Relationship Issue: Rudeness

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Relationship issue:  male rudeness.  You meet a guy online and you start exchanging texts.  When you don’t want to give out too much information about yourself-exactly what a very Sassy Bitch would do, he is rude.  He makes a comment like:

  1. Oh come on!  I’m a nice guy!
  2. I don’t understand.
  3. Why?
  4. Do I seem like a stalker to you?  LOL…

Ignore.

If…in any way shape or form this guy you don’t know does something you don’t like, ignore.  Why waste one moment of your precious time on someone who you don’t know who is rude.  I see women doing this all the time!  I’m a member of womens’ groups on Google + and I cannot tell you how many do this.  Smart, gorgeous women who engage in this kind of nonsense from men.  The most effective way to deal with a man who is being rude or obnoxious is to ignore.  It works with all of them.  The ones you don’t know move on because they know you’re done.  So they move on trying to find another target.  It works with the men who care about you too.  If a man you know cares about you is rude this is what you do:

  1. Point out in a bottom line way.
  2. Then ignore.

Resist every urge to feel guilty or communicate.  This would be called back-peddling.  Then they know they hold all the cards with you.  Here is a recent example from me.  I have a very close male friend.  He is my partner in crime in so many fun ways.  A few weeks ago there was a “spark” of chemistry.  First one, for me, in the years we have been playing together.  We had a long conversation about what people have been saying and the “spark” the next day.  My best friend has been wanting us to get together.  People have been making comments about WHEN we are going to get together.  It ended in a stalemate.  He has concerns, so do I.  Who wouldn’t?  What I want is a man who WANTS me and shows it.  Not make me wonder, not leave it at a stalemate.  Next time this comes up, I’m stating it.  This story will continue at a later date…(cue mystery music)

So, now that you know the “need to know” about this man who loves me, the very NEXT day after our deep converstion he was rude to me.   He sends me a text regarding an opportunity for us.  He doesn’t say hi and tells me point-blank to do something.  I’m sitting with my brother who knows this man.  He was surprised at how rude he was.  I said, yeah…and demanding.  So I text him back:

Uhmmm…no hi, how are you?

He got it.  The next day HE did what he demanded me to do.  He was oh so much more pleasant.   No need to gloat, push his buttons or be snarky, hotties.  If a man loves you and is out of line, in most cases this will work.  Instead of worrying about it, you need to figure out a way to focus on your pleasure until he makes it right.  In this case, it was asap.  In other cases it may take longer.  You have to know that if men are rude or act inappropriately they may not say sorry, but they will clean up their act.  It all starts with us.  Communicate the bottom line and then go have some fun by focusing on you!  Love, Goddess

Relationship Issue Reading:

  1. Dealing With a Demanding Man
  2. If a Man Wants to Borrow Money
  3. You’re Re-Awakening
  4. On Amazon:  Bitch Lifestyle the Manual
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Men Being Rude

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Men being rude.

If a guy is being rude to you here is a simple way to make your life a whole lot easier.  Don’t acknowledge it.  For example (and the reasoning is in italics)

1.  If you’re chatting online with a guy and he’s taking a long time to get back to you?   He’s focused on other things (like other women he’s chatting with, maybe?) when he should be focused on YOU.   Just log off without explanation.  9 times out of 10 you won’t hear back and this is good!  You want a guy focused on YOU.

2.  If he sends you naughty photos and you aren’t even dating yet?  Ignore and delete.  Seriously.

3.  If you agree to IM/chat with a guy you’ve met on a dating web site and he says he “must have you,” “must kiss you,” “meet for a drink and share kisses,” and you haven’t even agreed to a first date yet?  One word:  Yuck.

4.  If a guy says he likes you and wants YOU to go out of the way to meet him, he’s not respecting you.  Ignore the request. 

5.  If you’ve been out on a date or two with a guy and he doesn’t greet you warmly in an IM or other message, call him on it.  Bitches LOVE calling people on their crap:  Let a Man Chase You  Example:  Dealing With a Demanding Man

Why ignore?  He was rude first.  And trust me, he’ll get it.  Guys hate being ignored.  The bad ones will slink back into the swamp, and if a guy truly likes you, he’ll get it and stop the rudeness.  Notice what is really cool about this?

Not one nag required. 

Proof is in the pudding in the “Dealing with a Demanding Man” post from above and this:  My brother, upon realizing what I was doing when ignoring him:

“You know…when I do something you don’t like, and you ignore me?  That’s effective.”

Want more?  How about what our Gal Dolly Parton says is the secret of her long marriage: “When my husband gets a little complacent, I just pack a bag and stay gone!”

So beauties, you’re assignment today at Bitch University is to not take any crap from guys you meet online or barely know.  Practice and be aware!  It will come in handy when you are more serious with a guy and he is rude.  Or he does something you don’t like.  Take your power beauties.  Don’t whine, don’t nag, don’t chase.  The bad guys will slink away. These guys will not make the effort because they want the woman they can walk all over.  They aren’t men yet. They aren’t ready to work for YOU.   Make room for the guys who get it and stop the nonsense.  They are the ones who will adore you.  And that’s what all women want.  To be adored.

Love, Goddess

PS:  How to handle a man who is clueless in dating.  This is important because there are a lot of men out there who are being used and treated like crap by bad women.  It goes both ways.  Be polite, offer a way to help then move on.  We have to do this because by doing so…we Bitches are polishing up the men for each other.  It’s sending out the love!  Dealing With a Man Not Ready to Date

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