Strong Vulnerable Male

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Do you know when a man is being vulnerable with you?

A close male friend, “M” and I are talking.  We’re talking about his family.   “Ms” Dad is so cute and I ask him how he is doing.  M says he’s good but he isn’t able to use his hands like he used to.  M is so like his Dad to me in that way-how much they love to work with their hands.  The next thing M says puts the exclamation point on it:

“I don’t know what I would do if I couldn’t work with my hands anymore.”

Do you understand how much a man just said to you when he says something like this?  He’s stating a huge part of who he is and the fear of losing it.  This is him being vulnerable and open with you.   An interesting metaphor is menopause for women.  BOTH sexes are losing the ability to produce.  Never to come back.  This post is something for us as women to think about and be aware of.  What is something about a man you care about that is SO important to him?  Does he relish his business mind?  His creativity?  His ability to discover solutions to problems?  Does he crave adventure?  These are keys to appreciating the men you care about.   As he gets older, his body and mind will bear the inevitable aging process.  Strong, loving you will find ways to make sure he still feels strong and connected to his joys in life and the deeply male, primal need to produce.

Truly loving involves reciprication.  Communicating wants, desires and letting the other produce for you.  Truly loving notices what the other lives for and encourages always.

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