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Serenity in Chaos?

You-The bright light in the middle of chaos!

Serenity in chaos.

The more of a Sassy Bitch you come, the more the fur flies, the walls become bigger to climb over and the problems more do or die.  Sounds rather dramatic, doesn’t it?  The good part is, the fun quotient soars as well!  Let’s get back to the chaos example.  When you’re in your Sassy Bitch, your Drama Queen is the one napping.   The Sassy Bitch doesn’t fan the fires of drama.  She has surrounded herself with people who take action instead of PANIC.  They know exactly what to do when the shoe drops.  And sometimes?  She needs that and releases control so she can attend to other things.  Like dealing with her food poisoning.

Yeah…so here’s the story.  Saturday night I had a show with my improv group.  Theatre is packed and we have half an hour before curtain.  I find out one of my musicians is sick and can’t make it.  I have a back up musician, but he didn’t bring his guitar.  So I’m down one man and one guitar.  Calmly my other guitar player and another member of the group know exactly what to do and proceed in Mission A:  Find Guitar For Show.  Mission B:  I kept to myself.  I had food poisoning.  I had to get a grip on the urge to throw up my lunch.  All while being the Sassy Bitch in charge.  No one ever knew I was sick, we found a guitar and we had a very good show.

One of the hardest things to do is lead by example when you’re a leader.  You are the glue to everything.  You can’t get sick.  You have to motivate and make sure everyone is ready to kick ass.  You have to surround yourself with people who will have you back when you have the urge to take a back seat and just be sick.  This is never doubting yourself and people earning your trust.  And doubt will crop up.  I have a fun little exercise that really helps when doubt crops up.  It’s a little mantra.  It’s a little beauty treatment.  It even helps when you are PMSing like there is no tomorrow.  Here is what I say:

I am fabulous!  (can be said throughout the day)

Worry creeps in and I say:

I let you go because I choose to be fabulous!

There is so much power in your choices.  Choices are habits.  If we choose to worry, that’s what we get.  More of it.  Choose Fabulous.  Because THAT is what you are.  Do this every time you feel doubt and worry quivering below the surface.  Let me know how it goes.  For more “fabulous” encouragement, read these articles:

  1. Beauty Rituals Empower You
  2. Make Your Eyes Sparkle:  Literally!
  3. Fear is a Future Emotion

Love, Goddess

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Welcome to Bitch University


Philosophy:  Here at Bitch U, our community is comprised of strong, brilliant, sassy, feminine women who communicate their wants in a charming yet blunt way. 


This weeks’ Curriculum:

1.  To keep us grounded and strengthen our community refer to The Bitch Rules:  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/05/bitch-rule-1-love-yourself-with-abandon/

Homework:  Join the Bitch Rebellion.  Contribute to our Bitch Rebellion by letting us know who you are and why you love being a Bitch on our Facebook fan page.  http://www.facebook.com/pages/Bitch-Lifestyle/205875411841  Don’t want to miss a bit of our curriculum?  Subscribe to the site for updates (upper left hand corner under title)  Can’t wait to hear from you!

2.  Bitches Won’t Tolerate BS 101:  Learn from our no BS Queen!  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/08/empowered-women-dont-tolerate-bsjudgejudy/

Homework:  Look at your lovely self in the mirror and practice saying “No.”  In the most charming and blunt way.  If you want to back up the “no” with a reason, that’s your choice. 😉

3.  Beware your Drama Queen Brat.  She’ll mess with your Bitch Bliss:  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/08/bitchy-vs-bratty/

Homework#1:  Be grateful.  This grounds you when The Brat steps in.  Start creating a list of everything that you’re grateful for.  Relax, cuddle up in a blanket and brew yourself some tea.  Savor something yummy while you do this.

Homework#2:  For the “Raging Drama Queen Brat:”  Do something for someone.  Offer a kind word, open a door, give out small pieces of luscious chocolate, tell everyone you love that you love them.  You get the idea.  It feels good to make others feel good.

4.  Communicating in a charming, yet blunt way:  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2010/07/cowardice-and-the-bitch/

Homework #1:  YouTube Judge Judy and watch her communicate bluntly.  Practice this by thinking about what you want and practice communicating it in a charming and blunt way.  When you feel anger and edginess creep in (and it will) do something physical to dissipate it (kick box, dance your booty off, long walk etc.)

Homework #2:  Rent the movie Jerry McGuire and watch my favorite couple Rod and Marcy, communicate in a blunt way:  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2010/10/sexiest-couple-from-jerry-mcguire/

5.  Understanding the male ego:  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2010/07/giving-you-a-hot-sexy-shot-of-testosterone/

Homework #1:  Rent the movie “Magnificent Seven” and enjoy.

Homework #2:  Appreciate the men in your life that are really there for you.  Hug them, thank them and tell them you love them.  Don’t get too gooey.  Again…practice being blunt and charming.


Extra Credit:

#1:  Take some time for yourself:  Before going out one day, really spend some time getting ready.  Look at your outfits.  Pick out something that is more dressy than you normally would wear.  Play with different accessories.  Actually do your make-up.  Glam up your eyes with a smokey look and pale lip.  Or make your glossy, juicy lips the focus on your face.

#2:  Take Maya Angelou’s poem “Still I Rise” and post it somewhere where you can see it for inspiration:  http://bitchlifestyle.com/2010/08/still-i-rise-by-maya-angelou-3/

That’s it for now.  Get crackin’ hot ones!  Your glorious Bitch is so worth it.  Love,  Head Mistress Bitch Goddess


This post is dedicated to @BlondeTXGoddess on Twitter, who epitomizes everything this web site is about.  Huge hug, kiss and appreciation to you! 


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