Envy and Jealousy

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Today at Bitch University we study Envy and Jealousy.

Two of the deep dark emotions that are bad.  Bad bad bad.  Think of the last time you talked to your girlfriend.  Something really amazing and fabulous has happened to her.  You’re happy for her.  Ecstatic even.  But…it starts out as a little but deep voice inside you.  There is a little “but” voice inside you going, “Great.  She has such a fantastic X, Y or Z.  I wish I had that.  I work so hard and I just can’t seem to get it.”  Then you start to feel worse because you know it’s jealousy and that’s bad.  That little “but” makes you feel awful.

What if these two emotions aren’t so bad?  What if “envy” and “jealousy” are another way to “shoulda” all over the place?  You know how I’m always telling you to listen to all the bad/scary emotions?  To let them go?  Angers and tears are a release.  You have to dissipate that energy.  Your body is screaming at you to do so so you can see the truth in your anger and tears.  So you know how to correct it.  We’re going to correct envy and jealousy now.  Your envy and jealousy is simply:

Deep, deep desires and wants.  Instead of “shoulding” and feeling guilty all over the place turn “envy and jealousy” into what they really are: “I wanta!”  Get juiced by them!  Here is an example:

Your Girlfriend:  I had this amazing encounter with my boyfriend on the beach.  He had candles, champagne and a warm comfy blanket.  We looked at the stars, had the most incredible soft kisses, for what seemed like hours.  Then he slowly made love to me.  I was absolutely spent in the most pleasured way possible!

You:  Oh…yeah.  I want some of that!

Replace the negative feeling with a positive one…acknowledging your want and …. it’s going to come to you.  And when it does it’s going to be 100 times better than what you imagine.  A friend of mine told me this incredible story about a man she met on the beach.  I got that and SO much more.  The posts “Letting Go Part One, Two and Three” http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/11/letting-go-success-part-one/ http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/12/letting-go-success-part-two/ http://bitchlifestyle.com/2009/12/letting-go-success-yes/ are about this.  The keys to making this work are:

  1. KNOW when you are envious and jealous.
  2. KNOW that whatever it is that is making you this way that you WANT it!
  3. Enjoy the thought of attaining this want.
  4. Don’t put expectations on it.  Just enjoy it.  I promise you it will be so much better.  Surrender to not painting the picture.  Let it be created on its own.  Trust.

What will you get, hottie?  Just enjoy the thought!

So how is that for seeing envy and jealousy in a new light?

Love, Goddess

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