Picture from the gorgeous Bunny Chic Boutique http://bunnychicboutique.blogspot.com/2008/08/fay-fay-please-go-away.html
Expectations. We all have them. We prepare for an exam so we “expect” to do well. Or not, depending on how well we do said preparation. We expect the day to start at the normal time, to feel better when we eat healthier, I could go on and on. I used to HATE it when things didn’t go as planned. My Brat would stew, worry, and fret over every detail. I’m so grateful I’ve changed into My Bitch. My Bitch let’s things slide off her and has the best sense of humor when things go off course. This weekend was a good example.
I went to Miami with girlfriends for fun in the steamy sun! Except this time we arrived in a torrential down pour. I looked at my best-friend Mary Ann in our cab and said: “What are we going to do in South Beach in the rain?” We had no idea. Because I’ve trained myself to have fun anywhere, I decided not to worry about it. And said: “No expectations.”
The sun made an appearance when we got to our hotel. It was a good thing we ate dinner inside that night because another downpour occurred and the outside dinners came rushing in…food ruined and their bodies soaked. The next morning I awoke to pleasant thoughts of a delicious breakfast by the pool. Except it started to pour. And pour. And pour. When it finally cleared up, I went down to the lobby to flooded streets! I could literally not cross the road! Major bummer, huh? It really wasn’t. I had so much fun with my best friend. We watched The Notebook and cried and oohed over Ryan Gosling. We had a perfect day on Sunday and sucked in free food, free champagne, skinny dipping, dancing, hot men and so much more. When the sun was out we appreciated it ooohhh so much more. I wouldn’t have changed a thing. Not one precious rain drop.
How do you start doing this? This is going to take practice. When you find yourself complaining about something focus on the good. Example: A friend was complaining to me about how we were just treated by this Manager at a nearby hotel. She’s going on and on and I interrupt with: “F-him.” She stops and says “Yes! Because…” and continues complaining. Meanwhile we are walking in one of the most gorgeous pool areas on South Beach-The Delano. It’s a star lit night, we are surrounded by palm trees, soft caressing breezes, organza curtains and candles. And the most gorgeous, sensual music. I said: “Honey, look at where you are. Enjoy it and not give that arrogant little **** one more thought. He’s not worth it.” She stopped and agreed. Unpleasantness over.
The Delano: Yummy, no? Picture from http://www.google.com/imgres?imgurl=http://farm4.static.flickr.com
Again, this takes practice. When you look for the positives around you that is what you notice…and it grows. You discover new pleasures: Like watching a wonderful movie with your best friend in a torrential downpour. Appreciation helps keep you grounded when the fir is flying (or pouring). With practice this will spill over in everything in your life: career, dating, family and friends. So why not give it a go? Look for the wonder in your day. Relax and take a deep breath. It’s amazing what you’ll start to see when you loosen those expectations! Hugs, Goddess
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