Valentines Day Special


Valentines Day Special

Forget him and fall in love with you.  The Sassy Bitches’ Way!

How wrong it is for a woman to expect the man to build the world she wants, rather than to create it herself.  Anais Nin

Love it!  We will go over the keys that will help you get on the path to unleashing your Confident Sassy Bitch.  3 Week Valentine Special includes:

  • A one hour private coaching session with me each week via telephone and follow-up emails. 
  • Fun & empowering homework with sassy tips & hints to help keep you inspired & motivated.

Oh, and one more thing.  If you sign up by midnight on Saturday February 4, 2012?  I’m taking 25% off the price of this three-week coaching module with me.

Regular price of the program is $450.00.  Promotion price through Saturday February 4, 2012 is $337.00.  Program requires payment in advance through secure PayPal. 

If you are interested send me an email:

Your blog empowered me to dump my current boyfriend.  Thank you!  Stefanie

I love how you empower women to be strong, confident and wise.  Your blog is really inspiring me to live that “Bitch Lifestyle.”  Thanks Necarrus 

Love, Goddess

© S Stevens Life Strategies

***Gorgeous Pink Heart is available at the web site ABC Embroidery Designs:

Falling in Love Key?

falling in love,
Image of gorgeous heart found at Carp Canada:

Falling in Love Key:  Dating Yourself.  If you don’t want to date yourself…how do you expect anyone else to want to?  So for the next few weeks every time you leave the house you’re going on a fabulous date.  With yourself.  I don’t care if you’re going out to pump gas.  It’s the best pumping you’ve ever gotten.  I know…naughty metaphor.  Make everything you do a fun, kick ass sassy date, Bitch!  Yeah…it’s winter.   Yeah…it’s cold.  Yeah…sometimes you just want to cuddle up with your lap top.  I get it and want to do that too.  You have to get out though and play.  Even after a long day of work.  Looking for someone to love besides yourself?  Get out and play, then!

  1. Get out of the house.  If you’re healing from a break up, anywhere will do.  If you’re feeling more adventurous, join a club, take a class, search the local entertainment papers for something, anything to do!
  2. Step out in style.  Make the effort to look your best.  Fave outfit, fun make-up, hot shoes and accessories.
  3. Own your walk.  When you walk into a room, store, anywhere, enter with confidence.  Make up something to say that makes you feel good:  “Hope you all are ready.  Cuz’ here I come!”
  4. Ooze happiness.  When you’re getting ready to “step out in style,” play your favorite music, take a few minutes to slow down and get excited about discovering and meeting new people.
  5. Be aware of your body language.  Don’t slouch.  Hold your head up high.  Stand up straight.  LOOK lively.
  6. Try, if you’re up to it, to get a man’s attention with your smile.  Or make eye contact then give him the gift of a dazzling smile from hot little you.
  7. Spark spontaneous conversation.  Be warm, open and friendly.
  8. Make a man feel good.  Feel important.  With sincerity!
  9. Bitch it Up and make this a one day a week affair with a wonderful girlfriend.
  10. Slow down and savor touch.  If you’re out shopping, seek out different textures and materials.  Caress the material with your fingertips.  Enjoy the touch.  Purchase only that which feels incredible on your beautiful skin.  Your skin is so worth it!
  11. Give yourself flowers at least ONCE during these weeks.
  12. No expectations.  Don’t over think it.   Enjoy being in the moment!

So what are your favorite ways to get out of the house and create a little fun?  Please share:  Click here: Facebook Bitch Lifestyle page.   Love, Goddess

© S Stevens Life Strategies







*** To love is an act.  We all want love, right?  Right.

Here’s my question:  Are we acting the part?

There are a million ways to love.  And a million ways not.  A million ways to seem like we’re doing it, and a million ways to go through the motions.

In order to love we have to make a concerted effort every day to put it out there.  Then we can see who is giving it back and who isn’t returning it.  This is beyond scary.  We may meet a Faux Girlfriend who sucks up our energy and time. Or a man that makes us weak in the knees who sucks up our energy and time.   Or various other “love suckers.”  Love suckers make us scared, wary and otherwise close us up to love and go through the motions, so to speak.  That’s when you need to pick up your sledge hammer and whack away.  Or, know when it’s okay to sit back and take a break.  Love yourself by taking care of you, regain your sass and get back in the love game.  Here are ways to do both, send out the love and love yourself when you are feeling vulnerable and scared after being hurt.


Ways to send out the Love:

  1. Volunteer.
  2. Go to a pet store and love a puppy or kitten for a few minutes.
  3. Open doors for people.  Old, young, Moms with kids.  Enjoy how your action makes them feel good.
  4. Open doors for men with a sassy smile.  LET them return the favor.  Believe me, they’ll want to.
  5. Compliment someone on something.  A nice suit, a gorgeous pin.  Find the beauty in each person you meet.
  6. Buy someone coffee while in line at the Coffee Shop.
  7. Send a little gift to someone you love.  Anonymously.
  8. Send cards to friends-real handwritten ones on why you love them.  Do one a day.
  9. Spend a few minutes everyday connecting with someone you love.  A phone call or lovely voice mail would be really thoughtful.
  10. Give the people you care about a warm, loving hug when you see them.

Here are ways to take care of yourself after being hurt by a Faux Girlfriend, a romantic break-up or anything else that may close your heart.  Don’t put a time limit on this.  The point is making YOU feel good again.  It’s personal so don’t feel as though you have to rush!

  1. Spa night.  Take your time and love yourself!  Use all the senses.  Treat yourself like the treasure you are and others will treasure YOU.
  2. Throw a “Worry Party,” “Pity Party” or “Woe is Me Party.”  Give it a fun, pitiful name.  Invite your girlfriends, serve dark food and beverages, dress in your ugliest outfits, play the most pitiful music possible.  Start off with Bonnie Tyler’s “Total Eclipse of the Heart,” and work up to shaking your booty off to “Celebrate,” by Kool and the Gang.  Play, play, play!
  3. Get your favorite movies, some wonderful wine, cheese, fruit and chocolate and have a movie fest.  Enjoy being with YOU.  Solo.  No guilt.  Unless you need a guilt party. 😉
  4. Kick box, or yoga or long walks.  Get physical to get rid of that edgy energy the negative people have given you.  Can be very important to healing.
  5. Make plans with your closest friends.  Tell them you want to lay low for a bit.  Order in, watch movies, play cards.  Laugh and enjoy those you KNOW truly love you.
  6. Write about it.  Like exercising, this can be a wonderful way to dissipate the negative energy.

The past is in the past.  Heal so you can open up again.  One of my favorite quotes is, if you can’t love yourself, how can you expect anyone to love you?  This is the most important part.  Because the more confident and loving we are to ourselves, the better we are at taking care of ourselves when “Love Suckers” try to suck up our energy and time.  We trust ourselves to make better choices.  When we do make our choices its because someone or something has proven worthy of our love and trust.  These are the people we would do anything for.  They should get our loving attention.  Love, Goddess

***Pink love image from Flickr:


© S Stevens Life Strategies

Receiving Love

Gorgeous Pink Heart can be found at Hello Kids:

One of my favorite sayings is:  If you can’t give to yourself, how do you expect others to give to you? It’s one of the hardest things you’ll ever learn to do. Loving every drop of gorgeous you, so you can receive it back. I’m about to share with you a wonderful article, “Receiving Love,” written by one of my friends on Twitter.  Cheryl voices this concept so beautifully, This Bitch shed a tear. That’s right.  Bitches definitely cry. (We are blessed with the gift of emotions-and allowing yourself to fully feel is essential to LIVING) Cheryl has a wonderful blog called “IntuitiveGoddesse.” Her blog tag line is: Strong, compassionate, fearless.  Right up a Bitches’ alley!

Receiving LOVE

I LOVE my life!

On this Valentine’s Day, I’m spending a few minutes thinking about how much LOVE
has transformed my life. I’m not talking about the kind that comes with
chocolates, flowers and wine – although I love each of those and won’t pass up
any opportunity to be on the receiving end of any gifting.

In our household, there doesn’t have to be a special day to celebrate the spirit
of Valentine’s Day.  I am blessed to have a family who, in spite of
various quirks and peculiarities, is very loving and supportive of my dreams
and passions. I am blessed and appreciative when I receive their hand-made
cards, the home-cooked meals, kind words and butterfly kisses just because.

Looking back, there was a time when I was the proverbial wallflower. I prided myself on
the ability to be available to others and showered them with love, gifts and
kindness at every opportunity. Believing it was better to give than to receive,
I closed myself off, refusing most gifts and kindness directed to me. I didn’t
realize how selfish and inappropriate this was because I had to be in control –
all the time – no matter the situation. If someone did something nice for me,
it meant that something was owed in return and I loathed having that

I insulated myself so others wouldn’t be able to see my vulnerabilities. I
pretended to be shy and aloof, when in fact; I craved the companionship and
joviality of others. In other words, what you give is what you receive. I got
plenty of comments and snide remarks from others who saw me as cold and
unapproachable – not at all the vibe I “thought” I was giving out.  I
can’t tell you how many tears I have cried lamenting my inability to be
gracious and accepting.

I remained fearful and closeted for many years because I was unwilling to trust
the Divine nature of this experience. It didn’t happen overnight, but it did
happen. Surrendering complete and absolute control over my life, I found I was
suddenly and overwhelmingly blessed with so many acts of pure loving generosity.
Opening to the fullness of living Authentically, I find myself continually
rewarded and surprised by the many blessings which have transformed my life.

I no longer cling to the fringes and now welcome the chance to interact
spontaneously with my surroundings. I no longer hide who and what I am –
instead I choose to live openly as a conduit to the Divine and surround myself
with like-minded individuals who have also chosen to reach out and connect.
This interconnectedness helps each of us to reach ever-dazzling heights.

My life is no longer black and white, with shades of gray. I’m living it in
full-color, surrounded by love. I let go of FEAR as an everyday companion and
replaced it instead with a sense of PURPOSE and an overwhelming desire to be a
part of that which I once shunned. I am fully supported and buoyed by LOVE all
around me, all the time.

The garden of my heart is beautiful, with flowers of all shapes, colors and scents.
Their intoxicating beauty reminds me of what I am here to do – to serve in
LOVE. Yes, occasionally, there is a stray weed which catches my attention.
Before surrendering it to Mother Earth, I gently pluck it out, thank it
for the lesson it has opened my eyes to and then allow it to be transformed and
its energies dispersed along the high winds.

With age comes a measure of wisdom. I accept who I am and understand I will continue
to grow and change throughout the seasons of my life.  My beautiful heart
center is now fully open and remains vibrant because I consciously emit what it
is I want to attract – beautiful souls and pleasant energies.  I know and
recognize the shared compassion and LOVE that radiates from saying the simple
words “thank you”.  I welcome gifts my family and friends choose to share
with me on this day. Most importantly, I appreciate the chance to experience
the LOVE they are gifting from their hearts.


Remember, it’s always about LOVE!


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Love, Goddess

© S Stevens Life Strategies