones and all wireless communication.

Ahhhh…got it!

Another gorgeous image of Hedy Lamarr from Classic Cinema Images

Pretty cool, huh?  So there you have it.  Beauty and brains.  Talent and sexiness.  All rolled into one hot Austrian tamale.  The next time you use one of your wireless communication forms just remember who was the brilliant brain behind it.  The gorgeous and oh so talented Ms. Hedy Lamarr.  Love, Goddess

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Walking Dead Danai Gurira

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Gorgeous image from Afrolistas and the City:


Walking Dead.  Apparently it is a TV show.  I don’t watch it but fell in love with one of the actors anyway!  Meet my new girl crush:  Danai Gurira.  I found this pic on the awesome Afrolistas and the City.  I fell in love with the “badass attitude” because it is so Bitch Lifestyle.  She has taken her passions and focused on all the possibilities.   Any insecurities have been switched in a positive way.   Her attitude is empowering.   There is a beautiful person on every page in a magazine.  I normally quickly flip through.  All the same.  Not when I got to Danai and her fashion spread in In Style Magazine.  Her beauty made me stop.  I couldn’t take my eyes off how gorgeous she is!  Her words made me slow way down.  I rarely watch TV and even tuned into The Walking Dead this weekend just to check out a strong and successful woman.  I probably won’t be watching it…I mean…you know how crazy it is to live a Bitch Lifestyle.  It is ridiculously busy!  But I had to share with you so you could Google Danai Gurira and enjoy her sass, strength and beauty as well.  Let me know if she rocks your world and is your new girl crush too!

Love, Goddess

Suggested Reading:

  1. What Makes a Great Friend?  
  2. Signs A Man Wants You to Chase Him
  3. Bitch Lifestyle the Manual
  4. Bitch Lifestyle Home

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