Susan Boyle and the Famous Seductress

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Men committed suicide over this Seductress! 

It’s time to bust wide open the image of “The Seductress.”  The Seductress in our society is all movie star glamour and modelesque perfection.  A ridiculous “standard” to live up to.  And we don’t have to.  We are unique, gorgeous and fabulous—The Seductress magic is in us. All we have to do is find the magic within us and display it to the world. KNOW that the creative magic buried within us: our singing, writing, cooking, financial brain or wit brings the world pleasure. In these blog pages I will share “Old” Seductresses with you. I’ll share the smart, sassy and artistic ones too. We start with someone “society” would never call a Seductress. Boy were they wrong! Her name? Pauline Viardot.

Pauline Viardot was an opera singer who was born in 1821. She had extraordinary gifts as a singer and had it all: A long happy life, domestic and professional success and was adored by some of the most distinguished men of her time. When Ivan Turgenev, a twenty five year old aristocratic Lothario heard her sing, he abandoned Russian and followed her around the world for the rest of his life. From the book “Seductress” by Betsy Prioleau.  An absolute must must read:  Seductress

‘She was one of the plainest seductresses on record…’ ‘Everyone who saw Pauline Viardot pronounced her “very ugly,” “strikingly ugly,” or “atrociously homely.” Dark and crude featured, she had hooded eyelids, a receding chin, a wide mouth with a heavy underlip, and an H shaped figure.”  Here is a link to photos of our fabulous seductress:

So how did she do it? She knew what she wanted, stayed focused on her goals, and was enmeshed in her Goddess given talents. The result? She created pleasure wherever she went and had a wonderful life.

Like Susan Boyle. The unexpected beauty of her singing. Unexpected because it was pure, raw Susan talent. Not one snitch of “commercialization” “other point of view” or “how can I make her look more American Idol,” in an ounce of her performance. And the world is fascinated. Charmed. Adoring of her. Just like the fabulous Pauline Viardot.

And “The World” is already trying to change her. Mold her. Take away the fascination of pure Susan. Have you seen the recent pictures, ladies? Let’s take a moment and desire her to stay exactly the way she is. And love her for it. While we’re at it, take a moment and love ourselves for our own unique inner beauty.

In honor of the breathtaking Susan Boyle and Pauline Viardot, let us stay true to our blessed fabulousness. Admire your gorgeous self in the mirror today, your smile, the curve of your hips. Decorate yourself. Dance to your favorite song. Hold true to you. It’s what I love about each and every woman, girl, person I meet!

With love and admiration, Goddess

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Fear is a Future Emotion

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Buffy the Vampire Slayer-a strong, powerful woman who didn’t live in soltitude like most slayers.  She surrounded herself with loved ones and hot men! She refused to compromise on things that brought her pleasure.   Empowered Women understand that fear is a future emotion.

“Fear is a future emotion.” A brilliant man said that to me during an intellectual discussion we were having about pleasure.  So many people live in fear of things that may never happen.  Fear of failure.  (What if it doesn’t work out?) Fear with a potential love interest. (I don’t want to hurt them) Fear of the new.  (I would never try that) The strange. (This dish is served with raw egg…no way I’m trying that.)  The different. (You want to do what?) I personally get that one all the time, LOL.  Fear, to me is a habit.  A habit that can keep me from succeeding.  And worse, fear can keep me from pleasure.  There are so many buzz words or phrases today that make you feel guilty if you go for pleasure.  These phrases keep you aligned and focused on your goals.  Cool.  I get that and sometimes it’s very useful.  But these buzz words and phrases can also be negative:  “Good things come to those that wait” (This phrase actually makes me impatient when I hear it) I want to be successful so I’m “Burning the candle at both ends” (And because of it, I have no time for me, my family, friends and I’m exhausted to the point where I’m irritable and no fun)  “The early bird catches the worm.”  (What if I function better as a night owl?)  Or my personal favorite:  “No pain, no gain.”  (Just what I want to hear when I’m on the stair master)  I’ve found that by focusing on the pleasure of my ultimate goal and not the above phrases I get more done.  When I’m feeling not so motivated I have a series of things I do to give me pleasure that refocus and refresh me.  I’ll have a tea break and give myself a high five for what I’ve done so far.  I’ll dance to my favorite song.  I’ll nibble on a piece of chocolate.  I’ll put on my boa or tiara while I work.  Or…I’ll be deeply thankful for all I have in my life.

Lately every time I discuss “pleasure” with someone, that someone immediately thinks sex.  Did you, dear reader think the same?  I would love to know.  Pleasure encompasses so much more.  And “pleasure” is looked down upon somewhat in our society.  It’s frivolous.  A reward.  It’s expensive or a distraction.  Pleasure is what we should live for.  Have you ever noticed children at play?  A little 4 year old girl going from one pleasurable activity to another?  A puzzle?  Stickers?  A book?  Their pleasure is fascinating and infectious.  I always want to contribute to their fun because it makes me feel good, too.  I can go over to my nieces’ house and tickle them and we all feel good.  Laughter is one of the best forms of pleasure.  How good do we all feel when we make someone laugh?  So here’s my question:  How do we take that—joyous pleasure—and incorporate it into society today?

Okay…all together now.  “Goddess…you want to do what?”  I want to infuse everyone with joy, laughter, pleasure and play.  I want to make pleasure what we all live for.

We shouldn’t fear pleasure.  Pleasure is a choice.  Just like fear, doubt, jealousy or hate.  Which do you prefer?  The crap?  The drama?  The situations you can’t control?  Pleasure can be scary because it feels so good and can be taken away.  If you worry and fear it, that will be your focus.  And, yeah…all that pleasure will go away.  I choose pleasure.  Love, Goddess

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