Serenity in Chaos?

You-The bright light in the middle of chaos!

Serenity in chaos.

The more of a Sassy Bitch you come, the more the fur flies, the walls become bigger to climb over and the problems more do or die.  Sounds rather dramatic, doesn’t it?  The good part is, the fun quotient soars as well!  Let’s get back to the chaos example.  When you’re in your Sassy Bitch, your Drama Queen is the one napping.   The Sassy Bitch doesn’t fan the fires of drama.  She has surrounded herself with people who take action instead of PANIC.  They know exactly what to do when the shoe drops.  And sometimes?  She needs that and releases control so she can attend to other things.  Like dealing with her food poisoning.

Yeah…so here’s the story.  Saturday night I had a show with my improv group.  Theatre is packed and we have half an hour before curtain.  I find out one of my musicians is sick and can’t make it.  I have a back up musician, but he didn’t bring his guitar.  So I’m down one man and one guitar.  Calmly my other guitar player and another member of the group know exactly what to do and proceed in Mission A:  Find Guitar For Show.  Mission B:  I kept to myself.  I had food poisoning.  I had to get a grip on the urge to throw up my lunch.  All while being the Sassy Bitch in charge.  No one ever knew I was sick, we found a guitar and we had a very good show.

One of the hardest things to do is lead by example when you’re a leader.  You are the glue to everything.  You can’t get sick.  You have to motivate and make sure everyone is ready to kick ass.  You have to surround yourself with people who will have you back when you have the urge to take a back seat and just be sick.  This is never doubting yourself and people earning your trust.  And doubt will crop up.  I have a fun little exercise that really helps when doubt crops up.  It’s a little mantra.  It’s a little beauty treatment.  It even helps when you are PMSing like there is no tomorrow.  Here is what I say:

I am fabulous!  (can be said throughout the day)

Worry creeps in and I say:

I let you go because I choose to be fabulous!

There is so much power in your choices.  Choices are habits.  If we choose to worry, that’s what we get.  More of it.  Choose Fabulous.  Because THAT is what you are.  Do this every time you feel doubt and worry quivering below the surface.  Let me know how it goes.  For more “fabulous” encouragement, read these articles:

  1. Beauty Rituals Empower You
  2. Make Your Eyes Sparkle:  Literally!
  3. Fear is a Future Emotion

Love, Goddess

© S Stevens Life Strategies

Turn Worry into Fun!

Turn “Worry” into Fun

What? Are you crazy Goddess? That’s right. Today the assignment is not an easy one. But it will become easier over time. Learning to “Party” with our “Worries.”  First off I want to thank a wonderful man for this idea. One of my favorite all time quotes is from a football player named Rodney Harrison. Here it is:

“I love it when people doubt me.”

Mr. Harrison said it so perfectly. Instead of focusing on all the doubters doubting him, all the bad press, all the “cant’s” “no ways” and “forget its,” he focuses on the outcome…what will make him happy.

We all have people telling us what we can and can’t do. And if people aren’t telling us what we can and can’t do, they are probably telling us the right and or wrong ways we’re doing things. Which leaves us with a whole lot of doubt sometimes. But where does worry and doubt really get us?  It gets us sleepless nights second guessing ourselves.  We want to be successful but we are bombarded with so much information on how to do it. Right, wrong, blah, blah.  So it’s time to step off the procrastination and worry train and fully believe that whatever your gut is telling you is the right thing. If you make a mistake? Cool. You learn. It’s not the end of the world. Pat yourself on the back because you are going for what you want…YAY you!

It’s so easy for us to fall into the “I have so much work to do and I don’t know how I’m going to do it scenario. I did it for a MONTH when I didn’t write for this blog. I was Excuse Goddess and here are a few of them: I have to build this web site; I have to figure out how to do this than and the other thing. I am not a techie. I’m on vacation (okay we’ll let that be a good reason…not an excuse) I have A, B, and C I’m in the middle of and I don’t have time. Guess what. All the worrying, fretting and bitching takes up TIME you could be focusing on all your beautiful progress. So what if you didn’t get all you wanted done in one day. As long as you do your best and focus on the positive side of it all…your success…so what? In fact we are really going to celebrate worry and doubt right now.

Throw a “Worry Party.” Seriously. Get your friends together and celebrate it.
1. Send invitations out that embody “worry.” Black, brown, ugly…just blah!
2. Name the food in celebration: “Procrastination Pate,” “Cheese Wheel of Worry.”
3. Serve really dark beverages.
4. Under dress code put “unattractive:” like your most unflattering and frumpy outfit.
5. Play pitiful music.
6. Have a “worry circle” where everyone gets to vent their worries. Discuss and lament your worries. Toast  them.
7. Switch it. Take out your most empowering, fun, uplifting music and dance your booties off! Celebrate taking time to get all the worry out. Celebrate how clever you are for turning something not fun…into a party!

I can’t wait to hear how it goes! Love, Goddess

© S Stevens Life Strategies