The Obnoxious Male

The Obnoxious Male
Tom and Gisele pic from: US Magazine

I LOVED this article written by Anna Fogel I found on the NESN website.  I’m also amused when I hear other men talking about it on the radio.  Giving Mr. Brady crap for his honesty. Guess what “Guys in media talking about it,” how honest are you being with yourselves? Men LOVE doing this sort of thing to women!  LOVE LOVE LOVE.  It’s Male 101.  So here is a piece the article:

New England Patriots quarterback Tom Brady might not be the best guy to go to for marriage advice, but his methods apparently work. The 37-year-old revealed in an interview with Man of the World magazine that he’ll resort to childish ways to get his supermodel wife Gisele Bundchen to notice him while at home. “I like attention from her, so when I’m not getting it, I let her know in immature ways, like a young, immature child would,” Brady said in the interview, via the New York Post. While those juvenile tactics used to work like a charm for Brady, he admitted that he’s going to have to come up with new ways to get attention from Gisele,  who recently signed a multiyear contract with Under Armour, as she’s figured out what he’s doing with every fit he throws. “You throw fits…you pout and you whine until you get what you want,” Brady continued. “She’s on to me…So now I have to learn new tricks.” Who knew the secret to getting attention from a supermodel would be so … simple?

Mr. Brady is admitting an age old male tactic.  And bragging about it!  LOL. All men…the good and the bad, do it.  So how does a Sassy Bitch deal?  How does a Sassy Bitch deal with a GOOD man who is being a jerk for attention?  How does a Sassy Bitch deal with a BAD man who is being a jerk for attention? Would this tactic piss you off or amuse you?  It amuses the **** out of me. Because it puts all the power on our feminine plate.  To do with what we will. Do you know how to maximize your power here?  Or are you in Drama Queen or Bitchy Brat mode and have no idea how to deal? Brady admits that his lovely wife has won and he is looking for a new way to up the ante!  And trust me…he is relishing the challenge.  Do you know how to win and challenge a man like Giselle does? If you do GO YOU!  If not let me help you conquer this challenge from any man.  Anywhere. Anyhow.  With sass, wit and charm. It all starts right here with my 3 week coaching program You’re Re-Awakening.  Email me for your spot…

“Thank you Sharon!  You turned my life around.  I can’t believe how much you have helped me with men AND my confidence in general.”  Sabrina

“Sharon…I want to thank you for our coaching sessions.  I forgot how to play with men!  Not in the manipulative sense…in the fun and sexy sense.”  FREE-ING!!!  Susan

“Without the tools you gave me I would have never seen MY truth behind the anger I had at my ex.”  Thank you.  Love, Pam

It’s time for you to start returning the relish…like Gisele does!  Love, Goddess

Read more at:  Tom Brady Admits

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Test Drive a Relationship?

Anne Tainter image found on Flicker!

Test drive a relationship?

I turn on the radio in my car and start backing out of my garage.  Two girls are having a giggling fit on the station I am listening to.  I get ready to change the channel because they are annoying me. I stop ONLY because this dude that used to play for my beloved New England Patriots,  Jerome Wiggins or “Wiggy,” (his nickname) starts talking.  He has a very distinctive voice!  LOL.  He is on this dating show and he is the “guy” advice.  The subject?  A girl has moved in with her boyfriend and it hasn’t turned out as she had planned.  The giggling girls think moving in with a guy is fab. They think it’s perfectly okay to move in with a guy and take him for a “test drive.” Giggle giggle giggle.  So here is the scenario:

The girl who has moved in with her boyfriend is shocked to find out that the guy is a bum.  He sits around all day and does nothing.  He says he is looking for a job but there is no real proof.  Now she is pissed off at the guy and is looking for advice.  The two giggly girls ask “Wiggy” what he thinks. Which is EXACTLY what I am thinking.  He says:

“Didn’t she know he was a bum before she moved in with him?”


Turns out she hadn’t been dating him very long.  (Really shocking, huh?)

Anyway…the giggling girls stopped in their giggly tracks upon hearing the common sense question from Wiggy.  Which to me was quite sad.

Girls…why the **** would you take a guy you barely know for a “test drive?”  Why would you go through all of that upheaval in your life for a “test drive?”  Moving is a huge deal!  I know because I just did it!  Why would you giggle about the scenario with such silly relish?  Could it be you aren’t thinking?  Uhmmmm….yeah.  That could be it.  Or the way he makes you tingle when he stands near you has fried your senses?  You better make sure that tingle doesn’t get you in a mess like this poor girl who is now stuck living with a dead beat bum. Hopefully she can extradite herself from the situation quickly without losing too much money over the deal.  We all know he doesn’t have the money to move.  So ladies…in conclusion: be ****** sure you know a guy, trust a guy and know exactly where your relationship is going before you move in with him.  Your time is a terrible thing to waste.  Love, Goddess

Related Reading:

  1.  Signs You’re a Sassy Bitch
  2.  Bitch Lifestyle the Manual
  3.  Exactly How to Deal with an Enemy

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Why Is He Ignoring Me?

Why Is He Ignoring Me?
We have a disconnect! Gorgeous cell phone from Pinterest.


Why is he ignoring me?  I get this one all the time.  Here is one from a reader last night:

Good Morning,

I have been dating a guy for a year.  He was so sweet!   But now I feel he is ignoring me.  When we hang out he is busy with his phone. I feel he is not respecting me anymore. Also less text, less phone, and less communication. Should I tell him, “respect me when we are together, you’re too busy with your phone!”
Or do I ignore him back like he does to me ??

Here is how I responded:

Why don’t you try a little honesty?  The next time the guy you’re dating pays more attention to his phone than you: Look at him straight in the eye. State in an unemotional manner something like: “I’d appreciate it if you put the phone away while we are out together.” When he protests or makes a comment toward you, stay absolutely silent. If he still continues, raise an eyebrow while looking at him during your silence. If he continues to protest, call it an early night. And LEAVE. You want a man who is going to respect you and if he doesn’t in this small way, start looking for someone who will. Disrespect needs to be checked. When it happens. Wait until he picks up the phone and then follow this process. Let me know how it goes…Love, Goddess

Why not be honest, hotties?  Why is it so hard to tell him when he’s being rude?  Maybe…you’ve been letting it go on too long and now you are pissed?  Maybe you argued with him when you knew you were right?  Regardless, take a deep breath and then state what won’t fly.  Then zip it.  If you slip up the first time you do this, no worries.  Practice makes perfect.  So get in there and let the men you are dating  know when  something makes you happy or unhappy!  Love, Goddess

Suggested Reading:

  1. Bitch Lifestyle:  The Manual
  2. Confidence:  Signs You’re a Sassy Bitch
  3. Bitch Lifestyle Home

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Dating Advice for Women Red Flags

Dating Advice for Women Red Flags
Anne Taintor image from Anne

Make it a cold day in hell before you become vulnerable to these sorts of men!

Dating Advice for Women Red Flags…

The first few dates are a great way to “qualify” a man.  Does he meet your dating requirements?  See or review:  YOU choose the Man  This is the stage where you make sure that this man earns the right for you to become more vulnerable to him.  If we become vulnerable to the wrong man…oh the heartache!  We’ve all been there.  We must continually look beyond “how cute he is” and see the real man beneath.  The man beneath who is either really good for us or really bad for us.  Below are a couple huge red flags in dating.  First the flag and then, in italics, the reason you may want to run!

  1. Red Flag #1:   He is a really bad tipper.  There are numerous reasons for this being a red flag in dating.  NUMEROUS.  When I’m out on a date and a man is a bad tipper?  I seriously question his willingness to give.  The waiter/waitress is giving him service.  He does not appreciate what they’re doing for him.  Question that should be going through your mind:  If I give to him will he appreciate it?  
  2. Red Flag #2:  He is rude to service people.  This one really gets me.  Again, people are giving to him and his response is to be rude.  Trust me.  If he can do this to people he doesn’t even know well?  What can he do to you?  Worse yet…  This sort of man is a coward and a bully.  He picks on people when he knows he can get away with it.  RUN from this type of person.
  3. Red Flag #3:  When you ask about his past relationships he disrespects his exes.  Whoa.  So he can do no wrong?  Did he learn anything from them? Question carefully because if he hasn’t learned anything from past relationships YOU will be the next woman he disrespects. 

It’s so important to be aware when you are getting to know someone!  Are you letting your lust rule or your Bitch rule? Who Controls You … Your Bitch or Your Brat?  It doesn’t seem to be a problem when we go out on a date we aren’t that excited about.  But then…make him drop dead gorgeous and add chemistry?  Uh oh…suddenly our Bitch starts to go to sleep, the Drama Queen awakens and does everything she can to screw it up!  Here are examples of how the Drama Queen (in italics) and the Sassy Bitch (in italics) handle those red flags from above:

The Drama Queen:

Man:  Drops $2.00 tip on the table for an $80.00 dinner.  Drama Queen notices how “strong his hands are” and is thinking about how they would feel on her.

Man:  “Hey Waiter!  I asked you for water 10 minutes ago…where the hell is it?”  Drama Queen is enamored by how “forceful” he is.

Man:  Is dissing the women he has dated in the past.  “They just didn’t understand me.”  Drama Queen is saying to herself:  “Oh they didn’t understand you!  Those women are so stupid!  I will understand you!  Always!”

The Sassy Bitch:

Man:  Drops $2.00 tip on the table for an $80.00 dinner.  The Sassy Bitch is annoyed that he’s so cheap.  On the way out she gives the waiter $15.

Man:  “Hey Waiter!  I asked you for water 10 minutes ago…where the hell is it?”  The Sassy Bitch asks the man in an unemotional tone:  “Do you always talk to people giving to you that way?”  Man says something that doesn’t fly.  The Sassy Bitch looks at her watch, thanks him for dinner and tells him she has an early day.  Then leaves.

Man:  Is dissing the women he has dated in the past.  “They just didn’t understand me.”  The Sassy Bitch has already checked out.  She may finish her drink, she may not.  When he is done she says in an unemotional tone:  “Thanks for the drink.  I have an early day tomorrow.  Have a nice night.”  Then leaves.

Notice the trend here?  The Drama Queen is thinking with her lust.  The Sassy Bitch studies, questions and gets to know the man first.  To make sure he is worthy of her precious time and heart.

In conclusion…take care of yourself and what you value in a person from the very first date.  Love, Goddess

Interesting Reading and Where to Go for more!

  1. Confidence Quotes from Brainy Quote
  2. Private Coaching with me:  Your Re-Awakening
  3. Get Positive!  Positive sites on the web to inspire:  Gimundo 

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