Do We Need Fun Boot Camp?

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I love Jillian Michaels, the kick-ass trainer form The Biggest Loser.   She has a radio program on KFI AM 640.  I listened to her yesterday and she was really inspiring.  Have you ever done her workouts in On Demand?  She pushes you in a no BS type way.  You know me: “I’m don’t have time for the BS girl.”  My favorite thing that she says?  She says:

“Don’t think you can’t do it.  I have 400 pound people doing jumping jacks.  So can you.  When they say “just take the stairs” to get in shape, it doesn’t serve you.  Your body can do so much more.”

She goes on to say that before you lose the weight you have to realize that you have a problem. You need to go inward to fix the problem first before you succeed in your weight goals.  She thinks like one of my favorite authors:  Louise Hay:  You Can Heal Your Life

I love it because every day I’m bombarded with things that people say I can and can’t do.  Are you?  Lucille Ball was told she would never be a successful actress.   How’d that turn out? Lucille Balls’ Wikipedia  She was rejected time and time again.  She went for what she wanted and became the Queen of Comedy.  She got her own TV show and I Love Lucy still runs on television—60 years later!  That woman was brilliant.  Which brings me to Fun Boot Camp.  When I decided I wanted to bring fun and play back into the world, focus on it and share, people thought I was nuts.  Build a business around frivolous fun and play?  For adults?  Absolutely, yes!  Because people were so resistant to the idea it made me realize I had a winner.  I know that the things I resist doing most give me the most fun, pleasure and joy.

The busier we get the easier it is to put off doing the “fun things” that light us up.  It seems frivolous to take a dance class when we have a house to clean.   I so hear you on that one.  So we resist that fun.  We’re taught it’s wrong to accept a fun sounding offer when we have so many “responsibilities.”  So we resist so we keep disciplined.  Discipline is important.  It makes everything run smoothly.  We’re disciplined at work, with Family, our Health.  (This is a new one for me.  I find that the more I fell in love with myself, the better I take care of myself)

So how do we have “fun” without being looked down at in a “No Pain No Gain Society?”  For me…I giggle at that ridiculous phrase and MAKE fun something I live for.  And since discipline is so important, practice the “discipline of fun.” And I get so much more done!  It’s really amazing.  By taking time for my fun whenever I get a little edgy and impatient, I get more done in less the time.  And I’m happier.  And the “fun” break can be as little as a couple minutes.  So lets start our “daily discipline of fun.”   It’s Fun Boot Camp!  Whoo Hoo!

1.  Dance to an upbeat song and really shake your booty.  Do it with your kids, on your lunch break, with your boyfriend, lover, husband. 2.  If you’re in a store this week, try on something ridiculously extravagant and admire your fine self in the mirror. 3.  Uhm….have I mentioned tickling before?  Find a new spot to tickle on somebody.  I’m sure they will return the favor. 4.  Really play with your pet.  Or find one to play with. 5.  Is there something fun that you have always wanted to do?  Make a list and actually DO them this summer.  Do one today. 6.  Have someone feed you something yummy.  Slowly. 7.  Take a chore that you don’t like doing and make it fun.  I blast the music and dance while I wash the dishes. 8.  Decorate yourself:  Glitter, stickers, favorite lipstick, perfume, and have a little “I love me celebration.”  Eat your favorite food, listen to your favorite music, and write a little poem dedicated to you.

Love, Goddess

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Feeling Delicious About You

I wrote this blog because I had just worked out. And I felt delicious! My heart was gently pounding, my muscles had been stretched and challenged, I was thirsty from the exertion, and my face was flushed and glowing! It amazes me how much better I feel after working out. It also amazes me how much I don’t want to work out in the moments before starting to work out. I come up with every excuse in the book. No way. I have too much to do today. I hate sweating. It’s boring. It’s Monday. It takes so long! I’m tired. Etc, etc. So…how do I get to the fun? The delicious feeling I have after working out? Good old “fun” analysis. Just like savoring, passion and flirtation, I have to find the magic formula to keep me feeling delicious.

My first thought was: I’m resisting the good feelings. I’m resisting the endorphins that give me energy and glow for the remainder of the day. Why would I do that? Just like we say “no” to the fun in anything. We don’t take the time and savor what makes us feel good so we feel good less. Like my earlier blog on fear: We are a “no pain no gain society.” Let’s apply this quote to working out. Who wants to focus on “no pain no gain?” That’s no fun. The fun part is enjoying how amazing you feel after. Right?

What I want: The deliciousness I feel after working out. What will get me to that delicious glow?  My analysis on the subject has to include what I don’t like when working out. My researched solution is italics.

  • I don’t like the word “exercise.” LOL. So I will call it “moving my body.”
  • I don’t like routine. So I cannot “commit myself” to just one program. So I won’t. Because I like variety I will have a variety of ways to “move my body” at my disposal (Netflix, Exercise TV or purchase different DVDs) When it’s nice outside I’ll try new activities.
  • Sometimes I don’t feel like doing an hour of activity. Or 30 min. Or 20 min. Thank goodness for On Demand. They have 10 minute “move your body” segments. I can do a little here and a little there.
  • Whenever I don’t want to “move my body” I focus on how good I feel after I do. Those endorphins feel so good. I glow and feel delicious. I say this over and over and let it wash over me.
  • If I really truly do not want to “move my body” I will not beat myself up about it. Because it’s not fun beating myself up!

Switching to this way of thinking takes practice. It didn’t happen to me overnight. But isn’t focusing on what feels good so much more fun? If you would like to take a bite out of this way of thinking, check out my other posts. They are full of ways to find the fun. Remember…a delicious you is a pleasure to everyone around you!  Love, Goddess

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Fun 101: Carve Some Fun Out of Your Busy Day

Gorgeous reader: I’m asking you to take a moment out or your busy day and play with me. It will be such fun. Your smile will make me smile! My “fun list” is short and sweet. If you’re feeling like you want more fun…pick another idea. Or make up your own idea of spontaneous fun. I’m always looking for new fun, so I would love for you to share your “fun” idea with me.

Here we go:

  • When was the last time you tickled someone? Find someone to tickle.
  • Get some tea. Not just any tea…one of those fancy exotic teas. Brew a cup and savor.
  • Go to a store and try on something gorgeous. Revel in how hot you look.
  • Read something you have been dying to read: something that has nothing to do with work.
  • Apply some lotion to your body really slowly. Again…savor.
  • Take a piece of chocolate and let it slowly melt in your mouth.
  • Put something on your desk that makes you smile. (A silly bobble doll, perhaps?)
  • Blow a kiss to someone…or yourself.
  • Light some incense or your favorite candle. Enjoy the wafting scent around you.
  • Craft along with your children. Create something from your soul.
  • Take a moment and really look at a piece of art in your home. Have an intellectual conversation about it to someone later. (Even if it’s been hanging there for years!)

Let me know how it goes! Love, Goddess

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Flirt with Everything…Not Just the Men

During the past few weeks I’ve had men tell me they want to worship me. Make my thighs, lips and breasts tingle…and then make me beg for more. They want to make me laugh and smile. Even sing songs for me over the Internet from miles away! How they would love to treat me like the Goddess I am. Flirting with all these men takes practice. But it’s so fun!

Three years ago I thought flirting was degrading. Something you do with a man to “get something from him.” So I rarely did. Then I noticed that when I flirted with my girlfriends or nieces…it felt really good. You know those cute little exchanges you have with your friends? “We are so hot tonight….it’s almost not fair!” It’s all about being in that spot where you feel beautiful, sassy and playful. Have you noticed what a magnet you become? Your sense of fun is brightening everyone and everything around you. Your joy is bringing joy.

So let’s get our flirt on! This may come naturally to some. It may take some practice for others. It’s all cool. Just take a moment to play and don’t beat yourself up. In fact, try not to plan. Just say to yourself, okay…time to flirt. Look around you. If your Mom is around, flirt with her. Your cat? Flirt with him. This is going to help you so much with males.

When you start flirting with men, flirt with all of them. Not just the ones you think are cute or feel attracted to. Flirt with the bus driver, the cab driver. Give them a big ol’ smile when they do their job in your presence. Thank them with a twinkle in your eye. Men love to be appreciated and it will make you both feel good. Play play play!!!!! Then…when you meet a man you really like, you will probably already have a stable full of men that are worshiping you. Then…and this is most important…you won’t be dependant on that one guy to make you feel good.

Let a guy say beautiful things to you. We ladies love to be admired, don’t we? Don’t let judgment creep in. Keep it simple. Enjoy it and thank them. Just stay focused on what you want in the dating world. What I want is a slow, sensual seduction over time with a man. I state what I want and see if he delivers. Give him time to make up his mind.

Two of the men in my life we’ll call “Scorpio” and “E.” Scorpio and I have tons of chemistry, he’s smart, gorgeous and treats me like a lady. So yes…I like him. “E” is a man I’m not sure I want date. But it’s not fair to not give him a chance. Remember Charlotte from Sex and the City? She married a guy that she thought was perfect. They divorced. Another man she whined was not her “type” at all. They married and ended up blissfully happy. It surprised the hell out of her. Be open to surprise…open your eyes to new guys! Play with them, communicate with them and tell them exactly what you want. Don’t worry about the outcome. Remember…fear is a future emotion.

Let me know how it goes or if you have any questions! Love, Goddess.

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